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And the guy who has a "couple" profile but states his wife is disabled and therefore cannot satisfy him. Surely he should then be reclassified "single". We've come across him!
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It's just so much easier to point the camera at Mrs F, hence the lack of other pics... or is it maybe that we lose track before we can finish our photo shoot?
payment in kind i take it ;) Quote by Pussinboots1
I am so sorry for this forum....But I can not resit this one....I just have to get *THIS* off my chest hell, of my sagging double DD chest that is.
I always come and read what the newest dogging events is and what the results was of planned events.
I am NOT a serious *Dogger* myself, I am more a pervert than a dogger.
I always feel most people who post requests and questions here have NO idea what *dogging* is about.
I wonder if the men are able to read and if they do some back ground investigation on to what Dogging is really about,or if they just see the word dog and then automatically think of a bitch???
I GET the feeling they think we ladies are *bitches* in heat....we just HAVE to show up and allow them to watch us at play,when they have a Urge.
Just a thought from me....
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Hi Respect, I don't know if I'll agree to that. The thing is, sex is a very personal thing for some people and with most things in life (and here in SA) we don't really have a choice. Who we hookup with however, is a choice because we can say no without any repercussions.
That 41 year old white guy I was talking about ? He's been hearing his parents and grandparents talk about race since he was little. And children are sponges in that they suck everything including their parents' prejudices, up. You can't really blame him though. And when he started discovering girls ? Well, his mind was made before he even knew it.
What I'm saying is that we here cannot blame people for adding that line in their profile. That's almost like you telling me that you are obligated to play with a same sex partner because a gay man or woman can give you exactly the same arguments I did. Maybe gay is the new coloured, I don't know. I have no problem with telling a gay man I am not interested. Or more accurately, I don't cross the gender line and I'd expect him to understand.
Can we be upset with someone wanting to stay on their side of the colour line ? Of course not. Can we be upset with someone stating it in a public forum such as this ? Of course not. I'd much rather prefer that a person lay their cards out and not waste my time and theirs. I can look however and I can say hello.
Can we be upset with someone because they want steak instead of pasta ? Of course not. People can play and state who they want to play. If we cannot be honest when talking about the most personal (I'm talking about fucking), then I don't know.
. as for Darwin awards, well it is a very slow process :) Quote by redbruce
Just resurrecting this forum thread again so that Hornyguy69 can see that interesting stuff DOES happen at Emmarentia (and is probably happening also at all of the suitable sites around Gauteng and elsewhere - heard just yesterday of a friend having a good experience at Kloofendal recently, also just a "lucky" sighting, right place, right time).
@Hornyguy, in my limited experience, dogging is very unlikely to take place when a single male says "I want to do dogging at..........., couples and single ladies come and join me!". Dogging is dependent on having (a) brave, adventurous, exhibitionistic couple(s) who are prepared to do it in public and either don't mind being, or particularly want to be, watched. THEY are invariably the drivers of the experience, not the single male watchers or wannabe joiners, and we are very dependent on their "goodwill" and availability. "It" will happen when and where it suits THEM, not us, in my experience. I admire your persistence in trying to get something happening, and would love to hear back from you that I am wrong in my assessment. But I suggest you might have more success if you watch the dogging forum posts and the personal adverts carefully and respond appropriately when a couple offers or shows an interest in dogging. The alternative is to spend the hours hanging out in areas that have the potential as dogging spots (reasonable security, and decent opportunity for privacy), and hope to be there in the right place at the right time when something spontaneous happens, as did here at Emmarentia last summer. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavours, and would love to hear of your experiences.
I am going to re-post my original description of my fun afternoon at Emmarentia as a Story, as I believe the forum has quite a limited readership, and non-forumites might also be interested to read it. So if you read the Stories, don't be surprised to see it re-appear there! Apologies in advance for the duplication of posting.
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:whistling::whistling::whistling::whistling: :twisted: :twisted: Quote by Mike_Pta
Lol I've had the "what hell is wrong with you why are you even here" message also, he wasn't impressed when I said no thanks but your an dick so I'm not interested (his message was just a pic of his dick).
Also apparently it's rude to tell someone I'm not a prostitute who abandons his entire day to hook up with some random dude who sent one message. I believe if you send an initial message ( which is not in reply to a quickie ad) asking to meet up on the same day for a hook-up then your calling me a prostitute with nothing better to do with my life than wait for easy sex.
So I agree with you when you say you don't always want to say no since some guys can be assholes with rejection but personally I prefer rejection to no reply. My best rejection reply is to say I have exams so I'm gonna be busy over the next few days, leaves no room to say its them and they normally don't call back later.
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Well, from experience I know that sometimes you just want to say no thanks but you can't really say why, which is what you'd like to do, since most people I've said just "no thanks" to, actually argue with me! (Thanks for not doing that)
I've had three guys tell me various versions of "what the hell is wrong with you?", one "but I've got a big dick" & one guy claimed he'd never been turned down ever, which I find pretty difficult to believe since I've seen his photos....
& sometimes you can't say why because ...
well it's difficult to say, "you're my mate's psycho-ex and I have no interest in shagging your sorry bits!"
Coz well, it's kinda revealing of your identity...
So sometimes you sits and thinks on your response or ponder your feeling to see if it's really "no thanks", or just "you're not my first choice and maybe I'm just fussy" - coz everyone knows I am....
And sometimes sitting and thinking on these things means you forget to respond.... I've definitely done this before.
Plus I'm often in two minds because most of the time there isn't anywhere near enough info on the profiles of people contacting me to even get a feel for the person, so I don't know what to say to a person who clearly is just fishing rather than actually investing in the lifestyle. They end up making me feel like a school teacher correcting homework, and really that is So Not A Turn On.
Also single chicks usually get bombarded with so much mail, no person could cope with the requirements of responding to all of it, so if I mail a single female profile, I don't hold my breath... ever.
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While anyone has the freedom of choice, and it is personal, and should be respected, it is amazing how many profiles are inacurate or just false. Many so-called couples are actually guys that will explain that their partners are not playing at present... it is a simple charade, but confusing. When it comes down to it, many people on this site are just playing a game! HOWEVER, there are the genuine amongst the false, and therin comes the fun of the search. Dont take rejection personally, take it from where it comes! And remember that many males in a swinging relationship feel threatened by another man...
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well said
anything to add?Quote by LeeEC
Ok - the profile:
For goodness sake - could you PLEASE write something intelligent in it... it's how we tell if you're a doos or a nice guy.
Speak like you talk in your profile, it goes a long way to letting people get to know what kind of person you are; and for the couples/singles who like to "make friends to keep" - this is quite important.
Also a Good write up often eliminates the need for all that chitty-chatty small talk - or at least keeps it to a minimum.
Pictures:
Well now...
Bits (your tool) is good - but really no more than 3 pictures from DIFFERENT angles is MORE THAN ENOUGH!
Do NOT shoot yourself shooting (no wanking cum shots)! Please!!
Do not take tool pictures while sitting on the toilet!! PLEASE!!
Remember you might be only looking at the bit in the middle of the picture... but other people note what's in the background.. Claiming you're a single guy with roommates and taking pictures of your bits with kids toys strewn around the room in the background.... SPECIAL!
Comparing your tool with your TV remote is also doff - I don't know what YOUR TV remote looks like!
Chest, body, buns (these all essential!)
Outside pics, nude pics on the beach, at the pool (EXCELLENT idea!)...
Artistic, shadowy and silhouette stuff... these will get you some upper class attention
It is absolutely NOT required to put your face on your public album - in fact I do not recommend this as the "public" pictures are REALLY PUBLIC to even non-members! Rather put your face in a private album and share only with potential meets.
Messages:
When a person says they want to "chat and get to know you" prepare to have a chatty conversation by mail that goes similar to the "meeting you for the first time in a bar" conversation, before moving on to the "would you like to meet up stage" -0 about 5 messages with actual information and content should get you to this point with most genuine swinging people who really WANT to meet up - distance may affect this either way too though.
If the person is into physical only then you can be more matter-of-fact and get straight down tot he dirty.
On the other hand there are some people (like me) that LOVE THE FLIRT - and you should feel free to flirt like mad...
If you get very negative responses to this then -a) you've picked a chatty "friend-me" type person and you've shifted to "flirt" gear too soon. b) you've assumed incorrectly which partner is talking to you! c) Your flirting skills leave a lot to be desired **
d) You're wasting your time they just want to get straight to the main event :P
NOTE - Do not contact anyone who explicitly "pre-excludes" you as a potential option in their requirements or in their WRITE UP!! Doing this is simply like picking a fight with someone over their personal preferences.
Do not assume "straight male" is the same thing as "single male" - this is a really stupid but VERY EASY TO MAKE mistake.
Do not message ANY member after JUST viewing their pictures - READ THE WHOLE PROFILE!!!!!!
Do not take personal offence to any person saying no thanks! You don't want to shag every appropriately gendered human being on the planet - why do you get to take offence if you're not on someone else's "shaggable" list?
Just say "cool" and move on.
On Single/Married/With someone Men:
Well - most couples prefer men who are ACTUALLY REALLY single IRL and not just pretending to be single or married and playing alone.. Me I am in this group. Some people don't really mind about your actual marital status, and rate discretion as a higher requirement. Mostly this is because getting between a married-swinging-single and his real married partner is a very very messy business and secondly because swingers by definition do not condone cheating (this is my stance) and will not engage in any behaviour with any other person who is cheating because that is like saying you're ok with it.
So - is that helpful? I hope so :)
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why do people do this,spend days talking then get around to setting up dates to meet ,then the excuses start,this came up,that happened ,people if you dont want to meet PLEASE do not waste other peoples time,this is how sites like this get bad names
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Gnff @ Voyeur....and no *joy* for the lady then...nah , I think I will stay with what I always thought a gang-bang was...like a 4 some with 4 men before a multitude of males then...
I want to get my *rocks* off as-well , not just be a receptacle for male junk...and in the end they walk away smiling and I am sore to the bone with out that pleased pleasant feeling. NOPE not my style at all.
