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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
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Quote by Stamina
I have been thinking lately... I am not a "horn-dog"! I prefer a ladies company to her vagina. Spending time with an intelligent and beautiful woman is the most amazing thing... Beats sex by a mile! Don't get me wrong, the sex is more than welcome but not instantly. Once the chemistry has devoloped and that so called "click" happens after spending time enjoying each others company, then the sex that follows is so much more amazing. The best scenario for me: Meet a great girl, get her number, call her the next day and set up a date. Take her out within a few days and spend the whole date just listening to her... Then a second date, then a third... Then maybe a full day together for a picnic or something along those lines... Then finally after a few weeks, she may be ready for the next step, she must suggest that we spend a night together, not me. Then the preperation... Clean place, candles, air freshener, dim lights, music... She MUST be impressed, very important to make her feel that she is not being used that night, she must feel wanted and not have any regrets. Never take from a girl what you can't give back! And that night must be absolutely special... Slow, intimate, passionate! The whole night until the sun rises! She must go home the next morning with a smile from ear to ear! Happy that she slept over and not leave with doubts.
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Interesting approach, let the rest of us know if it works . . . rotflmao:rotflmao:
Quote by LeeEC
No Stamina you make an excellent point. And I think you are right on the money. No one who doesn't have a little self respect is going to get much from others.
But I would like to make one point. . MOST couples on here are actually the male partner on behalf of the couple so this is really a case of married "horndogs" sharing their boner material. ... and then getting upset when okes are disrespectful to their wives.
Also one more thing. Most of the people (women) bitching about this behaviour here are not THOSE couples who show off their "wide open vaginas" on their profiles. .. I don't and that doesn't make any difference to the respect factor in some cases. .. so are you basically saying that all boys are dogs and we should just get used to the flea problem?

Labelled under the "in-general" category again . .
Men like to look at pics of female genitals, yes (but I guess females like to look at male genital pics too)
Most females are "happy" to look at a picture of a mans torso showing six pack blah blah blah
A male is subjected to looking at a woman's belly, small of her back and even breasts all day long, in the office, in the shops, in the bank, you name it, and it is on display there.
A mans torso is very seldom on display for a lady to look at.. . . . . . do I need to carry on ????
Quote by Respect
I explan briefly
I moved to Sa From Uk 7 years ago with my SA Partner
We have bought a house , 2,Childern ect
But I am so unhappy and feed up with it
What do I do ?
If go back to uk start again I am 37 look for job ?
Here I work with my partner so if I separate I would still have to look for a job this side ?
Any advice out there ?

Step 1 . . ..
Find out what the "problem" actually is.
Step 2 . . . .
that all depends on what the answer to step 1 was . . . .
Well, as a male of the species, I more often than not do not enjoy it when people generalise about males. Yes, there are 100's and 100's of things that are always going to be more or less the same, but there are so many areas that males differ. I would think it would be the same with the female of the species, so maybe just try and look at a situation like this one as an opportunity to be glad that you have a different way??? dunno, just my two cents worth
Quote by Paul1111
You should have been there this morning. I was naked and walking around the area.

Yip, and the fish i caught was "thiiiiis big' rotflmao:rotflmao:
Ok, so to start off with, maybe the excessive use of the phrase LOL is why you can't sleep, your mind is not sure about how old it is or what gender it is ????? ok, that was really just humour. I would hazard a guess to say that there are a rather large number of men / boys out there who think something along similar lines to what you have said, but in reality, any lady / girl / woman etc who was available at a drop of an sms (hat) would not last 5 minutes with the aforementioned men / boys etc . . . . WHY? well we are idiots, we are always wanting "easy access" to sex, but the moment there is some available we immediately label the lady / girl / woman etc as something horrible . . . So maybe the ladies / girls / woman etc are not actually too conservative for this, but rather they are wise and mature enough to know that the male of the species is not mature enough . . . . .
If one looks through lets say the, Gallery on this Site, there seems to be minimal Black / Coloured / Indian pictures as opposed to White pictures, if one browses profiles, one also seems to find a rather minimal amount of the said Black / Coloured / Indian profiles as opposed to those profiles of White people . . . . . . . SO, where am I going with this you ask ?????
Well now, if we call it say a 80 / 20 ratio, then it would seem as if very few of the White profiles would actually ever be approached by the (for the purpose of this sentence) Non-White profiles, so this is actually a (edited by clever people) race issue and not a sexual preference issue . .. four five six people, stop making everything in this country about race, if someone contacts you and they don't fulfill all the requirements you have, then simply say "thank you but no thank you" . . or, just keep making a big song and dance about it, and anyone who might have met all your criteria will just continue to see that you are actually an A-Hole and they will just go past your profile . . . .
I have to wonder, is it really only the young "members"? I am approaching my mid 40's, and the people who grew up in the same era as me (and before) have a certain level of respect / tact / class etc, (not all of them of course) the late 20's to early 30's these days lack that (not all of them of course) People are not scared to get banned, because the profile is banned not the IP, so it's simple to just create a new profile. The reactions these kinds of people get are exactly the reactions they want, so all we are actually doing is feeding the problem . . . .
Quote by Mike_Pta
I would say we need an image of the day thread but I remember the drama last time I tried to explain how to post pictures

then why not take the responsibility of posting the image of the day (everyday) and the rest of us will give our 2 cents worth? lol
Quote by LeeEC
Clearly our new friend, doesn't know a signature or a quote when he's staring at one. ... shame for him.

If it's not race, it's language with the people of sunny South Africa . . . . duel
So, like most others in the regular column I don't have anything to say, but I thought I would just say it here . . . . . Why on earth does everyone (almost) suddenly have nothing to say?
Quote by Jhbhung
So now for a real test. So many guys here seem to chicken out when there is a real invitation.
So here it is, a gangbang next week. I will disclose the place and time later. Let's see who is keen. Pm me

Did this go down?
Would be interesting to know if it happened. I think I have missed it by a week lol.
My take on this is as follows . . .
Anyone who would actually go through with some or other form of gangbang, would already have the "means" of doing so and would not be looking for a bunch of strangers to make things happen. (remember, this is my take on it)
I think Jack99 shares my views to a certain extent and that is why he put it out there, knowing full well he would not have too many "serious" inquiries . . . . . thus exposing this kind of forum posting for what it is.
p.s. Jack99, if I am wrong, send pictures dude lol
Quote by RockstarLemming
Hi all,
Just to let you know I am back. I (foolishly) deleted my account - instead of just deactivating it - when a girl I was seeing stumbled onto the link while using my phone. Yes I know that was incredibly silly of me (she just saw the link and didn't go to the site) - and damn Google for bringing up link suggestions when only a few letters are entered!
)

Dude, firstly welcome back . . . .
secondly, if you are going to allow other people to use your technological devices, you better learn pretty damn quick how to delete browsing history on them . . . . . . (fixes the link suggestion issue)
Quote by RetroSiren
Hi all
We're new here (but not new to the scene). A friend persuaded me to join. I gather that posting an into here first is the Done Thing*.
Just your basic lifestyle couple with kids and a mortgage and some good friends in the scene. Hope to make some more friends here.
* Yes, I am a nerd.

Welcome
Quote by cpl2play
Probably going to pick up a bit of flak here but anyway!
We (my lady and I) are amazed at what a lot of cpl's/ppl consider athletic. To us it means exactly that...an athletic body! Not a plump body, not a couple kg's overweight body or not even an in-weight body that is not in shape. There's a whole bunch of profiles claiming to have athletic bods...but it ain't so. To us athletic means ripped abs, tight ass, good definition overall. Someone that you can actually see is athletic and active. Not saying we are athletic, we don't claim to be.
Just stating our observations...or should we remain forever silent?

Best advice I can offer, is don't let it bother you too much. Some people see things differently (I see them your way) but we are all different in our views . .
Quote by Jhn21
Hi There
I am a male new to all of this and am giving it a try due to the reason that i am tired of barbie doll looking females everywhere.
Is there anywhere i can go to to find a natural woman or do they not exist ? i'm just looking for someone who is not afraid of having a few extra pounds, or being overly endowed.
Just to chat at first and see from there...

Apparently Roodepoort is full of Barbie looking females . . . . . I will be in that general vicinity for the next indefinite period if anyone is looking for me . . . :thumbup:
Quote by Pussinboots1
@ SDMR damn and your ONE pic is in a closed album so I can not perv it!!!! DAMN DAMN how about a nice bum pic?? I love a nice hard tush!
@ KC_ ohhhhhh can not wait for that ONEday!!!!! I love perving men ........
eish whom am I kidding I love perving women toooooo!

