I am going against my better judgement and say adonis that is a very narrowminded thought process and a very weak analogy.
Comparing people to cars. I know people that wanted cars in a certain colour but the waiting list was too long. They simply then took the car in another colour.
Or what if you get a really good deal on a car but its blue instead of green, i assume you would rather pay full price for green.
Read between the lines. Im slim athletic built and my preference is the same. However i dont discount people cos they may have extra kilos. Hell for that matter id rather play with puss above than many of the barbies on here.
Thank you for your very polite response.
For me its been neither money or material, but boils down to respect. If you respect the people you wish to meet. You will ensure when meeting you are clean and presentable. Money, clothes, showers, skin colour is not the mark of an individual it is rather his character.
On your point i said i have never come across and yes you pointed out your own answer in the ratio.
Lets look at it from their point of view, nobody wanting to play with them so why waste their time? Posdibility not fact but did we think that.
I contemplated saying no whites on my profile out of frustration but soon realised that i would be none the better. And if i am the principled person that i am i would defeat the purpose of my own rant.
My point is not the side issues rather if we were all inclusive we could have a much better time.
In fact i am actually meeting a couple who said that they not prepared to cross the race barrier, yet after getting to know me the woman really liked me and is very eager to meet.
My point is give us a chance we may just surprise you.
Ok so i really want to give input on a matter, call it a rant..call it frustration. Call it what you want but i think that this is the forum to do so.
Before i made contact with anybody, i wrote my profile body. I sat, thought hard about what i wanted to get across and how i wanted the reader to view Me and form an opinion about me.i then took two pics, one face and one down there.
I would find a profile that i like.,Introduce myself, say why their profile caught my eye, a bit about me etc. No sex talk, no wanna fuck etc yet i hardly get a reply.
I do but the hit rate is very low which brings me to my second point.
please try to see my point before slandering my post.
I respect that people have preferences. Being in this lifestyle i would like to make friends whether we play or not. It is an expectation free social evening for drinks or coffee or whatever.
So to all the open minded people, you seem to write me off immediately based on the colour of my skin without getting to know who i am. I am not going to force you to play with me. Alot of you say lf nothing happens atleast we will be friends.
My dad is a surgeon. As a kid i lived in one of the most sought after neighbourhoods in ct. I went to a white school. Educated at UCT, worked as a CA in muti national corporations.
I shower twice a day, brush my teeth twice a day, well groomed. I shave under my arms and down there. I smell good and dress well.
I am a higher rate tax payer and live comfortably. I am extremely smart, photographic memory can hold a conversation. Try me.
Yet you wont even consider me based on the colour of my skin. Our form as humans are the same.
If you deluded to think that playing whites only you not going to encounter rude, dirty , ill mannered people you in for a surprise. Its an individual you busy with not the entire race.
Every race has good and bad people. Maybe try a different approach to meeting people and everybody will see a better site and lifestyle. If you dont want to go ahead with anything then fine. Thats good and we respect that just dont discount people before meeting them.
Last thing if somebody had taken the time to send you a decent message then have the decency to reply even if its no thank you.
PS i dont send the above when messaging people. I tailor it to whats In their profile.
Discussion over. So this is not me calling anybody a racist. Im not slandering anybody. But this is only found in SA. Ask me i have been around. I am yet to find a black, coloured or indian Profile that says they exclusive or their race.
Maybe im less intelligent to see the wisdom.
I think magic has hit the nail on the head. I for one believe in respect no matter who the other individual is.
Whether the person is black, white, fat, thin. Whether they sweep streets or they are bill gates. No man is different or better. Treat others in the way you want to be treated.
Out of curiosity ive gone through many profiles and unfortunately alot of single males see this site as a quick lay which brings the small minority of good single males into that same bracket as the aforementioned.
I must also point out that clubs are cliquey. So if you know a couple that attends parties, get them to invite you as their guest. Going with them immediately elevates you into a different bracket vs every other single guy.
Uhm im a single male and i read it. I can hardly call it insightful. Its really common sense? Is it not?
If guys need to be taught this then what world are we living in?
My response is based on my experience in the lifestyle as a single male. I also belong to the uk version which is a paid site.
I feel that alot of the single male issues will be resolved and numbers reduced. This entails only leaves serious single males, those actually wanting to be a part of the lifestyle vs quick fuck mentality.
Paying will not guarantee a higher success rate if you an arsehole but it will eliminate the riff raff.
Apart from extremes on super small or super huge i believe that sex is far more than just penetration.
In my experience in order to seduce a woman....there is a thing called intellectual stimulation. If you get that right it doesnt matter how big small you are.
Woman want to be seduced not just boned. In fact for me sex starts at foreplay a total body experience. Penetration is just penetration if you catch my drift.
It also depends on how at ease she is and how wet she is as well as how considerate the guy is.
If he just rams it in then yes it will hurt but if you take your time to stimulate slowly it shouldnt be a problem.
My 2c
My view is no.
If anybody can buy it it takes the fun/challenge out of the whole equation for me which is a deal breaker irrespective of how hot you are.
If you the type that needs to put in and cum then you probably in the wrong place on this site for the most part.
I for one, as a single man would like to know what couples seek in a single male.
I send non sexual messages introducing myself and then send album invites at their requests and then never hear from them again.
Now much is often been said about single males yet no matter your age, race etc that a no thank you is common courtesy.
I agree mutual attraction is key but a simple no thank you wont hurt anyone.
Hi guys. If you reading this then thanks for popping by.
So after much deluberation and a knudge from mattleeec im introducing myself.
Most of what you need to know is in my profile. I put some time and thought into writing my intro so dont think i need to re write it. The write up is plain, simple and honest which probably defines me.
Im an ordinary guy with an extraordinary mind, so im not into this for an easy lay.i have my reasons and if you want to know why then inbox me.
Peace out.
