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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 55
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Sex God
Quote by Pussinboots1
@ SDMR as a female, I just think (maybe not all males BUT most) males have it way to *lekker* and expect females to take all the responsibilities,and that is really the only reason I would not make it my responsibility to wear a condom, I think males should also be held accountable for safety!
@PIB1, I think you would find that most males are of exactly the same opinion . . . . . even when a lady has the condom available, it's still the male who has to wear it.
look, personally I have no issue being the one who needs to wear it, all I was trying to get at, is that there are alternatives out there for the people who have reactions, slipping, breaking etc etc
Sex God
Quote by Pussinboots1
@ SDMR my good sir, YOU I am sure have NO Idea on how a female condoms looks like huh??? And I think , you never had to make use of one??
It is the MOST un becoming thing ever made !!!! I am sure it does the job of preventing pregnancies and STDs.
It is like a LARGE plastic bag you have to shove up your *whahoo*......and the ladies who tried it told me it SQUEAKS worse than an Old spring mattress bed when shagging.
Soooo from my side, I am NOT EVER going to ever use One!!! Nope not ever, EVERRrrrrrrrrrrrr.
@PIB1 . . . you would be surprised just how much I know about the female condom (and male one for that matter)
Anyway, your comment about preventing pregnancies and STD's . . . isn't that the whole point of using a condom?????????????
Sex God
Quote by joyrider
Okay here is now the following thing I think the Government should work on.
When it comes to condoms, a man can get them for free from some places and at some places they hand them out in public for free. Not just that there is so much pressure put on the men to use condoms.
Now I saw for the first time how the female condoms looks like yesterday. My question is the following. WHY is the female condoms also not given out to the women for free? Everyone says the women are the most responsible. so don't you think if the female condoms are given for free then 90% of the problems have been eliminated?
Joyrider
Just food for thought
In some provinces the government has to supply more female than male condoms.
Research that the government does around HIV etc has also revealed that some women even wear the condoms in fear of to protect themselves from disease and pregnancy.
Males moan (not all) about using condoms, now here in this forum after the suggestion is made that women could possibly use them, women moan about using condoms . . . . . .
Sex God
Quote by Amazon
We want separate profiles, as for me having a default partner, is an act that I had to take on here. What I did do is go and add my husbands details on my default partner. I hope that will look better.
So sdmr u are saying that, that is the first thing people will see..?? and not bother to read the essay ?? for now I can not change my status, it must be couple.
In your profile, you list your "partner" as a gay 94 year male. In the same profile you give the link to your partners profile which states he is a 54 year old straight male.
This alone is bound to result in people taking the piss out of your profile.
What I am saying is that when a member searches profiles, they generally search for something specific, be it a single male or female or a couple or or or, so if they search for a couple from your area and you come up, they will then look at both members to see if you fit into there search criteria, and when they see a 94 year old gay man, they will in all likely hood think the profile is a fake or some kind of joke and have some fun with it. Reading the essay is not likely to be something any of them would do with any kind of real intention of finding more out.
This is of course only my own opinion on the matter and people may well see things very differently when looking at your profile.
Sex God
Quote by Cara
Sorry katniss all I could find was this
Funny thing though is I think this stuff is actually for woman.
Thought no link where allowed in the Forums ......Different rules for different folks.....
@Mike_Pta, into the corner and 50 lashes with a wet noodle for you. How dare you try and help a fellow member with something that you personally cannot benefit from .. . . .
Sex God
While I do not have a specific opinion of the "female led relationship" I do want to agree with what you say about it being well suited in the lifestyle, not only from a cuckold viewpoint, but also seeing as the majority of people have the "lady rules" mindset.
I do however think that the vast majority of South African males would violently disagree with the concept of woman being in charge (well publicly anyway 
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) Sex God
Just a thought, and I honestly don't know if I am even on the right track here, but if the male of the species has 'issues' wearing condoms, be it because of slipping or sensation or or or . . .. . . . wouldn't the female condom be of some benefit???????? surely in this day and age, it is not only the males responsibility to be 'responsible' . . .
Sex God
Quote by jtrdbn
Condoms usually slip off because they're not the right size. Try experimenting with different brands/types within brands/etc.
If you can get your hands on some Crown Skinless Skin condoms they will change your life :twisted:
So how about some direction as to which kind of retailer stocks this brand?
Sex God
It never seizes to amaze me how people are selective on public forums to their own end game . . . . . . .
Surely as a mature adult, when one responds to something, one should have the common sense to respond in it's entirety and not just be selective of what they respond to?
Perhaps I should forward a suggestion to the Site owners that they should add a tab in the forum list, something like "let's see who we can ridicule today" or maybe "I have no understanding about what is going on so I will just twist others words" . . or even "comments about being banned from the site" . . .
Sex God
As a male of the species, I suppose it's only fair to agree with what you say @Amazon, that most and not all men are cowards.
I obviously do not know what you mean exactly by cowards, but in all honesty, and in my own opinion, most men are some or other kind of ID10T.
I would add my voice to @PIB in saying that there are those who are not such a perfect example of what you have experienced, and encourage you to somehow learn to "filter out" these guys.
Sex God
Quote by Mike_Pta
Sorry katniss all I could find was this
Funny thing though is I think this stuff is actually for woman.
Mike_Pta, I personally think that hair removal products (not talking about razors) are intended for both male and females, but marketing the products is targeted at the ladies. Same as Shampoo / Conditioner, you very seldom see a guy being used in the marketing strategy (unless it's for dandruff) . . . . . .
Sex God
I think a survey should be conducted using Swing Heaven members.
If one looks up average penis size and the current topic (how long do you last) one finds there are numerous surveys with pretty much similar results as far as the survey averages go.
If one puts something on Swinging Heaven forum, the average of how long do you last, goes from the medically researched 2.5 - 5 mins to the Swinging Heaven Members 15mins - 2hours . . . . and the average penis size of 6" is more like 8.5" . . .
Sex God
A starnge one indeed.
Maybe too much lube, maybe a different type of lube?
Maybe a different brand or size of condoms? Maybe condom manufacturer had poor batch?
I really don't know, but can imagine how frustrating it must be. Any lady who has a situation where the guys condom came off inside her would freak . . . . (the guy would too I bet)
Sex God
Quote by Stamina
Please remove the excess quotes please guys, it looks really cluttered
Stamina, seems to me like we have been asked to cool off a little . . . . . (again)
Just the depth varies my bru...
:twisted: Mods and admin love us, they just don't want to say it outright... he he he
What admin feels for us, I would hesitate to call any form of love . . . . .
Sex God
Quote by Stamina
With regards to vaginas being tight, the more aroused a woman is, the more her vaginal walls swell up creating the feeling of tightness.
This, in addition to having good kegal muscle control, can create an extremely tight vagina.
This can feel like a 'tight fit' around just one finger, never mind a penis.
;)
C
it's actually cruel that there is a way for woman to "enhance" their sexual organs, yet men have to live with what they get . . .
It's all about how you use what you've got... :twisted:
yes indeed,
just a pity one cant use it more often
That, my friend, is why the good Lord gave us the long arms...
So what is this @Stamina? confessions of a wanker? :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by KC_
With regards to vaginas being tight, the more aroused a woman is, the more her vaginal walls swell up creating the feeling of tightness.
This, in addition to having good kegal muscle control, can create an extremely tight vagina.
This can feel like a 'tight fit' around just one finger, never mind a penis.
;)
C
it's actually cruel that there is a way for woman to "enhance" their sexual organs, yet men have to live with what they get . . .
It's all about how you use what you've got... :twisted:
yes indeed,
just a pity one cant use it more often
Sex God
Quote by Stamina
Actual intercourse inbetween 20min-hour. Depending on mood, but the whole thing including foreplay etc lol looooong.
Say stamina, maybe we should hook up haha
You bring the vodka, I bring the Red Bull... This is going to be one for the books!! Why? because you are watering the vodka down?
Sex God
Quote by KC_
With regards to vaginas being tight, the more aroused a woman is, the more her vaginal walls swell up creating the feeling of tightness.
This, in addition to having good kegal muscle control, can create an extremely tight vagina.
This can feel like a 'tight fit' around just one finger, never mind a penis.
;)
C
it's actually cruel that there is a way for woman to "enhance" their sexual organs, yet men have to live with what they get . . .
Sex God
Quote by Irish
Look, I have been known to use my personality as a form of contraception, but there are few genuine swingers on here or other similar sites. There are lots of 419 scammers, cheating spouse and my pet peeve - all talk, but no show. At the risk of being called zenophobic can we not limit this website to South Africans only? It is called Swinging Heaven South Africa.
I feel this is a reasonable request based on section 2.1 of the Terms of Use (I can be an anal retentive geek, when I need the fine print to work for me). Sure the cut n paste fine print defined under the terms of use do prattle on about falling under UK law and would stand about as much chance, under SA law, as Riva in Oscar's toilet. For those of you that have not read it, let me quote just section 2.1" Swinging Heaven South Africa is a website dedicated to swinging. It is completely free to register as a member of this site. On this site you'll find a personals system, a forum message board, web cams, a live chat room, swinging advice and information on all matters relating to swingers across South Africa." I did not see Nigeria, Canada, Ghana, Southern England, Germany et al. Just Souf Africa.
I must admit from personal experience, the admin staff do take the reported stuff seriously, deleting & blocking the scammers quicker than a Nigerian can tell you you have won the lotto. Now, to the Nigerians legally in SA, who take umbrage, may I point out that, you are the only country in the world that has a government department for the 419 scam. France has Champagne, SA has Rooibos and Nigeria has The 419 Scam. You also have Ebola, please don't export either to us here in South Africa and we will try and keep that philandering ex goat herder and Nkandla Graft in South Africa.
I digress, my original request is to limit this site to those with SA IP Adresses only. To those who are watching Netflix via a VPN illegally, sorry for you.
Can we have Swinging Heaven for South Africans only? That's my stir of the pot, feel free to post comments and generally do your thing under UK law.
What a horrible and nasty post, with undertones of rascism throughout. How dare you request that this site be limited to a particular demographic.
Swingers come in all shapes/sizes/genders and is open to all. By limiting site access to a specific location you run the risk of narrowing the swinging scene numbers.
Go put your toys back in your pram your dummy in your mouth and toddle off into a corner :twisted:
@Cunning Tongue, If I was you, I would report this response from @Irish as abusive and offensive.
Sex God
Yes yes yes yes . . . BUT,
Most women will leave the French fry shop "satisfied" but human nature will ultimately leave them wanting a little more, a little crispier, a little less this, a little more that.
They will say "it doesn't matter" and they do this mostly because unlike the male of the species they have some kind of grasp on manners and what is of what level of importance.
As the male of the species, we should maybe learn to accept the fact that in all likely hood there was someone 'bigger' than us in there before . . . . . but, be reasonable (to yourself) there was also someone 'smaller' than you in there before
