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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
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Quote by Stamina
My wife and I are going to Bali on Monday. Can anyone recommend any good swingers clubs in Bali or anything worth knowing in Bali?
Thanks

You should ask SDMR.. He is a ou "bali"... Bwaaaa haaaaa haaa!!
Oh well done Stamina . . . well done . . . .
Quote by Stamina
I don't find "squirting" a turn on... It happens with K often (mostly cowgirl) and then I am drenched in salty fluids... and a wet couch or bed or kitchen counter or, or, or... Then I sometimes have to go down on her afterwards ( :sad: ) The things we do to please our partners...

So Stamina . . . how about a picture in the gallery of Cowgirl on the Kitchen counter then . . . . :doh::grin:
Will post it soon. Cowgirl was mostly on the nook section... Needless to say I replaced the postform tops with granite.. lol :lol: Only problem is now I have to have my back on that cold stone. :sad: ....and get wet!
Heil oor naai . . . . rotflmao:rotflmao: are you ever satisfied????? :lol:
Quote by Stamina
I don't find "squirting" a turn on... It happens with K often (mostly cowgirl) and then I am drenched in salty fluids... and a wet couch or bed or kitchen counter or, or, or... Then I sometimes have to go down on her afterwards ( :sad: ) The things we do to please our partners...

So Stamina . . . how about a picture in the gallery of Cowgirl on the Kitchen counter then . . . . :doh::grin:

I get super agro too but then I usually sort myself out. Mind you, I wonder if there is an effect or a build up of something
The emotional side of it I think I get (well I have experienced) I'm very curious about the physical side though . . . .
@Sofistikitty, my apologies for posting here when you made it clear your post was for females, but I do have a squirt related question to ask. as it has been said, most woman can squirt. I have been in a situation more than once where the lady has squirted, and also where the lady could feel all the afore mentioned pressure build ups etc. (so I think I have kind of an idea) but never actually squirted. My question is, in the case of the lady getting right to the edge, but never actually going over it (ie: Squirting) what, if any, effect does this have on the ladies body? Physically. We know for a male that if he gets to the point of orgasm and then doesn't, it often leads to some kind of physical discomfort, yet for ladies who don't orgasm, it is not a physical "issue" at all. What about with "almost" squirting? Does anybody know?
Quote by SDMR
Dear S & S (and I'm not sure who actually has the spelling right! wink ),
You guys are brilliant, and most entertaining!! Thank you for your contributions!
Stamina - vasbyt! All good things come to those who wait long enough! It's gotta happen - sometime....!!

Why thank you kind Sir,
BUT . . .
You should see the stuff we say to each other in PM's . . :twisted: lol
S (the correctly spelled one) I mean after all, by simply making a slight spelling mistake Sean can easily become Semen
Hey quick Stamina,
This is where you jump in and chirp that miss-spelling mine could be Shame . . . . oh wait, I already did that and now you can't . . . bugger . . :wink:
Quote by redbruce
Dear S & S (and I'm not sure who actually has the spelling right! wink ),
You guys are brilliant, and most entertaining!! Thank you for your contributions!
Stamina - vasbyt! All good things come to those who wait long enough! It's gotta happen - sometime....!!

Why thank you kind Sir,
BUT . . .
You should see the stuff we say to each other in PM's . . :twisted: lol
S (the correctly spelled one) I mean after all, by simply making a slight spelling mistake Sean can easily become Semen
Quote by Stamina
Let's be realistic... My messages are not at all the reason why there is no success. I do not "brag" in messages about the age gap, I simply state our ages. I believe it is of some importance. Besides, that should actually count in my favour... A 36 year old with a young hottie must have something to be able to land that... Bare in mind, she was 19 when I "landed" her... And she came after me, not the other way around... I would really think that it should be improving my chances.
As for "stalker" messages, also not really what I send in general, only to those that I have mailed previously. If I send a message to a profile and get no response, I move on... But I may come across that profile a month later and develop an interest again, remembering that I never got a reply, so I would send a message again and inform them that I may have mailed before...
Regardless, It is not the messages... It is the members! I stand by my opinion, most on here are not serious and will never do what they profess on their profiles. I also believe that the few that brag about a massive success rate are simply talking BS!
I bet you that there are no more than 10 couple profiles on here that have actually met a single lady for a threesome from the site. As polite as I am, every female that has at least responded on a message (1 out of 100) disappears when actual meets start to be arranged.
I am not doing anything wrong. I am polite, I am decent, I am respectful, I am good looking, etc. My girl is fun, bubbly, polite, classy, sexy, etc... What more could someone ask for? We are by far not the best profile on the site but I am sure we at least rank somewhere between way above average and the top...
I know I complain a lot, but seriously? 2 years membership here and nothing???
So sorry for the long explanation but what I say in my messages is not the problem...

