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People are not racist here, people are just simply racist. And when, a let's say person of 'non colour' says they will not cross the colour line, they are not being racist, they are simply exercising their right to choose. but in this country, you only have a right to choose if you are a person of colour.
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Quote by redbruce
I've had a wonderful time since I joined the site. I used to watch the site for a long time before I became a member, reading the stories and checking out the dogging opportunities - but always from a distance. After I registered a profile, I realised how much I had been missing out on by not being able to interact with people. I have met so many really nice people since being on here, some just for drinks and a chat (I love sharing experiences), some to watch at play, and some even to play with! I have also NEARLY met some equally lovely people (and she knows who she is!), and there are a few others where we are planning to meet and chat as soon as there is an opportunity.
My social circle has diversified and expanded, as has my life-experience! I've seen and done things in the past two and a half years that I really had no expectation of ever experiencing, have some wonderful memories, and I am living life to the full! Being on this site has been a really good experience for me!...

Mr. RedBruce my old friend,
It is wonderful to read your write-up about how succesful your time as a member on this site has been.
What would have made it perfect, was if we could have seen the look of disappointment and dejection on Stamina's face when he read this and realised that another male member was also enjoying immense success from this site . . :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
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@Ash, Your wording about barriers "Actual & Perceived" says so much. So much about how we as humans function. Just a real pity more of us could not be so good at allowing the barriers to fade away as you are.
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Quote by kinky787
anyone in a similar situation? how did u handle it...
its all well n good to be a fantasy but when u n the actual situation gosh freaked out.
lets here from ppl in similar or inbox me and i'll relate the story and get some advise plz

They probably feel exactly the same way you do about it . .
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A large percentage of the couple life-stylers (on this site) have indicated that a threesome is one of their desired activities. To do this, you need an odd number of people. The couple makes two and then depending on the said couples requirements, another male or female would make three. . (som). The same life-stylers as referred to earlier, also very often state that they are not interested in married people playing alone . . . . . hence the "opportunity" for the single member on sites such as this one. Of course, the same aforementioned life-stylers are the first to bitch and moan about the single members. The same as those who tick straight male (which means single) and then rant and rave because males are contacting them all the time . . . Ok, I've said enough . . . well not really, I just have to go and get my daily quota of gallery browsing in . . . wink
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I was going to give a contribution to this forum post, but thought it best if I put it off until another day . ..
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@jackd1112, I feel your frustration. But just a thought, some of those we label as "fakers" often turn out to be "scared / cautious" often when these kinds of people join, they have every intention of actually getting involved in the so called lifestyle. They get a few messages from people who just do not have any manners (and there are hundreds on this site alone) and they start to re-think the whole thing. This then gets them the "label' of "faker" . . . much like the perception that ALL single males are "stinkers" . . . . Those that are indeed fakers, well I cannot see the point of doing something like that, but yes, one does get them.
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Quote by Sofistikitty
My opinion or perspective from a single female...most "single" males on the site are indeed married men playing without the knowledge or permission of their wives. Usually they looking for easy and quick sex. Also I've been to parties where men were not limited, it was a disaster! I'm not saying all men , please don't get me wrong. Some men don't understand the concept of swinging, they mistreat women like me because we are on a sex site.

I would say that it's not because the women are on a sex site, I would say it is because that's the type of person he is. So no matter where or how he met with a women, chances are he would treat them exactly the same way.
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Quote by Stamina
Mechanical Engineer (Btech with honours). Sound Engineer (diploma). Structural Engineer (T6). Schedule 26 Red seal boiler maker (trade tested). Own an engineering firm. Professional hunter. Own a combat shooting club. Own a darts club (non profit). ...And just about anything else that puts cash in my pocket... Sex I do for free..
Yes, I studied my young life away...

