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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
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Quote by mynlc
Real vs fake...
hmmm, it's like buying a cake from a shop and taking a bite and finding out it's actually made of styrofoam... pretty to look at but not so nice inside. A beautifully wrapped birthday/xmas present that turns out to contain a pair of grama's socks....
I remember reading a tabloid article where a man sued his girlfriend because she looked great and he bought her gifts and stuff to get her in the sack and then on the night found out she was artificially enhanced, more plastic than a Barbi doll. Something about false advertising?
semi off-topic but speaking about enhancements, wonder how many guys are part silicone down there. It doesnt seem to be as big a topic/issue as breast modification but also done on occasion

Ok, I'll bite . . . tell us more please. Silicone enhancements "down there"?
I am fascinated that this little old "conservative thinking" province that I currently live in, is number 4 on the member number list . . . Gauteng (19511) Western Cape (8328) Kwazulu-Natal (6122) Mpumalanga (2099) Free State (1036) North West (1018) Limpopo (688) Northern Cape (551) Eastern Cape (322) I wonder if the provinces with the higher numbers are due to the provinces being more of an economical hub . . . .
My best is when a lady gets on in years, and as with most ageing people, things start to sag . . . except the implants . . . But having said that, it's always nice to look at a fully clothed lady who has the Perfect Breasts, be they real or surgically enhanced. Naked, as long as they are in my face, i have no real preference . . oops, did I just sound like Stamina there?
Quote by Pussinboots1
You were more than brave to go to a club, most men are to scared to go alone.
As for the the ethnic thing, depends on the club and evening you are going, the ratio might differ on different nights.
@ SDMR I would think checking out the scene is a very natural thing to do,I would check out the amount of single men, single women,couples, what is happening,where and with whom, and yeah it is also natural to check for your own ethnic groups, I think it is very natural to do this DON~T we all do this kind of thing when we enter a new place??

Ummmm? maybe I am the only one who doesn't add the checking ethnic groups? dunno
Quote by Irish
What is one to do, help!
Any suggestions ?

Quote by LeeEC
My question is as follows:
Are you as sensitive to sexual situations as you are to day to day life situations?
Somebody tells me I Lick wrong, I respond "how do you want me to do it?"
Somebody tells me my views about something are wrong, I respond defensively . . . . .

I expect someone in your life has judged you harshly for your opinions and your view points, someone whose opinion mattered a lot, and so now that's a hot button for you. It's pretty common. Mine's, if someone suggests I'm not good enough, though it's rather a specific context.
If you're aware of it though, you can train yourself to react differently, strategically, to design the outcome of interactions, even if there is a possibility of someone pushing your hot button.
I repeat,
"somebody TELL's me my views about something are wrong, I respond defensively"
"somebody SHOW's me my views about something are wrong . . . . . . . . . .
Quote by Irish
I like the odd wank! lol

It would appear Irish is of the opinion we are talking Moo Poo rotflmao
Quote by LeeEC
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If you don't mind a little free coaching, I know you better than I know most of the others on the forums, so from our conversations, I would venture that you have a more balanced and emotionally mature behaviour pattern in your attitude to your sex life and that it would lower your stress levels and improve your general happiness levels to try and be as open and willing to learn in other facets of your life too. You certainly have the capacity: you're a swinger!
I am more than open to learn, at any time on any subject. The general pattern though, usually seems to be that any person on the teaching side, simply wants to tell me what/how/when . . . and I should simply accept as such. If I have a specific view point on something, hopefully it is not one I just sucked out of nowhere. So to simply tell me to change my view without giving me reasoning that could change my initially formed view point, would obviously generate the impression that I have an unwillingness to grow / learn / change.
So, give me reasons / explanations / convincing facts and I would like to think that I am very open to seeing things differently.
Quote by Stamina
Don't know the feeling cos I am never wrong so never get told I am... bwa haaaaa ha!!!

Clearly you have not read the vast majority of responses to your various forum postings . . .
Quote by delway
The way the criticism is given makes a huge difference.
In a sexual situation, the other person would probably give you direction more than just flat out tell you that you're doing it wrong. That's what makes for good sex - harder, softer, deeper.... We guide each other to the best possible outcome.
It's possible that we take offence to what is being said to us more because of the way it is said, than by what the person is actually saying.

It's also possible that the person says something to us (content & manner) based on their interpretation.
white women dont watch interacial lesbian porn regardless of the possible fact that "white women don't watch interracial lesbian porn" I myself would, so how about some tips as to what to watch or where to get some of this interracial lesbian porn you referred to here ?
Quote by MaverRick
Its quite difficult to get a conversation going on the forum ! Its surprising cos theres a lot of people checking in daily!!

the secret seems to be, use topics that are NOT sex related, the winners are usually Race, Religion, Politics and Tolerance of others views.
Quote by MaverRick
So after a lot of nervousness I finally attended a club in the Kya Sands area -I cant remember the name of it but would be glad for more info . If was cool but to be honest,there wasn't much going on I think that because it was my first time. i was quite nervous and excited I sat at the bar for a while and checked this out - btwI was the only person of colour in the place !! The other rooms just had people sitting around chatting and smoking or drinking or in the pool
I went to the locker room and the was a couple there getting Undressed they were both very friendly and in their 50s she was quite hot they made idle chatter for a few minutes and then walked off toa private room she turned and smiled at me as they left .
I didn't think initially that it was anything but it later occurred to me that it was less than innocent so I went to see if I could find them . They were in a room . Yyou could hear that they were quite energetically going at it but the door was shut .
As a newcomer I guess thst the right thing to do was to not bother them. The door was closed after all . And there wasnt an explicit invitation. BUT, I am not the quickest on the uptake and in retrospect am 120% sure that there was more to the chat and the departing smile
What would you have done?

