True. It takes a while to sort out the gems from the rest.
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cumminglinguist
1 week ago
Bi-curious White/Caucasian Male, 65
South Africa
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I have found quite a few 'couple' profiles that when you chat, you are told that the wife dosnt play anymore or at all....
Or single people that are playing without consent openly.
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True. But then there are complications such as loadshedding, cell signal loss and I suspect possibly the sudden appearance of a significant other....
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Therin lies one of the issues... it states 'single male' in the interests... but try to message and you get told in no uncertain terms they are not interest in single males... confusing to say the least... but ok... you understand, appologise, and get blocked....
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Ok, so I am oldfashioned... so shoot me!
Just getting a bit fed up with the lack of manners and respect on this site...
If someone takes the time to send you a message... an answer takes seconds to type. Even if it is "no thanks"
You wouldnt walk up to a person on the street and say "lets fuck", or "can i see your genitals" so dont do ot here.
If your profile reads that you are looking for a single male and one messages you, dont get rude. Alter your profile...
And on, and on.....
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I personally find that a longer profile write up helps understand the others desires. I have found that short write ups belong to people who are either unsure of what they want or are not as genuine as they should be.
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I have noticed that many profiles are anti married men playing, but I have never seen one that is anti married women doing the same... just find thithis a bit odd. I know that it all comes down to the members personal stance and respect their choice, but surely the results are the same? Btw I am a single guys and am not affected. Just wondering. ...
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Hi, there is some happening at the shooting range beach and occasionally Pattie in Cape Reciefe...but otherwise not common
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Lee, as one of the voices of sanity and reason on this forum, we would miss your insight, backsight, downsight and sideside, your observations, quips, inputs, outputs and otherputs. I, for one have always thought that, here in the , while it is a veritable desert of sensually minded people, you are the one oasis.....
I understand your points, and, as it takes a good person to do nothing for evil to prevail, I plead guilty of perhaps not answering your interesting posts as often as I should... forgive my oversite.
You would be sorely missed as a mod.
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...is that it is a mental problem. One of the most amazing women I have met was travelling around the world, "before I get old"...she was 99! Age and maturity do not always go together. It is also a fact that many guys profiles state an age that is way younger than reality...maybe thinking couples may want a young stud. It is also true of some ladies, who also display somewhat historical photos... The only real test is a meet...which quickly seperates the gems from the glass beads! Happy mining!
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In advertising, the wording used is, to say the least, somewhat misleading. We have all experianced a car being described as 'a runner' because thats what you end up doing...running after it as it careens downhill while attempting to runstart it. Or a house advertised as having 'character' and finding the squatter in the attic is indeed a descriptions on some profiles are just as broadly worded. How about listing some of these? Perhaps it will help the uninitiated in advertese to read between the lines... One that springs to mind; Athletic build could mean a menber of the Womans Russian weight-lifting team.
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As one of the oft malighned single guys, is it so very wrong, that if you find a couple interesting, to try to make contact? While I understand, and respect the writeup in the profile, why not ask if we can chat? No ulterior motive other than to simply communicate with people with similar interests...
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May it start off with a bang,passionkiss: and continue in the same vein!
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...holiday periods, most visitors are fucked over by the local buisinesses anyway! 
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...being one of the target group, and being perpetually lambasted for being male, single, bi, and alive... I do believe a lot of the above is true, but also single guys often use the 'shotgun' technique of attracting attention...throw out a myriad of winks, nudges and the like, in the hope of some result. Then simply forget to whom they sent them...and on trying again, the same recipient is winked or nudged...to their displeasure. Just a thought...
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...on the back of a landrover in the middle of an elephant herd. Its a long story...
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Quote by Easyrider911I would suggest that for a start, respecting women is a good beginning. Calling a lady an old fart is not going to get you far. Neither is getting confused with a quote byline as a personal attack on your linguistic ability.,
Mmmmmmm I see your point and your view about my gramma would make you an english teacher or a brit so I do apologies that though I am afrikaans born and raised that my grasp of the english language is not to shabby to say the least as a matter of fact I get rather a few compliments both on my ability to speak the language and fuck in it. So pip pip and all of that you old fart.
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...Firstly, well made points! My belief is that many people fear what they dont understand... try being bi...same result. For many people steriotyping is a way to filter out the mass. If you are not steriotypical, some will sidestep their own rules. Respect others choices, have manners, be honest, and things may happen. Simply hang in there...
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Quote by Pussinboots1LOL! Right PIB...but what if he is being honest? And the innocent look fools no-one!
@ Norman_Smth
That pick up line will make me ask me to show me by showing me your tongue...
I would then proceed to grab your tongue and pull it right out your mouth and jam anything sharp right through it...
Just to see if you can scream and breath through your ears as you so eloquently profess to do.
(Me looking very innocent right now)
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...which ones have you used! Come on... dont take the lazy way out!
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Lets face it...there are some that are cheesy, some so lame they are embarrasing and others that are just beyond belief! But which ones actually work? Think back and share...who knows maybe you will hear it again!
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...but look how many profiles insist that they will ignore winks...obviously it is being overused...
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Just a question... I mean, if I am in the street and come across an attractive woman, and I wink, it is just a way of saying 'I see you and find you attractive' nothing more. However on SH, there seems to be the perception, rightly or wrongly, that using the wink button is lazy and an insult to the reciever. If this is the case, why not simply remove the thing? Just a question...
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Thank you for the replies and advice. I really appreciate it.
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...as a guy who gets ignored/rejected A LOT, I would prefer an honest reply. However, it is what it is, and it aint gonna change... but thank you for your comments/replies! There are some well mannered people around...
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Looks like a gstring with a twist! Or a lightweight sumo wrestlers jockstrap...which may explain why women enjoy gstrings and large oriental men grapple...
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While anyone has the freedom of choice, and it is personal, and should be respected, it is amazing how many profiles are inacurate or just false. Many so-called couples are actually guys that will explain that their partners are not playing at present... it is a simple charade, but confusing. When it comes down to it, many people on this site are just playing a game! HOWEVER, there are the genuine amongst the false, and therin comes the fun of the search. Dont take rejection personally, take it from where it comes! And remember that many males in a swinging relationship feel threatened by another man...
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no, I am talking about a inbox message asking politely if they would care to chat. As I did to you when I first joined. You, and others have answered and politely declined...and that is good manners. However, others couldnt care less and just dont bother answering. I can understand ignoring lewd or suggestive messages, but politness should be answered with the same. That is common decency. Or maybe I am jurt oldfasioned?
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If you send a chat request that is unanswered, obviously the reciever is not interested. That is understandable, but is it not just polite to send a 'no thank you' in reply? Most members request politness or respect in their info, but many display lack of manners in this respect...or is this the norm? Just wondering...
