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SDM
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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 55
0 km · Middelburg
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Quote by Pussinboots1
@ SDMR , but butt buttt butttt....... just think if you spoil the ladies YOU will get spoiled BACK!!!!!!!!
and the moves are easy enough and seductive as hell!!! and when I have a nice tush waving all over and in front of me...I will be drooling in no time!!!
My dear PIB, if I agree to this then someone is going to go and cry on the Mods shoulder that I hijacked the thread. So I think it is best that we let everyone think that I said NO to your request.
And just you between you and I, my plane lands at 2pm tomorrow . . . . can't wait to see you drooling . .
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Quote by Pussinboots1
Ahhh easy easy *cowboy* (SDMR) are you offering to DO that for the ladies?? Cause GUYS if you think about it you can do the very same for your ladies!!! I am sure the ladies will line up to view and enjoy the show.
No No No No . . let's not change the goalpost here, the forum posting was about ladies doing this to make their man "gaga" over them . . . let's keep the focus correct now . . .
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Quote by PerfectFit
Interesting perspective Lee- never thought of it like that. Small town people often moan that everyone knows each others business so we figured being from out of town would be a plus
Living in a relatively small town myself, I am familiar with the perception that residents of small towns have about everyone knowing everyone's business.
But is it really that much different from other towns? Every town has a few suburbs, even small towns, the only real difference is that in the so called city, one town is in close proximity to the next. Local newspapers are still local newspapers and still only cover just so much of an area.
From my experience in a small town, it is perception more than reality.
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As I have mentioned before, the body fascinates me no end.
This morning while going through the galleries, I had a thought . . .
There are a large number of people on this site (and others no doubt) who are only more than happy to take pictures of themselves (explicit ones) and display them for all to see. Yes, some of the members do not show faces but a lot do.
There must be hundreds of thousands of other people who would also but are not on this site. So perhaps this world in which we live is not so prudish as one might have thought.
I myself am selective as to who I show my face to via the site, but body parts I have minimal issue. What about you? Do you like looking at the human body? How much of yours would you display publicly?
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So, whenever I log onto the site, the following is normally how it goes
1) read (&reply) to any messages I may have been fortunate enough to receive.
2) Check out those who have checked me out
3) open the forum and spend any thing from 5 to 55 minutes in there
4) open the browse tab and see what new members are in my area
5) open the gallery tab and well, lets be honest here . .. PERVE (pictures of bodies fascinate me)
A bit of a creature of habit when it comes to this site I suppose
What about the rest of you? what is your normal "log on" procedure?
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Quote by Stamina
All great advice so far. Puss, I have covered most of the bases you mentioned... Still waiting for those "subtle hints" from her though. It is very possible that I am missing them so I will look harder. We will be "partying" with her tomorrow night and I believe if we have a shot, then tomorrow will be the night to find out. Drinks and dancing and fun is always relaxing so if she is "willing" it will be tomorrow night.
SDMR, I have given careful thought to what you say. I understand the risks so I have taken the back seat and my significant other has the drivers seat now...
Puss, I would love to tell you who this is and yes, if you read that mag then you will know. I unfortunately have to protect her privacy. She may well turn out to be a freaky little bi mynx but I still have the utmost respect for her and should she one day have attained fame as a top model, then this kind of thing would be the last thing she needs ruining her progress. She is working very hard towards a professional career and from the looks of things so far, she will get there in a year or two.
Stamina, get real dude . . . if your threesome happens, the very first public picture of this bird is going to be followed by a press release from saying "I did her" "I did her" . . . . . So privacy is out the window for this lady . . . .
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Quote by Pussinboots1
@SDMR true the ladies work together, but how many people has *flings* relationships and even married to each other while working together.
The only thing that really would be bad if the lady is a gossip.
yes @PIB that is in fact a reality, I was just offering my own opinions to Stamina as this is a slightly different scenario to a standard office fling.
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Quote by Irish
SDMR - I replied to your email purely out of politeness. I suggest you pick on the bigger fish here when making statements as you've met a shark in me
And exactly how did I pick on you? or anybody else for that matter?
It would however seem that you have decided to pick a fight with me, seeing as you have chosen to make a comment in the forum when we were already on PM . . . . . .
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In my view, the first four words of your posting answer your question . . . . .
"My lady works with" . . . .
Maybe just give a little consideration to your "senses" being off on the ladies open mindedness. If any approach goes South, you lady still has to work the the Lady . . . . .
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Quote by LeeEC
So Lee,
What's going on with your newbie? You have gone very quiet about him. Get any further? What gifts did he bring you?
Gr8
Really? You want me to kiss and tell? What if the newbie was you?
I think that's bad form - what do others think?
My husband always says... you don't want other people to talk about your playdates with them right?
So we won't talk about your playdates with them
Fair comment and good guide lines . . . only thing is, as far as this particular chap is concerned, we already know just about everything else except play details . . . . . . . and if it was @Gr8time2live he might have had a word or two for you
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Quote by Stamina
I have made an educated estimate in the long while I have been on this site... 10% of members here serious, the rest are just curious. I bet if you bullshit those guys right back you will see a different scenario. Tell them that wife wants to meet them alone and I guarantee you they will show up... give them some bogus address and waste their time right back... he he he, revenge is always sweet..
Ready - - - - Aim - - - - Fire
And Stamina shoots himself in the foot again . . . .
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Quote by Mike_Pta
I don't think the wine was a suggestion that went with my "only for play" ruling. .. I prefer Appletizer for play
I will say as a possible idea for a gift could be something for the bedroom like massage oils or so.
resistance is futile . . . .
