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Straight White/Caucasian Female, 51
Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
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Quote by Mike_Pta
It's just so much easier to point the camera at Mrs F, hence the lack of other pics... or is it maybe that we lose track before we can finish our photo shoot?
I think it's the latter, your pics are great though.
hmmm mike, you offering to be photographer
payment in kind i take it ;) Quote by Pussinboots1
I am so sorry for this forum....But I can not resit this one....I just have to get *THIS* off my chest hell, of my sagging double DD chest that is.
I always come and read what the newest dogging events is and what the results was of planned events.
I am NOT a serious *Dogger* myself, I am more a pervert than a dogger.
I always feel most people who post requests and questions here have NO idea what *dogging* is about.
I wonder if the men are able to read and if they do some back ground investigation on to what Dogging is really about,or if they just see the word dog and then automatically think of a bitch???
I GET the feeling they think we ladies are *bitches* in heat....we just HAVE to show up and allow them to watch us at play,when they have a Urge.
Just a thought from me....
well said, also wonder how literal they take the word dogging
Quote by jmatthews1972
Hi Respect, I don't know if I'll agree to that. The thing is, sex is a very personal thing for some people and with most things in life (and here in SA) we don't really have a choice. Who we hookup with however, is a choice because we can say no without any repercussions.
That 41 year old white guy I was talking about ? He's been hearing his parents and grandparents talk about race since he was little. And children are sponges in that they suck everything including their parents' prejudices, up. You can't really blame him though. And when he started discovering girls ? Well, his mind was made before he even knew it.
What I'm saying is that we here cannot blame people for adding that line in their profile. That's almost like you telling me that you are obligated to play with a same sex partner because a gay man or woman can give you exactly the same arguments I did. Maybe gay is the new coloured, I don't know. I have no problem with telling a gay man I am not interested. Or more accurately, I don't cross the gender line and I'd expect him to understand.
Can we be upset with someone wanting to stay on their side of the colour line ? Of course not. Can we be upset with someone stating it in a public forum such as this ? Of course not. I'd much rather prefer that a person lay their cards out and not waste my time and theirs. I can look however and I can say hello.
Can we be upset with someone because they want steak instead of pasta ? Of course not. People can play and state who they want to play. If we cannot be honest when talking about the most personal (I'm talking about fucking), then I don't know.
cant agree more with you
Respect, you have your reasons to prefer black women, no issues at all with that, as for beyonce and rihana, no interest, and i have no issue with anyone (including, coloured, black, indian, chinese, polynesian, arab, americanindian and all others) saying they dont cross over.
Just a ps, I am 42 and had an indian and chinese (also my matric farewell date) girlfriend in girlfriend in high school, this is late 80's and there was no secret about it.......
Welcome and may you have many juicy adventures.
In some cases it is a preference, like some preferring blondes or brunettes.
PS, I love the honesty of the people on this site. You guys are the real deal. <--- swinging can only work with absolute honesty, makes it easier to see who is compatible and who not and then to focus on those that are.
Someone commented ' have you seen some of the white guys', well yes and they also fall out of the preference . as for Darwin awards, well it is a very slow process :)
. as for Darwin awards, well it is a very slow process :) Quote by redbruce
Just resurrecting this forum thread again so that Hornyguy69 can see that interesting stuff DOES happen at Emmarentia (and is probably happening also at all of the suitable sites around Gauteng and elsewhere - heard just yesterday of a friend having a good experience at Kloofendal recently, also just a "lucky" sighting, right place, right time).
@Hornyguy, in my limited experience, dogging is very unlikely to take place when a single male says "I want to do dogging at..........., couples and single ladies come and join me!". Dogging is dependent on having (a) brave, adventurous, exhibitionistic couple(s) who are prepared to do it in public and either don't mind being, or particularly want to be, watched. THEY are invariably the drivers of the experience, not the single male watchers or wannabe joiners, and we are very dependent on their "goodwill" and availability. "It" will happen when and where it suits THEM, not us, in my experience. I admire your persistence in trying to get something happening, and would love to hear back from you that I am wrong in my assessment. But I suggest you might have more success if you watch the dogging forum posts and the personal adverts carefully and respond appropriately when a couple offers or shows an interest in dogging. The alternative is to spend the hours hanging out in areas that have the potential as dogging spots (reasonable security, and decent opportunity for privacy), and hope to be there in the right place at the right time when something spontaneous happens, as did here at Emmarentia last summer. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavours, and would love to hear of your experiences.
I am going to re-post my original description of my fun afternoon at Emmarentia as a Story, as I believe the forum has quite a limited readership, and non-forumites might also be interested to read it. So if you read the Stories, don't be surprised to see it re-appear there! Apologies in advance for the duplication of posting.
Singleguyaegolitis is what its called, and it seems to be a common affliction and seems to show much stronger in younger males than older ones, there is also a strange correlation between perceived dick and bicep size and singleguyaegolitis....
lol:borg::!:
:silly::high-smile::violin::violin::violin::swingingchair::swingingchair::swingingchair::swingingchair:
:drinkies::drinkies::thumbup::laughabove:
:whistling::whistling::whistling::whistling: :twisted: :twisted: Something that will help is if you get your profile and a pic of yourself verified, there are a lot of BSers on here that are here to get pics, which do find their way onto porn sites on the web, and if a profile is verified we see it as the person is real, till then we take it with a pinch of salt, unless we go on cam with them.
Quote by Mike_Pta
Lol I've had the "what hell is wrong with you why are you even here" message also, he wasn't impressed when I said no thanks but your an dick so I'm not interested (his message was just a pic of his dick).
Also apparently it's rude to tell someone I'm not a prostitute who abandons his entire day to hook up with some random dude who sent one message. I believe if you send an initial message ( which is not in reply to a quickie ad) asking to meet up on the same day for a hook-up then your calling me a prostitute with nothing better to do with my life than wait for easy sex.
So I agree with you when you say you don't always want to say no since some guys can be assholes with rejection but personally I prefer rejection to no reply. My best rejection reply is to say I have exams so I'm gonna be busy over the next few days, leaves no room to say its them and they normally don't call back later.
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Quote by LeeEC
Well, from experience I know that sometimes you just want to say no thanks but you can't really say why, which is what you'd like to do, since most people I've said just "no thanks" to, actually argue with me! (Thanks for not doing that)
I've had three guys tell me various versions of "what the hell is wrong with you?", one "but I've got a big dick" & one guy claimed he'd never been turned down ever, which I find pretty difficult to believe since I've seen his photos....
& sometimes you can't say why because ...
well it's difficult to say, "you're my mate's psycho-ex and I have no interest in shagging your sorry bits!"
Coz well, it's kinda revealing of your identity...
So sometimes you sits and thinks on your response or ponder your feeling to see if it's really "no thanks", or just "you're not my first choice and maybe I'm just fussy" - coz everyone knows I am....
And sometimes sitting and thinking on these things means you forget to respond.... I've definitely done this before.
Plus I'm often in two minds because most of the time there isn't anywhere near enough info on the profiles of people contacting me to even get a feel for the person, so I don't know what to say to a person who clearly is just fishing rather than actually investing in the lifestyle. They end up making me feel like a school teacher correcting homework, and really that is So Not A Turn On.
Also single chicks usually get bombarded with so much mail, no person could cope with the requirements of responding to all of it, so if I mail a single female profile, I don't hold my breath... ever.
Agree with you,most cant accept a thanks but no thanks. We generally try to reply to all, but where someone is obviously not our cup of tea and didn't bother reading our profile first doesn't deserve a reply, we used to reply by along the line of 'did you actually read our profile', don't do that anymore. Dow someone has not even bothered to fill in the basics we dong reply. Those that think its rude, try replying to or debating that with a few people per day, you suddenly finds yourself not enjoying what should be a pleasurable passtime, you also start being grouchy with those that have taken the trouble and neglecting them which is even worse.
So rather than questioning the etiquette of those that are here for real and just ignore many 'hi wanna chat', 'can I see yours pics', 'are you interested' who would, with the use of a single braincell, see that they are not what you are looking for, question those very same one's manners for wasting everyone's time.
Pet hate, those that have fake pics up, or change their nic thinking you wont notice
Quote by cumminglinguist
While anyone has the freedom of choice, and it is personal, and should be respected, it is amazing how many profiles are inacurate or just false. Many so-called couples are actually guys that will explain that their partners are not playing at present... it is a simple charade, but confusing. When it comes down to it, many people on this site are just playing a game! HOWEVER, there are the genuine amongst the false, and therin comes the fun of the search. Dont take rejection personally, take it from where it comes! And remember that many males in a swinging relationship feel threatened by another man...
sooo true, and for interest sakem thumper, we dont play with attached women who are playing on the side either.......
another 2c.
Those that say it is irrelevant, we in 2013 and shouldn't judge, you will play by our rules etc. by almost pushing those three points you are judging the couple, you are NOT playing by the couple's rules and the couple's rules are relevant. Just as people have a preference in shape, size, ethnicity etc. they have a preference in playing t=with attached cheating spouses/partners or not, so respect that
We dont see swinging as cheating, because it is a joint activity that we both do.
Most single guys cant't differentiate between swinging and cheating. Aside from not condoning cheating can you imagine the problems and complications that will come up when the cheated spouse finds out, which they are quite likely to do. The repercussions for a couple could be devastating.....
Quote by LeeEC
well said
Thanks
anything to add?Not offhand, but totally agree with the cheating bit. we quite happy to play with a married guy or woman if we have met their spouse and the spouse is fine with it. We have however never actually met a spouse of a married person........ cant understand why seeing as some are very willing for that to happen.....
The best is the ones that are playing on the side, when you ask them what they would do if their other half was playing on the side, most of them would be pissed off about it, to the point of separation???
Quote by LeeEC
Ok - the profile:
For goodness sake - could you PLEASE write something intelligent in it... it's how we tell if you're a doos or a nice guy.
Speak like you talk in your profile, it goes a long way to letting people get to know what kind of person you are; and for the couples/singles who like to "make friends to keep" - this is quite important.
Also a Good write up often eliminates the need for all that chitty-chatty small talk - or at least keeps it to a minimum.
Pictures:
Well now...
Bits (your tool) is good - but really no more than 3 pictures from DIFFERENT angles is MORE THAN ENOUGH!
Do NOT shoot yourself shooting (no wanking cum shots)! Please!!
Do not take tool pictures while sitting on the toilet!! PLEASE!!
Remember you might be only looking at the bit in the middle of the picture... but other people note what's in the background.. Claiming you're a single guy with roommates and taking pictures of your bits with kids toys strewn around the room in the background.... SPECIAL!
Comparing your tool with your TV remote is also doff - I don't know what YOUR TV remote looks like!
Chest, body, buns (these all essential!)
Outside pics, nude pics on the beach, at the pool (EXCELLENT idea!)...
Artistic, shadowy and silhouette stuff... these will get you some upper class attention
It is absolutely NOT required to put your face on your public album - in fact I do not recommend this as the "public" pictures are REALLY PUBLIC to even non-members! Rather put your face in a private album and share only with potential meets.
Messages:
When a person says they want to "chat and get to know you" prepare to have a chatty conversation by mail that goes similar to the "meeting you for the first time in a bar" conversation, before moving on to the "would you like to meet up stage" -0 about 5 messages with actual information and content should get you to this point with most genuine swinging people who really WANT to meet up - distance may affect this either way too though.
If the person is into physical only then you can be more matter-of-fact and get straight down tot he dirty.
On the other hand there are some people (like me) that LOVE THE FLIRT - and you should feel free to flirt like mad...
If you get very negative responses to this then -a) you've picked a chatty "friend-me" type person and you've shifted to "flirt" gear too soon. b) you've assumed incorrectly which partner is talking to you! c) Your flirting skills leave a lot to be desired **
d) You're wasting your time they just want to get straight to the main event :P
NOTE - Do not contact anyone who explicitly "pre-excludes" you as a potential option in their requirements or in their WRITE UP!! Doing this is simply like picking a fight with someone over their personal preferences.
Do not assume "straight male" is the same thing as "single male" - this is a really stupid but VERY EASY TO MAKE mistake.
Do not message ANY member after JUST viewing their pictures - READ THE WHOLE PROFILE!!!!!!
Do not take personal offence to any person saying no thanks! You don't want to shag every appropriately gendered human being on the planet - why do you get to take offence if you're not on someone else's "shaggable" list?
Just say "cool" and move on.
On Single/Married/With someone Men:
Well - most couples prefer men who are ACTUALLY REALLY single IRL and not just pretending to be single or married and playing alone.. Me I am in this group. Some people don't really mind about your actual marital status, and rate discretion as a higher requirement. Mostly this is because getting between a married-swinging-single and his real married partner is a very very messy business and secondly because swingers by definition do not condone cheating (this is my stance) and will not engage in any behaviour with any other person who is cheating because that is like saying you're ok with it.
So - is that helpful? I hope so :)
well said
om mee te begin, en dit is klaar gese, 'one for the team' slegte idiee en heeltemaal onnodig, daar is duisende mense hier, kies en keur en window shop... partykeer sal julle mense ontmoet met wie julle nie sexually click nie maar wel goeie vriende kan word, dit het al met ons gebeur en ons is nog na paar jaar goeie vriende
eerlikheid is altyd welkom, die wat nie daarvan hou nie, dis hul probleem, en se dit sodra julle so voel, moet nie julle en die ander se tyd mors deur dit uit te trek nie, dws as julle hier chat en al nie goed voel daaroor nie, se so, as dit is na julle die mense ontmoet het dan doen julle dit dan. dit is ook hoekom 'first date' no promises and no expectations behoort te wees, as die ander guaranteed speel wil he op 'first dat' hul probleem.
ons kan se hoe ons oor mense voel vir speel binne minuute van dat ons hulle eerste keer ontmoet het
seen this before, thing is what chance does a woman or a couple have with a group of guys if she deosnt want to do one of them...??? and then things get out of hand
you may be surprised how many guys on swingers sites are pushy and expect a guaranateed session if they do you the favor of meeting them. I think that is what puts most off
we know quite a few single guys that know how to behave, probably a handful that we have met that dont know and those were never invited back. actually most of the ones that we have met do know how to behave and a few of those have ended up becoming long standing friends that are always welcome and do come over, even just to pop in and say hi over a cup of coffee
Quote by hairym36
why do people do this,spend days talking then get around to setting up dates to meet ,then the excuses start,this came up,that happened ,people if you dont want to meet PLEASE do not waste other peoples time,this is how sites like this get bad names
I agree and not to mention when you send someone a message they dont even have the balls to decline your off or tell you they not interested. srely if you send someone a messagee they should be honoured and at least have manners and say you mot intertested or your profile dont match good luck with your search. guys come one is someone sends a message at least respond its the right thing to do. I only wish there was a block button so i could block those rude people that dont reply.
if your profile is specific in what you are looking for then those outside of that requirement should not even ask, we try and reply to everyone, but when you sometimes get 10 or so msg's a day from people that say 'maybe i'm the exception' it does get tedious
we do however try to reply to everyone, even those that are obviously not what we are asking for
Quote by Pussinboots1
Gnff @ Voyeur....and no *joy* for the lady then...nah , I think I will stay with what I always thought a gang-bang was...like a 4 some with 4 men before a multitude of males then...
I want to get my *rocks* off as-well , not just be a receptacle for male junk...and in the end they walk away smiling and I am sore to the bone with out that pleased pleasant feeling. NOPE not my style at all.
well the lady can cum as much as she wants, but to go to orgasm with each guy would mean that she would end up being chafed raw, and her lips very tender, so would go with the let them slip it in and unload quickly, and then cum whenever she is ready
all couples that are together long enough go through stages where they are out of sync with each other, trick to staying together is just to stay together till yo back in sync as for interest, wee all get distracted by something, ranging from weather all the way to work stress or just a bad supper
