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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
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Quote by Stamina
Frustrated again with people on this site... But this time because of a couple (or maybe one of the two) confusing the hell out of me!
I contact a very new profile. A couple in an "open" relationship where either partner plays alone as well as together. Looking for just about anything. Even single guys! So I send a message complimenting the profile and the interesting write up. No rules, so a profile that has my attention. I state clearly how much I like the profile. I then get a wink back??? Funny reply but anyway. I send another message saying that a wink requests me to view the profile and say what I think... I did that in my first message. So I assumed the newbies do not know that a wink is an actual message with text involved.
I get a message back a few minutes later. "I would love to chat", and a cell number for . I log off, open my and send a message saying its me from the site. Next message is her telling me her name. I ask how her day is... Etc. Goes quiet. A few minutes later, I ask another polite question: When did you join SH?... Still quiet for another few minutes, then a message back: "Sorry babe, you not my type"... WTF??!! Two sentences after a greeting message was enough for her deduce that I am not her type? Why send me a cell number and ask to chat just to politely tell me f off?? What the hell do most people actually want here? Seriously, what are we here for specifically? To fuck each other, or fuck each other around?????
Some very strange people on this planet!! Bipolar much???

Dude, she has your number now . .. maybe have your service provider check you are not being charged for some strange service
Quote by Dennis_Edwards
SDMR, I have an opinion on most of the topics posted on these fora, but because my views are mostly controversial I tend to keep them to myself these days to avoid the vitriol of the replies from ppl who totally misunderstand me.
Posting an opinion is not an invitation for a flurry of head blows, mine are meant as putting an alternate concept out there for discussion and intellectual debate but alas......... sad dunno :giveup::giveup:
So I just pop in for some light reading now and again.
Darn!, now I've broken my own rule
lol

Welcome aboard mate :welcome::thumbup:
Quote by Stamina
Cherry QQ rules!!!! Bwa haaa ha haaaa!!!

and I thought I had too much time on my hands . . . . . lol
Quote by Adonis
My father said a Chev my boy never a Ford

Ek dink toe Pa gese Chev, was hulle egte Chev's en noe die Daewoo kak van vandag.
Quote by Stamina
How about I drive an Opel into a Toyota? And keep my Nissan... He he he...

A perfect use for both vehicles wink
Quote by Stamina
Since this is a site for generalists, I decided to generalise a bit myself...
The chance of meeting someone (couple or single) on this site is extremely slim. The chance of actually doing something of a sexual nature is even slimmer. There will be 20 people who disagree and give me all kinds of hogwash reasons (excuses) as to why that is and then there will be 100's that agree. For me (and a great many), this site is a meg eater! Daily logons with endless searches and countless messages that just lead to half a day wasted along 200 megs of expensive 3G data.
So I still logon everyday - for research purposes. Finding any kind of action here has now become a "prove myself wrong" endeavour. While doing this, I take note of what happens, and it is as follows...
Couples message me back 7 times out of 10. Females message me back 3 times out of 10. 2 of those 3 are rude and one will be friendly. As for the couples, they are more serious but nothing really comes from bouncing messages up and down. Couples over 30 seem more interested when chatting. Under 30's only send a single sentence at a time. You can sense the disinterestedness. Then the females and a few couples that blatantly ignore the message! They have read it as it is no longer highlighted in the sent folder and you can see that they viewed your profile. Perfectly fine if they are not interested but still would not kill them to answer a message. That way, we will not attempt to contact again in future.
It has become an uphill battle. Logon and hope to see that tiny little red block next to "inbox", which happens few and far between. When it does, it is a wink from a gay guy!! If it is a message from a female, you can be sure it is a scammer. If it is from a couple, then great but know that it will be just chatting for the next week and then go quiet. I really don't understand people. Why bother being on a site like this if you know you are not really going to take the plunge. For the serious ones with the long list of rules I say this. Sex is fun, it is best served spontaneously, add the rules to it: No under 35's, no single men, no married guys, no hairy guys, no small penises, same room only, no smokers, etc, etc, etc... Sex is now also governed by regulations. I know people have preferences but no need to have this strict criteria for something that should have no boundaries.
I have my standards and preferences. They are however not set in stone. I do not particularly have an attraction to fat girls, but I am open to it if the moment allows. I like Nissan, so now I should never drive a Toyota?
Anyway, just felt like rambling and complaining a bit. It all gets very frustrating sometimes. I just can not believe that even decent guys don't get any action on here. I will stay a member and always keep contact with the friends I made here... But the searching is over. The amount I spend on megs could hire 5 high class hookers a month!!! Lol!

