Swinging in South Africa

South African couples are swinging more than ever. Many couples seek out the swinging lifestyle as a way to spice up their marriages with a different type of sexual adventure. There are more ways for couples to get involved in this lifestyle than ever before. These different avenues should be explored with the one you love. Always make sure you are both on the same page about what is allowed and what you are not ready for yet. This will prevent a night of fun from turning into something ugly. Good communication is important to making a swinging lifestyle work.

Swinging is when a couple trades partners with another couple to have sex. Some couples only prefer to swing with other couples to have only oral sex. These are called “soft swingers”. Those who make up the soft swinger population are those just getting started usually. They need something a bit less risqué to get started with. As you progress and the trust increases, you will be ready for more. Couples who have penetrative sex with another couple are considered to be “hard swingers”.

For some time it was believed that couples who participate swinging were headed for certain doom. Recent research has shown this is not the case. Research has found a higher percentage of happy couples amongst those who swing than those who do not participate in the lifestyle. The reason they give for this is that couples are able to live out fantasies of having sex with others while not having to lie and cheat. Swinging couples are more open with one another. This is because they have let go of their inhibitions and are now willing to talk about anything.

It was once very difficult for couples interested in swinging to meet other likeminded couples. For years the main ways swingers got together was by answering ads in a swinging publication or attending an event they heard about from someone they know. Now, the internet has made it easier for couples in South Africa to meet with each other to swing. Online there are many clubs where South African couples can meet and make plans for swinging. There are also several clubs which can be found on the internet where people can go and meet up in person.

Couples who are interested in meeting large groups of swingers to find other couples for having sex with seem to prefer going to the club locations. Some of these clubs will allow for sex on site whole others require sex be done elsewhere. Couples meet at these locations and make the arrangements for sex at another agreed upon location. The atmosphere is always fun and laid back. Many of the clubs will have food and drink to get you in the right mood. Those which do allow sex on premises will lay down certain rules you will have to follow if you want to continue.

Discretion is still very important to the couples who get involved in this kind of lifestyle. This is because while it is legal, it is still a cultural taboo. The majority of the population does not understand the ideas of the swinging lifestyle. This is not to say those who engage in swinging live on the fringe of society. You would be surprised the kind of people who get involved in swinging. Some very successful people find they need more spice in their relationship and turn to swinging as a safe and trusting atmosphere to find more excitement.

The reason why swinging is considered to be a trusting activity for a couple is because of the act itself. You trust your partner to sleep with someone else, yet remain true to you. This has held up very well in most relationships. It is liberating to be able to feel the freedom of being completely honest with your partner about having certain sexual desires. This is the very essence of swinging. It is all about trust and loyalty. It is not about cheating, or going behind your partner’s back.

While the club scene has grown in popularity, the most popular ways for swingers to get together is through private parties at homes and other venues. These parties are preferred by many people because they can control who is involved and who knows about their secret lifestyle. Those with less on the line, or are unashamed by what others may think fully embrace the club scene. Even those who start out in private parties will move on to larger group scenes. This is because the excitement of being with someone new loses its appeal if you have only a certain number of partners to choose from.

Because good communication is so important to those committed to swinging, it is important to never assume you and your partner are progressing at the same speed. You may find you are ready for a large group scene. Your partner may still feel as if they are only ready for private one-on-one soft swinging encounters. Make sure to constantly talk to your partner about how you feel and what your desires are. This will determine where you will go from there. If you both feel you are ready to advance to another level, there are plenty of options available to you.

Remember, part of being honest as a couple is being honest with you. If you have any reservations about anything, you need to bring it up. When you keep things inside, it can come out as anger or hostility. This is when a swinging couple runs into problems. As long as you stay open and honest with each other, you should have no problems. The most important thing to remember is you are in the lifestyle to have fun. Do not allow yourself to do anything you do not find to be fun. On the other hand, do not force your partner to do anything they do not find enjoyable. This will prevent hurt feelings and prevent problems in your relationship. Have fun and spread the joy.