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and that is, that racism is aimed mostly at white people (AS IN THEY ARE mostly BLAMED) What??? you say? Well, unless I only got an abbreviated version of the original article, I only saw the mention of the white race in the stories heading, and then one other time together with numerous other races who never made the articles heading. Then absolutely no-where else in the mothers write up.
Quote by Stoutgatte_xxx
Maybe we should refer to it as the previously disadvantaged market

rotflmao:rotflmao::rotflmao:
Maar heir kom kak . . .
:small-print::small-print::small-print::small-print:
Quote by Mike_Pta
One, the guy in the transplant had his former penis amputated due to a traditional circumcision gone wrong. So it wasn't by choice, he was without a penis for a number of years.
Two, the donation was from a dead guy like normal donations. But as with all donations there will be a black market as soon as the operation stabilises.

Dude,
99% of black market organ sales / transplants only happen in the movies :bs: anyway, isn't it racist or something to call it "black market" ?rotflmao
Like you say, opens up a whole world of questions. I somehow doubt though, that it will be a case of simply booking a transplant. It will only be done in medicaly required instances. (but then again, who really knows) With the majority of straight men "claiming" to have issues with touching other guys dicks even in a threesome scenario, imagine . . . . . ok, ok, ok, I will remove tongue from cheek . . . . . . . wink
Quote by Slashza
Very dissapointed with east london people have now set up 2 meetings with meeting up with couples and they are no showers keen to chat the whole time they choose the place and time late at night and then don't show at all what's up with that is it just me getting this in East london

It happens everywhere.
Although, I myself have been in East Londen and surrounds quite a few times in the past few months and have been very pleasantly surprised at the other members from the area. I would encourage you to just be patient.
Quote by Adonis
The best thing of age it bring wisdom and make it easier to handle the youth

Your sentence makes a lot of sense @Adonis. And yes, age helps with sommany things when it comes to youth.
Only thing is, I also find that as I get older I also seem to be finding a lot less tolerance of some of the ways of our youth, so many of them just do not have the basic necessity of actually growing up
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okay the s's not even going to go down the spelling route
I do believe there is a place for porn but would actually really be interested to see something a woman has made/directed etc, as a sure that first more woman would watch it and secondly then it would show men that yeah some of us do like all sort of things but that there are normal ways to get them and enjoy them not the bog standard version as described previously. And no I am not talkng about the 50 shades stuff, which i believe is porn in fairytale, so will carry on waiting until i get the courage to do it myself

50 shades of grey (which I have not read or seen) goes against all this new age "woman power" focus.
It (from what I understand) is about a woman being "dominated" . . . . . and was written by a woman, not a piggish male. The whole world thinks this is the greatest thing since the release of Grease (the movie) but I wonder if it (the worlds view) would still be like that if this story was written by a male . . . . .
I would imagine that if advertised properly that yes, there would be a demand. My money however (if I was a betting man) would be on cheaters (ie: people having affairs) contacting you for a place for a quick shag.
I remember back to teenage years, there was the "understanding" that the ankle bracelet was a "sign" . . . . these days I seriously doubt anybody thinks along those lines.
Quote by playcouple
You do realise that every time you donate blood or have blood tested you are screened for HIV and Aids? This data is collected and put together by various NGO's, bits and pieces of it comes out in the press and so on, but all of it is available to various HIV and Aids organisations. This is not because anyone is keeping anything hidden or under wraps, just that the press will rather say we have one of the highest infection rates in the world than say that the infection rate in RSA is dropping, good news does not get spread, bad news does.

Our government would disagree with that, after their recent "we have a good story to tell" campaign . . wink
One of the ways to get funding is to have stats that indicate something needs to be done. So when stats are gathered for something such as HIV, they are going to target areas that are worst affected.
Stamina, Stamina, Stamina . . . of shit wait, sorry, . . . I mean Ian . . . . rotflmao Maybe 1 in 55 ladies want you to "make a move" a few minutes into a first meet. A lady who "cannot make it" 4 times is married or heavily involved and extremely rude, second no show makes this clear. Move along quietly, because complaining here, is only informing other potential meets about the way you "respond' . . . . .
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Problem is there be no power at Eskom.
As a matter of interest statistically there are large variances between population groups (demographics???) in terms of HIV and Aids, the variances vary between races, ages, careers, locations and how regularly people travel away from home requiring an overnight stay.

