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13 Feb 2014

Quote by Se7en
Hi guys. I have a couple that are good friends with my wife and me, and am looking for a way to get my wife to Lower her inhibitions and have a little fun. Would also love to be able to involve her in my playing eventually. I came up with the idea of inviting them over and suggesting a fun boardgame. The one I found that seems ideal and can also be toned down in case anyone gets uncomfortable is called Tease Would like to know if anybody knows where I can find this locally or has maybe played it and can let me know if it is any good. Any other suggestions for games people have tried and enjoyed would also be appreciated.
Thanks

Schreeeech . . . . . (the sound of me applying the brakes)
Forgive me if i am out of line here, but by trying to get her to participate by using other people in the beginning is most likely going to make her even more reluctant. If she is already unsure and you confront her (no matter how subtly) with other people, you have more chance of her closing that door for ever . . . .
Just my 10cents worth.

12 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
Send that Wolverine my way thanks

Hey Stamina, hold that thought on the "sack; back & crack" waxing . . . .

12 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
heh heh
You're not looking for anything serious? Well I should hope not! This is NOT a dating site.

Haha,
I think you scared him a little, he deleted his profile :lol:
Ha ha ha... Thanks Lee! Eliminating the competition for me.. :lol:
Competition? ha, the only competition you have is yourself buddy . . . . :lol:

12 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC

Much the same as with penis size, the so called surveys have put the world wide average as being X long and X girth, so as a male I would report my own size according to these standards, then you go and look at sites like SH and it seems more like the average size is WAY bigger than what the worldwide research suggests. BUT. . . . . a camera is a deceiving device, it makes a penis look bigger than it really is, so it is only fair to assume that some of the body sizes we see in the gallery could appear bigger than they actually are.
What might be helpful as well, is if the site could maybe put an option on for "belly" . . . .a number of people may be "slim" in all areas except the belly . . .

Dude! I disagree about the camera making a penis look bigger than it is - quite the opposite actually - I hooked up with a fine fine young specimen here - having seen MANY of his cock shots! - and was completely thrown when he pulled out that tool! It was freakin HUGE and I really had no clue what I was getting myself into, the pictures came NO WHERE NEAR accurately displaying his accurate size... That's why I prefer 'full frontal' pictures to "dick pics"... then you can at least judge the relative size...
Interesting, I have found that some of the ones I have, make me look bigger, I have also commented on size on other profiles and been told "camera is complimentary" . . . . So it seems as if maybe it is a bit of a mixed bag then. A little ego deflating, but what can one do . . . . . . . Maybe we should have a "not really sure" choice in the assets list . . . .

12 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
I check the distance, calculate the travelling cost (fuel etc) then I phone all the massage parlors (rub n tugs) in my area for prices and choose the most cost effective solution accordingly... Bwaa haaaa ha haaa!!! :lol:

Maybe next time you should check out the comparison pricing of Sack, Back and Crack waxing . . . . :doh:

12 Feb 2014

seems I have done this a little backwards . . . It was my constant need to look at people and "wonder" that got me into this "lifestyle" in the first place

12 Feb 2014

Quote by Roughlover72
I'd like to make a recommendation about how to self assess build descriptions. I would've described myself as medium. What passes for 'medium' means I've now changed it to athletic. There are many large people that describe themselves as 'medium'. If you can't see your penis when you look down, chances are you NOT medium. Perhaps the moderators can help out her I.e. Medium - SMALL tummy
Large - big tummy
Athletic - toned
Muscular - gym bunny
Or is it just me that's delusional?
Cheers!

Nope, it is not just you.
However, everyone seems to have different views on just about everything, so it is fair to assume that some of the people who think of themselves as medium really think they are. At the same token, others might think of those particular people as being more on the small side. So I guess it's always going to be a bit of a guess for people looking from the outside in.
Much the same as with penis size, the so called surveys have put the world wide average as being X long and X girth, so as a male I would report my own size according to these standards, then you go and look at sites like SH and it seems more like the average size is WAY bigger than what the worldwide research suggests. BUT. . . . . a camera is a deceiving device, it makes a penis look bigger than it really is, so it is only fair to assume that some of the body sizes we see in the gallery could appear bigger than they actually are.
What might be helpful as well, is if the site could maybe put an option on for "belly" . . . .a number of people may be "slim" in all areas except the belly . . .

