Different people enjoy different things.
This is what makes us all individual. In the setting of, shall we say "swinging" my take is that the ground rules would have taken care of what is on and what is not. If anyone goes outside the lines of the ground rules, the amazing power of the words "NO" or "STOP" is all that is required. And in the event of them failing, there are enough other people present to make the words work. So when any person, is getting "ploughed" and they are not trying to stop it, then in all likely-hood they are on board with the activity. If they are not enjoying it, and are too scared to stop it, then it's .
Anyone who goes into a setting and then tries something that has not been "cleared" before hand, is inconsiderate.
I have seen profiles of coloured (as in not white)members on this site that also say "I / we do not cross the colour line" . . .but none of the white members are throwing their toys out the playpen about them . . . . .
Nobody makes a noise about people who say in their profiles "no under X age" . . . .
Nobody makes a noise about people who say in their profiles "do not contact if you don't have pics" . . .
If what a white person does is seen as racism, then surely when a non white person does it, it's exactly the same?
This is not a "Bobby on the Beat" situation.
This is Years and Years of non white South Africans living a very hard life, followed by Years and Years of white south Africans living a very hard life, all accentuated by the massive amount of race related movies available to watch these days. People will never get over themselves as long as there is no time given for "healing"
South Africans are simply rude people. On sites such as this one, every-time the rude members get a reaction, they feel a victory and want more . . . which is also a testament to the lack of maturity of the average South African.
The habit of South Africans of painting everyone with the same brush is just another way to deal with the fear of change.
And yes, before you think it, I AM SOUTH AFRICAN
Thanks Redbruce, against the law is against the law . . . . .
As far as the media & entertainment sectors are concerned, they run off money and are targeted at adults. But the whole world wants everyone to have freedom of expression etc etc etc . . . . kids and teenagers who see adults doing things (such as nudism) and are allowed to think it's ok for them to also do, are going to have a long hard transition into adult life when trying to understand how the vast majority of the world thinks and functions in society.
Public sex or public displays of affection or simple public behaviour is a personal choice thing.
However,
As adults, whether we like it or not, we have a responsibility to consider others (just like we expect others to consider us) and children should be first in our consideration . . . . . .
what children see adults do, children will most likely think is acceptable behaviour . . .
maybe the first thought an adult should have is "how would I feel if my kids saw other adults doing this or that?"
nothing wrong with different . . .
In your profile, you list your "partner" as a gay 94 year male. In the same profile you give the link to your partners profile which states he is a 54 year old straight male.
This alone is bound to result in people taking the piss out of your profile.
Just a thought, and I honestly don't know if I am even on the right track here, but if the male of the species has 'issues' wearing condoms, be it because of slipping or sensation or or or . . .. . . . wouldn't the female condom be of some benefit???????? surely in this day and age, it is not only the males responsibility to be 'responsible' . . .
Your post heading is "cross the line" . . . . that tells a story in itself . . .
