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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 55
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My understanding is as follows: Group sex is several men and women. A gang-bang is one woman and several men (or one man and several women for a reverse gangbang) Perhaps you have highlighted something that a number of people "don't really know" as far as the ticks on their profiles go.
Quote by Ian_McHerbe
I wanted to do two things with this post.
1) Address the stubborn disregard for other people's preferences. And lending my support to the freedom that, I believe the site offers.
2) Create a good "first impression" to other forum contributors...
I guess im still unsure on whether I was successful in doing any of that at all....

As far as I am concerned, you were successful in your endeavour . . . .
So my 50cents would be . . . . . This little old place we call earth is full of little old beings called humans, who in turn are full of little old things called . . . .. opinions, . . . (and you should I was going to make reference to feces) This is all good and well, the only problem being that one individual does not take too kindly to another individual not sharing his or her particular opinions. While I cannot say anything regarding the Chatroom as I have not spent more than 3 minutes at any given time in there, the Forum (as Irish mentioned) has a similarly identical reaction from members, and while it can be a little long in the tooth sometimes, it often serves as a good way to see some of the contributors "true colours" My old argument was always, "Show me I am Wrong, don't Tell me I am Wrong" as I have no doubt that I cannot possibly have it all figured out, but that more often than not just lands up with another person saying they are "offended" and the topic at hand gets passed over . . . . (reference to your "debate" part of posting) As for your comments about the couple profiles in the Chatroom. . . . . on the forum it's 90% about the "single male"
Much like the many different "published articles" on penis size which all seem to have a little more than slight variances, this is more than likely another "topic" that may just go round and round without ever having the words "might be or may actually be or scientists think" replaced by the words " the fact is" . . . . And anyway, does the article mention how many "volunteers" they had for the research? How they were selected? How the "squirt" was brought on . . . . . yes, yes, yes, I will go and read the article to find out. Also have to wonder where the funds come from for such research . . . . To the ladies that do indeed squirt and to the ladies who are still trying to learn how to, please don't let this be a deterrent to you, as C of @KC says, it's a wonderful pleasurable part of sex for her and indeed for us all.
Quote by Stamina
Don't we all wish that sex was just a click away... The Internet makes many promises but delivers on very few. In the real world, you have to work pretty damn hard to get a leg over as a single male. It's like lotto dude: You know you have little chance of winning but you buy your ticket every week...

If it was "just a click away" sites like this would not have people like us spending so much time either entertaining or being entertained by others . . . . .
Oh, and just to help you with the definition of "single male" young man, it refers to boys who do not have a permanent girl . . . . (especially ones they buy cars for) . . . . . wink
Quote by malletjie_cpt
how many guys are actually into this?
i find it very arousing... does this make me gay?

No, it makes you honest wink
Everyone is welcome in the Forum. Some may not agree with what you say, and you may not agree with what others say, but welcome you are.
@KC, reading your experience, I have to sit and wonder just how many times people (that's us) have had something like this happen and we simply interpreted it as "Flirting Fun" and did not take it seriously enough. How many times did a "situation" just need the tiniest of pushes from "our" side to make it happen . . . . Yes, I suppose those that have "swinging" experience may not have too many opportunities slip them by, but what about before the so called experience . . . . .
Quote by Stamina
Topless male waiters??? Yuk! Please tell me where this pace is so I can avoid it at all costs! lol :lol:

Ja Ja Ja Ja . . . Stamina, we all know you want to know where it is so you can apply for a part time job . . . .rotflmao
Very interesting takes from @Chatterbate & @Sofistikitty. @Sofistikitty, one of the biggest mistakes men make (in my opinion) is that they read crap in magazines and on-line and wherever about how to "please women" and just about everything available to read is how they should pay more (much more) attention to the clit . . . Perhaps if we as the male of the species, pay a little more attention to the lady we were with (as opposed to ourselves) we might actually "hear" what we are being told.
Quote by Mike_Pta
I think we all have an antivirus program on our PC`s.....but is it enough???

I'm not gonna pretend it's full proof but if you get one of those Internet ones it helps. In Google it will point out which sites are safe and so via a green tick next to to name in a Google search. Those ones normally monitor your Internet and prevent programs being install etc.
@Mike_Pta, I would agree with you, but only 98%.
the problem with PC users is that we are always in too much of a hurry, so we seldom read what is on the pop up screen or info squares on the PC and just simply click yes or next or whatever they have there.
Most (if not all) the AV or Monitoring software programmes available have their own little agenda, so for those that don't know the process quite as well as people like Mike_Pta, I would suggest you try and exercise a little more patience and read what the screens say and be in less of a hurry to see the booby pics . .
Saveways has a hole in the stall about the size of a toilet roll holder, it is not cleanly cut, and seems to be from a screw that pulled out from the wood (smaller holes right next to it as well) I personally think that it is just that people want a glory hole to be available, and this is actually not an intended glory hole. Anyway, I think the cuts & scratches you are likely to get from this particular hole would be frightening. Of course, seeing as I have zero Glory Hole experience and I am actually only just giving my owm opinion here, it may well be an active Glory Hole. Please do let the rest of us MP people know if it is in-fact an active Glory Hole . . .
Quote by Sofistikitty
I don't know if I like receiving, it is enjoyable but I worry about how I taste and smell. Sometimes guys focus on the clit, I hate that I don't see the point( well, for me) they flick it and I hate that feeling. I have recently received oral from behind...now that was something! But I usually decline, its not a biggy for me I guess. Have to really like u or be in another zone to allow it. Sigh

Your comments are exactly what I was hoping for @Sofistikitty, thank you for your insight into what I would suggest us males (well in fairness & females) take into consideration the next time our heads are buried between someone's legs.
Quote by LeeEC
Sex is SUPPOSED to take time! Well good sex is...
I enjoy receiving BUT lack of skill is VERY noticable, but more frustrating is lack of ability to follow instructions or encouraging moans! There is DEFINITELY something called a very weak attempt at cunnilingus! It's not something I expect from others, I do however make a considerable effort to ensure I taste good!
I don't mind giving in most cases, but I firmly reserve my right to refuse (or to refuse to swallow or have it sprayed in my hair...).
I don't think I'm very good at it, though my husband refutes this, I do however believe there's such a thing as being good at "doing" someONE specific... everyone has their own likes and dislikes in this department too...
It's not something I crave or desire and I certainly have no desire to swallow specifically... but don't mind if the chap in question actually has some secret knowledge of how to make it taste better than drain cleaner!
Generally I find, swinging does make it easier to make your wants known (or at least gets you into the habit of voicing them)

Sorry @Mike_Pta, despite my best efforts to keep the subject matter for at least one page, it appears that someone has decided they were not prepared to wait until page 2 before changing the course of the forum topic.
Quote by EasyGuy80
No luck so far.....a lot of Bullshitters here and trolls, or as you like to call them Lurkers. Must say the chatroom is extremely dull and boring, could use some spicing up.

I almost never go into the Chatroom, so I cannot comment on how dull and boring it is.
A lot of those so called "Bullshitters" are more likely just scared people, who are still working towards taking that big step.
So when a person asks another person or a few persons (people) a question, they tend to get a largely accurste answer but seldom 100% from all questioned . . . . . people tend to give the type of answer they think you expect to hear. What I would like to know is, what is your take on oral sex? As in: Ladies, do you really like receiving or is it a non issue either way for you? Men (and Stamina) do you really like receiving or is it a non issue for you? Myself, I really like getting, however, there is such a thing as a "bad suck" and those I tend to stop rather early on. Please, can we leave the "I like to give" part out for now (@Mike_Pta will hijack the thread on page 2 for that)
So I found a place . . . . . . I myself, have been getting a little, @PIB1 has informed us she chooses NOT to get some (at the moment) We all know @Stamina has NOT been getting some, and from reading between the lines @Mike_Pta is ALWAYS getting some (& probably wants a break to recover) wink So how about you? had any positive meets via the site recently? Ooops, nearly forgot (insert edit here) @Redbruce may or may not have been watching some lately lol
Quote by Adonis
Its of great value that a discussion on racism are aloud in the form, now we can give our input on a tread where it is not aloud on other sites.
Can even hear how did the corrupted tender proses work in this beautiful country of us. That we call democracy.

The corrupt tender process is not unique to our country, this happens all over the world. (our country just can't seem to control it at all)
By definition, even the Zimbabwean government falls under the description of democracy.
I need to find a place where I can talk about sexual behaviour again . . . . :idea: Apart from the sexual acts imparted on us by certain policies that is . . . .
Quote by Sofistikitty
Erm what was this thread about again?

Non coloured people who exercise their right not to engage in sexual activity with non Caucasian people . . . . . . but to put it in worldly terminology . . . RACISM
Quote by Mike_Pta

I know it sucks but it happens. I'm sure he approached you not knowing about the BEE level.
Still he can lose his job over a flawed tender. Send me a PM and I will tell you how to proceed next time.

@Mike_Pta, they all know very well about the processes. They also know that it's an easy way to make a quick buck. The guy who tendered and won the contract was surely given the estimate and simply added a few percent for himself.
Any company who submits a tender for any work, simply has to follow the tender rules as stipulated in the contract document, then they are fully covered. If they submit false info then they are exposing themselves.
Quote by Mike_Pta
I'm not gonna discuss the pro's vs con's of BEE. However I have done audits for the AG and i've read up on SCM policy as required to audit procurement tenders. All I'm saying is that stamina's story has no evidence of corruption or any wrong doing and technically if he got the contract despite the lack of BEE credentials he would be liable for tender fraud.

Mike_Pta, it is made clear at tender advert stage what is required as far as things like what BEE level contributor is required. If a person does not meet the requirements they are wasting their time (and money) even submitting a tender. HOWEVER, if the customer asks you directly to submit a proposal, then that is a different story altogether.
I wear one from time to time, but in all honesty, I either don't understand what it's supposed to do, or I am doing something wrong, or I . . . well, basically I don't find they make a big difference . . . . (to me that is)
Quote by amethyst
You say dont jump to corruption so quickly, as per the topic,how is this racism then?

because social responsibility (BEE) only benefits a specific ethnic demographic, and specifically excludes certain others
Quote by amethyst
Sexual preference is not racism... B.E.E, affirmative action, employment equity, land redistribution, area name changes, free services paid for by the working class, RDP houses handed out like candy while we must pay for our houses, the current labour laws, etc, etc, etc.... Now that's racism!
Racism disguised as "righting the wrongs of the past".
Let me tell you a story: I was approached by the Police Training College in Benoni. They asked me to tender on a contract to modify 36 vehicles for training purposes. I filled in the documents and submitted my quotation. I was told that my quotation is the best out of 7 quotes. My work carries a great reputation. I am the only person in the country with knowledge and experience to undertake the work as it is a specialised trade and I do hold the bulk of the market in South Africa... Yet I was denied the contract as I was not level 7 BBE! That was the reason given.
I have a patent on my product and I have manufacturing and installing dual controls and hand controls in cars for 14 years. There are three people in the country that do this, the other two are backyard and a large percentage of my orders are me removing their systems and fitting mine. I get cars from all over the country and even from African countries. It truly is a specialised trade.
I was then contacted a month later by a man who repairs breaks in cars. He asked me to quote on fitting dual control systems in 36 vehicles for the S.A.P. As he was awarded a contract but has no clue how to manufacture and install these systems.. Guess what, he was a black man. I denied him my services obviously... Do not talk to me about racism!
It's on now... :twisted:

That is not racism it is corruption. There is a difference!!!!!
That is not corruption, that is the laws of this country, put in place to ensure the betterment of a specific race. That is racism, does not matter how you look at it, it's racist. And this is all done in the name of "equality" . . .
recently a guy was caught by two mini bus taxi drivers (here where I live) trying to steal a Mercedes from a parking lot. When they asked him what he was doing he simply said "I am stealing a white persons car, what is your problem?" nonetheless, the two taxi drivers kicked the crap out of him and handed him over to the police, but there is yet another example of just exactly who is racist in this rainbow nation of ours. Let me know if you would like me to forward the newspaper clipping about this incident.
Quote by amethyst
It's simple and I state fact, this issue is more prevalent in South african society in general due to our past, compared to other countries in the world..

This countries past was not my fault, it was not my children's fault, hell, it was not even my parents fault. So why then I ask you, are we having to pay the price for "correcting" the past?
If the good people of SA really want equality, then things have to be equal.
The past will never heal, when the present is continuously reminding us of the past in the manner in which it does.
And I think if one spent a little time in history lessons, one would discover that there are many countries who have worse histories than ours, who have made way more progress than we have.
At the moment, "Racism Sells" that is way you cannot even read the international SPORTS news without something in it being about racism.
There are people who have no issue with interracial encounters, look for them instead of trying to change the views of those who choose not to.
Disclaimer: These are MY views, based on MY experiences.
You were never blamed @sdmr. I can go into a long debate with you but I see it as fruitless. I think that's part of the problem, is this narrow minded approach. I'm actually a bit surprised at your age because your reasoning, which depicts a level of intellect is not becoming of somebody your age.
Firstly, you have no knowledge what-soever of what I have personally experienced. My age make me old enough to have lived during a portion of the unpleasant past, I happen to be part of the statistics of this countries past.
Secondly, you have just done what most others do when one does do not conform to their views - - - - insulted me.
Quote by Pussinboots1
Oiiiiiiii @ Stamina........you Mister is ready to get some of my CP I love using my bare hands for that.....and it will be for
Saying something awful as what you just did!!!
This IS how I will do it....you lying,( pants down to your feet), over my lap...your still soft cock resting on my closed pink bottom sticking up in the air while you balance yourself on the floor with both hands and your head down facing the floor.
I give an evil smile in anticipation.......
I start of with a soft teasing rub all over your bottom......with my whole hand
then tiiny little pinch between your rectum and your scrotum,
Then I bend forward and blow on your back....
Dare you look behind you, to see when I will start the spanking??
I push your head back down and then run my whole hand over both buttocks UNTILL
I see you relax...I lift my hand and give you sharp stinging
Spank.. Spank.... spank ....spank.......slaps,hurting my hand as I am hurting your bottom.
Then I bend forward and blow on the sting....
rubbing your back and keeping your head down....
Do YOU want more???
Say something like babies are STD/STI `s.......
I love giving Corporal Punishment!!!!

@PIB, you will just have to remember, poor old Stamina does not get any, so the moment you put him over your lap, he is going to make a mess . . . . best make sure you have a waterproof sheet on your legs first . . . . wink
Quote by Stamina

It's on now... :twisted:

Nah, when you go against the grain, the thread gets closed.
I know, but the door swings both ways. Sometimes it is best to let the cat out of the bag. Misconceptions about racism and discrimination are a dime a dozen in this country!
When only half a story gets told, misconceptions will always remain.
Average people like you and I can say all we want about what we have experienced, people don't listen to what we say, they believe the newspapers and even more so, the movies these days. the movies that start out by saying "based on true events" and never "exact recreation of actual events" . . .
Quote by Stamina
It's on now... :twisted:

Nah, when you go against the grain, the thread gets closed.
Quote by amethyst
It's simple and I state fact, this issue is more prevalent in South african society in general due to our past, compared to other countries in the world..

This countries past was not my fault, it was not my children's fault, hell, it was not even my parents fault. So why then I ask you, are we having to pay the price for "correcting" the past?
If the good people of SA really want equality, then things have to be equal.
The past will never heal, when the present is continuously reminding us of the past in the manner in which it does.
And I think if one spent a little time in history lessons, one would discover that there are many countries who have worse histories than ours, who have made way more progress than we have.
At the moment, "Racism Sells" that is way you cannot even read the international SPORTS news without something in it being about racism.
There are people who have no issue with interracial encounters, look for them instead of trying to change the views of those who choose not to.
Disclaimer: These are MY views, based on MY experiences.