@Stamina, if memory serves me correctly, you have spent a considerable amount of time telling us all in this here forum, that you were not getting any sex (at home does not count) . . . . so what the hell do you mean "sex I do for free" ????
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Breathe in . . .. Breathe out . . . repeat . . . . oh, you mean making money, not live . . . lol
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Quote by amethyst
So things have been really quiet around here. I have no more entertainment, so in order to engage the kind folk on here as the name suggests.
@SDMR going to remainhere is not an answer bro

Oh deary me, I am apparently a little transparent . . . rotflmao
I don't do the December holiday thing, I get away at Easter and again in the middle of the year, both for about a week. The December rush doesn't work for me, and anyway everyone from whichever area you live in is at the same place you are.
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Quote by redbruce
... and here I thought that Voyer1105 and I were the ou ballies around here.... wink
Welcome to the old man's club, SDMR!!
(Stamina 1; SDMR 0)

Oh that's very nice. You start keeping score only now? :sad:
Now you are showing your age Redbruce . . . lol
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Quote by Stamina
My wife and I are going to Bali on Monday. Can anyone recommend any good swingers clubs in Bali or anything worth knowing in Bali?
Thanks

You should ask SDMR.. He is a ou "bali"... Bwaaaa haaaaa haaa!!
Oh well done Stamina . . . well done . . . .
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I don't find "squirting" a turn on... It happens with K often (mostly cowgirl) and then I am drenched in salty fluids... and a wet couch or bed or kitchen counter or, or, or... Then I sometimes have to go down on her afterwards ( :sad: ) The things we do to please our partners...

So Stamina . . . how about a picture in the gallery of Cowgirl on the Kitchen counter then . . . . :doh::grin:
Will post it soon. Cowgirl was mostly on the nook section... Needless to say I replaced the postform tops with granite.. lol :lol: Only problem is now I have to have my back on that cold stone. :sad: ....and get wet!
Heil oor naai . . . . rotflmao:rotflmao: are you ever satisfied????? :lol:
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Quote by Stamina
I don't find "squirting" a turn on... It happens with K often (mostly cowgirl) and then I am drenched in salty fluids... and a wet couch or bed or kitchen counter or, or, or... Then I sometimes have to go down on her afterwards ( :sad: ) The things we do to please our partners...

So Stamina . . . how about a picture in the gallery of Cowgirl on the Kitchen counter then . . . . :doh::grin:
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I get super agro too but then I usually sort myself out. Mind you, I wonder if there is an effect or a build up of something
The emotional side of it I think I get (well I have experienced) I'm very curious about the physical side though . . . .
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@Sofistikitty, my apologies for posting here when you made it clear your post was for females, but I do have a squirt related question to ask. as it has been said, most woman can squirt. I have been in a situation more than once where the lady has squirted, and also where the lady could feel all the afore mentioned pressure build ups etc. (so I think I have kind of an idea) but never actually squirted. My question is, in the case of the lady getting right to the edge, but never actually going over it (ie: Squirting) what, if any, effect does this have on the ladies body? Physically. We know for a male that if he gets to the point of orgasm and then doesn't, it often leads to some kind of physical discomfort, yet for ladies who don't orgasm, it is not a physical "issue" at all. What about with "almost" squirting? Does anybody know?
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Dear S & S (and I'm not sure who actually has the spelling right! wink ),
You guys are brilliant, and most entertaining!! Thank you for your contributions!
Stamina - vasbyt! All good things come to those who wait long enough! It's gotta happen - sometime....!!

Why thank you kind Sir,
BUT . . .
You should see the stuff we say to each other in PM's . . :twisted: lol
S (the correctly spelled one) I mean after all, by simply making a slight spelling mistake Sean can easily become Semen
Hey quick Stamina,
This is where you jump in and chirp that miss-spelling mine could be Shame . . . . oh wait, I already did that and now you can't . . . bugger . . :wink:
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Quote by redbruce
Dear S & S (and I'm not sure who actually has the spelling right! wink ),
You guys are brilliant, and most entertaining!! Thank you for your contributions!
Stamina - vasbyt! All good things come to those who wait long enough! It's gotta happen - sometime....!!