Now he goes and gets all serious on me . . . . reminds me of the old "Chomp" advert . .
I loved that ad... The hippo one right?
Yip, now all we need is for that clever young man who calls himself Mike_Pta to put a picture up for us . ..
Quote by Stamina
Let's be realistic... My messages are not at all the reason why there is no success. I do not "brag" in messages about the age gap, I simply state our ages. I believe it is of some importance. Besides, that should actually count in my favour... A 36 year old with a young hottie must have something to be able to land that... Bare in mind, she was 19 when I "landed" her... And she came after me, not the other way around... I would really think that it should be improving my chances.
As for "stalker" messages, also not really what I send in general, only to those that I have mailed previously. If I send a message to a profile and get no response, I move on... But I may come across that profile a month later and develop an interest again, remembering that I never got a reply, so I would send a message again and inform them that I may have mailed before...
Regardless, It is not the messages... It is the members! I stand by my opinion, most on here are not serious and will never do what they profess on their profiles. I also believe that the few that brag about a massive success rate are simply talking BS!
I bet you that there are no more than 10 couple profiles on here that have actually met a single lady for a threesome from the site. As polite as I am, every female that has at least responded on a message (1 out of 100) disappears when actual meets start to be arranged.
I am not doing anything wrong. I am polite, I am decent, I am respectful, I am good looking, etc. My girl is fun, bubbly, polite, classy, sexy, etc... What more could someone ask for? We are by far not the best profile on the site but I am sure we at least rank somewhere between way above average and the top...
I know I complain a lot, but seriously? 2 years membership here and nothing???
So sorry for the long explanation but what I say in my messages is not the problem...

Now he goes and gets all serious on me . . . . reminds me of the old "Chomp" advert . .
Quote by Stamina

Er... can't argue with that. :sad:

Well not to worry young man, after this post, the amount of people looking at our profiles is bound to bring some success . . .
Exactly... I am the man with the plan... wink
Desperate times call for desperate measures.. he he he..
Why has the ravishing Lee not yet told us how she sees herself?? I personally would tickle that amazing bum of hers for hours - and that definitely puts her in the "sexy as hell" category!
Dude, all you have to do is tone down that 'Serial Stalker' write up you send the ladies . . . . . and stop bragging that your misses is 14 years your junior, makes you out to be a perverted old man . . . hey, now I have an idea .. :twisted:
Quote by Stamina
Er... can't argue with that. :sad:

Well not to worry young man, after this post, the amount of people looking at our profiles is bound to bring some success . . .
Quote by Stamina
Who is shawn and sean?

Shawn may be sexier than me, but at least my name is spelled correctly.. lol :lol:
What he means to say is, he is the one with no "action" from this site . . . rotflmao
Quote by Pussinboots1
@ SDMR you give an Yes answer but to what do you give a Yes answer???? there is a few questions that you could have answered too!!!....so what are you in your own eyes???
And I NEVER COULD JUST GIVE A YES OR NO ANSWER....... although I have taken *NOTE* @ Stamina....
No to beauty or sexiness....................... Yes to ugly....

@PIB1, Stamina asked if we know if we are this or that, hence my answer was YES, I do know. wink
It's like you said, everyone has a different view on the same topic.
Quote by Pussinboots1
I happen to have seen more of Shawn than most people here I think..... and BOY, is he HOT!!!!! I think he is VERY sexy and has ummfff!!!! He has the sexiest mouth EVER!!!!!
But then someone else whom who might have seen him as well might not agree!!!!.