12 Feb 2014

Quote by Pussinboots1
Okay, I have now once again gone and stood on the lounge table in front of the only mirror in the house,to really LOOK at myself!!
After trying to evaluate my *build* after reading Roughlover72 suggestion on how to measure your build.
I was trying to view my tiny ietsie weenie penis (clit) looking down....
NOW I had a BIG problem can not see anything remotely genital wise....
So I decided to just change *penis* to my toes...
so there I was....looking down....NOTHING.....
I lifted my boobs to see if I could see my toes.....NOPE
I lifted my boobs and tummy to see I I could see my toes....NOPE
I now bended slightly back ward with my feet more to the front trying to see if I could at least see my toes from the side...NOPE
I then proceeded to bend slightly forward to see that if I lifted both my tummy and peeked between my lifted boobs If I could then see my toes...woe and behold. NOPE.....
Now I was upset...I now needed to see if I at least could see my toes in the mirror,hench me standing on the lounge table viewing myself
I lifted everything hanging south....LOOKEd in the mirror at my toes........could I hope??? DARE I hope?????
YAY I could...
Now...
Does this mean I am medium?????
LMAO Nope I am OVER xxxxxxx large.... there is no tick of box here on SH for the likes of me......

I am laughing together with Adonis. Well written PIB :thumbup:

11 Feb 2014

Quote by stoutgatte2013
How fare are you guys prepared to travel to go meet new couples?
Or go play for that matter distance

I would say that while my general "rule" is less than 100km's, I suppose it would depend on the circumstances. Once I know that the person / couple is genuine, or if I was going to be in the area for other reasons, then I would travel just about any distance if time etc permitted.

11 Feb 2014

Quote by CarnalPercept
Is it just me or do people tend to go off in a tangent............oh well never mind I will just go sit in a corner and pick my nose. Just by the way Ranger64 in my case it would be ........... If I am filled up and filled deep, then call me "indecent"

Why would you and sit in a corner and pick your nose? there are so many more fun things you could do while sitting in the corner . . . . wink

wink

11 Feb 2014

Quote by HostingCouple
Hi everyone
I am a tad new to the site and certainly new to understanding lifestyle.
The folk in the forums seem really nice, compared to the ones in the chatroom. There are nice folk over there too.
Am I the only that finds it a bit clique-like. Or are the people that are posting to forums/chatting alot, just been here longer? Which is probably the case.
Then there's still the Personals to get through.
This is me saying Hi. I think I prefer being in the forums.

Both have their place.
For me, I prefer the forums and seldom go into the chat room. The forum opens the discussion to more people which can lead to more views / information.
I think I have looked through the personal's a handful of times since joining this site, I find them a tad "unrealistic"
I am not so sure that it is a case of people having been here longer, as I am sure there are people who are involved in forum discussions who are fairly new members. Nonetheless, welcome and I look forward to reading some of your opinions.

10 Feb 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta

Dude, you have friends you can chat with about your playdates ? ? ? ?
Firstly: good for you I suppose
Secondly: ANY couple / single person etc who reads that, and is not openly free as you appear to be, will most probably look straight past your profile now they have this knowledge. . . . . . just a thought . . .
But on a slightly different note:
I'm listening . . . . . . . .

Jip, people I meet through the site here. I don't do one nights stands so I chill with couples over a drink first before we organise a date on another nights. Plus if people want to judge then fine, it's not like I discuss names etc, instead I use him and her since I still respect discretion.
Ok, so it seemed like at first to me that you were saying you talk about what had happened on play dates with other (non involved) people. But I now see what you were saying.

10 Feb 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta
Indecent is a relative term, you need to decide for yourself really. However I will say that for me indecent behaviour is embarrassing behaviour like getting drunk and making a fool of yourself or anything that you can't talk to other people about without feeling foolish. But that's just me and with swinging I see no indecency since I have friends I can chat with about my playdates

Dude, you have friends you can chat with about your playdates ? ? ? ?
Firstly: good for you I suppose
Secondly: ANY couple / single person etc who reads that, and is not openly free as you appear to be, will most probably look straight past your profile now they have this knowledge. . . . . . just a thought . . .
But on a slightly different note:
I'm listening . . . . . . . . rotflmao

rotflmao

10 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
Interestingly I found a comment in an ancient reference book of mine (The Encylopedia of Sex Practice 1st ed. 1938)
that says that "women on top" makes for poor opportunity for kissing and touching.... wierd... I wonder where they thought his hands would be?

