Quote by Pussinboots1
@ SDMR
You should actually always keep salt handy wth an open wound...it is what is used on wounds these days.
Sounds less than comfortable!!!! :shock:
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Quote by VoyeurMan
Also I've been with couples that show everything on their pages and others who don't. Guess who I have better conversations with.
The ones who do more what YOU prefer!!!! I really hope you were not thinking the conversation was better because of their choices???? Its simply because you take a different approach to those profiles
I take every conversation with a pinch of salt.....like this one for instance ;)
Everything should be taken with salt, everything except for an open wound that is.
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Quote by Mike_Pta
Also I've been with couples that show everything on their pages and others who don't. Guess who I have better conversations with.
The ones who do more what YOU prefer!!!! I really hope you were not thinking the conversation was better because of their choices???? Its simply because you take a different approach to those profiles
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And yet when certain other contributors took others "head on" they were told their fortunes ???????
I maybe need to go get the dictionary out and have another look at the meaning of the word "opinion" I might even check the word "undertone" as well!!!
Voyuer man, some things are just not worth it, and yes, the next time you walk through a pub, make sure you have a "Drink" in your hand, or is that also not acceptable?
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Quote by embrasser
We have been isolated so long it is strange for some people to mix sexually and people will naturally navigate to their comfort situations. I have yet to see pda couples listing the proviso of race. about 70 % of profiles are caucasian and of that a significant percentage play within their own race groups. this narrows the search ultimately.
personally, i look for culture, class, manners, all the attributes which will make us compatible. When i was overseas, it is similar although not as blatent.
The difference between SA and "overseas" is that overseas people are "expected" to tolerate each others differences, yet in SA it is only the people of Non Colour who are expected to tolerate people of Colour's differences.
Your statement above (pasting in) "personally, i look for culture, class, manners, all the attributes which will make us compatible" . . . is what the majority of people in this country need to get right (in my opinion)
You have made a choice for yourself, and that is entirely acceptable. But if you had made a choice where you had specifically said that "this or that" was not acceptable to you . . . . . . well now, lets just say you could possibly have been called some very interesting names.
I have said it before and I will say it again, the reason the younger generation, such as High school students (yes, I used the word student) have very little issues with each other is because their use of a common language (English) is on the same level.
Only a blind idiot would think that SA does not have race issues, but I still maintain that the majority of our issues in this country revolve around a language barrier rather than a skin colour. Non Coloured English and Afrikaans (isn't white a frigging colour?) speaking people even have issues with each other, but because their skin colour is the same, it is not looked at as a racist issue, but rather as some form of disagreement.
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Quote by LeeEC
My best suggestion is to mail them and ask them.
Chances are they themselves will have to think about it.
I'd venture that vast majority of swingers in S.A. have never really come in contact with people who are Chinese, let alone been offered the opportunity to meet or play with Chinese folk.
It's good to calculate into your perspective on rascism (or race avoidance which may be more accurate in a lot of cases), that most people are indoctrinated in terms of their viewpoints, and if not, their perspective will be inextricably entwined with experience.
Usually meaningful contact must happen between groups to birth prejudice.
S.A. people largely have very little meaningful interactions- as yet, with Chinese folk (although Zuma's latest antics may change that significantly in the near future), and as such I expect that in most cases folk will be open to you.
I think LeeEC's usage of the phrase "Race Avoidance" is pure genius and it should be used way more often.
As far as Zuma's latest antics though, I think there is more chance of the existing Chinese people in SA feeling some of that "Race Avoidance" as opposed to feeling more welcome by the people of SA.
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Quote by kinkychinese
hi guys,
As we browse through the profile,
We cam across lots of profile tht says
"Apologies, but we dint cross racial line"
My ques is, where do my partner n i come in?
As there r so few other chinese cpls around....
If we try to reach out to the above cpl,
Does it consider to b rude?
Or who can help us to classifiy which "race" do we fall under....
Tks!
You could be opening yourself up to a mountain of "forum abuse" here. The race topic is never allowed to go past more han a few responses, so let me get my thoughts in before its locked.
People (well most of them anyway) who add the racial line comment on their profiles do it to be seen as doing it, as many times one of the first questions people ask you is have you been with a person of another colour. I have no doubt there are a number of other reasons that people add this line, but this is my contribution to your question.
As far as what race you fall under is concerned, it depends how you look at it. The SA government is very clear as to their classification of Chinese people, which does have a large number of people in SA from a different race group a little upset.
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If only our country was policed like this.
