Quote by malletjie_cpt
how many guys are actually into this?
i find it very arousing... does this make me gay?
No, it makes you honest
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@KC, reading your experience, I have to sit and wonder just how many times people (that's us) have had something like this happen and we simply interpreted it as "Flirting Fun" and did not take it seriously enough.
How many times did a "situation" just need the tiniest of pushes from "our" side to make it happen . . . .
Yes, I suppose those that have "swinging" experience may not have too many opportunities slip them by, but what about before the so called experience . . . . .
Sex God
Very interesting takes from @Chatterbate & @Sofistikitty.
@Sofistikitty, one of the biggest mistakes men make (in my opinion) is that they read crap in magazines and on-line and wherever about how to "please women" and just about everything available to read is how they should pay more (much more) attention to the clit . . .
Perhaps if we as the male of the species, pay a little more attention to the lady we were with (as opposed to ourselves) we might actually "hear" what we are being told.
Sex God
Quote by Mike_Pta
I think we all have an antivirus program on our PC`s.....but is it enough???
I'm not gonna pretend it's full proof but if you get one of those Internet ones it helps. In Google it will point out which sites are safe and so via a green tick next to to name in a Google search. Those ones normally monitor your Internet and prevent programs being install etc.
@Mike_Pta, I would agree with you, but only 98%.
the problem with PC users is that we are always in too much of a hurry, so we seldom read what is on the pop up screen or info squares on the PC and just simply click yes or next or whatever they have there.
Most (if not all) the AV or Monitoring software programmes available have their own little agenda, so for those that don't know the process quite as well as people like Mike_Pta, I would suggest you try and exercise a little more patience and read what the screens say and be in less of a hurry to see the booby pics . .
Sex God
Saveways has a hole in the stall about the size of a toilet roll holder, it is not cleanly cut, and seems to be from a screw that pulled out from the wood (smaller holes right next to it as well) I personally think that it is just that people want a glory hole to be available, and this is actually not an intended glory hole. Anyway, I think the cuts & scratches you are likely to get from this particular hole would be frightening.
Of course, seeing as I have zero Glory Hole experience and I am actually only just giving my owm opinion here, it may well be an active Glory Hole.
Please do let the rest of us MP people know if it is in-fact an active Glory Hole . . .
Sex God
Quote by Sofistikitty
I don't know if I like receiving, it is enjoyable but I worry about how I taste and smell. Sometimes guys focus on the clit, I hate that I don't see the point( well, for me) they flick it and I hate that feeling. I have recently received oral from behind...now that was something! But I usually decline, its not a biggy for me I guess. Have to really like u or be in another zone to allow it. Sigh
Your comments are exactly what I was hoping for @Sofistikitty, thank you for your insight into what I would suggest us males (well in fairness & females) take into consideration the next time our heads are buried between someone's legs.
Sex God
Quote by LeeEC
Sex is SUPPOSED to take time! Well good sex is...
I enjoy receiving BUT lack of skill is VERY noticable, but more frustrating is lack of ability to follow instructions or encouraging moans! There is DEFINITELY something called a very weak attempt at cunnilingus! It's not something I expect from others, I do however make a considerable effort to ensure I taste good!
I don't mind giving in most cases, but I firmly reserve my right to refuse (or to refuse to swallow or have it sprayed in my hair...).
I don't think I'm very good at it, though my husband refutes this, I do however believe there's such a thing as being good at "doing" someONE specific... everyone has their own likes and dislikes in this department too...
It's not something I crave or desire and I certainly have no desire to swallow specifically... but don't mind if the chap in question actually has some secret knowledge of how to make it taste better than drain cleaner!
Generally I find, swinging does make it easier to make your wants known (or at least gets you into the habit of voicing them)
Sorry @Mike_Pta, despite my best efforts to keep the subject matter for at least one page, it appears that someone has decided they were not prepared to wait until page 2 before changing the course of the forum topic.
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Quote by EasyGuy80
No luck so far.....a lot of Bullshitters here and trolls, or as you like to call them Lurkers. Must say the chatroom is extremely dull and boring, could use some spicing up.
I almost never go into the Chatroom, so I cannot comment on how dull and boring it is.
A lot of those so called "Bullshitters" are more likely just scared people, who are still working towards taking that big step.
Sex God
So when a person asks another person or a few persons (people) a question, they tend to get a largely accurste answer but seldom 100% from all questioned . . . . . people tend to give the type of answer they think you expect to hear.
What I would like to know is, what is your take on oral sex?
As in:
Ladies, do you really like receiving or is it a non issue either way for you?
Men (and Stamina) do you really like receiving or is it a non issue for you?
Myself, I really like getting, however, there is such a thing as a "bad suck" and those I tend to stop rather early on.
Please, can we leave the "I like to give" part out for now (@Mike_Pta will hijack the thread on page 2 for that)
Sex God
So I found a place . . . . . .
