Dude,
95% of so called "Doggers" are just people expressing a fantasy. They are not likely to ever actively participate.
But, one thing you have ensured, is that your mail box is now going to be bombarded with guy's claiming to be, how did you put it? "Real" . . .
So another thought came to mind when reading the updates on this post:
What is the difference between "Single" and "Divorced"
Surely if you are single, you are single, and if you are divorced, you are also single?
If you send a message to a profile that clearly states they are not open to communication from which ever category you yourself fall into, then not getting a response is your own fault.
But, I fully agree with Flamebouy that when you have taken the time to make sure you do fit into what the profile is looking for, and you do not get a response, it is rude.
More often than not, I am sure it is because the profile owner does not understand that ticking the "straight male" box or 'straight female" box , means they are open to contact from members that are not a couple.
Having said that, one needs to remember we are operating in the digital world here, and this is where people are themselves, this is where people allow their true identities to come out.
Perhaps those members with a couple profile, who only want contact from couples, and believe that there is no place for others, should either petition the site owners to make the site a couples only site, or they should tick the looking for boxes a little more carefully.
This particular question / topic tends to get raised from time to time, although usually by single males.
I myself am in a "smaller town" which ultimately means less members, yet as I have said before, I do in fact have a fairly good "success rate".
Added to that, every-time I visit the Cape (Eastern or Western) I never have a trip that I did not at least have drinks with someone. In fact, Cape Town has been very good to me over the years.
I would like to give you some advice and or suggestions, but obviously I cannot, seeing as I have a different type of profile than you do. Perhaps it is the content of your initial message?
I am curious as to why, 3+ days later, only one Mod has commented on this thread? With no response from Admin.
Do they perhaps think that the various members expressing their disappointment / disapproval does not warrant input?
It fascinates me that a nation as intelligent and advanced such as this one (Japan) could actually believe such tales.
This is me standing up and applauding you Sofistikitty
Good on you for showing the other side!
Maybe it's time to request that the owners of this site change the name to "Lifestyle Heaven" ?
Either that, or they should not allow singles and the option of threesomes.
We will always find something to show displeasure towards, and that is probably the (single) biggest reason for single members not having much success on sites such as this.
so while I fully understand what you have written (and almost fully agree) I have however thought that maybe when we say, think or even write the "we are not all the same" heartfelt plea, that we are in fact actually just implying that "all couples" are the same . . . . . in the way they view the single guys!
So, does it have to be reported before it gets corrected?
he is definitely a "stronger" man than me, I flinched just watching it happen, he never even budged . . . . . .
yet, in the words of Rodrigues . . . "I wonder" . . . . .
So another visit down the EC way, and yet again, I am pleasantly surprised by the EC people
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