I am almost speechless, almost, but never completely.
FFS, if one puts "stupid" comments on a PUBLIC website, one is surely looking for random abusive comments, or at the very least be expecting some. BUT NO, this is SA, we don't say anything about anything in case we offend people ( did you see how I showed how I was 'almost' speechless there)
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Quote by Adonis
Sit and wonder, looking at this add of a 25 year old male, what can his success rate be to get laid for what he asked for. My own opinion would be that nobody would respond to a add like that, we can be total wrong. Only a question.
"i jus want to fuck someone. wouldn't mind a CD. possibly a couple"
1 in 67000 maybe?
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Quote by Mike_Pta
Men in contrast, tend to be more set in their ways.
The researcher said: “Men are less often attracted to both sexes. Men’s sexuality is, in a sense, less flexible. If a man is only attracted to one sex, romantic opportunity would little alter his sexual identity.”
I myself am honest with myself that I am Bi-Sexual. I do however prefer the feminine of the species as first choice, and male penetration as far as I am concerened, is a no go area!
As far as romantic / emotional involvement goes, I have to date not once ever had the slightest inclination to be linked in that manner to a person of the same gender as myself. So, my thought now is, am I in fact Bi-Sexual or simply some kind of . . . . for the sake of choosing a word, some kind of sexual pervert?
Interesting article, I do however wonder why the number of female participants differed to the number of male participants.
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Quote by Voyer1105
Looking at the members profiles it has struck me that nearly all males are Straight and the ladies Bi
Now I wonder, I know this is not true for the men
Haha, indeed.
My first reaqction was that more than half the "lady" profiles on this site are in fact males or couples where the man wants to experience a FFM threesome. But yes, like you say . .. . .I wonder
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Quote by Voyer1105
Seems the subject is unkown ?
Most probably because the world we live in seems to mostly only really look down upon things that the male of the species does.
A lady would probably be referred to as "empowering" herself in this particular subject.
But, to answer yor question, NO never come across such an arrangement (of course, where the legals were left out, have seen aplenty) and good on them as far as I am concerned))
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Quote by JHB_Couple
are there any ways to show that you're interested in dogging?
some kind of symbol or something?
maybe a cloth or ribbon tied somewhere to the car?
I am sure someone will tell you shortly about a red cloth or something of the sorts tied to your rear view mirror.
I do however have to wonder how effective this can be at night at a dark secluded spot? (this is actually me asking a question in an effort to learn something)
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Quote by LeeEC
I have often looked at the names in the same way.
Myself, I went for the simple using my initials (which are actually SDM) however, for some dumb reason, when I was filling the info out, I hit the additional R . . . . . . and from what I understand, if I want to change it, I have to make some or other payment in the currency of Pounds Sterling . . . so, needless to say, the R stays!
Oh no, that's just a silly left over thing from the template that was used to make this version of the site - just make a support ticket request and they do it for you - no charge.
:thumbup:
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I have often looked at the names in the same way.
Myself, I went for the simple using my initials (which are actually SDM) however, for some dumb reason, when I was filling the info out, I hit the additional R . . . . . . and from what I understand, if I want to change it, I have to make some or other payment in the currency of Pounds Sterling . . . so, needless to say, the R stays!
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Quote by jimjam
Now if my memory serves correctly prostitution is illegal.
And carries a jail sentance if convicted.. Even though the S.A. Justice system is pathetic!
The Police do not bother (for various reasons) . . . . . .
However,
if I was brought before a court of law charged with prostitution, my first comment to the Judge would be: "how can it be illegal if the state provides a health care service and condom supply specifically for prostitutes?"
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Quote by jtrdbn
Saw this on a profile:
"Absolutely NO blacks, we don't do interracial shit..."
Still feel its preference related?
This is the problem with this particular "issue" in this country:
A single persons view / comment / action etc is made out to be as if the whole race is the same.
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90% of profile views are via the gallery. (this is my own opinion and not something that has been researched)
Also, and this is just a thought, and just my opinion based on my own view. The two pics in your gallery give the immediate impression of being of two different bodies.
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Quote by playcouple
Maybe I'm stupid, I know that I'm very slow in understanding things, but are you saying that whites should only be forced to have interracial experiences in the swinging lifestyle? Then by the same token you should be forced to have interaction with bi sexual males only in the swinging context (or couples with bi sexual males, keep in mind that just because a guy is bisexual does not mean that he is going to want to have a go with you just because you are having a go with his wife)
Nou heir kom kak . . . . . hahahahahahaha well said!
