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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 55
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While lady bits are my favourite topic, it's such a pity we seem to be watching a group of ladies discussing "broken" lady bits . . . . well try as you may, you will never turn me off the lovely delicious tender velvety . . . .oh look, I went off on a single minded tangent . . . .
Quote by LeeEC
I have other ideas... which probably won't be YOUR style smile

And everybody pays attention in anticipation of a follow on . . . . . . . lol
Quote by KC_
So I need some advice please :-P
I love playing with cock, but I struggle with circumcised men...
;)
C

I find it fascinating reading this. WHY? well because I think it is actually a fairly common problem and most of us would just boil it down to the person doing the handwork not knowing or not being interested in the task at hand, when it is in fact somewhat more involved than that.
My 2c worth, when the person doing hand work seems to be struggling, some oil (I find it better than Lube) works wonders because it eliminates that "yanking" effect. Also, that way their hand can work over the entire shaft and also the head.
Quote by Pussinboots1
Well yeah this is a joke maybe, but for real,sex starts very early....around when puberty sets in.
Just think, your grand grand parents got married at ages 13 to their first kid one year later....and then proceeded to have kids every year after that.

yes, many years ago people used to do a lot of things at a very young age, BUT, back then they had been raised in very hard times, and were way more emotionally mature (and capable) than the majority of people twice their age are today.
Today's society is too much about protecting peoples rights and peoples freedom to choose and and and and . . ... and then someone walks into a school and shoots a bunch of his class mates dead, and the world just says "the poor child is misunderstood" . . . . . just imagine what this world is going to be like in another 10 - 20 years . . . . .
Quote by Voyeur50
Hi guys, I liked all the comments and was glad to see the ladies taking part but I still do not have an answer to my question does lady's always know when they are showing?
PIB once again I love your avatar!:-D

I would say NO, they do not always know. wink
Quote by redbruce
When a man sees a lady flashing her panty/pussy is she always aware that she is showing?

She may well be aware, but it's not necessarily intentional! We once had a really good-looking young lady come to our offices to give us a presentation on the website she proposed to develop for us. First time she came over for the initial briefing, we met in the boardroom and she wore a pants-suit, all very kosher. When she came back to present her proposal, the boardroom was not available, and we sat in the easy chairs around the low coffee table in my office, with her sketches spread out on the table. She had chosen that day to wear a very short black skirt, and naturally her skirt rode up every time she leaned forward to point to something in her sketches (couldn't do this with her legs crossed), and her very attractive white satiny panties were nicely displayed. My business partner and I could hardly not notice, and we were both looking! She seemed to know it, did seem embarrassed, but there was no way she could sit that she was not "revealing"! Maybe it was intentional that on the day of the presentation she chose to wear the short skirt, I don't know? Maybe it was all part of her "presentation plan"! Unfortunately her ideas were too grand and the price (for her website) too high. It might have been really nice to have her as our regular IT service provider!!!... (The guys that ended up doing the job for us were no-where near as good-looking!)
wouldn't it be nice to know if it was indeed intentional wink
My two cents worth:
Ladies who wear revealing clothing like low cut tops and low hipsters (g-string pushers) and even the way too short to move mini skirt, should really re-consider their wardrobe. More often than not, it is these ladies who complain that they are treated like sex objects and that men are always staring at them . . . . well, if we walked into a room with a shirt buttoned in Magnum PI style, we would also be stared at.
I once had a woman working for me who layed a complaint against a fellow male employee for staring at her cleavage, I told her that until she started covering her cleavage I would not entertain any form of complaint from her about such things.
I think that if a person dresses for effect, they should bloody well not complain when they get it:small-print:
And to respond to Voyeur50's question, any woman who buys clothing that could result in nether regions being shown, is in my opinion fully aware of the possibility. I mean really, how many woman (or men) do you know that don't look at themselves in a mirror a hundred times after dressing?
Information is actually only available when you make it available. Those that use a account are asked for a phone number for account recovery purposes, which you type in on-line with an active internet connection . . . . . . well that seems safe doesn't it?
Quote by Pez
PIB, they can only trace your home address from your computer IP address in the movies. wink

Actually it is fairly simple to trace an IP address, or even a phone number.
To give a quick example:
I have been receiving unsolicited calls from a number that appears to be a landline based in Johannesburg.
Googling the phone number I was able to get an IP Address for that number.
Using a program that is free to download from the interweb, I entered the number and got a return address within a few seconds, together with a Google Maps detailed description of the address.
Seems the calls originate in Bangalore, India.
JHB to Bangalore India . . . . . . . .bolt just a few minutes away from each other wink
It never seizes to amaze me how people still make "home video's" today. Everywhere in the news you read about celebrities home movies being "leaked" so why people think they can make a movie with their current partner / lover is very confusing. maybe making a movie with a spouse when you are in a very stable marriage is still a little risky, but to do it when you are only in a relationship is looking for trouble . . . . . PIB, they can only trace your home address from your computer IP address in the movies. wink
Quote by happybeats
I'm into public fun
have been fantasizing about meeting a couple in Cresta mall.
we all 3 go into one of the toilets and then the guy watches me do his wife/GF
msg me if you're interested

All righty then . . . . . :small-print:
Quote by Mike_Pta
Also in this age of access isn't swinging a better alternative to divorce?