I myself, have been getting a little, @PIB1 has informed us she chooses NOT to get some (at the moment) We all know @Stamina has NOT been getting some, and from reading between the lines @Mike_Pta is ALWAYS getting some (& probably wants a break to recover)
So how about you? had any positive meets via the site recently?
Ooops, nearly forgot (insert edit here) @Redbruce may or may not have been watching some lately 
So how about you? had any positive meets via the site recently?
Ooops, nearly forgot (insert edit here) @Redbruce may or may not have been watching some lately Sex God
Quote by Adonis
Its of great value that a discussion on racism are aloud in the form, now we can give our input on a tread where it is not aloud on other sites.
Can even hear how did the corrupted tender proses work in this beautiful country of us. That we call democracy.
The corrupt tender process is not unique to our country, this happens all over the world. (our country just can't seem to control it at all)
By definition, even the Zimbabwean government falls under the description of democracy.
I need to find a place where I can talk about sexual behaviour again . . . . :idea: Apart from the sexual acts imparted on us by certain policies that is . . . .
Sex God
Quote by Mike_Pta
I know it sucks but it happens. I'm sure he approached you not knowing about the BEE level.
Still he can lose his job over a flawed tender. Send me a PM and I will tell you how to proceed next time.
@Mike_Pta, they all know very well about the processes. They also know that it's an easy way to make a quick buck. The guy who tendered and won the contract was surely given the estimate and simply added a few percent for himself.
Any company who submits a tender for any work, simply has to follow the tender rules as stipulated in the contract document, then they are fully covered. If they submit false info then they are exposing themselves.
Sex God
Quote by Mike_Pta
I'm not gonna discuss the pro's vs con's of BEE. However I have done audits for the AG and i've read up on SCM policy as required to audit procurement tenders. All I'm saying is that stamina's story has no evidence of corruption or any wrong doing and technically if he got the contract despite the lack of BEE credentials he would be liable for tender fraud.
Mike_Pta, it is made clear at tender advert stage what is required as far as things like what BEE level contributor is required. If a person does not meet the requirements they are wasting their time (and money) even submitting a tender. HOWEVER, if the customer asks you directly to submit a proposal, then that is a different story altogether.
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Quote by amethyst
Sexual preference is not racism... B.E.E, affirmative action, employment equity, land redistribution, area name changes, free services paid for by the working class, RDP houses handed out like candy while we must pay for our houses, the current labour laws, etc, etc, etc.... Now that's racism!
Racism disguised as "righting the wrongs of the past".
Let me tell you a story: I was approached by the Police Training College in Benoni. They asked me to tender on a contract to modify 36 vehicles for training purposes. I filled in the documents and submitted my quotation. I was told that my quotation is the best out of 7 quotes. My work carries a great reputation. I am the only person in the country with knowledge and experience to undertake the work as it is a specialised trade and I do hold the bulk of the market in South Africa... Yet I was denied the contract as I was not level 7 BBE! That was the reason given.
I have a patent on my product and I have manufacturing and installing dual controls and hand controls in cars for 14 years. There are three people in the country that do this, the other two are backyard and a large percentage of my orders are me removing their systems and fitting mine. I get cars from all over the country and even from African countries. It truly is a specialised trade.
I was then contacted a month later by a man who repairs breaks in cars. He asked me to quote on fitting dual control systems in 36 vehicles for the S.A.P. As he was awarded a contract but has no clue how to manufacture and install these systems.. Guess what, he was a black man. I denied him my services obviously... Do not talk to me about racism!
It's on now... :twisted:
That is not racism it is corruption. There is a difference!!!!!
That is not corruption, that is the laws of this country, put in place to ensure the betterment of a specific race. That is racism, does not matter how you look at it, it's racist. And this is all done in the name of "equality" . . .
recently a guy was caught by two mini bus taxi drivers (here where I live) trying to steal a Mercedes from a parking lot. When they asked him what he was doing he simply said "I am stealing a white persons car, what is your problem?" nonetheless, the two taxi drivers kicked the crap out of him and handed him over to the police, but there is yet another example of just exactly who is racist in this rainbow nation of ours. Let me know if you would like me to forward the newspaper clipping about this incident.
Sex God
Quote by amethyst
It's simple and I state fact, this issue is more prevalent in South african society in general due to our past, compared to other countries in the world..
This countries past was not my fault, it was not my children's fault, hell, it was not even my parents fault. So why then I ask you, are we having to pay the price for "correcting" the past?
If the good people of SA really want equality, then things have to be equal.
The past will never heal, when the present is continuously reminding us of the past in the manner in which it does.
And I think if one spent a little time in history lessons, one would discover that there are many countries who have worse histories than ours, who have made way more progress than we have.
At the moment, "Racism Sells" that is way you cannot even read the international SPORTS news without something in it being about racism.
There are people who have no issue with interracial encounters, look for them instead of trying to change the views of those who choose not to.
Disclaimer: These are MY views, based on MY experiences.
You were never blamed @sdmr. I can go into a long debate with you but I see it as fruitless. I think that's part of the problem, is this narrow minded approach. I'm actually a bit surprised at your age because your reasoning, which depicts a level of intellect is not becoming of somebody your age.
Firstly, you have no knowledge what-soever of what I have personally experienced. My age make me old enough to have lived during a portion of the unpleasant past, I happen to be part of the statistics of this countries past.
Secondly, you have just done what most others do when one does do not conform to their views - - - - insulted me.
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Quote by Pussinboots1
Oiiiiiiii @ Stamina........you Mister is ready to get some of my CP I love using my bare hands for that.....and it will be for
Saying something awful as what you just did!!!
This IS how I will do it....you lying,( pants down to your feet), over my lap...your still soft cock resting on my closed pink bottom sticking up in the air while you balance yourself on the floor with both hands and your head down facing the floor.
I give an evil smile in anticipation.......
I start of with a soft teasing rub all over your bottom......with my whole hand
then tiiny little pinch between your rectum and your scrotum,
Then I bend forward and blow on your back....
Dare you look behind you, to see when I will start the spanking??
I push your head back down and then run my whole hand over both buttocks UNTILL
I see you relax...I lift my hand and give you sharp stinging
Spank.. Spank.... spank ....spank.......slaps,hurting my hand as I am hurting your bottom.
Then I bend forward and blow on the sting....
rubbing your back and keeping your head down....
Do YOU want more???
Say something like babies are STD/STI `s.......
I love giving Corporal Punishment!!!!
@PIB, you will just have to remember, poor old Stamina does not get any, so the moment you put him over your lap, he is going to make a mess . . . . best make sure you have a waterproof sheet on your legs first . . . .
Sex God
Quote by Stamina
It's on now... :twisted:
Nah, when you go against the grain, the thread gets closed.
I know, but the door swings both ways. Sometimes it is best to let the cat out of the bag. Misconceptions about racism and discrimination are a dime a dozen in this country!
When only half a story gets told, misconceptions will always remain.
Average people like you and I can say all we want about what we have experienced, people don't listen to what we say, they believe the newspapers and even more so, the movies these days. the movies that start out by saying "based on true events" and never "exact recreation of actual events" . . .
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Quote by amethyst
It's simple and I state fact, this issue is more prevalent in South african society in general due to our past, compared to other countries in the world..
This countries past was not my fault, it was not my children's fault, hell, it was not even my parents fault. So why then I ask you, are we having to pay the price for "correcting" the past?
If the good people of SA really want equality, then things have to be equal.
The past will never heal, when the present is continuously reminding us of the past in the manner in which it does.
And I think if one spent a little time in history lessons, one would discover that there are many countries who have worse histories than ours, who have made way more progress than we have.
At the moment, "Racism Sells" that is way you cannot even read the international SPORTS news without something in it being about racism.
There are people who have no issue with interracial encounters, look for them instead of trying to change the views of those who choose not to.
Disclaimer: These are MY views, based on MY experiences.
Sex God
People are not racist here, people are just simply racist.
And when, a let's say person of 'non colour' says they will not cross the colour line, they are not being racist, they are simply exercising their right to choose.
but in this country, you only have a right to choose if you are a person of colour.
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Quote by redbruce
I've had a wonderful time since I joined the site. I used to watch the site for a long time before I became a member, reading the stories and checking out the dogging opportunities - but always from a distance. After I registered a profile, I realised how much I had been missing out on by not being able to interact with people. I have met so many really nice people since being on here, some just for drinks and a chat (I love sharing experiences), some to watch at play, and some even to play with! I have also NEARLY met some equally lovely people (and she knows who she is!), and there are a few others where we are planning to meet and chat as soon as there is an opportunity.
My social circle has diversified and expanded, as has my life-experience! I've seen and done things in the past two and a half years that I really had no expectation of ever experiencing, have some wonderful memories, and I am living life to the full! Being on this site has been a really good experience for me!...
Mr. RedBruce my old friend,
It is wonderful to read your write-up about how succesful your time as a member on this site has been.
What would have made it perfect, was if we could have seen the look of disappointment and dejection on Stamina's face when he read this and realised that another male member was also enjoying immense success from this site . . :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
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Quote by kinky787
anyone in a similar situation? how did u handle it...
its all well n good to be a fantasy but when u n the actual situation gosh freaked out.
lets here from ppl in similar or inbox me and i'll relate the story and get some advise plz
They probably feel exactly the same way you do about it . .
Sex God
A large percentage of the couple life-stylers (on this site) have indicated that a threesome is one of their desired activities.
To do this, you need an odd number of people. The couple makes two and then depending on the said couples requirements, another male or female would make three. . (som).
The same life-stylers as referred to earlier, also very often state that they are not interested in married people playing alone . . . . . hence the "opportunity" for the single member on sites such as this one.
Of course, the same aforementioned life-stylers are the first to bitch and moan about the single members. The same as those who tick straight male (which means single) and then rant and rave because males are contacting them all the time . . .
Ok, I've said enough . . . well not really, I just have to go and get my daily quota of gallery browsing in . . .