Dude, seriously? a fricken Toyota? nooit man, drive an Opel before you drive a Toyota . . . rotflmao
Quote by Stamina
Am I the only one who has noticed the site getting quiet this year? People giving up maybe?

Nah, I reckon everyone just used up all their internet money while on holiday lol
So, as I have said before, i have too much time on my hands, and that generally ends up with me noticing the most ridiculously insignificant things . . . . take today for instance, at around 1PM, there were 13 members on line in the forum, and not one of them had anything to say about any of the topics . . . . ?:rascal:
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
In my opinion, as mentioned in the beginning, this site is NOT very specific, contrary to what you profess. It is sexually universal. Way more so than most people and specifically me would considers as being 'Swinging'
In one's profile setup, it has tick boxes that allows for 'Erotic Writing' all the way through to 'Gang Bangs'
To my wife and I swinging brings to mind, couples playing with couples but yet singles like you also have a place in this sun and rightly so.
This site is Bank A to Z. If you're looking for online sexy fun, there is on deed to move on. Unless you have stepped on the wrong toes or some nasty people have shun you.
The 'Fakers' are mostly happy to be here and they get their fix, just like my wife and I get from participating honestly.
My assessment of your reservations and limits are based directly on what you have written in your profile.
From most of your forum postings, that I have read, you appear open minded and fair. That is why I find your approach to timid members a bit harsh.
Make no mistake, after spending time with some of these members, we have recommended that their relationship, as a couple, would be best served, if they leave this site and they have done so. We are however still open to chatting with them and one day they may be ready to participate fully.

Yes, single like me have a place in this sun, but I HAVE to abide by the others requirements. If a profile says no single males, then I should not contact them, because they have made it clear what their requirements are.
As for the rest of your posting, I look forward to answering it together with the PM conversation we have started.
Quote by LeeEC
Maybe instead of a post mortem someone could find something really interesting on the net and start a new and interesting discussion. .. Nothing gross now!

LeeEC, that is and always will be a good suggestion, only thing is, what kind of topic would be successful on this site? Look at all the different topics you put up lately, people hardly got involved. Put something up that people can moan and complain about and "bonus" people are writing away . . . .
That same community that preaches understanding, deserves exactly that from all other members, new or existing. If they say, NO SINGLE MALES, then that's what they want, respect it. Contacting people who have made it clear they are looking for something other than what you are offering is looking for failure, forget about trying to change their views, rather consider changing your own.
Quote by swannie696969
Guys,
I know a lady that would agree to a gangbang at graceland casino for a friday or saturday evening. I just need to convince her that it would be worth it for her.
we have to get something going in this place.
what say you?????

Ok, so this went from Dogging to a Gang Bang.
What is it you mean by a lady agreeing but you would have to convince her it would be worth her while?
Quote by Pussinboots1
Now EVERYONE....
Do NOT read this the wrong way..read it with a open mind (so long as your brain does not fall out)....and with a smile...
WELlllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll @ SDMR you could blame your Mom for not having STRETCHED your penis!!!!
LMAO here...she could have hung a stone on it to stretch it,from birth.
But there is hope still ... you can actually Stretch your scrotum ...SO that KINKY people who LOVES CBT (like me)can enjoy playing with your private parts......and I am sure you might even enjoy it as well!!!!

For years now I have always wondered why my neck was longer than other peoples . . . . guess my Mom tied the rock to the wrong body part . . . . rotflmao
Quote by Pussinboots1
@ Adonis...
To prevent us STRETCHING and stretching and stretching we do have wonderful vaginal muscles to prevent that.
so City hall pussies rarely happen!!!
BUT just incase that happens there is few things we an do..
Use Ben-wa balls regularly...for exercise.
If we are kinda lazy,we can go for the Hymenoplasty procedure . but why do that just to let a man think he is the *first* and undergo all that pain again.
Or we go for a whole NEW LOOK and have some cosmetic surgery done like Labiaplasty
Or we do both...just for the kink of it.
See we ladies are way cooler than men....we *do* things to keep a pussy attractive for you all.....

Women actually have ways to improve their "bits", men have to deal with what they have from birth . .. wink
Quote by Pussinboots1
What no one found this funny??? and wanted to tell me off?? for getting them all excited and then wham bang.....*a COW*
LMAO anyway....

Haha, it was a giggle. lol
The intention is a mix of things. Foremost being the pleasure and entertainment, learning, interacting, exchange of ideas and polishing life with more experiences, with views and ideas on various topics. Also, as a bonus, the compensation what we receive here is just a thrill.
I copied the above from another Site.
Perhaps it would be a good idea if we all remembered that everyone has a slightly different (however similar) view on different things, and if we took a breath we might just learn something. Instead we all make up our own minds about what someone means and we . . . . . .
Quote by Rumpledforeskin
Do you guys even know that it is against the laws for discussing the Moderators on his site?
But hey, I agree, I have had my fair share of being grossly misunderstood by Mods.

Must say I did not know. Do I owe any Moderators an apology?
Rumpledforeskin, at some point on this site everyone of us is likely to be misunderstood, hell, it happens to me almost daily on this forum, but the thing is, at this point people are only complaining about the Mod's, which kind of proves what Adonis is saying about South Africans and their views on Authority . . . . . . .
Hi Nimfie_Pieman, The point I was simply trying to make was the following: This particular site offers a specific type of thing, so if it is not what one is looking for, then in fairness to oneself, joining this particular site is not the best choice one could make. It's like choosing Bank A over Bank B because maybe one day they will have the services that Bank B have. If one finds themselves at some or other kind of crossroad about the "lifestyle" and sites, and one determines that, say for example, this is the best choice of site for them, then I would say, go for it, BUT, in your profile write-up include that fact. That way 98% of the members on the site would not call one a "fake" and in fact would treat one way better, resulting in way better results. Also, can I encourage you to have a few conversation's with me before you go ahead and make statements like I have few reservations or limits or even to suggest that I am inflexible.
Moderators are doing this in an effort to help make the site more useful for themselves and for us. Maybe people should cut them a little slack. Maybe your comments seem fine to you (and they probably do, otherwise you probably would nit have said them) but what if they were offensive to other members who then complained? Doesn't help all you do is blame the Moderator. Like Adonis said, it's in our nature in this country to run down authority . . . . this is a free service to us all, the least we can do is abide by the sites rules, whether we agree with them or not.
Quote by Adonis
You only 4 min out of the pool and you can read ' a page back if you get back in the pool. Not so difficult

Ok, but then it would seem as bumping someone out the room is pretty powerless. If someone has done something worthy of being bumped, they should at least have a penalty period.
Quote by Pussinboots1
Sooooooo guys *beware* you are being *rated* and talked about LMAO

