Monte is a good idea especially the Palazzo the pool is nice and you can get a message at the pool plus if you looking for fun of the swinging kind alot of swingers don't stay far from monte

Dancing I would say katzys but again depending on your kinda music taste and what kinda fun you looking for

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I always thought it was an anklet.... I bought all kinds of different designs only to never be approached 🤣🙊

So a costal friend of ours said most surfer ladies wear anklet so it's not always a clear sign of a hot wife I guess

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Does help that you're such a sexy couple.

Thank you and so are you guys

So over December me and hubby did ABIT of an experiment with the black rings we purchased the black rings for both of us on our trip to Sun city we had it on the entire weekend and surprisingly it worked especially in the casino we had 1 single guy approach us and surprisingly we had 2 couples ask if we were in the lifestyle

So I guess the black rings do still work I think next going to try the pineapple

So Friday night we went to FH and saw dey have something new door signs that you hang outside the door of the room you playing in we found it interesting and really loved it it's such an awesome idea

But we did notice a bunch of single guys just checking every sign it was funny

Some of the signs

single male welcome

single female welcome

Couple welcome

Privacy please

Would love to see clubs maybe do something wer you wear bands that show what you open to on the night so it will make it easier to approach the right couples or singles

Well both of us prefer clean shaved it just feels soo much better and you enjoy it more when giving oral

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I have a question....is anyone allowed to fuck anyone or is permission req

Yes permission is a must but believe me when all are on board and everyone is playing with everyone it's a erotic experience which you going to want more of

We have done it at the Palazzo at Monte the room service waiter did not mind the wife in lingerie he looked complimented and left sandton sun late at night can be fun in the hallways and it all over looks the bar downstairs and sandton sun windows is a nice place to have sex in front of

But just remember most of these hotels have hallway cameras 😈so you giving the security a show

Yes I did and I video it for hubby and sent it to him the chance you might get got made me sooo wet and I came quick

It's a difficult one we notice if the single lady is bi she is more into the Mrs approaching her but lately approaching singles ladies as a couple has worked for us dey find it intriguing that we share as a couple and that had worked lately

But I do know the swinger club Nexus you can book rooms at for playing during day and by the hour that's what another member told us we have not try yet

Hi we like Sandton sun coz you can enter from the mall and skip reception and we have never had a problem. you will just have to meet them at the bar coz you need your room key to get up to the rooms

Hi so we met this couple in the swinger club chatted and flirted it was fun but it never lead to the us playing this was about 2 months back

Fast forward to now we bump into eachother in a mall a very vanilla setting so me and wife stop and greet and make small chat and walk away

I am curious to know if you as a couple or singles bump into someone in a vanilla setting what do you do it's a very blurry line I feel with most people wanting to keep the lifestyle and dey vanilla life separately

Would love to hear other perspectives and stories

The black rings is a fashion statement now so it's difficult to spot if dey swingers or wearing it for fashion but also alot of people are discreet and don't want other people to know

Oh the is a necklace that you can buy from a swinger website but not seen anyone in SA wearing it

So we took the leap and to our surprise the wife's best friend was into it and told us she already had fantasies about both of us and it turned into one of our most memorable FMF

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Are there still meet and greets? I remember before Covid there were regular meet and greets in both Jhb and CT but I don’t see them that often anymore.

Yes Der is but not as much anymore

Hi so has any swingers crossed this line before we have the opportunity but still discussing it what do my fellow swingers think

Definitely girth I like them thick I want to feel you

Hi

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We have found, going to "Meet and Greets" helps A single lady needs your trust and even friendship. We have many single lady friends, But it took time to build that relationship, we all here to carry out our fantasies in a safe comfortable trusted relationship. Set up a meeting in a public place and have a drink and chat and then see where it goes, otherwise go to a escort agency. A lady in the lifestyle has to be shown trust and respect.

Hi agree meet and greets are a great way of meeting single ladies and build trust you must understand for a single lady it's a risk just meeting a couple especially if you got no vouchers or anything especially with all the fake and bullshitters on this site

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Well. Its easy to believe that you have no shows. Maybe your attitude or approach is wrong. Looking at the compliment we send you and you dindnt eve say thank you it might be that you need to change your attitude

Well thank you for your feedback unfortunately I don't see anyone replying to compliments on photos if you sent us a msg then we would reply

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It's more difficult to find a real cuckold/hotwife couple. Tho I have found a few. Not a stag/hotwife but the real deal cuckold couple

We have found some amazing bulls from sh and unfortunately also had a few not pitch up

I think everyone has different opinions and definition on cuckold and hot wives so its hard to say you cannot find real ones

Group play is awesome as long as everyone is on board and everyone is willing to play with everyone it can be one of the most erotic experience you can have and you can have soo many fantasies happen in a group experience

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What makes it fun?

A good flirt last time we went had a very nice flirt with some touching at the VIP stage area and by the strippers

Hi anyone going to the sexpo jhb this weekend

You guys think it will be fun this year

Hi hotels are your best option and it adds some excitement into the meet

The is alot of hotels in the West rand you can use

Hi so I am curious what does the sh community prefer to see in ladies pics do you like sexy lingerie or naked or maybe you just want to see a ladies boobs or pussy or even feet I see alot of guys like feet pics

I know my hubby prefer sexy lingerie he says it's a tease and keeps the mind wondering what is underneath that sexy lingerie

What does the sh community prefer

Preach on

If you reply instantly members think it's a yes to playing

If you don't reply you are stuck up

Also agree members need to remember you have a whole life off sh and you might take a while to reply or even meet

Oh and don't get me started on the crazy msgs a guy asked me can he pee on my boobs and that was his first msg to me

But hey don't let a few rotten apples spoil your fun coz the is some really genuine and fun people on sh

Hi so this is the question has anyone been blocked by members you have not spoken to?

Our theory is it might be people we know and I tell you why we met a couple that we know very well in our vanilla life at a swingers club and dey admitted to blocking us on sh

Oh we have also been blocked because dey thought our profile was fake 😂

what are your theories and have you been blocked

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A qualified yes. Not about to proposition our close friends but if the conversation with a friend goes in that direction and it becomes a mutual agreement as per the arrangement with my lady, then yes. Many lifestylers would probably agree with my next point. We are already playing with close friends, even if we first met them in the lifestyle and they then became close friends. Some really beaut souls in the lifestyle that I keep close to me even if we no longer play.

Definitely agree lifestyle friends to be come real friends but dey knew all along who you guys are swingers. with a vanilla friend I guess it's the thrill of them finding out the nervous tension of the first time maybe converting a vanilla friend or couple into the lifestyle maybe even a fantasy you had of your partner's spouse coming to reality that thrill makes it's a huge turn on

It's crazy how many couples have stories about wanting to play with vanilla friends I love your story @justpurefun

So for us it's definitely a huge turn on the thinking and talking about it