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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
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Quote by LeeEC
My best suggestion is to mail them and ask them.
Chances are they themselves will have to think about it.
I'd venture that vast majority of swingers in S.A. have never really come in contact with people who are Chinese, let alone been offered the opportunity to meet or play with Chinese folk.
It's good to calculate into your perspective on rascism (or race avoidance which may be more accurate in a lot of cases), that most people are indoctrinated in terms of their viewpoints, and if not, their perspective will be inextricably entwined with experience.
Usually meaningful contact must happen between groups to birth prejudice.
S.A. people largely have very little meaningful interactions- as yet, with Chinese folk (although Zuma's latest antics may change that significantly in the near future), and as such I expect that in most cases folk will be open to you.
I think LeeEC's usage of the phrase "Race Avoidance" is pure genius and it should be used way more often.
As far as Zuma's latest antics though, I think there is more chance of the existing Chinese people in SA feeling some of that "Race Avoidance" as opposed to feeling more welcome by the people of SA.
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Quote by kinkychinese
hi guys,
As we browse through the profile,
We cam across lots of profile tht says
"Apologies, but we dint cross racial line"
My ques is, where do my partner n i come in?
As there r so few other chinese cpls around....
If we try to reach out to the above cpl,
Does it consider to b rude?
Or who can help us to classifiy which "race" do we fall under....
Tks!
You could be opening yourself up to a mountain of "forum abuse" here. The race topic is never allowed to go past more han a few responses, so let me get my thoughts in before its locked.
People (well most of them anyway) who add the racial line comment on their profiles do it to be seen as doing it, as many times one of the first questions people ask you is have you been with a person of another colour. I have no doubt there are a number of other reasons that people add this line, but this is my contribution to your question.
As far as what race you fall under is concerned, it depends how you look at it. The SA government is very clear as to their classification of Chinese people, which does have a large number of people in SA from a different race group a little upset.
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If only our country was policed like this.
I am almost speechless, almost, but never completely.
FFS, if one puts "stupid" comments on a PUBLIC website, one is surely looking for random abusive comments, or at the very least be expecting some. BUT NO, this is SA, we don't say anything about anything in case we offend people ( did you see how I showed how I was 'almost' speechless there)
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Quote by Adonis
Sit and wonder, looking at this add of a 25 year old male, what can his success rate be to get laid for what he asked for. My own opinion would be that nobody would respond to a add like that, we can be total wrong. Only a question.
"i jus want to fuck someone. wouldn't mind a CD. possibly a couple"
1 in 67000 maybe?
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Quote by Mike_Pta
Men in contrast, tend to be more set in their ways.
The researcher said: “Men are less often attracted to both sexes. Men’s sexuality is, in a sense, less flexible. If a man is only attracted to one sex, romantic opportunity would little alter his sexual identity.”
I myself am honest with myself that I am Bi-Sexual. I do however prefer the feminine of the species as first choice, and male penetration as far as I am concerened, is a no go area!
As far as romantic / emotional involvement goes, I have to date not once ever had the slightest inclination to be linked in that manner to a person of the same gender as myself. So, my thought now is, am I in fact Bi-Sexual or simply some kind of . . . . for the sake of choosing a word, some kind of sexual pervert?
Interesting article, I do however wonder why the number of female participants differed to the number of male participants.
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Quote by Voyer1105
Looking at the members profiles it has struck me that nearly all males are Straight and the ladies Bi
Now I wonder, I know this is not true for the men
Haha, indeed.
My first reaqction was that more than half the "lady" profiles on this site are in fact males or couples where the man wants to experience a FFM threesome. But yes, like you say . .. . .I wonder
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Quote by Voyer1105
Seems the subject is unkown ?
Most probably because the world we live in seems to mostly only really look down upon things that the male of the species does.
A lady would probably be referred to as "empowering" herself in this particular subject.
But, to answer yor question, NO never come across such an arrangement (of course, where the legals were left out, have seen aplenty) and good on them as far as I am concerned))
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Quote by playcouple
1. I have a thing for fucking and cumming in heels.
2. Touch and fondle aunts or cousins when drunk.
3 love masturbating in pantys.
4. How do I tell friends mom I want her
Thats a new combination, a new topic of discussion........ now where is Dr Freud ?
Well I guess as long as the cousins are "of suitable age" its not that creepy???????? Or ?????
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Quote by JHB_Couple
are there any ways to show that you're interested in dogging?
some kind of symbol or something?
maybe a cloth or ribbon tied somewhere to the car?
I am sure someone will tell you shortly about a red cloth or something of the sorts tied to your rear view mirror.
I do however have to wonder how effective this can be at night at a dark secluded spot? (this is actually me asking a question in an effort to learn something)
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Quote by LeeEC
I have often looked at the names in the same way.
Myself, I went for the simple using my initials (which are actually SDM) however, for some dumb reason, when I was filling the info out, I hit the additional R . . . . . . and from what I understand, if I want to change it, I have to make some or other payment in the currency of Pounds Sterling . . . so, needless to say, the R stays!
Oh no, that's just a silly left over thing from the template that was used to make this version of the site - just make a support ticket request and they do it for you - no charge.
:thumbup:
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I have often looked at the names in the same way.
Myself, I went for the simple using my initials (which are actually SDM) however, for some dumb reason, when I was filling the info out, I hit the additional R . . . . . . and from what I understand, if I want to change it, I have to make some or other payment in the currency of Pounds Sterling . . . so, needless to say, the R stays!
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Quote by jimjam
Now if my memory serves correctly prostitution is illegal.
And carries a jail sentance if convicted.. Even though the S.A. Justice system is pathetic!
The Police do not bother (for various reasons) . . . . . .
However,
if I was brought before a court of law charged with prostitution, my first comment to the Judge would be: "how can it be illegal if the state provides a health care service and condom supply specifically for prostitutes?"
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Quote by jtrdbn
Saw this on a profile:
"Absolutely NO blacks, we don't do interracial shit..."
Still feel its preference related?
This is the problem with this particular "issue" in this country:
A single persons view / comment / action etc is made out to be as if the whole race is the same.
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90% of profile views are via the gallery. (this is my own opinion and not something that has been researched)
Also, and this is just a thought, and just my opinion based on my own view. The two pics in your gallery give the immediate impression of being of two different bodies.
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Quote by playcouple
Maybe I'm stupid, I know that I'm very slow in understanding things, but are you saying that whites should only be forced to have interracial experiences in the swinging lifestyle? Then by the same token you should be forced to have interaction with bi sexual males only in the swinging context (or couples with bi sexual males, keep in mind that just because a guy is bisexual does not mean that he is going to want to have a go with you just because you are having a go with his wife)
Nou heir kom kak . . . . . hahahahahahaha well said!
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Quote by Bosman
I asked a question about the soccerball site and even contacted some people directly and askes them some questions but got absolutely no reply! Guess what....was planning on taking a REAL female somewhere, let her put on a bit of a show and even perhaps allow someone to join...but I'm put off by people ignoring my very real queries about the site.....so you (nelspruit) has lost the interest of a very real pair of playmates.
While I am obviously not 100% certain, I would however think that the majority of people reading "ads" on a site like this, would immediately think it's a fake when it's placed by a guy who says he has a female who is a willing participant.
maybe let the female do the communication, and see if that gets a better response
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Quote by Adonis
Sorry but that why the forum died a quick death, please Admin its time for you to stop this type of treads, we are fed up to here the refrain of racist
No, I do not think the forum "died a quick death" due to the constant insistence that all whites are racist.
More like it died, because a group of members did not like it when people expressed their personal views which varied from theirs, and / or injected humour into the forum.
But hey, what do I know, I just read the forum everyday and make my own deductions.
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Quote by amethyst
You my friend, you need to climb out of your cocoon.
We dont live in a perfect country by any means. however you need to examine where all of this started. My comment was not a broad based one or a political one but one that pertains to swinging.
Im not going to lower mysrlf to get into this because a forum actually lacks the platform for an actual debate.
But the paramedic, fireman analogy hits the nail on the head.
The profiles on this very site, where the members are non white, and they themselves have the words "we do not cross the colour barrier" or "looking for blacks only" in their profiles, never get any flack.
Yes, there may very well be a minimal amount of those profiles, but if you want uniformity, then it has to be on a level playing field.