PIB1 . . . most men KNOW this, that is why we all have complexes about penis size. What makes it worse is when women say "size doesn't matter" . . . because we know almost all of them are lying . . . wink
[quote="spanky"]There are good mods on the site. I've seen them in the chat room during the weekdays, and I want to give them a shout out for being fair and above all - POLITE. Interesting you bring up two things that are worthy of thought: authority and friends. The dude who decided to make a derogatory remark couldn't answer me when I asked him what he meant. Instead of owning his words, he kicked me from the room. His mates were patting him on the back and loving the fact that this mod had just puffed out his cyber chest to prove he's the alpha. Mod, please. "With great power comes great responsibility." ~ Spiderman Spanky, You say the Mod's mates were patting him on the back and loving the fact he just puffed his chest . . . . . . now if you were just kicked from the room, I have to wonder how you are aware of this? Do you have another member telling you this info?
Well now, I guess it's again just one of those depends on the various people situations . . . I mean I know this guy who is close to 40, but has a 21 year Girlfriend rotflmao:rotflmao:
Now while I know this topic has been "forum'd" to death, I am bored and needed something to do, so I thought I would cut & paste the below info for people to read and maybe agree or disagree with, and maybe even add some to . . . . . Some findings ********** - If it's too thick, good head is rare - A very thick penis is eventually accommodateable, but not for head. - If it's too thin, she will not enjoy it - If it's too long you'll have to be careful not to slam into her cervix. - A longer penis is better for doggy style positions - A longer penis will stimulate those first three inches more on one stroke than a shorter penis - A longer penis is more difficult to ride for a long time (she can't come all the way down and this can tire her out) - A shorter penis tends to slip out more often - A shorter penis isn't ideal for doggy style positions - A longer penis can more easily hit the G-spot, Deep spot, etc. A shorter penis may be able to do it by adjusting the position for deep entry - Generally speaking, a bigger penis is softer than a smaller one
Quote by LeeEC
Um most vibrators are not "large".... Not surprising you don't know this, really since it's not really your wheel house. ...

My wheel house is turning just fine thank you very much, this hamster is on top of things . . . . blink
(yes, I know what you were actually referring to to)
Quote by Jamknop69
I'm new here. Hoop om baie female friends te maak

Welcome,
Maar heirde is nie die Site om dit reg te kry.
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
What is swinging? Or more importantly, what is not swinging?
There is no clear answer to that.
On this site, there are even single straight guys that are just looking for single straight girls and vice versa.
We are all here to express our naughty side in one way or another .
In the early days we found more excitement in exchanging naughty messages and pics with "Fakers" than many old hands get from doing unspeakable things.
Above all, we still enjoy the freshness of people having new experiences, so we like engaging with new and undecided couples. ( And some well spoken singles)
For us there is more fun to be had with nice Fakers, that have some imagination, than with experienced people that are pushy.
If however you are in the mood for something more physical, Cyber Sex won't do.
We therefore have to find ways to distinguish between people that are in this to get it on and those that just have big ideas.
As I mentioned in another thread, I believe the answer is not in being Verified once but indeed to be verified by several other profiles. Again, that does not mean that you have played with them but that your profile represents you in a reasonable manner.

My suggestion would be that perhaps the "fakers" should start their own WebSite for this purpose, that way the "Non-Fakers" on say this site, would know not to join their site, because they would know it is offering something different to what they are actually looking for.
Quote by ash
Im a child of the 80's and a teen of the nighties so i share certain interests of people older than me ie music , pop culture etc and with those younger than long term girlfriend was ten years older than me yet we had so much in common since she was a teen of the 80's. I could sing a long to abba songs which she loved and i knew because my sister listened to them .what i am trying to say in a long winded way is i guess you just need some common .....let me get my fat ass to the gym

Ash, all valid comments (well apart from signing along to ABBA) but I think the main question was about age gap in the lifestyle, as in a 40 year old couple not wanting a 21 year old couple.
Oops, My fat ass will not fit through the Gym door
Every one will be quick to say "size does not matter" and I suppose if you yourself have come to terms with whatever size you happen to be, and simply get on with it, then you will probably not encounter too many unhappy women. But the truth of it is that at the end of the day, size does matter. Woman are just way more intelligent and mature when it comes to crux of it and they will be "happy" with whatever is on offer, as long as there is not a dick attached to the dick. Look, if size really did not matter, why are most vibrators "large" ?
Athletic when a man says it = could loose a few pounds Athletic when a woman says it = small breasts