Ok so I've been watching a show called Swing on Playboy TV. It's basically a show about an amateur couple that gets introduced to the Swinging lifestyle with the help of 3 or 4 experienced couples.
A full swap doesn't always occur and I've noticed its more about the pleasure of the woman. But when a full swap does occur it's very gentle and the sex is usually not hard. This may seem like the dumbest question in the world but is it rude to have hard rough sex when you full swap?
P.S. Those that are interested in the show. Google "Playboy TV Swing"
I have not watched or seen the show *Swingers*.
I am not sure what you mean by *rude* fucking?? Or *hard* fucking.
I would say a rude and hard fucking session happens when it is an *gang* bang?? which is not my style.
I Had a few group sessions in my youth,which was quite not ever a *gang* bang!!!!
Rough sex on the other hands is something a person either agrees to or not!!! And depending on what is done and agreed on,rough sex can be fun. BUT for myself, I am VERY VERY selective whom I would trust with *rough* sex.
Thanks for the reply.
Maybe I wasn't so clear in what I'm trying to say. Let me try a different way.
So in the show when a couple is with their respective partners, the guy will be ploughing into his wife. As soon as they swap, he kind of takes things easy and be more gentle
Well as PIB says, it has to be agreed to. So if you didn't see a conversation where he says "you want it hard and fast? "
To which she replies "yes please!"
then he hasn't got permission yet to go hard and fast.. so he stays polite and gentle.
So in other words: provided you ask permission and get it, no it wouldn't be considered rude.
Very rude, there will be no ploughing on my fieldsThis is the thing with some so called "swingers".
When I was first introduced to swinging, I was under the impression it was going to be like the movie Eyes wide shut, starrimg Nicole Kidman with Tom Cruise. Sensual group sex, the chicks looked like they were enjoying and it was erotic. My first exposure was scary and uncomfortable. Basically I was invited by a couple I had been chatting to for a cpl of months for supper. Afterward, I assumed we would go back to their place and I'd have my first 3some. Unbeknownst to me they arranged a dogging what ever you call it on the roof top parking lot of the mall we had supper at. There were like 3 men that went at this dudes wife, I felt so scared and violated on her behalf, was gobsmacked I just stood there. The same feelings come up for me when I'm at a private party or group session. So I don't part take, its like they are abusing the Chick.
Also a lot of husbands of couples seem to treat the extra woman (3 some or during swap) like crap. Meaning they " plough" and are rough, they do things to the extra chick that they wouldnt do to their wife. I suppose that's the wrong way of doing things though. Again I mean most husbands/males not all.
Different people enjoy different things.
This is what makes us all individual. In the setting of, shall we say "swinging" my take is that the ground rules would have taken care of what is on and what is not. If anyone goes outside the lines of the ground rules, the amazing power of the words "NO" or "STOP" is all that is required. And in the event of them failing, there are enough other people present to make the words work. So when any person, is getting "ploughed" and they are not trying to stop it, then in all likely-hood they are on board with the activity. If they are not enjoying it, and are too scared to stop it, then it's .
Anyone who goes into a setting and then tries something that has not been "cleared" before hand, is inconsiderate.
Thanks for all the replies for those that did. It really cleared things up for me.