NSA = No Strings Attached . . . . (physical experience)
Gifts = Some or other sort of expectancy (favours / return gifts etc)
Toys for Playtime = Heightened pleasure during playtime
Swing chat before a meet is partly to establish rules, if you have an issue with gifts, make it one of the rules you add, if other person is persistent about gifts, just imagine how the whole play-date experience is likely to turn out . . .
If a person is looking for more from NSA hook-ups then they should perhaps consider a dating site as an alternative route (the "perhaps" is largely because I have zero knowledge about dating sites)
@Playcouple said it perfectly . . . . . Steer Clear of people like this
These are my views, if you do not agree with them, you have every right not to, but like I said, these are MY views.
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A really frustrating experience I'm sure. Like Flagg says, couple do this too, so do single females . . ... People are all after all just people, and each one of us have different views on what is acceptable and what is not.
What they have done, has little to do with them being single (or being male) it has more to do with them not having any manners. Perhaps they were overwhelmed by the fact that something was actually going to happen for real. Regardless, they were / are still rude and should have had the decency to either not commit to something that they never intended to do, or if things changed at least excused themselves.
What they have "done" to you and your planned event, has now given you a negative view on the single male, the same view would have been formed if it was a few couples that done the same thing to you and your planned event.
I got "caught" once, and after that, I insist in a public meet first, if they don't show up for the public meet I can still have a light meal / coffee / drink etc and the whole outing is then not a complete waste.
Just for clarity, I am not for one second proposing that the single male of the species is actually an ok being, while most of us probably are, we are after all still human.
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Quote by USinPE
newbie couple here.. Is there a couples dogging scene in PE?
We have been searching the site and PE/Eastern cape seems like a dead,dead place in this regard.
Dogging being quiet is not unique to PE / EC.
From what I have read from some of the more avid Dogging enthusiasts that are members on this site, it does happen, but very rarely. It seems patience is the key . . . .
My own opinion is that the region you are in has very little to do with what people do or don't do, it's just the bigger the region (population wise) the more frequent the happenings . . . . Take the little town where I live as an example (going off topic here) but you remember the Springs Monster case a little while back? well our local paper today shows a story that Quote " makes the Springs monster look like the Easter Bunny" Unquote. . . . . .
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Quote by Flagg
Hi all veteran forum members!
Does anyone know whether there is an active true naturism community in the Johannesburg north area? And, if so, how do you access it?
It does not necessarily have to be a resort (based on my research - not existent any more), but just a medium to meet other naturists, whether on-line or in person.
I have tried some of the "free" on-line sites, but most end up with limited South African members, and I am not really keen to pay in dollars/pounds only to be contacted by European single men with, what I can only assume to be, a different view of the reasons to actually want to interact with other naturists.
Any advice/guidance appreciated!
Sorry to say that I cannot help on the subject matter as such. I would expect that naturalism would be more concentrated in the coastal areas compared to inland places such as JHB.
But I do feel your pain when searching for something and all they want you do do is pay, and once paid . . . . useless info / input from people in another country.
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Quote by Potpiper
I am very curious about older women. thing is would one get rejected for being young or do older women go for younger men
Different people enjoy different things, and sometimes even at different times.
So the best answer I can give here is yes and no.
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Quote by Mike_Pta
Maybe a touch extreme . . . . .
Much like the "false promise" enlargement pills and pumps etc make . . . . if these kinds of "aids" were effective, just about every guy in the world would have a dick that reached his knee . . .
As far as I know a pens pump for erectile dysfunction shortens your penis by 2cm or so.
really? any idea over what period of time?
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Quote by Gr8time2live
The guys at work and I have been having this argument and maybe some of you can shed some light on the matter.
Does the type/kind/colour etc of underwear a woman wears tell you anything about her personality or what kind of person she is? For example; does an innocent lady wear white panties and a naughty school girl wear a gstring to school?
I would love to be enlightened!! This will settle the office talk I'm sure!
Naughty school girls Underwear and "Office talk" in the same sentence . . . . . . .
But to answer your question, yes, it does tell you something about them, it tells you about their choice of underwear . . .
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Quote by mynlc
What I find strange is the sexism of swinging... it seems single male = asshole but single female = OK.
And the attitude that "single males are not swingers" but a single female is?
It goes one better than that outside swinging too . . . . . Single guy getting laid is a hero . . . Single female getting laid is a slut. No-one is ever happy . . .
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Quote by Sparks5
Here is the problem, single gents and ladies are complaining for being sidelinedby( couples )swingers ,this makes them rude at the end bcoz for example if you seek sex and you get pushed away how would you feel? you become mad &you cry,at the sametime i get couples point,i understand them,then give us ideas as single that what shoul we do so that we don't disturb you, i love you swingers and iknow this site is for swingers but could you please help us coz we also like to have fun like you guyz!not to be used,
It's pretty simple really. If a profile (any profile) says NO SINGLES, then do not contact them. You yourself have what you are looking for in your profile, and if anybody who did not fit into those areas contacted you, you might also be a little offended.
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Quote by Adonis
If you looked at previous forums that exactly what i asked, bit then told that people have rights and that's only a debate.
Thanks for the people, afterwards send me mails and agree with my point.
It seems as if people only have rights on this topic if they have a certain skin tone. I hope that I get to see a man being a man and no longer a man being a black man or white man in my lifetime, but I somehow doubt even my children's children will get to see that.
