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2 hours ago
Straight White/Caucasian Female, 51
Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
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Quote by kawaicouple
Ok so been on this "search" for couples or unicorn(single female) for just over month. We have been disappointed, shocked and teased. We throwing in the towel. We sick and tired. This was meant to be exciting and pleasurable, but turning out to be energy draining.
We have put ads up got view responses from different ppl. There are single women that are just sorry to say "naaaasty", no offence to anyone just not our cuppa tea. People that are into drugs, people that haven't been tested recently. Some are skeptical and say that our pics are fake. Some complain cos we don't do pornographic pics. Even some that say we too goodlooking - (seriously WTF). There are couples that will send pics of their insides showing all, but refuse to send face pics. Folks that send pics and we reply then move to email/chat and realise we are not white. Couples that tell us we over fussy cause we would like to meet up for drinks or coffee first. And don't even get me started on fake pics why why why???
There's been chicks that have only wanted to chat and be with Mr K and males that ask me if I play alone and would I cheat after I say no. Weird responses and questions(can I shit on u), people that are against safe sex and just being safe in general( no drugs/ safe venue). Women that have been too forward regarding Mr K and my relationship.
I can go on and on but sure u get the picture sure...so calling it quits, have more fun/pleasure alone anyway without all this drama.

Hi guys, sorry to hear that you have not had any success yet.
It can be frustrating, esp when people don't bother reading your profile, as for the singles that want to play with one half of the couple, well what can you say.
Hope you have better luck next time round.
P.s. worth sticking around a bit and maybe just checking in every week or two.
Anyway, wishing you the best and a merry x-mas, will also be missing your comments on the forum
welcome a man, your profile quite similar to lj's but have a ball, and he did redeem himself
longjohn seems to be deregisterred........ so now more spaghetti throwing, in or out of cans, personally i prefer with butter, fresh gharlic and some melted cheese smile :twisted: lol wink
OK then everyone can give us suggestions of what they want in pics, just one rule we will only show our faces in album where we are dressed. We wont necessarily do all the suggestions but may do a few. As for pics of the men in ladies profiles, we also guilty so what would you like to see? Very few women are interested in dick pics so ladies......... your call for choice smile You can post your requests here or pm us. This is NOT an offer to do a private portfolio of porn pics for anyone so don't even ask for that. We already have photographer that we are comfortable with, but thanks for wanting to offer :)
Can always just block them, would rather be inconvenienced by people that we blow off than scare the people that are finding their feet
Quote by Pussinboots1
@ Playcouple
I think you have confused me with someone else?? I have not made a comment on this fora.
If you are speaking about *water-sports* I agree most people do not know the term *water-sports* but then most people are not that Kinky either,some people think that doing a Blow Job/Cunnilingus is Kinky.
So I normally leave them to think that the term water-sports here, is everything from normal swimming to scuba diving.(Evil smile from me.)

Sorry PIB multiple windows were open, and mind wandered, was meant as reply to something in another topic
Quote by Adonis
Sorry people al the excuses under the sun, the only thing under the sun is people and in this case singles not read any profiles at all.
This forum will argue till its blue in there faces and that will not change any thing, because the culprits will not even read the questions asked in the forum.
You not need Einstein to answer the question.
All they think of, here is a site with girls or women, part of a couple, who will shag for free.

PIB a lot of people are guilty of not completing their profiles properly, so can understand some confusion.
Elsewhere it was said that people don't know what some of the terms mean, yet they tick the boxes, totally agreed and agree that people should find out what things mean in context. Have you noticed how many people think watersports here means swimming, sailing, sex in the pool etc. ,we've helped a few right.
Quote by SDMR
The real problem is that EVERYONE keeps equating "single male" with "straight male" they are NOT THE SAME THING. and the way you are asked to tick the boxes on "sign up" doesn't indicate that choosing those options speaks to the marital or partnered status of the profiles you'll be interacting with - the question focuses on a person's SEXUAL ORIENTATION - so it makes complete sense that people tick those boxes. The problem is in fact, a missing search filter for a profile type

If the question focuses on the sexual orientation of the person (yes, I know it actually does) then that proves the other theories listed in the other forum about why singles contact couples (you know, the one where a few people suggested people were either stupid or weird or the profile was not clearly written or even all three) . . .
There are a number of profiles with the male listed as Bi-Curious, and then it states clearly that only woman should respond and males should stay away . . .
I think we make way too many excuses for these kinds of people, if you don't fully understand the meaning of some or other terminology, then bloody well look it up before you tick a box, because after you tick it, people are going to start contacting you and then you start moaning and groaning ooops, I mean complaining that certain types of people contact you that should not :small-print::sleeping::fuckinghell::jagsatwork::undecided:
Good example is the watersports box, you'll be surprised by how many think it refers to water skiing, swimming etc.......
So on the one hand agreed that people should read up on meanings in context and slang but can also say that many couples have idiotic profiles leaving so much open to interpretation at one end and how well you. Nose opperates on the other.
Advice for single guys, unless a couple specifically says they open for single guys, rather avoid them
Quote by Adonis
:doh::doh::boxing::boxing::boxing:dunno:dunno::dunno::dunno:
People lets try and say only good things of our fellow mates, if we cant do it sharrup please, its not a fighting site, but one to love and care

