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10 Feb 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta

Dude, you have friends you can chat with about your playdates ? ? ? ?
Firstly: good for you I suppose
Secondly: ANY couple / single person etc who reads that, and is not openly free as you appear to be, will most probably look straight past your profile now they have this knowledge. . . . . . just a thought . . .
But on a slightly different note:
I'm listening . . . . . . . .

Jip, people I meet through the site here. I don't do one nights stands so I chill with couples over a drink first before we organise a date on another nights. Plus if people want to judge then fine, it's not like I discuss names etc, instead I use him and her since I still respect discretion.
Ok, so it seemed like at first to me that you were saying you talk about what had happened on play dates with other (non involved) people. But I now see what you were saying.

10 Feb 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta
Indecent is a relative term, you need to decide for yourself really. However I will say that for me indecent behaviour is embarrassing behaviour like getting drunk and making a fool of yourself or anything that you can't talk to other people about without feeling foolish. But that's just me and with swinging I see no indecency since I have friends I can chat with about my playdates

Dude, you have friends you can chat with about your playdates ? ? ? ?
Firstly: good for you I suppose
Secondly: ANY couple / single person etc who reads that, and is not openly free as you appear to be, will most probably look straight past your profile now they have this knowledge. . . . . . just a thought . . .
But on a slightly different note:
I'm listening . . . . . . . . rotflmao

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10 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
Interestingly I found a comment in an ancient reference book of mine (The Encylopedia of Sex Practice 1st ed. 1938)
that says that "women on top" makes for poor opportunity for kissing and touching.... wierd... I wonder where they thought his hands would be?

Maybe that particular author was secretly into bondage ? wink

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8 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
You quote me and still don't read what I said :P
If you've never heard of it then it's likely that you'd not call it boring...

Well now, considering it was preceded by ""hmm.. missionary, doggy....""
I think my initial reading of it was not all that far off. wink

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but nonetheless, seeing as a few of those "positions" require a fair amount of flexibility, does that mean . . . . nah, I think I am already too far down the favourite list at the moment . . .

7 Feb 2014

Quote by redbruce
When little Johnny turned 8, his parents asked him what gift he would like for his birthday. He said, "I wanna watch". So they let him.....

Now that is very clever. :thumbup::laughabove:

7 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
hmm.. missionary, doggy....
If you've never heard of it then it's likely that you'd not call it boring:
The Sultry Saddle
The Squat
The Scissors
The Spider
The Speed Hump
The Manhandle Her
The edge of Heaven
Sexy Spoons
Corridor Canoodling
The Galloping Horse
The Good Spread
The Kneeling Fox
Melody Maker

So, just to be clear = are these positions that you (@LeeEC) classify as being "boring" ?

7 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
What the hell does SDMR stand for anyway??? You cant have abbreviations for nick names that leave the rest of wondering. Look at my username: I can run quite far so it means I have stamina.. Simple, elegant, easy...

Hey Dude, we all know why you use 'Stamina " as your profile name, you have the misconception that four strokes is good going
I have learned to shag ugly girls in really boring positions... That way I can last very long. Bwaa haaaa haa ha!!
You clearly forgot your Ritalin this morning . . . . . but, at least I will now have someone against the wall with me

7 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
What the hell does SDMR stand for anyway??? You cant have abbreviations for nick names that leave the rest of wondering. Look at my username: I can run quite far so it means I have stamina.. Simple, elegant, easy...

Hey Dude, we all know why you use 'Stamina " as your profile name, you have the misconception that four strokes is good going

7 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
What the hell does SDMR stand for anyway??? You cant have abbreviations for nick names that leave the rest of wondering. Look at my username: I can run quite far so it means I have stamina.. Simple, elegant, easy...

