Good topic - thank you.

I would guess married men, generally,  would be more discreet. The "issue" with married men, often, is their availability. Married men often ask for 'day time fun' and if that does not suit the couple(s) it could be a 'problem'. Getting away for a weekend could also be difficult.

As for judging married men on this site. Really? After all, this a a swingers' site, not so. Judgement and a swinger's life style do not compliment each other well.

Most of us set standards ito hygiene. My bar is set quite high. Most times, you sense (sometimes literally!) hygiene issues from the outset. However, I have been faced (more than once) with a situation of bad hygiene 'on the day'. Mostly smell, but once or twice also extreme un-shaved legs. Pubic hair is different to me, providing that it is clean. The question is : what do you do in a situation like that ?! It feels very rude to pull a pantie back up, soon after you have pulled it down. Besides, sometimes (I guess) the lady really cannot help the smell, whether it be close to her periods or for whatever other reason. There once was this gorgeous lady, and only after much effort from my side, she finally agreed. My face was right there at her vulva area when I pulled her pantie down…and the bad smell hit me like seldomly before. And no matter how hard I tried, my erection was gone. If, however, I could manage to retain my erection, would I have continued ? I am not sure, but I don’t think so. But what if it was only a temporary problem? How acceptable would it be to tell her and to offer her a shower or a bath?

I don’t know.

What do you think ?

Sometimes, just sometimes, it is better if it happens from the outset, so you can draw a line through their name and never ever invite them again. A few years back I arranged a meet & greet at a local strip club. They opened an hour earlier for our benefit and set up a lady to show the women pole dance moves, etc, etc.   Specific couples were invited and they had to RSVP, as a minimum number of guests was part of the arrangement with the club owners. In came a couple (i.e. before official opening time), went sitting at a remote spot from where they watched us. A weeks later it came out that they were one of the couples who accepted the invite. They never mingled with us, nor introduced themselves - just perved all evening long. That is one step worse than not pitching. A year or 2 later when we had a regular group going, their begging fell on (completely) deaf ears.

"this does actually exist in the LS. we are one of those couples. the more she loses her inhibitions, the more turned on I get. the more fun she has, the more fun I have. the more of a slut she becomes for that time being, the more I want her."

I do realize the existence of the scenario you sketched. The question, though, is : How many women have COMPLETE freedom ? I.e. to hook up with anyone of their choice, anywhere to her choice AND the choice of either having or not having her partner present...

"That sums it up doesn`t it. All that is required is for men to grow up an realise this."

Yes, most important. I guess what I tried to emphasize is that it could actually be easier for women to operate from within a relationship providing that have full freedom - something all women should have.

Most women (I think!!) adore security. They just love it. And they flower within…But does it necessarily give them the freedom to express their sexuality ..?  Does it give them the freedom to express their feminine side in public…? Does it allow them to flirt unconditionally….? To let those high heels click-clack with confidence…? Or is she continuously wondering what hubby would say..? How he would react..? Is she looking over her shoulder all the time..?

Having said that, I do think many men have been changing their views on the monogamy life style - the idea of "she is mine". The hotwife idea has become more and more popular. More men would love to see their women flirting with others. Would love to see her thoroughly enjoy being a woman – and enjoy all the attention that comes with it.

One of my petty pleasures in life, is to see her (any woman) enjoying the receipt of sexual pleasure,…to watch her loosing control…. If the man's ultimate goal is for her to receive so much pleasure that it would completely blow her mind, then surely it becomes unimportant how she gets there..? I.e. by your stimulation or by someone else's ?  If I would be walking in public with a lady and she tells me she would love to jerk off that guy (or that one!) standing there….I would approach him on her behalf and ask him whether he is interested. I would just like to be there, too. But even that is not the end of the world. Thing is: if she is allowed to freely express her sexuality, I would be the person that ultimately benefit most….

 Back to security: A woman that is allowed to flirt freely WITHIN a sphere of security, i.e. a marriage or a relationship within which she is allowed to flirt, would become your ultimate beautiful, confident and sexy woman….

I think....