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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
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A starnge one indeed.
Maybe too much lube, maybe a different type of lube?
Maybe a different brand or size of condoms? Maybe condom manufacturer had poor batch?
I really don't know, but can imagine how frustrating it must be. Any lady who has a situation where the guys condom came off inside her would freak . . . . (the guy would too I bet)
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Quote by Stamina
Please remove the excess quotes please guys, it looks really cluttered
Stamina, seems to me like we have been asked to cool off a little . . . . . (again)
Just the depth varies my bru...
:twisted: Mods and admin love us, they just don't want to say it outright... he he he
What admin feels for us, I would hesitate to call any form of love . . . . .
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Quote by Stamina
With regards to vaginas being tight, the more aroused a woman is, the more her vaginal walls swell up creating the feeling of tightness.
This, in addition to having good kegal muscle control, can create an extremely tight vagina.
This can feel like a 'tight fit' around just one finger, never mind a penis.
;)
C
it's actually cruel that there is a way for woman to "enhance" their sexual organs, yet men have to live with what they get . . .
It's all about how you use what you've got... :twisted:
yes indeed,
just a pity one cant use it more often
That, my friend, is why the good Lord gave us the long arms... :lol:
So what is this @Stamina? confessions of a wanker? :twisted:
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Quote by KC_
With regards to vaginas being tight, the more aroused a woman is, the more her vaginal walls swell up creating the feeling of tightness.
This, in addition to having good kegal muscle control, can create an extremely tight vagina.
This can feel like a 'tight fit' around just one finger, never mind a penis.
;)
C
it's actually cruel that there is a way for woman to "enhance" their sexual organs, yet men have to live with what they get . . .
It's all about how you use what you've got... :twisted:
yes indeed,
just a pity one cant use it more often
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Quote by Stamina
Actual intercourse inbetween 20min-hour. Depending on mood, but the whole thing including foreplay etc lol looooong.
Say stamina, maybe we should hook up haha
:wink: You bring the vodka, I bring the Red Bull... This is going to be one for the books!! Why? because you are watering the vodka down?
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Quote by KC_
With regards to vaginas being tight, the more aroused a woman is, the more her vaginal walls swell up creating the feeling of tightness.
This, in addition to having good kegal muscle control, can create an extremely tight vagina.
This can feel like a 'tight fit' around just one finger, never mind a penis.
;)
C
it's actually cruel that there is a way for woman to "enhance" their sexual organs, yet men have to live with what they get . . .
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Quote by Irish
Look, I have been known to use my personality as a form of contraception, but there are few genuine swingers on here or other similar sites. There are lots of 419 scammers, cheating spouse and my pet peeve - all talk, but no show. At the risk of being called zenophobic can we not limit this website to South Africans only? It is called Swinging Heaven South Africa.
I feel this is a reasonable request based on section 2.1 of the Terms of Use (I can be an anal retentive geek, when I need the fine print to work for me). Sure the cut n paste fine print defined under the terms of use do prattle on about falling under UK law and would stand about as much chance, under SA law, as Riva in Oscar's toilet. For those of you that have not read it, let me quote just section 2.1" Swinging Heaven South Africa is a website dedicated to swinging. It is completely free to register as a member of this site. On this site you'll find a personals system, a forum message board, web cams, a live chat room, swinging advice and information on all matters relating to swingers across South Africa." I did not see Nigeria, Canada, Ghana, Southern England, Germany et al. Just Souf Africa.
I must admit from personal experience, the admin staff do take the reported stuff seriously, deleting & blocking the scammers quicker than a Nigerian can tell you you have won the lotto. Now, to the Nigerians legally in SA, who take umbrage, may I point out that, you are the only country in the world that has a government department for the 419 scam. France has Champagne, SA has Rooibos and Nigeria has The 419 Scam. You also have Ebola, please don't export either to us here in South Africa and we will try and keep that philandering ex goat herder and Nkandla Graft in South Africa.
I digress, my original request is to limit this site to those with SA IP Adresses only. To those who are watching Netflix via a VPN illegally, sorry for you.
Can we have Swinging Heaven for South Africans only? That's my stir of the pot, feel free to post comments and generally do your thing under UK law.
What a horrible and nasty post, with undertones of rascism throughout. How dare you request that this site be limited to a particular demographic.
Swingers come in all shapes/sizes/genders and is open to all. By limiting site access to a specific location you run the risk of narrowing the swinging scene numbers.
Go put your toys back in your pram your dummy in your mouth and toddle off into a corner :twisted:
@Cunning Tongue, If I was you, I would report this response from @Irish as abusive and offensive.
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Yes yes yes yes . . . BUT,
Most women will leave the French fry shop "satisfied" but human nature will ultimately leave them wanting a little more, a little crispier, a little less this, a little more that.
They will say "it doesn't matter" and they do this mostly because unlike the male of the species they have some kind of grasp on manners and what is of what level of importance.
As the male of the species, we should maybe learn to accept the fact that in all likely hood there was someone 'bigger' than us in there before . . . . . but, be reasonable (to yourself) there was also someone 'smaller' than you in there before
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If you decide to invite her into a triangle situation, what doe that make you?
If you tell your misses, what does that make you?
If you tell your friend, what does that make you?
Basically what I am saying is the way I see this, you are going to be on the loosing side if you do anything about it. So my 10 cents is just leave it be for your and her sake.
Anyway, you mentioned you were in a pub, so if after 8 years, this is a first, maybe she was just having a laugh with a bit of liquid encouragement in her.
hey, why the hell did you put this post in site help anyway?
Did I really just reply to this . . . ???
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Quote by Irish
Whst l meen lots of them wana meet but they want picks when tou chat and after rhe pics you dont here from then
Stay off the
and post when sober my motto - then you'll make sense and if one of the so called "forum regulars" made a post like this, we would be hammered for attacking people and used as an example to explain why so few people comment on the forums . . . . . .
@SaHedonist and @Nerowp, I have also noticed what you have commented on here. I think that it is an unfortunate result of the way "peoples rights" have been so badly twisted to make sure everyone is happy. No more is the simple "follow the rules" a way of life.
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My first reaction was that you have had an unpleasant run in with a "international member" . .. then I remembered that the postal code system in use on this site can be a little frustrating at times (according to distance locator, some areas are 110km away from me when in actual fact they are 900km) however, this is the internet, it cannot be 100% accurate at all times.
So I am going back to my initial reaction of you having had an unpleasant run-in with an international member.
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Quote by Marriedmale
Only now managed to join the site again, so i'm back and looking for more fun times
Yet this time i've decided to change my perspective a little and focus more on voyeurism then actual swinging. Please don't get me wrong, i'd still love to be a part of the action if invited to do so, but i'd also like to experience voyeurism or dogging for that matter a little more. I've been watched on the rare occasion during sex, but lately it seems that it's more of a turn on to watch rather than being watched myself. Odd maybe, and some may argue that a porn movie should suffice, but yet i suppose the thrill of being right there, the smell of sex the sounds the mere thought of being able to reach out and touch them makes one more turned on than normal, maybe it's just me, who knows, all i'm hoping for is some more voyeurism or dogging in the near future.
All comments will be appreciated
While it may seem odd to some, and while some may say things like a porn movie should suffice, at least you know what it is you are looking to experience, and that ultimately is all that matters.
I have been in a room where a bunch of people have been making those sounds and smells you mention, but always as one who was helping to make them, now I am wondering if I would enjoy sitting back and only watching . . ..
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So once or twice now I have noticed that if I send a compliment message to a member, and I am meaning something tasteful along the lines of a simple, "Hi my name is Shawn, just wanted to say nice pictures" then the profile owner suddenly takes the pictures off public and puts them in Private.
Now it is only once or twice and the majority of people will send a "thank you" or a "show me yours" message in return, but I am wondering, should I maybe be a little more hesitant to pass compliments about pictures ?
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Firstly, let me make it clear that this is NOT a complaint in any form whatsoever.
My question is purely for my own knowledge and understanding.
Can someone please maybe tell me how come in the gallery, a picture will appear on say page 1 and then again on page 3? I have made sure that it was not a case of the profile having 2 of the same or very similar pictures. It does not happen all that often, but I am curious as to why it would.
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Quote by Pussinboots1
@ SDMR , but butt buttt butttt....... just think if you spoil the ladies YOU will get spoiled BACK!!!!!!!!
and the moves are easy enough and seductive as hell!!! and when I have a nice tush waving all over and in front of me...I will be drooling in no time!!!
My dear PIB, if I agree to this then someone is going to go and cry on the Mods shoulder that I hijacked the thread. So I think it is best that we let everyone think that I said NO to your request.
And just you between you and I, my plane lands at 2pm tomorrow . . . . can't wait to see you drooling . .
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Quote by Pussinboots1
Ahhh easy easy *cowboy* (SDMR) are you offering to DO that for the ladies?? Cause GUYS if you think about it you can do the very same for your ladies!!! I am sure the ladies will line up to view and enjoy the show.
No No No No . . let's not change the goalpost here, the forum posting was about ladies doing this to make their man "gaga" over them . . . let's keep the focus correct now . . .
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Quote by PerfectFit
Interesting perspective Lee- never thought of it like that. Small town people often moan that everyone knows each others business so we figured being from out of town would be a plus
Living in a relatively small town myself, I am familiar with the perception that residents of small towns have about everyone knowing everyone's business.
But is it really that much different from other towns? Every town has a few suburbs, even small towns, the only real difference is that in the so called city, one town is in close proximity to the next. Local newspapers are still local newspapers and still only cover just so much of an area.
From my experience in a small town, it is perception more than reality.
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As I have mentioned before, the body fascinates me no end.
This morning while going through the galleries, I had a thought . . .
There are a large number of people on this site (and others no doubt) who are only more than happy to take pictures of themselves (explicit ones) and display them for all to see. Yes, some of the members do not show faces but a lot do.
There must be hundreds of thousands of other people who would also but are not on this site. So perhaps this world in which we live is not so prudish as one might have thought.
I myself am selective as to who I show my face to via the site, but body parts I have minimal issue. What about you? Do you like looking at the human body? How much of yours would you display publicly?
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So, whenever I log onto the site, the following is normally how it goes
1) read (&reply) to any messages I may have been fortunate enough to receive.
2) Check out those who have checked me out
3) open the forum and spend any thing from 5 to 55 minutes in there
4) open the browse tab and see what new members are in my area
5) open the gallery tab and well, lets be honest here . .. PERVE (pictures of bodies fascinate me)
A bit of a creature of habit when it comes to this site I suppose
What about the rest of you? what is your normal "log on" procedure?
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Quote by Stamina
All great advice so far. Puss, I have covered most of the bases you mentioned... Still waiting for those "subtle hints" from her though. It is very possible that I am missing them so I will look harder. We will be "partying" with her tomorrow night and I believe if we have a shot, then tomorrow will be the night to find out. Drinks and dancing and fun is always relaxing so if she is "willing" it will be tomorrow night.
SDMR, I have given careful thought to what you say. I understand the risks so I have taken the back seat and my significant other has the drivers seat now...
Puss, I would love to tell you who this is and yes, if you read that mag then you will know. I unfortunately have to protect her privacy. She may well turn out to be a freaky little bi mynx but I still have the utmost respect for her and should she one day have attained fame as a top model, then this kind of thing would be the last thing she needs ruining her progress. She is working very hard towards a professional career and from the looks of things so far, she will get there in a year or two.
Stamina, get real dude . . . if your threesome happens, the very first public picture of this bird is going to be followed by a press release from saying "I did her" "I did her" . . . . . So privacy is out the window for this lady . . . .
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Quote by Pussinboots1
@SDMR true the ladies work together, but how many people has *flings* relationships and even married to each other while working together.
The only thing that really would be bad if the lady is a gossip.
yes @PIB that is in fact a reality, I was just offering my own opinions to Stamina as this is a slightly different scenario to a standard office fling.
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Quote by Irish
SDMR - I replied to your email purely out of politeness. I suggest you pick on the bigger fish here when making statements as you've met a shark in me
And exactly how did I pick on you? or anybody else for that matter?
It would however seem that you have decided to pick a fight with me, seeing as you have chosen to make a comment in the forum when we were already on PM . . . . . .