Why thank you kind Sir,
BUT . . .
You should see the stuff we say to each other in PM's . . :twisted: lol
S (the correctly spelled one) I mean after all, by simply making a slight spelling mistake Sean can easily become Semen
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Quote by Stamina
Let's be realistic... My messages are not at all the reason why there is no success. I do not "brag" in messages about the age gap, I simply state our ages. I believe it is of some importance. Besides, that should actually count in my favour... A 36 year old with a young hottie must have something to be able to land that... Bare in mind, she was 19 when I "landed" her... And she came after me, not the other way around... I would really think that it should be improving my chances.
As for "stalker" messages, also not really what I send in general, only to those that I have mailed previously. If I send a message to a profile and get no response, I move on... But I may come across that profile a month later and develop an interest again, remembering that I never got a reply, so I would send a message again and inform them that I may have mailed before...
Regardless, It is not the messages... It is the members! I stand by my opinion, most on here are not serious and will never do what they profess on their profiles. I also believe that the few that brag about a massive success rate are simply talking BS!
I bet you that there are no more than 10 couple profiles on here that have actually met a single lady for a threesome from the site. As polite as I am, every female that has at least responded on a message (1 out of 100) disappears when actual meets start to be arranged.
I am not doing anything wrong. I am polite, I am decent, I am respectful, I am good looking, etc. My girl is fun, bubbly, polite, classy, sexy, etc... What more could someone ask for? We are by far not the best profile on the site but I am sure we at least rank somewhere between way above average and the top...
I know I complain a lot, but seriously? 2 years membership here and nothing???
So sorry for the long explanation but what I say in my messages is not the problem...

Now he goes and gets all serious on me . . . . reminds me of the old "Chomp" advert . .
I loved that ad... The hippo one right?
Yip, now all we need is for that clever young man who calls himself Mike_Pta to put a picture up for us . ..
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Quote by Stamina
Let's be realistic... My messages are not at all the reason why there is no success. I do not "brag" in messages about the age gap, I simply state our ages. I believe it is of some importance. Besides, that should actually count in my favour... A 36 year old with a young hottie must have something to be able to land that... Bare in mind, she was 19 when I "landed" her... And she came after me, not the other way around... I would really think that it should be improving my chances.
As for "stalker" messages, also not really what I send in general, only to those that I have mailed previously. If I send a message to a profile and get no response, I move on... But I may come across that profile a month later and develop an interest again, remembering that I never got a reply, so I would send a message again and inform them that I may have mailed before...
Regardless, It is not the messages... It is the members! I stand by my opinion, most on here are not serious and will never do what they profess on their profiles. I also believe that the few that brag about a massive success rate are simply talking BS!
I bet you that there are no more than 10 couple profiles on here that have actually met a single lady for a threesome from the site. As polite as I am, every female that has at least responded on a message (1 out of 100) disappears when actual meets start to be arranged.
I am not doing anything wrong. I am polite, I am decent, I am respectful, I am good looking, etc. My girl is fun, bubbly, polite, classy, sexy, etc... What more could someone ask for? We are by far not the best profile on the site but I am sure we at least rank somewhere between way above average and the top...
I know I complain a lot, but seriously? 2 years membership here and nothing???
So sorry for the long explanation but what I say in my messages is not the problem...

Now he goes and gets all serious on me . . . . reminds me of the old "Chomp" advert . .
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Quote by Stamina

Er... can't argue with that. :sad:

Well not to worry young man, after this post, the amount of people looking at our profiles is bound to bring some success . . .
Exactly... I am the man with the plan... wink
Desperate times call for desperate measures.. he he he..
Why has the ravishing Lee not yet told us how she sees herself?? I personally would tickle that amazing bum of hers for hours - and that definitely puts her in the "sexy as hell" category!
Dude, all you have to do is tone down that 'Serial Stalker' write up you send the ladies . . . . . and stop bragging that your misses is 14 years your junior, makes you out to be a perverted old man . . . hey, now I have an idea .. :twisted:
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Quote by Stamina
Er... can't argue with that. :sad:

Well not to worry young man, after this post, the amount of people looking at our profiles is bound to bring some success . . .
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Who is shawn and sean?

Shawn may be sexier than me, but at least my name is spelled correctly.. lol :lol:
What he means to say is, he is the one with no "action" from this site . . . rotflmao
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Quote by Pussinboots1
@ SDMR you give an Yes answer but to what do you give a Yes answer???? there is a few questions that you could have answered too!!!....so what are you in your own eyes???
And I NEVER COULD JUST GIVE A YES OR NO ANSWER....... although I have taken *NOTE* @ Stamina....
No to beauty or sexiness....................... Yes to ugly....

@PIB1, Stamina asked if we know if we are this or that, hence my answer was YES, I do know. wink
It's like you said, everyone has a different view on the same topic.
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Quote by Pussinboots1
I happen to have seen more of Shawn than most people here I think..... and BOY, is he HOT!!!!! I think he is VERY sexy and has ummfff!!!! He has the sexiest mouth EVER!!!!!
But then someone else whom who might have seen him as well might not agree!!!!.

thanks PIB. . . . . (the cheques in the mail) wink
Stamina my old friend . . . SUCK on that lol
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What I don't get is, how would a person decide that they wanted to experience something if they did not have a clue what it actually all about. To me, if I heard or read about some kind of event and it sparked my interest, I would find out whatever I could about it to establish if it was something I was actually going to enjoy. So taking a swingers party as an example, if I had never been to one, and if I was interested in the concept, then step one would surely be to find out what a swingers party is all about. Funny how so many people who are on this site, don't seem to understand the basics of swinging . .. or the basics of manners . . . or the basics of .. .. (yes, I know it is not only this site, but we are currently referencing this site)
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Quote by Stamina
As opinions and tastes vary, it is hard to know what is hot and what is not. One may like a Ferrari and another may think it is a hideous car...
How do you see yourself? Based on your own judgement looking in the mirror, various compliments (or lack there of) through your life, comparison to others, etc... Do you think (or know for a fact) that you are sexy, hot, ugly, handsome, beautiful, pretty, etc?

YES!!!! lol
Well done mate! That's how you answer question! Take note people. :lol:
Well, you asked a yes or no question and I simply gave a yes or no answer . . .
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Quote by Stamina
As opinions and tastes vary, it is hard to know what is hot and what is not. One may like a Ferrari and another may think it is a hideous car...
How do you see yourself? Based on your own judgement looking in the mirror, various compliments (or lack there of) through your life, comparison to others, etc... Do you think (or know for a fact) that you are sexy, hot, ugly, handsome, beautiful, pretty, etc?

YES!!!! lol
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Quote by Stamina
I'm a guy n love to see woman pics hey. I believe after all woman are the roses of it all.. Pitty our gallery has TOO many Dick pis! Ladies, upload upload upload

I am with you my friend! It's a sausage fest! I don't even want to look at my own anymore because of all the dick pics. Makes me laugh actually... Every guy thinks his will impress the ladies more than the other 900 she has to look at... He he he, like a dick pic is really going to increase their chances. Bwaaaa haaaaaa!! :twisted:
Gentlemen, Gentlemen, Gentlemen (and Stamina)
Simply filter. . . . . click on the tab in the gallery that says females, and PRESTO you have very few dick pictures . . . .
Have done so BUT... a) When viewing couple profiles, wala! Dick pics! b) If you filter, then you do not always get the "latest" as the tab says. I see female pics on page one that I saw a month ago, and I see female pics on page 15 that joined that day??? The gallery is actually pretty random but more accurately "latest" when you view without filtering.
Bottom line: Too many Dick pics! No normal person should be subjected to see that many penises! It's hazardous to ones health man! lol
"... And Stamina" Bwaaaa haaaaa haaa! You hit that nail on the head..
Your other options are:
a) get the fooook over it
b) learn to like looking at bigger than yours totties
c) don't frigging look at pictures and read stories
But I guess complaining is more likely to be the preferred route . . .
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