Maybe that particular author was secretly into bondage ? wink

wink

8 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
You quote me and still don't read what I said :P
If you've never heard of it then it's likely that you'd not call it boring...

Well now, considering it was preceded by ""hmm.. missionary, doggy....""
I think my initial reading of it was not all that far off. wink

wink

but nonetheless, seeing as a few of those "positions" require a fair amount of flexibility, does that mean . . . . nah, I think I am already too far down the favourite list at the moment . . .

7 Feb 2014

Quote by redbruce
When little Johnny turned 8, his parents asked him what gift he would like for his birthday. He said, "I wanna watch". So they let him.....

Now that is very clever. :thumbup::laughabove:

7 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
hmm.. missionary, doggy....
If you've never heard of it then it's likely that you'd not call it boring:
The Sultry Saddle
The Squat
The Scissors
The Spider
The Speed Hump
The Manhandle Her
The edge of Heaven
Sexy Spoons
Corridor Canoodling
The Galloping Horse
The Good Spread
The Kneeling Fox
Melody Maker

So, just to be clear = are these positions that you (@LeeEC) classify as being "boring" ?

7 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
What the hell does SDMR stand for anyway??? You cant have abbreviations for nick names that leave the rest of wondering. Look at my username: I can run quite far so it means I have stamina.. Simple, elegant, easy...

Hey Dude, we all know why you use 'Stamina " as your profile name, you have the misconception that four strokes is good going
I have learned to shag ugly girls in really boring positions... That way I can last very long. Bwaa haaaa haa ha!!
You clearly forgot your Ritalin this morning . . . . . but, at least I will now have someone against the wall with me

7 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
What the hell does SDMR stand for anyway??? You cant have abbreviations for nick names that leave the rest of wondering. Look at my username: I can run quite far so it means I have stamina.. Simple, elegant, easy...

Hey Dude, we all know why you use 'Stamina " as your profile name, you have the misconception that four strokes is good going

7 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
What the hell does SDMR stand for anyway??? You cant have abbreviations for nick names that leave the rest of wondering. Look at my username: I can run quite far so it means I have stamina.. Simple, elegant, easy...

If I told you, I would have to . . . . . change it :lol:

6 Feb 2014

So here I go and type out a response to one of the forum posts, when done I click send and the bloody thing tells me "the forum you have requested does NOT exist" . . . flipa

flipa

:flipa::flipa:

rotflmao

:rotflmao:

6 Feb 2014

Quote by playtime123789
I am a decent guy (I believe). I do not request a "fuck" from anyone. I am always polite and honest. I contact people with greetings and chat request only at first. If I advertise (very seldom do so, 3 times in the last year I think), I never use that kind of language or insinuate that I just want sex. But believe it or not, this has lost me a chance to shag a super gorgeous hottie once! I replied to an ad with a very well thought out polite, decent message. Used intelligent words and compliments, the whole 9 yards... Got a reply back along these lines: "I am not looking for a nice guy thanks! I am looking for a bad boy to fuck me hard and rough!"... All types here my friend.
I never know anymore what to do. Lately, I am just happy to get a reply...

Go figure !
Maybe those Ads work better than we think. At this point a good marketer would think about restrategising??
Indeed, many ways to skin to a cat!
One way is to personalise the wink . . . . I have read a number of profiles that clearly state "do not send system generated messages" so when you personalise the wink, it is useful for those kinds and for the kinds that one is just not sure about (a method of gauging)

6 Feb 2014

Quote by WillemVerwey
I'm sitting in the office. So horny it feels like I'm going to explode. Wish one of the ladies in the office could help me out. I will do almost anything for a blowjob right now!! How many of you had that luck from an unexpected person?