All a lady has to do is ask nicely wink
Quote by lexmar005
Hi Im Lester 27y old white straight male tall and 97kg
Im looking to meet new ppl to play with pvt as im married and dont want my wife to know about me being on here
Hope to chat soon

While it's a "good" thing that you are being open and up front about being married and you being here alone, this is not the site for what you are looking for.
It fascinates me how the pictures in "couples" profiles are more often than not mostly of woman.
Dictionary Says Definition of 'Demand' An economic principle that describes a consumer's desire and willingness to pay a price for a specific good or service. Holding all other factors constant, the price of a good or service increases as its demand increases and vice versa. So, demand it and see what the actual final price will be . . . . . . .rotflmao:bs::rotflmao::bs::boxing:
Quote by Rain
My boyfriend has sex with me once a week, if I'm lucky. But he looks at porn videos on the internet every day... and wanks off most of the time (I know this because of a hidden camera smile)
He doesn't even get properly hard when we do have sex. What gives? Has he lost interest in me? Is he so addicted to porn that only porn stars can turn him on? Is it his age (52). Any ideas? I'm going nuts.

So my take on this . . .
Judging by your profile, you have pretty much made up your mind how you are thinking about 'dealing" with the lack of sex.
You mentioned in your profile you and your "husband" and here you make reference to a "boyfriend"
Have you guy's been together for long? and are the emotional strings strong enough to want to work around this? If you have Hidden Camera's I would have to wonder what else there is that could be affecting things.
BUT, maybe he is just not that into penetrative sex . . . although I would think you would have known that all along . . .
First of all, . . . . . . . . . . secondly, what is "good looking" to one is not necessarily to another . ..
I have to wonder how effective this little advertising campaign has been for the store . . . .
Quote by Sunflower26
Hi all
My BF has done this before as I am new to all this I am willing and want to give this a try where can I find us a swinging club in kempton park area how does it work? Is it better for us to have a party with a couple first lots of questions he wants to see me with a man is that normal I wound mind him doing a nother woman I am just scared of how I am going to react will I get jelouse then what then?
Thx in advanced for the answers

My immediate reaction to reading this is that you are not entirely ready for this yet.
My advice would be to take it very slow, find out as much as you can and if you still think you would like to try, then ease into it over a long period of time. If you jump in with both feet, there is a big chance you would not enjoy the experience because you were not ready.
Quote by jmatthews1972
Can someone give me any specific reason why colour lines are not crossed ? .

I enjoyed reading your little write up . . well put.
As far as why lines are not crossed . . . they are, (even by some of those who are so adamant to put in their profiles they don't) they are just seldom spoken about. Bottom line, people are just people don't let this bother you too much (especially when the ones who say they don't keep checking out your profile lol )
Quote by LeeEC
Ha ha, I think the measure of how good a pick up line is, might just be the gullibility of the chick in question....
rotflmao

Or the levels of inebriation . . . lol
Quote by Stamina
I have been a member for a year... Have sent only tasteful messages, approached people with respect, never started a conversation with sexual intensions... I am a decent, clean, professional... I am good looking and not in bad shape... Yet have not had a single encounter through this site! Most of you that will read this have confirmed that I seem like a good guy. Am I doing something wrong? Any advice welcome.

Swings and roundabouts my good fellow . . . . I have been in the same place you are now, then I have also been in the place where something happens in a few hours after initial contact . . . I reckon it's a luck of the draw thing mostly
Quote by playcouple
Viagra does that to you.....
Sound to me a bit like a "the fish was THIS big" story.....
lol :lol: :lol:

Sounds about right....... And it was a small goldfish caught in a gill net attached to a fleet of trawlers
Waisteline humour . . . . rotflmao
Quote by redbruce
I was at Emmerentia on Tuesday from about 11h00 onwards and there were 2 couples playing but both were caught by the security. It does happen but one has to be careful.

Hi Peter,
So what did Security actually do to them? Lock them up, evict them from the park, or just hang around making sure they did not play any more? I'm curious - just how serious an offense is it if caught?
I can only imagine it would fall under public indecency, which would carry different severity based on different things. BUT, a security guard can do little more than call the real police unless you are breaking a specific venue written rule / regulation / law.
Quote by altydluzz
Sex is nobody's business except the three people involved

rotflmao:rotflmao::rotflmao: