well well then what can i say so far every time we have had bad luck. but it will not stop us we will keep trying. i must say the people that is answering so far is saying every thing right. but what is said and what happens in real life is 2 different things. but i think the more people talk about it the better it will be.
malcolm what i like is what you said. i am glade there is still swingers like you that still takes the time and patients to work with newbies. just wish the rest will follow your lead.
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joyrider
Over 90 days ago
Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
Bi-curious White/Caucasian Female, 54
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hi there mix
a dark room is just that a room that has been made dark. for one reason when you going in there you must feel, feel around on this way toughing everyone and everyone touching you. In the end the idea is it is a feel for all and you do not know who is who.
a dark room can be fun sometimes and sometime it can scare the h..... out of you or your lady that goes with you. if you 2 do, do the dark room you have to do it with an open mind, knowing what happens, happens
Well Well Well where do I start. I guess the following way should be right 
This is Rider.
Thank you for every ones input. It is appreciated. 
From my side I think it was just the timing that was wrong. Like in Major wrong. One mistake we will never make again trust me, when I say that :wink: . I did tell my wife on Monday I made a mistake, by not suggesting a safety word or a safety catch phrase. Which I did ask her to forgive me for. For those new people reading this story. Safety word or catch phrase is a word or phrase used to tell your partner to pls call it off.
The other thing that went wrong was we should have told the other clp before hand. After the fun and games are over. Pls do not bbm us with your internal issues. Personally to use those direct words sound rude but as we have learned now, it is better to sound rude than to have regrets afterwards. And it is better to sound rude and the other person knows that, that is one of the golden rules that are not to be broken.
Well, now that I am having my say, our problem came from the Friday cpl. And the Saturday cpl, Saturday we went to watch my team win the blue bulls. We went to try another cpl that has been in the game for a long time. There I had the safety word and phrase in place and it worked well. We got the hell out of there when the man thought it is time to loosen his pans to jacuzzi. He did not even ask weather, it was okay with everyone, if we all start to jacuzzi. I mean when we left, I as man could hear the relief in the other ladies voice.
I think with the combination of Friday with the new cpl and Saturday with the old cpl. The combination of both cpls where things just went wrong, got to my lovely wife. Her expectations was high that it would work out right and it did not.
You know we men just think of one thing where women fantasize about it first. And if the fantasy don't work out right the walls came tumbling down.
The moral of the story is TIMING & SAFETY WORD OR CATCH PHRASE MUST BE IN PLACE.
Thank you to everyone that tried to give my loving wife advise. Hope I can help one day too
This is Rider.
Thank you for every ones input. It is appreciated.
From my side I think it was just the timing that was wrong. Like in Major wrong. One mistake we will never make again trust me, when I say that :wink: . I did tell my wife on Monday I made a mistake, by not suggesting a safety word or a safety catch phrase. Which I did ask her to forgive me for. For those new people reading this story. Safety word or catch phrase is a word or phrase used to tell your partner to pls call it off.
The other thing that went wrong was we should have told the other clp before hand. After the fun and games are over. Pls do not bbm us with your internal issues. Personally to use those direct words sound rude but as we have learned now, it is better to sound rude than to have regrets afterwards. And it is better to sound rude and the other person knows that, that is one of the golden rules that are not to be broken.
Well, now that I am having my say, our problem came from the Friday cpl. And the Saturday cpl, Saturday we went to watch my team win the blue bulls. We went to try another cpl that has been in the game for a long time. There I had the safety word and phrase in place and it worked well. We got the hell out of there when the man thought it is time to loosen his pans to jacuzzi. He did not even ask weather, it was okay with everyone, if we all start to jacuzzi. I mean when we left, I as man could hear the relief in the other ladies voice.
I think with the combination of Friday with the new cpl and Saturday with the old cpl. The combination of both cpls where things just went wrong, got to my lovely wife. Her expectations was high that it would work out right and it did not.
You know we men just think of one thing where women fantasize about it first. And if the fantasy don't work out right the walls came tumbling down.
The moral of the story is TIMING & SAFETY WORD OR CATCH PHRASE MUST BE IN PLACE.
Thank you to everyone that tried to give my loving wife advise. Hope I can help one day too We are new to the couple scenes- we had our first encounter, which did not go too well, and I don't know if I am over sensitive or plain jealous, and nowhere on this site can I find my answer.
We met a couple at their home last week friday, I (lady partners) was not happy with what I saw, everything was not right, I told my hubby so, but it was too late to turn around they already opened the gate. We went in, had a chat to them and off we went to bed, only touching on the ground rules, which was not how I wanted the whole thing to start off as it was more eagerness from the men side, as per a ladies point of view.