If I told you, I would have to . . . . . change it lol

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6 Feb 2014

So here I go and type out a response to one of the forum posts, when done I click send and the bloody thing tells me "the forum you have requested does NOT exist" . . . flipa

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6 Feb 2014

Quote by playtime123789
I am a decent guy (I believe). I do not request a "fuck" from anyone. I am always polite and honest. I contact people with greetings and chat request only at first. If I advertise (very seldom do so, 3 times in the last year I think), I never use that kind of language or insinuate that I just want sex. But believe it or not, this has lost me a chance to shag a super gorgeous hottie once! I replied to an ad with a very well thought out polite, decent message. Used intelligent words and compliments, the whole 9 yards... Got a reply back along these lines: "I am not looking for a nice guy thanks! I am looking for a bad boy to fuck me hard and rough!"... All types here my friend.
I never know anymore what to do. Lately, I am just happy to get a reply...

Go figure !
Maybe those Ads work better than we think. At this point a good marketer would think about restrategising??
Indeed, many ways to skin to a cat!
One way is to personalise the wink . . . . I have read a number of profiles that clearly state "do not send system generated messages" so when you personalise the wink, it is useful for those kinds and for the kinds that one is just not sure about (a method of gauging)

6 Feb 2014

Quote by WillemVerwey
I'm sitting in the office. So horny it feels like I'm going to explode. Wish one of the ladies in the office could help me out. I will do almost anything for a blowjob right now!! How many of you had that luck from an unexpected person?

I have had the same thoughts as you are having, but that's about it . . . . wink

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5 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
Hunting is hunting... Meat is meat.. He he he. In the bush, I hunt males... In the city, I hunt females... In the females, I hunt "bush"... Its all relative. He he he...

Only thing is, so few "bushes" around these days, all seem to have "weedwacked" . . . . lol

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5 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
If people were real vegetarians, I have to wonder why they eat all the animals food? :grin:

Here is my theory on hunting (based on fact)...
Human beings are omnivores. Also predators in the natural order of things. Just as a lion can not be frowned upon for killing a gazelle, neither can humans. Before money existed, human beings had to hunt for meat. There are proteins in meat that can not be found in any vegetables. These proteins are essential to our health, especially in growing children. Animal flesh is a part of our diet - like it or not. Vegetarians are of the assumption that they are healthy eaters but they are cutting essential proteins out of their diet. This causes the body to replace those proteins with other minerals in an effort to compensate. The body will even synthesize certain proteins leading to fat build up. So in short. Meat is as healthy as it is unhealthy, even the oxygen we breathe that is essential to sustain our existence has free radicals and scientists theorise that it is also what causes us to age and die.
Prehistoric man hunted for food. Boys became men after their first successful hunt. We are predators in the food chai , the top predator. Murdering of humans has increased exponentially in modern times, as has any and all violence between men. I believe it has alot to do with man not being able to satisfy the savage within. Hunting in premodern times was for survival, but a certain pride goes with a kill. I am proud after every successful hunt, sad too as a part of me does feel guilty every time I see that animals eyes in its last moments. Guilt sets in but does not last long. The pride of my efforts supercedes it.
Humans began to herd animals. Not because killing was wrong but because population started to increase and herding animals became more productive and much easier. Farming was born. Followed by bartering - followed money. Money appeared and modern civilization was born. Humans in coastal areas had access to fish, humans inland had access to beef. Animal populations thrived and were sustainable. Now I can buy fish at a shop, even though I am nowhere close to the sea. Animal populations are being pillaged to meet demand of those by nature, should not have access to certain types of food.
My point is that we are hunters, just like the bears and lions. Sport hunting is not condoned. I agree when people are against it in such cases. Why shoot a lion? Why shoot a tiger? Etc. I do not condone such hunts but also have no issue with hunters that hunt for sport. Their prerogative. Hunting of many species is still legal, to each his own. But to those who ask: "does it make you feel good to shoot an animal from 100m away?"... I say this, ask me again when you stuff your face with kudu biltong while watching the Bulls annihilate the Sharks... He he he... That fish you had last night at Ocean Basket was taken out of its habitat and killed for YOU! It did not grow on a tree!!!
My theory on hunting... Hope it entertained you. Next week we will be discussing aliens and UFO's... Lol
You need to remember, people see hunters in different ways, you know, the same as people see "Single Males" in different ways . . . . .