Statistics are way too easily manipulated and cannot be accurate in any form - at least not above 75%. The statistics in this country (because I have no knowledge of other countries) are gathered to obtain a specific result. Right from our education system, to our health care system. Our schools regularly ask the pupils / learners / students (or whatever they are called these days) what language they speak at home, how many brothers or sisters they have etc WHY? What on earth for?
If you want focus on a particular area, you survey a particular group in order to get the appropriate survey result to get involvement. Don't misunderstand me here, survey's need to be done, I'm just saying that they are done in such a way that it justifies what was already decided from a budgetary point of view.
Pretty much the same as the penis size statistics, everything says that the average size is X and the average width is Y . . . but have you seen the pictures on this site? wink no bloody wonder so many of us get laughed at when we have said we were "average sized" . . . rotflmao
Quote by playcouple
Someone said that when you feel intimidated by a group of people, such as going into a meeting or doing a speech, you should imagine them all naked, this will then get relax your thoughts (packs instinctively attack anything that gives of the smell of fear), well i think that should be changed, imagine them all masturbating

Nah, what if some of them are "lookers" ?? where on earth would my focus and attention levels be then rotflmao:rotflmao:
So, I suppose we all knew that we all indulge in said act here and there, HOWEVER, I must say that I will never look at anyone the same ever again . . . . yet, I suppose it may help understand why most women do need need as much / frequent sex as men . . . . coz they are obviously way better at masturbating than their male counterparts . . . . wink
Quote by playcouple
and my final word to you all is :color:

The thing is, if the powers that be stopped trying to "force" us to accept :color: and left us to figure it out for ourselves, there would probably be way more progress . . . .
Quote by Sofistikitty
"Among young adults, men masturbate an average of 12 times a month, while females maturbate an average of 5 times a month."*
This is apparently a fact. Lol that means I'm a man lol or something more- 12 times! That's nothing! Anyone else here disagree with this "fact"

Do you have any idea where this info was gathered? US, Europe, Africa or combined? what is the age bracket?
Quote by wolfman
Fact 1: HIV infection is more widespread in the black community.
Fact 2: White guys don't like to have black guys around because they have bigger dicks, and because white girls fantasize about being fucked by them.
the central scrutinizer

In reference to your Fact1: is this documented fact? or is it just perception? It may just simply be that there are a large number more of the specific demographic and the fact that our government has a "unique" way of gathering statistics.
In reference to your Fact2: Judging by the amount of white guys who post on the non white chicks "quick messages" on their profiles, it's not only white chicks that fantasise.
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They willing to screw me without one? So what does that mean? Like I said this came from people that have double standards. I have a white lady that requested a gang bang and the no certificate was requested. But when it came to the black lady they requested. So tell me am I assuming wrong? I am not talking out of my own. This is the statements and conversations I have had with white couples and single guys. I am merely saying that these are the concerns. And that I am offended by them. Again, I am not saying ALL men and couples. I am speaking about the people I have spoken to, as I am trying to find a way to merge everyone together. Well, those who are interested anyway.
From experience, I am always invited as a single chick to parties and clubs. the moment I say I am bring a male partner they retract their invite. Some have even asked what race guy is. I'm sorry Shaun, but if you are not in our shoes(non white) you won't have any idea as to what I'm talking about. I am just saying that, it's unfair. Look in actual fact the lifestyle is predominantly white. It's going to take a while before non whites open up and also become more open minded. I'm not saying that people should change over night. I'm saying, don't message then. You know what your preferences are then don't request to join. I know how it feels to be "rejected" cos, in my case the hubby wanted to but the wife gave me the " we don't play outside our race". Pity we could have had fun.
I am venting so please excuse me. Still gots love for all of y'all