From the beginning the guy couldn't get it up, his foreplay was suck with his wife not that I judge as they are still young. He took such a lot of funny stuff to make him hard it all backfired. Needless to say then him and my man had an agreement to swop partners, but my hubby could stay rock hard and he couldn't get it up not even with foreplay with me or me touching him. We knew he took all sorts of stuff to make he stay hard, so I don't know if it was nervousness or what I tried to help but he was just not coming up. So he left the room while my hubby was enjoying himself so much and his wife too. After the 3rd time he walked out of the room I got concerned, and a little jealous as hubby was enjoying it and I tried to concentrate rather by playing with her clit but after a while I asked him to stop as the other man is not getting it up and it might become a problem, so he did stop, which I know might be too much to ask. Was I wrong in doing so?
After we left the other couple's husband, tried to convince us to turn around as he is now hard and up and going. We did not turn around. My hubby talked to them, asking them how it was, and they said great, they wanted to do it again, but in the other man's chatting I could pick up that it knocked him very hard not to be able to get it up. He wanted my hubby's advise and how to stay rock hard. Then over the weekend the other guy said his wife is pushing him away, don't want him, not reacting while they busy, he felt guilty because he could not please me and kept on saying sorry over bbm, all those things that let a person think twice. Although we assured them that I did not think funny and was not cross because he couldn't get it up. But the wife of the other couple is telling us a different story, that she is not keeping him away, now who do we believe him or her? Then I found out that the lady wanted to come to our place without notifying us over the weekend, after we agreed to meet once a month.
I immediately start to turn on my six sense, which tells me the lady actually putting more emotion into it than she should. I thought by getting a couple it would not turn out in an emotional issue, but now I wonder why hubby try to convince me to go back to them! Yes it is our first time with a couple and I do feel jealous is it normal? I don't know if it is my mind playing games or what but I feel we are playing with the wrong couple.
Can someone tell me if I am reading it wrong or what?
We are new to the couple scenes- we had our first encounter, which did not go too well, and I don't know if I am over sensitive or plain jealous, and nowhere on this site can I find my answer.
We met the couple at their home, I (lady partners) was not happy with what I saw, everything was not right, I told my partner so, but it was too late to turn around they already opened the gate. We went in had a chat to them and off we went to bed, only touching on the ground rules, which was not how I wanted the whole thing to start off as it was more eagerness from the men side. From the beginning the guy couldn't get it up, his foreplay was suck with his wife not that I judge as they are still young. He took such a lot of funny stuff to make him hard it all backfired. Needless to say then him and my man had an agreement to swop partners, but my man could stay rock hard and he couldn't get it up not even with foreplay with me or me touching I don't know if it was nervousness or what I tried to help but he was just not coming up. So he left the room while my man was enjoying himself so much and she too. After the 3rd time he walked out of the room I got concern and jealous I suppose, my man wanted to go on but I asked him to stop as the other man is not getting it up and it might become a problem, so he did stop. Was I wrong in doing so?
After we left he tried to convince us to turn around as he is now hard and up and going. We did not turn around. My man talked them asking them how it was, and they said great, they wanted to do it again, but in the other man's chatting I could pick up that it knocked him very hard. He wanted my man's advise and how to stay rock hard. Then over the weekend I saw the jealousy coming out on the other guys side by saying she don't want him, he felt guilty because he could not please me and kept on saying sorry over bbm. although we said it is okay. But she is telling me a different story, that she is not keeping him away, now who do we believe? When I found out that she wanted to come to our place over the weekend after we agreed to meet maybe once a month.
I immediately start to turn on my six sense, which tells me she actually fell for my husband and I get the feeling as he is trying to convince me to go back that he fell for her too! am I over sensitive or plain jealous? I don't know if it is my overactive mind or what but I feel we are playing with the wrong couple, as there are too much personal feelings involved.
Can someone tell me if I am overreacting or is it normal?
hey at least each time we have been contacted we have been polite. to us it coasts nothing to be polite. any one one this site will try their luck a person never know maybe the cpl or person has had a change in hart. pls people just be polite in the answers you get more respect that way.
to the young man that answer saying people are rude pls remember not all of us is rude
I like this topic!!!!!
I always make it a point to go and do the monthly grocery shopping with my wife, while doing that I look at the people in the shop and this is what goes through my mind.
WHAT A LOVELY LADY I really look at the ladies. Some of them are really good looking and now and then one of the good looking ladies would look at me and just for a moment our eyes would lock. Then at just about the same time we would give each other a very nice smile, and move on. To these ladies you make my day every time and you make me crave to see more nice friendly ladies. While doing shopping, but for most of the ladies, you must really look and you will see they think they are gods gift to men and their attitudes. Well what can I say I do not like a lady that has an attitude.
WHAT A BRAIN THAT LADY HAS. I must say have you ever really looked at those ladies? They might have a brain on their shoulders, but they have the bad attitude to go with it too. My opinion is if a lady does have a brain and a humble attitude to go with it, then she would be hot. Like in really hot. I have only came across one lady like that and I married her
I MUST INTRODUCE HER TO MY WIFE. There is times I wish my wife had friends like that, but those ladies are usually married to very jealous men.
I COULD DO HER RIGHT THERE. Well now this is speaking for myself that idea has never ever crossed my mind. I think I am like a wine conoseur. I like to look at them and take in their beauty.
What I have noticed is the men that are with good looking women or in general, the men that are with women doing shopping handle their lovely wife's like shit in the shops and that makes me as a man ashamed of my gender.
food for thought
I MUST INTRODUCE HER TO MY WIFE. There is times I wish my wife had friends like that, but those ladies are usually married to very jealous men.
I COULD DO HER RIGHT THERE. Well now this is speaking for myself that idea has never ever crossed my mind. I think I am like a wine conoseur. I like to look at them and take in their beauty.
What I have noticed is the men that are with good looking women or in general, the men that are with women doing shopping handle their lovely wife's like shit in the shops and that makes me as a man ashamed of my gender.
food for thought OKAY THE MAIN QUESTION WAS ASKED DO ANY OF THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE MEET.
Well i am now asking my self that same question :sad: . People look at a persons profile and when you send them a mail they don't answer or if person sends another person a hi showing you would like to chat. They don't answer. Those that do answer and you make arrangement's to meet do pitch or you start to chat and then they just disappear:mad:
Came on new and old members at lest answer a mail and say thank you but no thank you or you are not what we are looking for. DON'T BE RUDE
I would like to thank the FEW people that did answer. THANK YOU
Came on new and old members at lest answer a mail and say thank you but no thank you or you are not what we are looking for. DON'T BE RUDE
I would like to thank the FEW people that did answer. THANK YOU hi everyone
after reading some of the stories. i thought i must tell you about my wife and i.
it was on the south coast we did not know any one there so we use to walk a lot next to the in my shorts no undies her in a short mini no undies. afterwords you learn to spot the locals. well needles to say we stood and spoke to a cpl. after a few times of chatting to them on the beach. they one day asked if i catch fish i said yes so the guy went to throw his fishing line in the water and stood holding the rode at the water. wife and i sat down and started to chat to the lady as i did not have a fishing rod then, but when i sat down i sat in such away that the lady could see everything but hubby could not see. like wise with my wife she sat in such away that when the guy came up from the beach to reload the fishing line he could see her everything. needles to say he reloaded his fishing line every 3mins. :twisted:
when we left them for the day my wife had a good laugh she said the lady tried to not look about could not help her self. my wife found her a few times just staring with nothing to say...
after that the cpl would go out of their way to came and chat to us on the beach. but sad to say nothing ever happened :sad:
after that the cpl would go out of their way to came and chat to us on the beach. but sad to say nothing ever happened :sad: you are right about that rule. we are not referring to that rule. we read on one of the forums about something that happened at sandy beach where a cpl went to to the beach and the guys came up to the cpl and stood there playing with they self's. that is the kind of thing we are referring to when we say rules any suggestion. now that we have explained.
but any case thank you for your input.
hi there
because of the funny things going on people saying how they are in the meantime they are not. we would like to find out how can we became one of the people that can do the verify process. we do have sometime during the month that we do not work.
must admit then we can get the pick of the crop :lol:
:lol: hi there
well we would like to just put our 50cent in here.
we have been looking and looking on this site and let us tell you the most of the people on this site are looking for models be it man or lady!!!!!! once we did set up a meeting with a cpl but the people did not confirm the date they said so we thought that the meeting was off. the day of the meeting the people send a message, sending us their cell number, but we did not login that day until late the afternoon due to things that took place that day, so the decent thing to do was to phone the people to say sorry, and gave the reasons why we could not meet them in any case. O,boy was the guy unpleasant. so it was just as well that things did go wrong.
now i did go into each ones profile that has had something to say and it is interesting that the people that answered is all over is s.a. and most are too mature or the males are bi.
now the reason why i mentioned this is because a person looks for the cpl or person you think may match with your age group and ideas. well it seems to me in life the chance that is happening, is one in a hundred am i right or wrong?
so it is now going on for 6 years for us, trying to find a cpl close to what we are looking for. and my word, we will not give up, because when we do find the right cpl it will hopefully turn into a good relationship--------------to all of those that get up set don't give up keep looking like us