5 Feb 2014

cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid! Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer inwaht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit a porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Amzanig huh? Yaeh, and And in the words of Roger Waters, Get him up against the wall . . . . .

5 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC

Madam Lee, I drive a German car, so it pretty much drives me . . . ..

You do realise, that you're making yourself sound like a lazy lover? :dry: :twisted:
And here I am standing up and applauding that comeback :thumbup:

5 Feb 2014

If people were real vegetarians, I have to wonder why they eat all the animals food? :grin:

4 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
Dude... *shaking my head*... once your car knows how to go, you can sit in it and put your foot on the gas and it goes?
No, man! You still have to put the key in the ignition and turn it and warm up the engine...
She has to be TURNED ON to GO!
No matter how many times you've gone for a ride , you still have to start by turning her on.... EVERY single time, no exceptions....
Why is it that a guy has no problem with this concept when it comes to cars......? :twisted:

Madam Lee, I drive a German car, so it pretty much drives me . . . .. rotflmao

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3 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
I hope you all took note of the FIRST few seconds of the video - he clearly talks about "massaging all the pressure points" and "connecting" BEFORE this works!
So you can't just dive in there and expect her to squirt.... heh heh

true, HOWEVER . . . once a lady has "learned" to squirt . .

3 Feb 2014

Quote by NickTan
This is what is referred to as a Thread Hi-Jack...

Yes it is indeed, Stamina behave yourself now. lol

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ok, but seriously, like I said with my first response, my two cents worth, would be to make sure the lady is on board with the possibility.
I think that there are a number of ladies who would like to experience things like this, but due to the simplistic immature minds of men, they are mostly not able to. What I mean is men want women to be like this, but the moment they are they lable them and get nasty to them.

3 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
I have a new habit of trawling the gallery. Not much else to do on this site... Not for kicks, but to see the vast differences in body shapes, etc. Also as a form of searching without disappointment.
I have noticed something that scares me. I fear AIDS and all other STD's. Getting infected with HIV is by far the scariest of all the STD's known today. It is essentially a death sentence... And a "not so lekka" life while you still live. HIV and AIDS exists! Period! It is wide spread in S.A. 15 minutes of pleasure can destroy your life. I am scared of it!!! Do not want it to happen to me EVER! I have kids to raise and a death sentence is not welcome...
Intercourse without a condom is obviously nicer (sensation wise), but with one can also feel pretty good. I see many, many pics of mostly couples in the gallery where there is more than one males penis in or near the female - WITHOUT CONDOMS!! Are these mostly trusted playmates? Are they regular playmates? Were test results swopped before those pics were taken? Or were those people just not cared what could be lurking in the juices? Surely even trusted playmates are swinging with others too, so trust can not guarantee safety. I would never take the risk! I do not care how healthy and fit you look, or about the test results you show me - you could have contracted it after the test...
Scary thought!!

Scary thought indeed. And I think all the options you have listed are very valid ones. I would however also add "copy and paste" to the list, as I reckon some of those scenes are just too perfect to have not been from a movie / photo shoot . ..

3 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
I am a single male on this site but I am involved. As you said, mff is obviously the way to go for most guys and I have also dabbled with the idea of a male for my girl. Problem is that she really prefers girls to guys (I sometimes wonder how she is with me). She will not want another with us as she is not into that.

you make it too easy man . . . rotflmao

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What did I say this time? lol

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she really prefers girls to guys (I sometimes wonder how she is with me) . . . . . . . . . :doh:
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Must be my charm... Bwa haaa haa haaa!!!
Don't laugh at me dude! My life confuses me enough as it is...
No no no, I am not laughing at you, I am . . oh hell, who am I kidding I am laughing at you . . . but thank you, you have brightened up an otherwise dreary Monday morning on SH . . . (hey pssst , do you think we have started to entertain anyone else yet?)

3 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
I am a single male on this site but I am involved. As you said, mff is obviously the way to go for most guys and I have also dabbled with the idea of a male for my girl. Problem is that she really prefers girls to guys (I sometimes wonder how she is with me). She will not want another with us as she is not into that.

you make it too easy man . . . rotflmao

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What did I say this time? lol

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she really prefers girls to guys (I sometimes wonder how she is with me) . . . . . . . . . :doh:

3 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
I am a single male on this site but I am involved. As you said, mff is obviously the way to go for most guys and I have also dabbled with the idea of a male for my girl. Problem is that she really prefers girls to guys (I sometimes wonder how she is with me). She will not want another with us as she is not into that.

you make it too easy man . . . rotflmao

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3 Feb 2014

Quote by Gregrrr
I was playing with a couple Saturday Night, and tried this technique, enjoyable but she didn't respond like on the video.
Still always good to learn new tricks thx
Greg

Greg, that's the problem with these kinds of things. they "sell" them in such a way that one thinks they are guaranteed to work with everyone and all the time. Truth is, that is seldom the case. It takes practice.
This technique does work, but if it works for you the first time, then that's because the lady you are with has experienced it before.

3 Feb 2014

Quote by NickTan
Hi Guys,
I have been reading through the other threads and have a confession to make, seeing that everyone is so open, here we go:
When we have sex, the more my wife enjoys it the more I do, meaning I don't stop until I get the reaction from her I'm intending to. My wife is one of those lucky ladies that have 3 or more orgasms every time we have sex, I mean foreplay normally has her cumming already.
So what gets me off is seeing / feeling her get off, so I have been thinking of introducing another guy into the mix, a MMF session if you will. Now I know most guys fantasize about a MFF, and I do to, but I'm not against the other.
Here is my reasoning, how great would it be to fill her up from both sides, she might reach new heights in pleasure and loss complete control in the moment, and that will in fact give me great pleasure.
One of the greatest turn ons is seeing your other half in their normal day to day "mode", then when you are giving them immense pleasure watching them transform into a sex hungry nimph.
This is just my thoughts, if there is another couple out there who have considered or done the same thing, I would love to hear what experience you had etc.
PS: This is not an open invitation to all single guys to start contacting us, as always, we will contact you.
Nick

My first suggestion would be, make sure your wife is ok with the concept of another man first.
I agree that it is high on enjoyment scale watching your partner get off. And I think most guy's want to see their partner reaching new highs all the time.
Only thing is it can go wrong in the blink of an eye, so make sure she is fully on board, and try make sure you choose the right assistant.

31 Jan 2014

Quote by breedi
I've just watched this.
Wow.... Please let me know if anyone has been successful with this.
Is it real?

All very possible . . .. after the two people have tried 10 times . . . .

30 Jan 2014

Quote by Cape_Wanker
@PussInBoots
Yes,I did once...I was curious.I selected a few profiles and sent the message.I got far too much replies which ranged with prices from R150 to R600!!?
I knew then that most of the profiles of single ladies are that of really!!!

I have never come across that on this site, I wonder just how much of it is actually on the go here?

30 Jan 2014

Quote by Adonis
2 guys in their mid-twenties were sitting at a bar.
One of the guys says to his buddy, "Man you look tired."
The buddy says, "Dude I'm exhausted. My girlfriend and I have sex all the time. I just don't know what to do."
A fellow in his 40's sitting a couple of stools down had over-heard the conversation, looked over at the two young men and says, "Marry her. That'll put a stop to that shit!"

Classic

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30 Jan 2014

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Quote by playcouple

I have however learned to accept that casual sex is reserved for the movies. In reality, you are not gonna get laid often by strangers! No offence to all the ladies here.. BUT... Girls are all talk! Love to say how sexually liberated they are but keep the forbidden fruit forbidden. Tell me I am wrong... In a way a good thing. I believe a man must court and work for it. You must impress the female of the species enough to get her to reveal the goods. It makes it worth the effort. Besides, a fun afternoon in the company of a beautiful lady can often be more fulfilling than sex with her. Although getting to touch and caress the soft smooth skin of a gorgeous girl is heavenly.

Forever shovelling . . . . . and yet, surprisingly you say your success rate is very low . . . .:undecided:
Anyone with a tlb?
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