Each to their own on this topic (and every other topic for that mattter) the fascinating part for me is how one never (I repeat never) reads where someone is 'complaining" about a profile (as in person/s of colour profile) that stipulates they themselves are only interested in a certain ummm boundary . . . . .

Pause for a moment if you will . . . .

But, if (and when) say your car breaks down . . .

This might not entirely fit into the "scammer" part of this post, and probably more into the "fake profile" genre, but generally when a message or two has been sent, no real information about the type of person the couple (or single member) is looking for and then suddenly "send pics" . . . .

Quote by daphil

"We can argue for days about what the lifestyle means to us individually"

And that sums it all up.

Those "couples" with opinions about single players are usually the first to create a single profile should their current relationship end.

It's not "just lately" . . .

But, take a second if you will, and think about life/the world in general. This kind of behavior is fairly common practice, not only in this kind of scenario.

Take a breath, it is what it is.

Watching for replies with much anticipation.

Just a thought . . .

Seeing as social media is a risky platform in general, surely one should think twice before sharing on a platform that has links to friends , family etc. . .

The "open minded" statement sure attracts a fair amount of backlash (for descriptive purposes. But maybe one should actually look up the meaning of rhe saying. The definition is actually "willing to consider" . . So my take is maybe the criticism is a little harsh

Sad thing is, what you have highlighted is lacking in everyday society, not just applicable here.

Your heading "double standards" has me smiling (refer to a recent post topic)

I do however doubt this post will receive a fraction of the attention (pronounced "backlash") the other post received.

🤣

Tell your friend that in SA, most (if not all) the laws are never "policed"...

And on the other side of the coin the amount of single women profiles.... Which start the bio off by saying "we are a couple"...

Just a thought...

Is it the site?

Or is it certain members?

 Decades of telling people to challenge authority is now showing "fruit" . . . . 

Amethyst,

Whatever I said or did not say in previous years that influenced you to stop contributing to the forum, I assure you was not intentional, and was as you said above, my own personal views

And I apologize in advance to the mods for what follows:

However, the reason for my suggestion that this be closed is exactly that, I CANNOT express my views and or experiences in this particular topic because comments like "previous government" and "the way we were raised" are simply bullshit. People (me included) make our own choices. I like many others have been on both sides of the issues in this country related to race. 

I like most others gave varying opinions on varying things, preferences on various things . . .  yet the only one I constantly get challenged on is the one in this forum. 

The other day in the Gym I was talking to a couple of guys (yes their complexion was different to mine) and one guy said, "I am sick of the transformation story all the time, he added, one cannot expect transformation until one is transformed themselves. 

Just because some people don't want to have sex with people of a different skin tone , does not make them prejudiced, racist, close minded, stupid or anything else that they get accused of!  

Forums may be a platform to discuss topics, but only a select few can say what they feel or have experienced. 

The underlying suggestion that members who choose to to interact with the same ethnicity as themslevs are racist is in itself offensive. 

Mr Redbruce Sir, 

I hereby request this thread gets locked. 

 Much like the "single" profile option, the "Wink" button is an option provided by the operators of this site.

When one creates a profile, one has to accept the sites terms and conditions . . . . 

Maybe its time people stopped bloody complaining about things they accepted , . , . , . , 

 From your TV Screens .. . 

my guess would be that those single members partners dont give them enough alone time go take pictures with a more suitable backdrop.

I don't have an entertaining story  . . . . its simply my initials . apparently I lack imagination 8)

Secret handshakes in public places? I'm curious how that would remain secret . . . . . 

hmmmm

Argue / get cross / get excited about whatever is posted . . . . that kind of sums up why this once very active forum took such a big fall. 

Some contributors would simply not accept that different contributors had different views . . . 

for those that "cant resist" might I suggest simply showing the other person/people your own black ring, and then make any decision about moving forward based on said person / peoples reaction to seeing your black ring

ok, guilty as charged. . .my apologies. I will sort myself out (no, I do not mean masturbate) . .

I have gone 7 days without porn / pics now . . . . I am starting to loose vision in my left nostril

 Challenge accepted ;)

nd I may even write about the experience . . .

Couch? Rack? . . yes please 

Challenge accepted