So me and wifey have been looking for a while now to add a lady to our lifestyle regularly and let it develope into more but can not seem to find that unicorn 

Has any couple found that unicorn and could you give us advice how to locate them 

And has any couple been in a throuple please do share your experience 

Throuple meaning 3 people in a relationship 

We have the black ring and it does work we have had a few naughty experiences from just wearing it but not all lifestylers know about the black ring 

I don't know in South Africa if the signs are the same but overseas the is alot like the upside down pineapple the black wedding band on your right hand ankle bracelet and yes the is swinger jewelry with a specific sign

Have not seen any in South Africa except for the black wedding band on the right hand 

We have also notice and the last month it's gotten more I think it's one person you have to be so careful alot of crazy out Der

Hi so we picked on a new trend on sh and just thought we should share it 

A few single lady profiles and some couples profile we have picked up are single guys acting like the single lady and the couple and vouching for the profile and if you like us we usually prefer chatting to profiles that have vouchers for but we learnt now that it's not always turst worthy so be careful fellow swingers

That sucks your friend should lay a case the new social media laws are very good if your friend didn't consent on the video that person could face jail time

That's why when we play we always book the hotel and never play at someone home we don't know Coz of this exact reason

I just had to reply I know alot of people are going to hate me for this and will probably get blocked but wow der is alot of one track minded people on here who won't accept change and if you can't why not just turn a blind eye and let other people be 

OK so if the meaning of swinging is swapping wives then I guess that's why it's called the lifestyle now because it has evolved from what in the 70s was knowing as swinging to what we see today in the lifestyle 

And I agree cheating F it's wrong and has no place in the lifestyle or swinging 

I got to ask the question the one member said on here that swinging is only for couples and only swapping wives so you telling me you have never played with a single person or had a 3 sum I am curious but once again it comes back to my previous post that swinging or the lifestyle has become about what a couple or a single want it to be not what a book says it should be 

Bottom line is everyone is going to have a different meaning of swinging and the lifestyle everyone will want to live out different fantasies and if I am been honest that's what the lifestyle has become about ask 90% of couples and singles on here why are dey here dey will say to live out fantasies. I have to ask yes that's not swinging to you so does that make them the lowest denomanator becoz it's not your definition of swinging 

I am not fighting just trying to understand your side. 

My wife loves watching men wank and play with dey cocks she not really into men on men but solo wank she does 

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No we have never had a bad swinging experience but it seems here lines are blurred too much, look up definitions of swinging..what is happening here is anything but.....

 I'm curious as to what your definition of swinging is. Please could you elaborate? 

 This is my thoughts on it as a wife of a swinging couple I think the term swinging has  different definitions for every couple 

For me it's basically living out your sexual desires and fantasies and having that openess and honesty to enjoy it with your partner 

For some single people and couples it's sexual exploration doing things out dey comfortzone 

For other couples and stuff it might be away of spicing up dey sex lives so I don't think in today's world you can really find one  definition for swingers everyone sees swinging differently 

But I do however agree that people looking to cheat and looking for a quick one night stand and thinking swinging woman are B*t*h and easy should not be in the lifestyle and unfortunately on this website the is alot of them that think this way 

Just my thoughts on the whole swinging meaning 

Thank you so much for the info we created a fourm wer you could put the scammers names but it was deleted by admin 

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So me and wifey enjoy the strip club lollipop was very nice but it's closed at the moment the other strip club that's nice an friendly is the grand the ladies like couples and the women will give the Mrs alot of attention and you might get lucky with one of the strippers we did plus the is always other couples at the club 

 Thanks. 

Where is The Grand located?

 It's in rivinoa very upmarket and the ladies are very friendly towards couples and also the food at the club is incredible 

 The food! I know right? No one expects it but the spread (not that spread ya damn pervs) is actually really, really good!

 LOL both spreads are good fill your tummy and then fill your sexual desire I would say that's a good night lol 

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So me and wifey enjoy the strip club lollipop was very nice but it's closed at the moment the other strip club that's nice an friendly is the grand the ladies like couples and the women will give the Mrs alot of attention and you might get lucky with one of the strippers we did plus the is always other couples at the club 

 Thanks. 

Where is The Grand located?

 It's in rivinoa very upmarket and the ladies are very friendly towards couples and also the food at the club is incredible 

So me and wifey enjoy the strip club lollipop was very nice but it's closed at the moment the other strip club that's nice an friendly is the grand the ladies like couples and the women will give the Mrs alot of attention and you might get lucky with one of the strippers we did plus the is always other couples at the club 

For me cut dick it just looks soooo much better and much more appealing I don't know of it's only me but giving a cut dick a bj is much better than and uncut dick 

And a cut dick when it's hard and those viens that pop that's a turn on 

lol you not alone I also placed a few ads until a member informed me of the difference 

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We would love to watch a couple Johannesburg area 

 You can come watch us 

for me it doesn’t really matter as long as he is good in bed and can satisfy me

No offense but I have 6 pack goodloooking guys who didn’t know what wer dey doing and then had dad bod men who rocked my world so for me it’s more about what you can do in bed 

it’s not the norm but it does happen we also experienced the male of the couple trying to meet wifey alone and even went as far as wanting to meet during work hours but don’t let a few bad apples spoil your experience 

So I would like to know who is working from home and during working are you and you partner getting kinky 

Me and hubby are both working from home so we decided to have fun recently he was on a zoom meeting so I decided to give him a bj while he was on the meeting the next day I was in a meeting and hubby decided to return the farvour and went down on me when I was coming I accidentally said  don’t stop the person presenting In the meeting said ok I won’t stop lol if dey only knew lol 

clean shaven no hair 

well we consider ourselves a young couple for us the hubby was swinging before we started dating and I was bi curious already and when we started dating we wer very open and honest about wanting to explore our sexual fantasies and it carry’s on into our marriage we married 10 years now and swinging. been open about our sexual fantasies and having the opportunity to experience it with each other has made our marriage strong but also fun and never boring so I don’t think it’s only for couples married a long time and because the older couples are looking for something new it’s for people who want to share the sexual fantasies with dey partner and enjoy it with them no matter what’s the age I honestly don’t think swinging has a age or how along you married limit

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I have a quick question if you a couple what comment is a no no or  turn off because I found with us we enjoy the the dirty comments 

 Us as Well. Dirty Comments and messages are the best. Once in a while we get a comment that oversteps the "dirty" side and comes across as Crude and not sexual at all. 
Luckily it has only happened once but besides that it's open season.

We would also prefer guys to tell us what they Want to do with my wife then sending one word messages. 
You guys have permission to Speak your mind and if we think your idea is kinky and fun, you might get to do it

 totally agree with you some guys have gotten lucky from dey dirty comments or saying what dey would like to do to wifey 

I have a quick question if you a couple what comment is a no no or  turn off because I found with us we enjoy the the dirty comments 

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Well I know us as a couple we live comments on our pics it turns the wife on people comment weather it’s a single guy couple or single woman we enjoy reading it so feel free to comment away on our pics 
Plus I think 90% of people posting pics would love comments 

 Quick question... why would the other 10% not love comments... Lol

 we had a couple let us know that dey don’t like comments and prefer just the like but honestly I don’t know why the other 10% does not like it 

Well I know us as a couple we live comments on our pics it turns the wife on people comment weather it’s a single guy couple or single woman we enjoy reading it so feel free to comment away on our pics 

Plus I think 90% of people posting pics would love comments 

sexy lingerie leave them always wanting more I guess it’s been a tease 

love it it’s a big turn on

Sh members have sent us a few cum tributes and I get very wet watching it an some have got the farvour returned 

yes it has to be all parties 100% in them it can be a lot of fun we been to a private party with 6 couples including us and it we a kinky awesome time because all the couples wer on the same wave length and that’s why we love it 

Hi so we love having 3 or more couples at a time it’s alot of fun has any couples experience this and are you guys fans of it 

The thing of race for me some couples put it Der for other couples to accept them we have played with many couples who say do not cross the racial barrier but what irritates me is those couples that say we don’t cross but will send you a msg saying can we play with your wife that I feel is bullshit but everyone journey is different 

And we respect its dey decision but like I said most of them do cross the race barrier will play with you and this is from our personal experience