I have had the same thoughts as you are having, but that's about it . . . . wink

wink

5 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
Hunting is hunting... Meat is meat.. He he he. In the bush, I hunt males... In the city, I hunt females... In the females, I hunt "bush"... Its all relative. He he he...

Only thing is, so few "bushes" around these days, all seem to have "weedwacked" . . . . lol

lol

5 Feb 2014

Quote by Stamina
If people were real vegetarians, I have to wonder why they eat all the animals food? :grin:

Here is my theory on hunting (based on fact)...
Human beings are omnivores. Also predators in the natural order of things. Just as a lion can not be frowned upon for killing a gazelle, neither can humans. Before money existed, human beings had to hunt for meat. There are proteins in meat that can not be found in any vegetables. These proteins are essential to our health, especially in growing children. Animal flesh is a part of our diet - like it or not. Vegetarians are of the assumption that they are healthy eaters but they are cutting essential proteins out of their diet. This causes the body to replace those proteins with other minerals in an effort to compensate. The body will even synthesize certain proteins leading to fat build up. So in short. Meat is as healthy as it is unhealthy, even the oxygen we breathe that is essential to sustain our existence has free radicals and scientists theorise that it is also what causes us to age and die.
Prehistoric man hunted for food. Boys became men after their first successful hunt. We are predators in the food chai , the top predator. Murdering of humans has increased exponentially in modern times, as has any and all violence between men. I believe it has alot to do with man not being able to satisfy the savage within. Hunting in premodern times was for survival, but a certain pride goes with a kill. I am proud after every successful hunt, sad too as a part of me does feel guilty every time I see that animals eyes in its last moments. Guilt sets in but does not last long. The pride of my efforts supercedes it.
Humans began to herd animals. Not because killing was wrong but because population started to increase and herding animals became more productive and much easier. Farming was born. Followed by bartering - followed money. Money appeared and modern civilization was born. Humans in coastal areas had access to fish, humans inland had access to beef. Animal populations thrived and were sustainable. Now I can buy fish at a shop, even though I am nowhere close to the sea. Animal populations are being pillaged to meet demand of those by nature, should not have access to certain types of food.
My point is that we are hunters, just like the bears and lions. Sport hunting is not condoned. I agree when people are against it in such cases. Why shoot a lion? Why shoot a tiger? Etc. I do not condone such hunts but also have no issue with hunters that hunt for sport. Their prerogative. Hunting of many species is still legal, to each his own. But to those who ask: "does it make you feel good to shoot an animal from 100m away?"... I say this, ask me again when you stuff your face with kudu biltong while watching the Bulls annihilate the Sharks... He he he... That fish you had last night at Ocean Basket was taken out of its habitat and killed for YOU! It did not grow on a tree!!!
My theory on hunting... Hope it entertained you. Next week we will be discussing aliens and UFO's... Lol
You need to remember, people see hunters in different ways, you know, the same as people see "Single Males" in different ways . . . . .

5 Feb 2014

cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid! Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer inwaht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit a porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Amzanig huh? Yaeh, and And in the words of Roger Waters, Get him up against the wall . . . . .

5 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC

Madam Lee, I drive a German car, so it pretty much drives me . . . .. :rotflmao:

You do realise, that you're making yourself sound like a lazy lover? :dry: :twisted:
And here I am standing up and applauding that comeback :thumbup:

5 Feb 2014

If people were real vegetarians, I have to wonder why they eat all the animals food? :grin:

4 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
Dude... *shaking my head*... once your car knows how to go, you can sit in it and put your foot on the gas and it goes?
No, man! You still have to put the key in the ignition and turn it and warm up the engine...
She has to be TURNED ON to GO!
No matter how many times you've gone for a ride , you still have to start by turning her on.... EVERY single time, no exceptions....
Why is it that a guy has no problem with this concept when it comes to cars......? :twisted:

Madam Lee, I drive a German car, so it pretty much drives me . . . ..

rotflmao

:rotflmao:

3 Feb 2014

Quote by LeeEC
I hope you all took note of the FIRST few seconds of the video - he clearly talks about "massaging all the pressure points" and "connecting" BEFORE this works!
So you can't just dive in there and expect her to squirt.... heh heh

true, HOWEVER . . . once a lady has "learned" to squirt . .