@Mike_Pta . . . . the percentage of married couples who are able to enjoy a swinging lifestyle successfully is way smaller than the percentage of married couples who fail miserably at it.
As for FWB, the world at large has been desensitized to this by movies etc, but is it right? hmmmmm, everyone wants to keep telling us that most woman are so complex when it comes to emotions, and that they have a much higher "connection level" when it comes to intimacy (note, I did say most woman) so in actual fact, are woman who are "happy" to have a FWB setup there for the sex, OR are they there for the sex and the lack of male emotional immaturity? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . anyway, just think about the chances of you or your FWB meeting someone else that leads to a eventual relationship, are you (or they) going to stop with the FWB arrangement once they meet the person or are you / they going to carry on with the FWB arrangement for the time being until you / they see where the new relationship is going? ? ? ? ? That's a nice healthy way to start a new relationship don't you think?
AND before anybody wants to remove any short and curlies from my genital area (whats left of them anyway) This is only my little old opinion, my two cents worth, my penny in the hat, and yes, my own experience on the subject.
Quote by Pussinboots1
But sadly society has a certain set of standards we all have grown up with and we do try and cohere to, and rightly so,with no such standards chaos might reign.
Thinking here about , murder, assault, yeah and sex does fall into this category.
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@PIB1, I agree with what you say, however if you consider the different moral standards the different age groups grew up with, it may actually explain a lot of the thinking people have these days. The things the younger generation does these days as "normal" are often things that those slightly older had to do " with great caution not to get caught"
Freedom of opinion, freedom of speech, freedom of expression etc etc etc . . . . . maybe was not the best thing for the world at large, people take it for granted that they can shove their ways in your face. As an example, I am in my mid 40's and growing up if you were gay, you were gay, today it's not acceptable until you have publicly made an announcement then you get some kind of honorary reward for telling people, . .:bs: . . being gay is your business, your choice, your everything so just be yourself, people don't have to accept you, you have to accept yourself.
in this day and age, with sexual morals being pretty low, prostitution available at every corner and maybe even sites like these with people looking for something more/extra, I have to wonder why the statistics in this country are climbing and climbing . . . . . . . . . I would think it has very little to do with sexual morals and more to do with other moral standards that are lacking.
I could go on and on and on here (relax, I won't) but it's time (in my opinion) that we stopped blaming whatever we can think of for our decisions and actions, I make a choice to do something not anybody else, so how on earth can I blame someone for something that I did?
YES, people don't read profiles properly YES, people are rude YES, people lack intelligence YES, people lack tact YES, people are bad mannered BUT are they always being racist? sometimes it could be a "Coloured Person" looking for a "Non-Coloured Person" As far as people wanting to see pics and then disappearing, that happens to every single one of us on this site, regardless of race.
@Voyer1105 A person's standards of behavior or beliefs concerning what is and is not acceptable for them to do. This is the general understanding of the term "morals" (I think) I would hazard a guess that the psychologist on the radio was not looking at swinging from a religious view point, but rather a society view point. (and sex outside marriage in my opinion is not a topic for public radio) As you say, there are so many different views on this and I agree 100% with you that no-one has any right whatsoever to judge you on what your views as far as morals are concerned. UNFORTUNATELY, we live in this place called the world and in general the population at large is of the opinion that if we don't see and or do things they way they think is right, then we are wrong (I also think in fairness we could also be guilty of this)
Over the phone would not do it for me, texting / sexting would be a normal activity when involved with somebody . . . .guess it would be a case of try and grasp the concept that your other half is not near. . . . but will be soon . . .
Quote by Smooth82
Your posts always make me smile PIB, think I may be crushing on your mind! Lol, I will certainly become I more active participant in these forums...

Well if I was anywhere near the cape . . . . .
Smooth82, we are a good bunch of people in here, we go off topic, we get seriously into others, and we might even just skip over others, but we are ok people . ..
Quote by Pussinboots1
LMAO @ SDMR now If I was in JHB I would have asked for the address , as I am an old woman and do not *get* many playmates anymore.
Just imagine............. me sitting there fat ,wobbly,TEETH OUT, and sucking the daylights outa all cocks thrust through that hole.
Maybe there is one or 2 adventurous ladies out there!!!

