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27 Dec 2013

The only time that age is a factor for me is when the people / person is (are) under 25. When the first line contains the words "please send pics" when the profile is clearly an incomplete mess. (straight person looking for a straight person of the same sex, but same sex action will not be tolerated) like Deviants said, mistakes are easy to forgive, but clear preferences HAVE TO BE RIGHT from the word go. And then of course there are those profiles where I just get the so called "gut feeling" that they are screwy ... . . .oh, and of course the single person who say's you must provide venue. (yes, people do have situations where they share a house, but say that first, otherwise one tends to get the impression that you are not so single)

24 Dec 2013

What that was supposed to mean was that I personally (Me, Myself & I) find photo's in the bedroom boring. Thought I would clarify my twelve cents worth before I was put "up against the wall" . . ..

24 Dec 2013

Quote by LeeEC
Personally I'm not super into shaved bare guys... I like mine hairy. But if you wanna shave, be my guest
(I feel sorry for you, all that hard work!)
BUT a lady that DOESN'T shave the NORMAL bits - legs, underarms etc. (not neccessarily her pubic area - just a bit of a trim is fine) that is just icky to me... I hate a hairy leg on a hot chick!
BUT THE ABSOLUTE worst thing in the world is the 2 day prickle! ARGHHH!!
A young man I know, a religiously leg-shaving cyclist, thinks it's hilarious to come sit next to me and press his shin against mine, after the 2 day prickle has set well in!
I usually react similarly to the average woman finding a tarantula in her underwear drawer!
It gives me the absolute creeps. How much worse is a prickly thigh or chest during playtime - you can NOT imagine!
I can not even BEGIN to guess at what a prickly ball-bag would do to my frayed nerves!

Now boys, pay attention to what the ladies reply here wink

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24 Dec 2013

oh, I'm sorry, what were we talking about? :sleeping:

24 Dec 2013

Quote by LeeEC
Have you or your partner ever "taken one for the team"?
Engaged with a couple/one of a couple, because your partner liked the other member of the couple
(IN OTHER WORDS: if your lady liked him/ her/them both and you liked neither or the chick didn't 'do it for you'.. would you still shag the other woman for your lady to have fun? or vice versa)
So far I've been with a guy who I wasn't REALLY into (and still am not), so that my hubby could watch - so mainly for his pleasure - but I still actually got satisfied in the process so it wasn't all bad, but the thing is, I'm never excited or thrilled at the idea of a repeat coz there's no chemsitry and he isn't flirty with me at all... in fact he's more friendly with the hubby
I don't think I could ever shag someone who I felt turned off by in some way...

A thought provoker this is indeed . . . . knowing about the "taking one for the team" experience is one thing. But now I am wondering how many times we are not even aware of which ever partner at the time had that frame of mind . . .
I do remember one time where my relevant other at that moment was only kind of into the idea of a third person but went with it anyway . . . . . bitch would not let me get near either one of them the chemistry was so electric between them :grin:

24 Dec 2013

Quote by LeeEC
I think it's Bid-ness!
Hey boys - let's do some bid-ness...
sorry boys - in a hijackin' kinda mood :twisted:
Actually - good business tactics require a bit of indepth marketing research...
So why, my little marketing expert, aren't you actually taking note of the feedback from your target market?
:twisted:

Been a while since a topic got hi-jacked.
Wonder how many complaints we will get this time rotflmao

rotflmao

and anyway, 5 points for pointing out the male of the species' in-ability to follow clues, hints or even instructions lol

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23 Dec 2013

Quote by Stamina
You are 100% correct. What you said above is actually exactly what I explained. Target marketing is the better approach, but not the only approach. Broad scale marketing will bring in less business than target marketing, but may still bring some business none the less.

So is that what we re calling it these days? "business" ????? rotflmao

rotflmao

23 Dec 2013

Quote by Respect
Good luck. Personally I think you're on the completely wrong site to find what you're looking for. And you might have overdosed on porn
Hope you find what you're looking for.

LeeEC
We were all hopeing you were going on leave ? And some were there is no Internet connection but thanks anyway all the usefull comments you have made on this forum
Make up your mind dude. Thanking LeeEC for doing something you don't want her to do?
Also, maybe re-think your profile name, as you clearly have none . . . .

20 Dec 2013

maybe it's time we all either accepted the way things are on sites like these, or maybe we should all just delete our profiles and find other ways to meet with like-minded people altogether.

19 Dec 2013

Quote by NawtyCat
I agree with everyone's comment above.....
But wanted to know: why you were booking a hotel room in the first place? Your place not good enough??

Remember he said that was her request.

19 Dec 2013

Quote by LoneRanger
Met a "lady" on here, one half of a supposed couple. met for a drink, then subsequently she contacted me, "I'm so hot for you", wanting to meet for sex. She decided she'd prefer it "in a hotel the first time" so, sucker that I am, I went off, booked a room, paid for it, SMS'd her the room number, got a reply "I'm on my way." I waited. And waited. Tried to call her - call cut off. Sent another SMS, "Where are you?" Nada. Then eventually a reply, "Sorry, I have a meeting at 3pm, I was ready for you at 2, can't make it anymore. I will reimburse you for the hotel." Ja, right! next she will ask for my bank account details...ha ha ha. No, she's not Nigerian either...
What are we supposed to do about these costly fakers? Should I name and shame her profile?

Everything that the others have said is good advice and / or a valid point. I would just add the fact that you did meet, have a drink swop contact details etc would indicate she might not have actually been a fake.
Sometimes things do really go beyond our control. If you handle it correctly you will get another chance with the person, if you react badly and negatively they are gone . . . . .

18 Dec 2013

Quote by kawaicouple
Think its time to say thank you to Madiba and all the other men and women who fought for our freedom.
Thanks to him we can vote, work, get educated and be free from discriminatio. Even date , marry and sleep with whom ever we want to!
Forever in our hearts... RIP Tata

As with Swinging, every one has had their own experience on this topic.
Sometimes we were proud, sometimes relieved, sometimes grateful, sometimes angry, sometimes embarrassed, sometimes confused, sometimes suppressed, sometimes overlooked, sometimes discriminated against, sometimes falsely accused, mostly generalized about because of what others had done previously.
There are those of us who were caught in the middle of the Riots, but were silenced.
There were those of us who had very promising careers in large companies, but that was changed to make way for others.
There are those of us who have been refused contracts because we were too male or too pale.
There are those of us who have children in school who bring home rather incomplete History books about the way things were prior to '94.
There are those of us who have family in Europe who had a different story about life in SA on their TV News and documentaries in the 80's and 90's.
If doing a little bit right was actually the way to right wrongs, then a certain former PM would have put an end to the past with his actions in '94.

13 Dec 2013

Quote by Stamina
The biggest problem here is that most men are infact "horn-dogs" driven by their desire (or need) to have as much sex as possible in their lifetime with as many partners as possible. ...

I would say it's more because of their own insecurities than them being "horn-dogs" . . .

13 Dec 2013

Quote by Erotic_Nauty
I am literally unable to read this Mxit spelling bullshit.
L8r pplz

Oh, is that what this gobbledygook stuff is? wink

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I thought it was a military secret code... lol

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My Aunt uses this short hand stuff in her sms and messages, I usually just answer yes and hope it was the right answer cause I don't always get it as well!! lol

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My mother is in her 70's, and she also understands these modern day ab lol

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breviations better than I ever will . ..

13 Dec 2013

Quote by Stamina
Let me elaborate on the above...
The trick to being dishonest is getting away with the lie. A man who has no more intimate feelings for his wife will most likely not be jealous of her. He will then not mind if another man pounds away at her, so long as he is also doing that mans wife... His wife believes he loves her dearly and they are just swinging... But he actually does not have the deep feelings required in a marriage, he just enjoys boning other men's wives... Easy to pull off the wife will be none the wiser. Most liars are good liars..

You have a valid point, but in my opinion, if that was the case with the husband (male) it would not last for too long as if he was switched off as such, he would eventually no longer be able to "perform" with his own misses, and then the moo poo will strike the windmill . . . . ..
So yes, it is a reality (in my opinion) but won't last too long . . . . . .

12 Dec 2013

So the rule is "I" before "E" except after "C" . . . . . then you get words like their, weir . . . . . . I could go on, but rules are rules man wink

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12 Dec 2013

Quote by Stamina
Maybe his wife moers him so he must keep it a secret or he will wake up one morning with his balls in a glass next to him?

laughing out loud . . . . . and the rest of the office wants to share my joke . . . rotflmao

rotflmao

12 Dec 2013

Quote by Stamina
Ever sat a robot crowded with street vendors? Notice how they stand there not bugging you? But the second you look at one, he comes running to your window... The trick is to not make eye contact and they just may pass you by...
Something similar happens here. There are a few (or many) profiles with two bi males and the profile is that of a couple. When these are under your "suggested profiles" list, it does not say what gender the parties of that couple are. The name or distance grabs your interest, so you click it and the profile opens to reveal that the couple is actually two men, so you do not contact if you not into "guy only fun"... But when they log on, it shows who has viewed their profile, and you pop up on that list cos you opened the profile... Now the messaging starts because they believe you are interested... Why else would you view their profile? Er, maybe because you did not know that the couple is actually two men??

My best is that I myself am usually number 2 or 3 on the suggested list of good contacts . . . for myself :grin: Maybe there is a future section called "auto erotica" on this site

12 Dec 2013

A lot usage of the word love in your write up Stamina. For a couple top be able to "Swing" successfully, the "love" has to be in the right place, at the right level etc. I just seem to get a feeling from your post of the two being confused. If as couple is not 100% sure, then the best thing would be to wait a little longer. But then again, Swinging in a relationship may also curb the desire to cheat, but again, the relationship would have to be right. Ok, so as I'm writing I'm finding pro's & con's with my own thinking . . . . . . So, bottom line my 12 cents worth is "don't confuse love with sex" (in the swinging context)

12 Dec 2013

So I have an idea, not really sure how well it would be received by the majority, but here goes anyway. From time to time the topic of time wasters, pic hunters etc comes up. Often the suggestion is that this should be made a pay site to help reduce the number of these people. But, what if the Gallery was not allowed to have any public pictures with nudity of any kind, and all nude pics had to be in PVT Albums and by invite only? Yes, I know we all like to perv on the Galleries, but remember this suggestion simply has to do with trying to filter out "fakes". Right, I have taken my place up against the wall and my blindfold is in position . . . ..

12 Dec 2013

I would be tempted yes, but one runs the risk of changing what the person was actually trying to say. I just rather use the most clever word in the dictionary in times of spelling confusion . . . .HUH?

9 Dec 2013

Quote by georgeous
Well dearer seldom travel far from home so you would have to be heading toward us, for a meet to happen

And SDMR enters the forum and finds himself biting hard on his tongue . . . . rotflmao

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Oh please, you know you are welcome to join and take a road trip to Lee. After all we used to part of the moo poo gang. lol

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and in response, SDMR adds the following . . . . . . . . ..

9 Dec 2013

Stats Joined biggrin

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ec 2013 Last Seen:16 Hours Ago Site Location:Offline Status biggrin

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ivorced Distance:475 km Location:Afghanistan And the distances just keep getting shorter for overseas travel. Thank you Swinging Heaven lol

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9 Dec 2013

Quote by LeeEC
Well dearer seldom travel far from home so you would have to be heading toward us, for a meet to happen

And SDMR enters the forum and finds himself biting hard on his tongue . . . . rotflmao

rotflmao

9 Dec 2013

Quote by A_man_apart
In my defense:
Yes previous profile was a cock up. And so I deleted it.
I'm not trying to deseeve anyone, reason for previous post
I could have said nothing and lied to the hole forum but I didn't.
Honesty is a reward in its own right, weather it brings me fortune or not.
It will only show me the caleber of the people using the forum in my oppinion.
And finally I'm not here to burn bridges but build them. At the same time I'm not gonna lick any ones
Ass for friendship, if u don't like me fine I'm not gonna chase u for attention

Just a thought,
first of all, I don't think anyone had any doubt it was your profile under a different guise, and secondly if you changed it for the reasons you say, then a simple "profile overhaul" would have worked wonders.
Nobody on this site wants you to lick their ass (well, not for friendship purposes anyway) so just carry on doing the normal day to day things and let the issue of changed profile go.

8 Dec 2013

Quote by NawtyCat
To be honest and this is not defending the ones that clearly cannot read but in some cases I have eeen myself where I look at the adverts where a couple is looking for a single male to play with his wife. Then when you look at their profile it clearly states no single males! So what do you do now?
I understand and do read every profile when I want to respond to an advert but shouldn't they either change their advert or update their profile?

Just a thought: maybe they generally do not look for nor play with single guys, however, at the time of placing/adding their advert they felt like a change.....it could have been a "once-off".....maybe?
Nawtycat, that is a fair comment, only thing is those people must just be sure not to get upset when single guy's do contact them.

5 Dec 2013

Quote by LeeEC
Reception very much depends on your manner, tone, profile content, picture types, style of first contact. A lot weighs on how well you read the profiles, and whether you mail profiles based only on their pictures and not their info...
Go slowly, carefully and read as much as you can on the forums and help articles (on the left, at the bottom of the menu).
Ask the forum peeps for advice!
Most important, do not assume that the women here are sluts, easy, free or gagging for it
And don't let any of your messages/posts imply that you do - and you should be good !

All of the above is spot on advice, I would only add one little thing, and that is patience. Also just keep in mind that woman have all the power

5 Dec 2013

Quote by Andre3000
I think the someone is about to be voted off the island.....
@Andre3000
Btw mailing me privately to "explain yourself but not apologise" does give you the right to publicly disrespect me. So back off.

Lee it looks like I was the only one who truly read your pasted article.I read it objectively and commented other who complimented you are fake or faggots or bi sexual.I want you to read Sigmund Freuds theories on sexuality and his theory on will then see why I say what I have said.
I will leave the Island.I will take my bags and leave the Big Brothers house.I will switch of my stove take my knives and leave Hells Kitchen.I will allow the sheep to lead the sheep.
I apologize to any lady whom I have offended humble apologies.....My work is done here.
Can I hold the door open for you on your way out?

5 Dec 2013

Quote by Andre3000
Glad you found it interesting.
As did I. Perhaps some of our friends will allow something in his list of notes to really make a profoundly awesome change to their sex lives.
I particularly like this last quarter, changing the focus of our play might be quite rewarding. ..

Lee what you trying to proof here?You trying to reinvent the wheel?..You trying to change 40 000 years of evolution and hard wiring of the brain?
This whole thing of your is crap..utter rubbish....I only like the part..."hope you got yours sister...because he got his"...:laughabove::laughabove: :laughabove::laughabove:........:giveup:

Andre 3000, I am writting this in the hope I get a lot of support from the other members.
Firstly: you need to read what is written before attacking, if you did you would have seen that LeeEC posted an excerpt from what someone else had written.
Secondly you are rude and immature.
While I have tried to ignore what you write in these forums in order to avoid encouraging your bad behaviour, I cannot anymore and I want to request publicly that you (Andre3000) are banned permanently from this Site due to your behaviour. Your offensive behaviour towards women is not acceptable.

5 Dec 2013

Quote by georgeous
Hi again, I am still looking for a place to tan naked in the Helderberg, I dont have a yard or pool area, If you have a yard or pool and want company, let me know.

Really surprised you haven't had endless offers . . . oh wait, that's because you are a man . . . Good luck with this quest buddy
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here you go again. :twisted:
Some excitement is needed . . . lol

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