Willing to screw you without one, well different guy's have different requirements.
Single chick being invited to a party or club? a SINGLE chick was invited, not a couple.
Why is it necessary for whites to have to open up and become more open minded? Why should people change their own personal preferences?
YES, I agree, there is no need whatsoever for white people to be rude about their preferences, but why on earth is the whole world telling us to open up to different races? The first time a white person suggests that a non white person should do or look at something the way the white culture does, we are branded as racist.
But, to be clear, even though I am not in your Non White shoes, let me assure you, that I know exactly what it is like to be rejected (on an almost daily basis) because of my skin colour or gender. BUT, because I am white I am expected to simply keep my venting to myself.
Put "no white's" in your profile, I can almost guarantee you that you will not receive more than one or two complaints.
If I am reading your post correctly, you yourself have deduced that the reason some guys wanted test certificates was due to race. They did not seem to say that, in fact by them asking for test certs, they have shown two things: 1) willingness to engage in sexual activities with a person of a different race. 2) the wisdom to take care of health concerns like a responsible adult. From what I can see, you have made this a race issue. As far as your comment about non white males having no etiquette goes, it's more about the language barrier than anything else, in fact, in my opinion, 75% of our so called race issues in this country revolve around language barriers. It exists even between white people who speak different languages.
Quote by playcouple
as all good dic(k)tators say " everyone is entitled to their opinion and the cure for all ailments (and opinions that differ from mine) is the removal of the head"
ehhehehehe ehehehe

The skin has been removed from my head . . . does that count? rotflmao:rotflmao:
Quote by LeeEC
Oh and one more thing - Adonis, though you certainly aren't the only one to do it. For flip sakes, ending a post with an invitation for people to get uptight isn't a good strategy either.

But it was not understood what I meant . . . . .
But, there you go boys and girls, your opinion matters . . . . as long as it is a positive one.
(Pasted in quote) Seems like some only read half of what you say. How this gets interpreted as singles should leave the site and couples looking for singles should join a singles site is beyond me. At no time did I said or imply swingers should only look for or play with other swingers and not with singles. oh well I suppose if some can't add value they will add conflict. (END) (Pasted in quote) Ok daar is weer mense wat my kop gaan afbyt oor my stelling oor varkerigheid, maar gaan lees die "Quick messages" op mense se profiles, waar is daai mense se opvoeding. (END) Shawn says, I really do not understand the need for comments such as the above.
Quote by EasyGuy80
Maybe the mods/owner of the site should make a one for hook-ups/single people?

it would probably just land up being the same as this site, with all the couples who are interested in 3sums joining to look for the single person to add to the mix . . . .

@playcouple, Please help me understand the above?
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Wonder what the ANC would said about it

They would want to make sure he had a shower afterwards . . . . .
that's assuming that there is water in which case it will be a cold shower due to lack of electricity......................
Load-shedding and lack of infrastructure where government lives? ummm, I think not . . . . . wink
So it would appear as if the illusive single lady for that FFM is a rare find . . . . . I was thinking, every one seemingly wants to find a lady that is into other ladies. Yet so often when you read a profile, the couple says "Hubby not bi in any way" . . . . . . they still want another male to join them in the sack, but zero contact between men. Maybe, just maybe, there are more single ladies out there who are open to the FFM idea, but don't respond becuse the searching couple wants someone who is going to be more involved with wifey . . . . . that would give me the impression of "I am going to be on display" . . . . . . and when we remember how often other contributors say that a lot of women have self conscious issues . . . well now!
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SDMR, not sure I agree with you. I have lived in a small town, and fully understand Nicky's concern. In the bigger cities it's a whole lot easier to play far away from home, and have a lot less chance of being found out. It's much easier to hide away in the big city (although obviously your own close circle would be impacted when the news gets out). In many small towns, your business becomes everyone's business, as people tend to have much closer connections (fewer clubs, churches, schools to be involved with), and talk to each other and about each other whole a lot more. Die hele dorp kan beslis hoor! There's a lot more anonymity in the cities, which doesn't happen in a plattelandse dorp.

I have lived in two "big cities" and now live a "small dorpie", they are practically the same in my view. If you play outside of town, then big or small, you are outside of town.
Yes, the smaller towns do have local newspapers who have Paparazzi aspirations and love to put scandal items on the front page, but get caught in any town and you have the same issue.
but hey, maybe it's just the particular towns that I have lived in that have formed my opinion.
Quote by Adonis
Wonder what the ANC would said about it

They would want to make sure he had a shower afterwards . . . . .
Quote by nicky200
Ek dink daar is baie mense in klein plekke wat baie stout is en wil wees,hule net te bang dat hele dorp dit sal hoor

Ja miskien is jy 100% op die merk.
The thing is, regardless of the size of the town, if people are going to find out, they are going to find out . . . bigger towns just means more people know . . . . .