Haha, I seriously doubt it, but one can hope . . .
Quote by Yugylf
Hey girls I have for years been enjoying the best real gloryhole in JHB
It's a public bathroom very quite upstairs easy for a lady to sneak in
and then just wait for a cock to appear through the hole
Suck away and play
Contact me if you would like details
Will gladly assist you in having the hottest cock sucking action
Ever?

Ok, so you have had 14 views in less than an hour. I'm guessing your inbox is filled with mails from guys wanting to know where the bathroom is . . . . . and probably zero mails from ladies?
Quote by KC_
Wearing women's undies does not necessarily mean that he is not straight!
The only thing you know for sure about that profile is that he enjoys wearing women's undies ;)
Many straight men engage in cross-dressing activities. It doesn't change their orientation...
;)
C

I am not suggesting that it has anything to do with their orientation at all, and in fact I am a firm believer of "each to their own" I Just find it a little off course when they are SO ADAMANT to add the STRAIGHT STRAIGHT STRAIGHT part to their profiles . . .
My best is when the picture is of some guy's erect penis . . . . . wearing a lacy g-string and a profile that says "Straight Male" . . . . I am very clear about being Bi, and I assure you I have never considered wearing woman's undies . . . they look so much better on the female body
Quote by Stamina
I think the people love showing their very unique fannies and willies in all sort of they are exhibitionists
What I dislike is the Photo`s where....
Some ladies stretch their genitals wide open...with cum dripping out, and they stuff/insert really awful stuff inside their vagina to show how wide it can are not always cleanly shaved / includes their anal area....
Have you guys ever noticed that nearly NO ONE shaves/wax that area???? eeewwwww.....
The same with men...they show how they ejaculate, hold empty toilet rolls /deodorant cans next to their genitals so we can sort of see how BIG and THICK they are.
For me who is a BIG pervert and an *peeping tom*
Those kinda photos are distasteful to me as a person, because it leaves NOTHING for an active sensual imagination.
Really a big pity!!
Me,I like to think and dream and imagine how something should look like.
As for face pics...sorry that should be kept in a closed album only to be opened when you are about to meet someone.
but then that is just me being paranoid.

A full body photo of a lady in a bikini or sexy underwear is far more attractive and inviting than a spread vag! I like to leave somethings to the imagination! The anticipation is part of the thrill... Example: Chatting up a girl at a pub, she has awesome cleavage shown through a low cut top created by her supple 34c's... Seeing them then and there is not near as exciting as wondering what they really look like! And later, finding out!
DUDE . . . . I thought you moved to another country . . . . .
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Does anyone also get that little fluttering feeling when loading up your email and Swinging Heaven home page and wondering if you have any new mail from interested members smile

In the beginning for about the first week yes, since then not!
While I am skeptical if anything like this would actually take place in areas around here with these small towns being very conservative (well, from outward appearances anyway) I would like to hear if anything is ever arranged. This concept of Dogging is keeping my interest levels busy . . . . .
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Although my wife's "red sea" days are now a thing of the past, we never let it stop us! She also reported being "more horny" during that time, and I had no issue with it being "dirty" or anything. It was just a different form of lubrication! One just had to be a lot more careful about not messing the sheets and the mattress, although that happened from time to time...

Better form of lubrication in my opinion wink
This is something where the choice has to be entirely up to the lady. If she is comfortable, then all is well . . . . lol
yes, squirting is real. Like @Adonis said, not every woman can do it, but it is very real. the squirting you see on porn is more like the cum shots you see on porn (over exaggerated)
The appearance of the human genitals . . . . This fascinates me immensely. I have seen many different looking V's & C's over the years (yes, both gender's) V's: forget about pubic hair, you get smooth ones, bumpy ones, plump ones, small lip ones, long lip ones (my personal favourite) roundish ones, longish ones, biggish clits, smallish clits . . . . C's: forget about pubic hair, you get straight ones, curved ones , bent ones, smooth ones, bumpy ones, veiny ones, big balls, tight balls, bigger heads, smaller heads . . . . . please feel free to add any other kind of description you like . . . It is fascinating to me that they are all so different (yet pretty similar) and I am curious if others share my fascination?
Quote by Voyer1105
My wife will suck a nice cock but wants to feel the cum squirt into her pussy
So it seems that only men enjoy swallowing sperm

Hahaha, nice little spin on it Voyer1105 . . . . . I will do a lot of things with a cock, but swallow is not one of them . . . :wanker: