The 'lifestyle' is not only about 'sex in groups or as much sex as possible'....the lifestyle is, simply put, about anyone who lives/wants experiences that are not within the boundaries of/accepted in normal society.
It covers everything from voyeurism to fetishes and everything in-between.
Being interested in the lifestyle or being part of the lifestyle does not mean that normal decency/respect/manners are no longer required or even important.
For those lifestylers who are interested in sex, it may be prudent to note that as a variety of sexual partners and encounters are abundantly and freely available, these lifestylers may be even more discerning than your average vanilla person.
Hope this helps?
Hugz
Mrs Cat
There are a 1000 different answers to this question, as people try to box the lifestyle into their desires and belief structures.
We as a couple first and foremost see the lifestyle as a belief system where we respect each others individuality and needs, of which sex is only one part, we try to find the balance between been a loving couple that is there for one another yet acknowledges as humans we cannot fulfill each and every area of our partners needs and desires as individuals.
We live our lives behind masks, with family, vanilla friends and at work. In the company of lifestyle friends we can remove those masks, be ourselves and breath.
I often hear people referring to the lifestyle as just about sex, and from our perspective that is furthest from the truth, Sure there are times when the sexual side is on the front burner but we have built friendships that go far beyond a quick shag every now and again. These people have integrated our family and children into their everyday lives, we laugh, joke, fight and cry together. We are honest with each other to the point most friendships would fall apart, and all this because we have exposed our true selves, we know each others strengths and weaknesses.
The friends we have made in the lifestyle are like family to us, I don't believe there is anything we would not do for these people.
Yes we enjoy the sexual side but for us the lifestyle is a package deal, Built on respect and honesty first between ourselves as a couple at the center then moving our to include our friends and others.
@ nawtycat and Mike .. Thank you so very much. Your explanation makes a lot of sense to me.
As with every thing else in life, this will take time for me and hubby to find compatible people, in the mean time I will not take things so serious and try to relax and enjoy what is to offer on here.
xxx
In your profile, you list your "partner" as a gay 94 year male. In the same profile you give the link to your partners profile which states he is a 54 year old straight male.
This alone is bound to result in people taking the piss out of your profile.
hi thanks,, I have added his details.. I am still working on the essay of an profile. ugh.