no fighting, now you tell us lol lol , does that include bdsm smile
Quote by longjohn89
I think this time I have a valid reason to rant and rave!!
Y is it so difficult to reply to a msg? Yes I kno ppl have jobs and what not, but honestly!!
It takes 5 min to reply to a msg. Granted u are not obligated to reply but it would be slightly decent to reply don't u think?
I'm not asking for a lot here, just some common decency. Every msg sent to me has been replied to not so? So y can't others do the same? Y is it so tough to be decent and have some manners?

Take the five mins and multiply by ten who have not read your profile or have and are trying their luck, plus the ten that did not take thanks but no thanks and are trying to debate why you should make an exception for them, plus the other 20 that have built up who have spent the last month debating with you why your rules are idiotic and that you dont know what swinging actually is and it comes to a few hours a day. so now we have 40 pm's to reply to from idjuts and maybe ten who are new approaches and you looking at 250 minutes ( over four hours per day) now it is not always that bad and that may be a bit of an exaggeration, but we average around ten pm's per day excluding winks and "i'd like to know more' to reply to, the bulk we reply to 'did you actually read and understand our profile' because they are obviously outside of what we are looking for................. we dont even open the winks and the 'i'd like to know more' ones. If you want to know more, say hi and then put relevant and pertinent questions of what you would like to know, just 'i would like to know more' is kinda very vague...................
Now you skip for a few days because you have not had the time and suddenly it means that you have to set aside a few hours.
So you see why it is important to read people's profiles before you contact them, also why people dont get replies.
Quote by SDMR
Ok so now this is the last straw- I'm tired of us getting messages and winks from people that "don't cross race barrier line" so I changed our profile so now they can't say they missed it. Also the "no fat or overweight people" line I clearly mention large in profile wtf??? Then don't muthaf***ing message us!

I hope it works out for you guy's . .. but I am not too hopeful that stupid people will even pick up on it . .
half the people don't bother reading the profiles before contacting people, unfortunately, so good luck smile
Quote by Sofistikitty
Okay so far I see one guy on this topic that NOT getting any lol
Hi LJ your profile is better and I will keep an open mind when it comes to you ...stil wary

Considering that he has followed the advice, vs many that would say we just too fussy, not genuine, not serious, fake profile etc. Reccon a second chance
Why we sepperate our face pics from the others and dont show faces in naked pics. We have a friend who gets called as expert witness incases like this, he uses hacking skills to establish the trails. If your knew what can be hacked you wouldnt even bother with passwords on your xxxxmail (all yoi can think of) account. case you wonder he did it for police and at one stage worked for them, so hacking was done with required court orders. Someone said something about your up adress form finding where you are, not quite, pics cab be used to find distinguishing points in the background, from there using angle of shadow and whole lot of other snakeoil to establis h time of day and approximate location, from there its using finer things. If you have an apple product with navigation ability your location finder is never fully turned off, popular mechanics did the experiment a few years ago. So inside a sealed shipping container with lead lining is what is needed.
Quote by laidbackguy
Hi All,
Just something i have noticed and it bothers me and possibly allot of other single guys too.
If you are a couple (or single lady) NOT looking for a guy to join you >>>
Look at your profile and check that it does not have under the LOOKING FOR SECTION >> Straight Male <<
This will prevent you from being picked up in searches and will reduce the number of inbox messages from unwanted single guys.
Thanks and lets play nice ;-)

Also noticed that smile would think that people can at least complete the multiple choice part of their profiles. They dont and then get peeved if you ask them to please complete their profile..../????????
Mrs has vegie garden, had our first spinach out of it today. Kids help in it. Mr hmmmm reading almost anything
Couples play with couples and singles, live ups to your profile and be a decent guy and yoy will get referred around, if you want it that is
Quote by Sofistikitty
I'd just like to butt in here, when I was single and looking ,couples and men that approached me also had no manners - came across like I would be a sex prop or a masturbation aid. Anyway, that's why I just stopped looking and replying clearly some people don't know how or what real swingers are. Glad I'm part of a couple now if we don't hook up with anyone I still get to have amazing sex so I still win haha. And Longjohn ur apology seems sincere but that rant came from somewhere I still am wary.

Yes, would like to add apology to that. as for single women being seen as masturbation aids, also come across that.
Not one of the single women that we have played with did we meet through swinging for that matter, but usually stayed friends afterwards, even helped one with her wedding, after which playing was obviously out.
Quote by Adonis
Pib I knew some ladies who been active in the forum as you said but they rather not active anymore of reasons we all knew, and the same happened in the pool a lot off active single women but also a lot that disappear also for reasons we all knew.
As they said in the pool this morning perhaps a paid up site will help, but a few had there doubts because on other paid up site you also had people with no manners at all.
By that I not said I did not except the apology of longjohn89, he for one try to clear the air.

We have been around various sites for about ten years, both the free and the paid sites. We have found the best sites to be free ones, this one specifically and another that is no longer going, the worst were also free sites. People dont change if they pay to join a site, if anything the rude and obnoxious ones get even more so as they now have a feeling of entitlement. So turning it into a paid site will not change anything, it will probably not even reduce the number of members, nor will it change the ratios (this is from experience of two well known paid sites.
Quote by redbruce
Don't mind a little bird-watching. No, really, REAL birds! Ones with feathers too!! wink

Red you should do Rietvlei Nature Reserve then.
We enjoy movies, theater and going to game parks. Oh and we have kids which are a full time job and hobbie......... damn they take over your life
Longjohn A very eloquent closing from you there, you come across totally different than in your profile, meansyou can string words together which is always a big plus wink You have mail lol
Another 2c that I've said before, look at Mike's profile and then you will see what a good profile is and that proves that single guys can do a proper profile. It will also show you what you with no info on your profile is competing against. Remember your profile on this site is your advert
Being swingers doesnt mean that there is an automatic rules out the window, it does not mean that you can walk up to a woman who is a swinger and just have your way. If you are not having positive responses to your advances then you need to either change the way that you approach people or your profile or both. I cant believe that so many single guys have absolutely no problem getting fuck buddies yet so many complain that the couples or single women are full of shit. What I can say is those that complain have shit profiles or after chatting to them a bit an attitude that is also crap. a single guy approaches us and his first message is good then a minimal profile is fine by us, but when your first message is along the lines of 'I'm available Monday morning between. A and b and want to play with you (or as has happend on many occasions play alone with wifey half), then sorry get a life. do make contact with single guys quite often and we do that of their profile, so out of 20000 why should we contact you if your profile doesnt even have all the multiple choice questions ticked? Especially considering that there are a good few thousand single guys who have propper profiles
Quote by georgeous
I think that when most people join this site their expectations is to find a quick fuck. Sorry for putting it blunt but for me as well as a lot of other people I'm sure are getting tired of the shit we have to put up with rude, obnoxious, arrogant, self absorbed, self centered, only thinking about themselves people joining this site. I for one mainly joined to learn and to find like minded people to have a good conversation with, share each other's experiences and if there is more then that's good. Not once have I EVER and WILL EVER send a rude mail saying "want to have a quick fuck?" Those mails I get I block those people.
Longjohn, You should rather delete your profile and join some other sleazy site that offer only sex. This is a site where communities HAVE THE OPTION to have sex. It is not a sex site only.

Irony is that this is a good place to find a quick fuck, just a bit of effort is required when you join, after a few months of building a 'little black book' (for want of a better description) you''ll basically have a quick fuck whenever you feel for it, almost. Keep in mind most couples work and many have kids that need to be planned around.
Long John Not to be funny, but we are full of sh*t when it comes to guys with attitudes like yours. For some reason a lot of guys think that women who are swingers just fall on their backs with thighs spread for whomever (sometimes whatever) has a c*ck. Seldom do women have this notion- in 10 years and meeting way over a hundred people and chatting to way over a thousand, we have come across ONE woman that has this view, and that was purely because she had a fantasy to do that for an afternoon. There are 20 000 single men, 10 000 couples and 2500 single women on this site. This and other swingers sites are chockablockwith guys that are here with your expectation, which in turn is why women and couples are so selective and so full of sh1t as you say. Some of the single men are great guys who take trouble with a proper profile and being nice to couples and single women. Can quite comfortably tell you that we and a number of people we know from this and other sites do have as much sex as they can handle when the mood takes them. We are not here to play every single day (at least not all of us) we are here to play when it suits. Most of us that have been playing for a bit have a few regular or semi regular playmates and friends, in our case some have been friends for a few years. You have been here for two months very unlikely that you are in the same position. Your profile needs a bit of work and look presentable in your pics, you look unkempt which means you will likely not get to many inquiries or positive responses. Then get your attitude in order, we are all people who are here to have fun - with people that we enjoy being with and a cr@p attitude is the biggest put off for a couple and the biggest turn off for a woman. With your attitude and your profile being what they are; why should we invest time in contacting you when we have an alternatives that have a well put together profile, don't have a misconception of what we are here for and whittle that down to one in the space of an afternoon and meet them that evening? We very seldom don't play with or become friends with people we we meet because we make sure that we don't waste their and our time from the start. We are careful with our time and it means that we make sure that we only invest that time in people that seem worthwhile. This in turn means that over time we have a nice stock of friends and playmates (couples and singles) that we know. Then the last bit, a swinging site is the worst possible place to meet a woman, she is in all likelihood married and if they are having martitial or relationship problems then you really dont want to be involved with them. Not many couples on swinging sites are here to have affairs either.