thanks PIB. . . . . (the cheques in the mail) wink
Stamina my old friend . . . SUCK on that lol
What I don't get is, how would a person decide that they wanted to experience something if they did not have a clue what it actually all about. To me, if I heard or read about some kind of event and it sparked my interest, I would find out whatever I could about it to establish if it was something I was actually going to enjoy. So taking a swingers party as an example, if I had never been to one, and if I was interested in the concept, then step one would surely be to find out what a swingers party is all about. Funny how so many people who are on this site, don't seem to understand the basics of swinging . .. or the basics of manners . . . or the basics of .. .. (yes, I know it is not only this site, but we are currently referencing this site)
Quote by Stamina
As opinions and tastes vary, it is hard to know what is hot and what is not. One may like a Ferrari and another may think it is a hideous car...
How do you see yourself? Based on your own judgement looking in the mirror, various compliments (or lack there of) through your life, comparison to others, etc... Do you think (or know for a fact) that you are sexy, hot, ugly, handsome, beautiful, pretty, etc?

YES!!!! lol
Well done mate! That's how you answer question! Take note people. :lol:
Well, you asked a yes or no question and I simply gave a yes or no answer . . .
Quote by Stamina
As opinions and tastes vary, it is hard to know what is hot and what is not. One may like a Ferrari and another may think it is a hideous car...
How do you see yourself? Based on your own judgement looking in the mirror, various compliments (or lack there of) through your life, comparison to others, etc... Do you think (or know for a fact) that you are sexy, hot, ugly, handsome, beautiful, pretty, etc?

YES!!!! lol
Quote by Stamina
I'm a guy n love to see woman pics hey. I believe after all woman are the roses of it all.. Pitty our gallery has TOO many Dick pis! Ladies, upload upload upload

I am with you my friend! It's a sausage fest! I don't even want to look at my own anymore because of all the dick pics. Makes me laugh actually... Every guy thinks his will impress the ladies more than the other 900 she has to look at... He he he, like a dick pic is really going to increase their chances. Bwaaaa haaaaaa!! :twisted:
Gentlemen, Gentlemen, Gentlemen (and Stamina)
Simply filter. . . . . click on the tab in the gallery that says females, and PRESTO you have very few dick pictures . . . .
Have done so BUT... a) When viewing couple profiles, wala! Dick pics! b) If you filter, then you do not always get the "latest" as the tab says. I see female pics on page one that I saw a month ago, and I see female pics on page 15 that joined that day??? The gallery is actually pretty random but more accurately "latest" when you view without filtering.
Bottom line: Too many Dick pics! No normal person should be subjected to see that many penises! It's hazardous to ones health man! lol
"... And Stamina" Bwaaaa haaaaa haaa! You hit that nail on the head..
Your other options are:
a) get the fooook over it
b) learn to like looking at bigger than yours totties
c) don't frigging look at pictures and read stories
But I guess complaining is more likely to be the preferred route . . .
Quote by Stamina
I'm a guy n love to see woman pics hey. I believe after all woman are the roses of it all.. Pitty our gallery has TOO many Dick pis! Ladies, upload upload upload

I am with you my friend! It's a sausage fest! I don't even want to look at my own anymore because of all the dick pics. Makes me laugh actually... Every guy thinks his will impress the ladies more than the other 900 she has to look at... He he he, like a dick pic is really going to increase their chances. Bwaaaa haaaaaa!! :twisted:
Gentlemen, Gentlemen, Gentlemen (and Stamina)
Simply filter. . . . . click on the tab in the gallery that says females, and PRESTO you have very few dick pictures . . . .
Quote by KC_
lol PIB1, thanks! I lurk often, but more often then not, my point has already been made by someone else, or I have nothing to add to the conversation....
If only there was a LIKE button I could press on posts I enjoy, you would see how often I really am in here, reading everything....
Yes, we do catch up before play, but I try to keep that to a minimal, as time and energy is not always unlimited, and I would rather spend that time/energy giving and receiving pleasure than talking.... but that is just me. Normally, I am the one who just randomly starts undressing during the conversation to try get the ball rolling....
For us, most of the talking happens at the meet and greet. When we get to your home, it's time to get the clothes off and have fun.
I'm not saying this is what swinging is about for everyone, but it is our experience and expectations at this point in time smile
Thus far, we have not yet managed to connect with any couples from the site, only single males. *Shout out to our lovely playmate!* We have a few meets with couples lined up in the near future, we hope.... but couples are just as unreliable as others say singles are! We have only once been let down by a single, and often by couples!
;)
C

Please, let us not convince the powers that be to introduce a like button on this site, we would see countless new postings on the forums only to find out it was "like" . . (just being funny)
But it is indeed interesting to read the part about more couples letting you down than single members, I am sure a number of couples are going to be quick to attempt to correct you on this (even though they have zero idea what has happened to you) . . . . Oh, and Mike_Pta best make sure you reward accordingly . . . . wink
Quote by Stamina
"...and the reason for this is true swingers do it for clean fun without complications.
Clean fun without complications is the best fun you can ever have"
Joyrider

Er.... Actually, from what I have seen during my time on this site and my futile attempts to slip into this lifestyle, swinging complicates something as simple as sex to a massive extent...
Anyone care to disagree?
And please let's not go down the road of "swinging is not about sex yada yada yada bla bla bla..."
Because I am sure that one does not live the lifestyle to invite other couples for dinner parties, swinging without the sex would be called "friendship".
This should be good . . . . . . . .
Has anyone ever seen that movie called "arguing with myself"? wink
Assuming you are referring to Dogging . . . . It's unlikely.
Different people enjoy different things. This is what makes us all individual. In the setting of, shall we say "swinging" my take is that the ground rules would have taken care of what is on and what is not. If anyone goes outside the lines of the ground rules, the amazing power of the words "NO" or "STOP" is all that is required. And in the event of them failing, there are enough other people present to make the words work. So when any person, is getting "ploughed" and they are not trying to stop it, then in all likely-hood they are on board with the activity. If they are not enjoying it, and are too scared to stop it, then it's . Anyone who goes into a setting and then tries something that has not been "cleared" before hand, is inconsiderate.
Quote by amethyst
I have seen profiles of coloured (as in not white)members on this site that also say "I / we do not cross the colour line" . . .but none of the white members are throwing their toys out the playpen about them . . . . .
Nobody makes a noise about people who say in their profiles "no under X age" . . . .
Nobody makes a noise about people who say in their profiles "do not contact if you don't have pics" . . .
If what a white person does is seen as racism, then surely when a non white person does it, it's exactly the same?

Statistics dude 5% of what you talking about happens. 95% of what im talking about happens. My point was that it seemed to be stemming from the female,
No dude, 100% of it happens, but only 5% is acknowledged.
Quote by Jakes1980
Hi All
So my wife is extremely bi-curious and we talk about it a lot etc etc etc
But she is extremely nervous and scared about doing it/bringing another women in for a threesome. I guess the reason is the way she feels about her body.....yet she doesn't have a bad body at all. So what can I do or say to convince her? Any ideas or help will be gladly accepted.
Thanks
J

I would suggest that you take the focus off "convincing" her. The more you try and "convince" the more it is likely to feel to her that it's more about you than about her.
Let the process take it's course, maybe even consider letting her explore by herself first.
Quote by redbruce
seems like there arent any people interested in dogging....sad sad day...LOL

Oh, but there are thousands of people interested in dogging . . . . only problem is they are all male . . . wink
@SDMR, so true, so true.... (unfortunately) :sad: But I would be VERY happy to be proven wrong! :wink:
If and when you are, don't forget my invite . . :wink:
I have seen profiles of coloured (as in not white)members on this site that also say "I / we do not cross the colour line" . . .but none of the white members are throwing their toys out the playpen about them . . . . . Nobody makes a noise about people who say in their profiles "no under X age" . . . . Nobody makes a noise about people who say in their profiles "do not contact if you don't have pics" . . . If what a white person does is seen as racism, then surely when a non white person does it, it's exactly the same?
Quote by hungk
seems like there arent any people interested in dogging....sad sad day...LOL

Oh, but there are thousands of people interested in dogging . . . . only problem is they are all male . . . wink
This is not a "Bobby on the Beat" situation. This is Years and Years of non white South Africans living a very hard life, followed by Years and Years of white south Africans living a very hard life, all accentuated by the massive amount of race related movies available to watch these days. People will never get over themselves as long as there is no time given for "healing" South Africans are simply rude people. On sites such as this one, every-time the rude members get a reaction, they feel a victory and want more . . . which is also a testament to the lack of maturity of the average South African. The habit of South Africans of painting everyone with the same brush is just another way to deal with the fear of change. And yes, before you think it, I AM SOUTH AFRICAN