Firstly, I would not have noticed the fact that I was the only person of colour I could in the club.
As for the rest of it, probably exactly the same as what you did.
Quote by Mike_Pta
Let It Go (from Frozen) Meets Metal:
Case closed

as long as you are aware he was only playing half that rift (at best). . . . I think he would have been referred to as "back-up" lead guitar ..
Granted, however I love what he does. He has remixed everything from Justin Bieber to the ghostbusters theme song
Epic failure Mike . . . you said the JB word . . . now the adults on this site might think twice before letting you in .. or wait, maybe some of them have school children fantasies . . you actually might be onto something here young man . . . ok, ok, ok, I will stop talking horse radish now . . .
But seriously, school girl fantasies are ok until you turn 19, after that it's . . .
My question is as follows: Are you as sensitive to sexual situations as you are to day to day life situations? Somebody tells me I Lick wrong, I respond "how do you want me to do it?" Somebody tells me my views about something are wrong, I respond defensively . . . . .
Quote by Mike_Pta
Let It Go (from Frozen) Meets Metal:
Case closed

as long as you are aware he was only playing half that rift (at best). . . . I think he would have been referred to as "back-up" lead guitar ..
Quote by LeeEC
First of all the premise of this original post is complete rubbish.
It amuses me no end that people bitch and carry on about how racism is terrible and then post some crap like "white women don't. .." that's racism and sexism in three words. There is no characteristic and any person can assign to any entire group other than the original definition. ie. All white women are white and female.
Secondly. To Adonis and SDMR ->
allowing someone freedom to their opinion means if you don't like what they have to say, you only have two options: don't participate in the conversation or present a decent, well thought out, counter-argument which will prompt debate.
Please remember that debate is not a euphemism for yelling at everyone as loudly as possible to drown out other opinions.
You have to calmly present your point of view, with respect.

Is that not what I did? (except for the part that I never actually said i did not like what they said?)
Quote by Pussinboots1
Not Really sure what it is you are writing about.
Your written comment or the *topic subject* you used ??
Or if you just made a statement.

PIB, read between the lines. This is a race related post.
Some people want other people to change their choices about certain things, but those same people are not prepared to accept that people have the freedom to make choices.
Quote by LeeEC
SDMR - off to the corner with you. You MAY NOT TAKE EVERYTHING PERSONALLY.
For all you know this nice gentleman is speaking of no one in particular.
Now report to the dungeon for a spanking! :twisted:
By order
The forum police!

And exactly where did I indicate that this had anything to do with me?
I must admit, this took longer than I expected, but nonetheless, here it is again . . . . .
So I have been watching the Forum since I joined this Site, for a long while I participated, then I took I break for while and now (obviously) I am participating again. What it looks like to me, is when one opens the "Anything Goes" Forum tab, that the topics that are should we say "sex related" get rather high numbers of "Views" with relatively low numbers of "Replies" in comparison. Looking at the "not so sex related" topics the number of "Replies" increases considerably.
In a word, NO. But, in my little old opinion, anybody who makes (or accepts) "Promises" is setting themselves up for disappointment. Yes, yes, yes I know my view is somewhat different to what the vast majority of others feel, but my view is based on various experiences I've had as well as disappointments I have seen others have. In today's society, a simple "I will look into it and let you know if I am prepared or able to do xyz" is generally interpreted as "you promised to do xyz" . . . Now back to the original question, my answer is NO, marriage is not a certainty for sex, but if people are wise they would use marriage as an opportunity to grow with a regular sexual partner.
Penis Fact #4 The average male orgasm lasts 6 seconds. Women get 23 seconds. Which means if women were really interested in equality, they'd make sure we have four orgasms for every one of theirs
Quote by Pussinboots1
OMW guys I actually way way in my youth had a gent come into the emergency room with ,YEAH you have guested righ!!! a Fractured penis......He was the talk of the hospital at that stage,and you can also know he was BED WASHED by a LOT of different nursing students at the time......

hey Stamina, there's one way to ensure you get some action . . . rotflmaoflipa:rotflmao:
So, coming up in the next episode of how to use Inverted Comma's to help bring a point across . . . . Back a day and already the Mods are on my case . . . . :grin::grin::grin::grin::grin:
Quote by Pussinboots1
Penises can actually break
Most do so during 'violent intercourse.' Or men injuring their Erect penises,TRUE,an audible crack can be heard.
The cure for a broken penis? Six weeks of bed rest with a penis splint!!!

Imagine your employer reading that sick note . . . . wink
Firstly, nobody chased me away from the Forum, I chose to no longer participate because I prefer to discuss adult topics with Adults. Also once a certain Mod decided to get on the "bashing regulars" bandwagon, I ran the risk of saying something (however necessary) very unnecessary . . .. So about the offer . . . . haha, you all went on a serious tangent there, The offer was to come and keep LeeEC company in the forum and help "revive it" a bit. With the "guarantee" that certain elements were no longer around, I simply could not refuse aforementioned offer.
Penis Fact #7 Only one man in 400 is flexible enough to give himself oral pleasure. It's estimated, however, that all 400 have given it their best shot at some point.
Penis Fact #14 No brain is necessary for ejaculation. That order comes from the spinal cord. Finding a living vessel for said ejaculation, however, takes hours of careful thought and, often, considerable amounts of alcohol.
Quote by stoutgatte2013
gees I just realised how important that o in count is....

rotflmao have to wonder if anybody else get's/got this :doh: