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12 Dec 2013

So I have an idea, not really sure how well it would be received by the majority, but here goes anyway. From time to time the topic of time wasters, pic hunters etc comes up. Often the suggestion is that this should be made a pay site to help reduce the number of these people. But, what if the Gallery was not allowed to have any public pictures with nudity of any kind, and all nude pics had to be in PVT Albums and by invite only? Yes, I know we all like to perv on the Galleries, but remember this suggestion simply has to do with trying to filter out "fakes". Right, I have taken my place up against the wall and my blindfold is in position . . . ..

12 Dec 2013

I would be tempted yes, but one runs the risk of changing what the person was actually trying to say. I just rather use the most clever word in the dictionary in times of spelling confusion . . . .HUH?

9 Dec 2013

Quote by georgeous
Well dearer seldom travel far from home so you would have to be heading toward us, for a meet to happen

And SDMR enters the forum and finds himself biting hard on his tongue . . . . rotflmao

rotflmao

Oh please, you know you are welcome to join and take a road trip to Lee. After all we used to part of the moo poo gang. lol

lol

and in response, SDMR adds the following . . . . . . . . ..

9 Dec 2013

Stats Joined biggrin

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ec 2013 Last Seen:16 Hours Ago Site Location:Offline Status:Divorced Distance:475 km Location:Afghanistan And the distances just keep getting shorter for overseas travel. Thank you Swinging Heaven lol

lol

9 Dec 2013

Quote by LeeEC
Well dearer seldom travel far from home so you would have to be heading toward us, for a meet to happen

And SDMR enters the forum and finds himself biting hard on his tongue . . . . rotflmao

rotflmao

9 Dec 2013

Quote by A_man_apart
In my defense:
Yes previous profile was a cock up. And so I deleted it.
I'm not trying to deseeve anyone, reason for previous post
I could have said nothing and lied to the hole forum but I didn't.
Honesty is a reward in its own right, weather it brings me fortune or not.
It will only show me the caleber of the people using the forum in my oppinion.
And finally I'm not here to burn bridges but build them. At the same time I'm not gonna lick any ones
Ass for friendship, if u don't like me fine I'm not gonna chase u for attention

Just a thought,
first of all, I don't think anyone had any doubt it was your profile under a different guise, and secondly if you changed it for the reasons you say, then a simple "profile overhaul" would have worked wonders.
Nobody on this site wants you to lick their ass (well, not for friendship purposes anyway) so just carry on doing the normal day to day things and let the issue of changed profile go.

8 Dec 2013

Quote by NawtyCat
To be honest and this is not defending the ones that clearly cannot read but in some cases I have eeen myself where I look at the adverts where a couple is looking for a single male to play with his wife. Then when you look at their profile it clearly states no single males! So what do you do now?
I understand and do read every profile when I want to respond to an advert but shouldn't they either change their advert or update their profile?

Just a thought: maybe they generally do not look for nor play with single guys, however, at the time of placing/adding their advert they felt like a change.....it could have been a "once-off".....maybe?
Nawtycat, that is a fair comment, only thing is those people must just be sure not to get upset when single guy's do contact them.

5 Dec 2013

Quote by LeeEC
Reception very much depends on your manner, tone, profile content, picture types, style of first contact. A lot weighs on how well you read the profiles, and whether you mail profiles based only on their pictures and not their info...
Go slowly, carefully and read as much as you can on the forums and help articles (on the left, at the bottom of the menu).
Ask the forum peeps for advice!
Most important, do not assume that the women here are sluts, easy, free or gagging for it
And don't let any of your messages/posts imply that you do - and you should be good !

All of the above is spot on advice, I would only add one little thing, and that is patience. Also just keep in mind that woman have all the power

5 Dec 2013

Quote by Andre3000
I think the someone is about to be voted off the island.....
@Andre3000
Btw mailing me privately to "explain yourself but not apologise" does give you the right to publicly disrespect me. So back off.

Lee it looks like I was the only one who truly read your pasted article.I read it objectively and commented other who complimented you are fake or faggots or bi sexual.I want you to read Sigmund Freuds theories on sexuality and his theory on will then see why I say what I have said.
I will leave the Island.I will take my bags and leave the Big Brothers house.I will switch of my stove take my knives and leave Hells Kitchen.I will allow the sheep to lead the sheep.
I apologize to any lady whom I have offended humble apologies.....My work is done here.
Can I hold the door open for you on your way out?

5 Dec 2013

Quote by Andre3000
Glad you found it interesting.
As did I. Perhaps some of our friends will allow something in his list of notes to really make a profoundly awesome change to their sex lives.
I particularly like this last quarter, changing the focus of our play might be quite rewarding. ..

Lee what you trying to proof here?You trying to reinvent the wheel?..You trying to change 40 000 years of evolution and hard wiring of the brain?
This whole thing of your is crap..utter rubbish....I only like the part..."hope you got yours sister...because he got his"...:laughabove::laughabove: :laughabove::laughabove:........:giveup:

Andre 3000, I am writting this in the hope I get a lot of support from the other members.
Firstly: you need to read what is written before attacking, if you did you would have seen that LeeEC posted an excerpt from what someone else had written.
Secondly you are rude and immature.
While I have tried to ignore what you write in these forums in order to avoid encouraging your bad behaviour, I cannot anymore and I want to request publicly that you (Andre3000) are banned permanently from this Site due to your behaviour. Your offensive behaviour towards women is not acceptable.

5 Dec 2013

Quote by georgeous
Hi again, I am still looking for a place to tan naked in the Helderberg, I dont have a yard or pool area, If you have a yard or pool and want company, let me know.

Really surprised you haven't had endless offers . . . oh wait, that's because you are a man . . . Good luck with this quest buddy
lol

lol

here you go again. :twisted:
Some excitement is needed . . . :lol:

5 Dec 2013

Quote by A_man_apart
Hey there every one
Can't keep it in no more!!!
Its me, I had to delete my old profile for some personal reasons and and and.
I'm L.J. Sorry every one for keeping quite for so long, had to much stuff to sort out.
But its all done now and I'm back and "under new management" u might say.
New outlook on things and better attitude towards life. Rather be humbled than an arogant twit
Trying to fight his way through life, go with the flow and what will happen will happen.
A.M.A

Well now, to start with, you have just shot yourself completely out of the water by "coming back" as someone else . . . . I somehow doubt that any members who might have considered a meet are running the other way now . . . but hey, maybe I'm wrong. Good Luck

4 Dec 2013

Quote by A_man_apart
Hey there all
Sounds like LJ caused some kak here and made up for it?
And as I'm new here I can't judge at all, its not my place after all.
But that andre sounds like a tool and didn't come across as decent person at all.
No wonder the "single male" gets so much shit all the time.
And baptism of fire indeed, wow the dude took a tongue lashing of note!!!
Don't kno about u lot but I think he redeemed him self.
Sure he will be back wit a better profile and better attitude towards every thing.
A.M.A

And we are watching with great anticipation . . .

3 Dec 2013

Quote by SPARTAN
Hi again, I am still looking for a place to tan naked in the Helderberg, I dont have a yard or pool area, If you have a yard or pool and want company, let me know.

Really surprised you haven't had endless offers . . . oh wait, that's because you are a man . . . Good luck with this quest buddy

3 Dec 2013

Quote by curvesahead
Seems as if he stuck to his word...

Just funny how LongJohn89 dissappeared at exactly the same time :borg:

2 Dec 2013

@LeeEC . . for some time now, and in particular the past two weeks, we have been discussing the fact that people do not read profiles on this site . .. then you go and post a novel on the forums . . . rotflmao

rotflmao

(No, please don't hit me again, I was only trying to make a Joke) . . . . hahahahah

2 Dec 2013

Quote by LeeEC
I may very well be shot down for this thought, but I am going to venture that this is PRECISELY where you may see the difference between people who play with their same race as a sexual preference versus people who make the "same race" comment for racist reasons.
I hope people are sharp enough to follow what I mean without me expanding.

Or the comment is made because they are hiding something from their partner . . . .

29 Nov 2013

Quote by playcouple
longjohn seems to be deregisterred........ so now more spaghetti throwing, in or out of cans, personally i prefer with butter, fresh gharlic and some melted cheese :twisted:

Gee, LongJohn deregistered? I wonder why . . . . :violin:
But, let's talk about that Butter and Melted Cheese idea you had . . . :swingingchair:

29 Nov 2013

Quote by kawaicouple
After being a single female (unicorn) for a while on the site never really met couples I "matched" well with. Now I'm part of a couple and looking for a unicorn sigh , where are they?? Just want a quality play date. Someone attractive, she must be down to earth (sounds like I'm describing myself lol) but haven't found one. There are some but they not my "type" they seem so abrupt- maybe I'm too fussy??

Oh dear, you have opened a can of spaghetti here . . . you have admitted that the elusive unicorn is somewhat abrupt . . . . can only imagine what certain forum contributors are going to have to say about this . . . . . . lol

lol

BUT, on a more serious note . . . the so called Unicorn is in complete control, always has been and always will be . . . . . . . .

28 Nov 2013

Quote by K_and_S1
not all single guy are bad , we have had 2 very good play dates with 2 different guys on separate occasions and we will call on them again possibly , i have met and chatted to another guy and he is also on our list of guys to play with

yes, not all single guy's are, but unfortunately a lot of them are.

28 Nov 2013

Quote by playcouple
@ Playcouple
I think you have confused me with someone else?? I have not made a comment on this fora.
If you are speaking about *water-sports* I agree most people do not know the term *water-sports* but then most people are not that Kinky either,some people think that doing a Blow Job/Cunnilingus is Kinky.
So I normally leave them to think that the term water-sports here, is everything from normal swimming to scuba diving.(Evil smile from me.)

Sorry PIB multiple windows were open, and mind wandered, was meant as reply to something in another topic
mmmm, mind was wondering . . . . . :thumbup::swingingchair:

27 Nov 2013

alllrighty then . . . . . . . .

27 Nov 2013

Quote by LeeEC
The real problem is that EVERYONE keeps equating "single male" with "straight male" they are NOT THE SAME THING. and the way you are asked to tick the boxes on "sign up" doesn't indicate that choosing those options speaks to the marital or partnered status of the profiles you'll be interacting with - the question focuses on a person's SEXUAL ORIENTATION - so it makes complete sense that people tick those boxes. The problem is in fact, a missing search filter for a profile type

If the question focuses on the sexual orientation of the person (yes, I know it actually does) then that proves the other theories listed in the other forum about why singles contact couples (you know, the one where a few people suggested people were either stupid or weird or the profile was not clearly written or even all three) . . .
There are a number of profiles with the male listed as Bi-Curious, and then it states clearly that only woman should respond and males should stay away . . .
I think we make way too many excuses for these kinds of people, if you don't fully understand the meaning of some or other terminology, then bloody well look it up before you tick a box, because after you tick it, people are going to start contacting you and then you start moaning and groaning ooops, I mean complaining that certain types of people contact you that should not :small-print::sleeping::fuckinghell::jagsatwork::undecided:

27 Nov 2013

Quote by georgeous
Road trip to Sydney, who's keen?

The only problem with Australia is Australians
GP number plate, we can do what we want.
NO, you cannot, you just THINK you can . . . lol

lol

I do think GP number plates are better than MP ones lol
Uncle Georgeous, play nicely now, us people with the Many Potholes number plates are different, we know we cannot do what we want, but we do it anyway :lol:

27 Nov 2013

Quote by wildnhot1
Why does single guys still try their luck with cpls that clearly state in their profiles that they are not interested in them and when you remind them to go read the profile again you get told you are a asshole!

Ok, so you have been given a few possible reasons why this happens, I would like to propose another reason why this MIGHT happen, I have copied a section of your write up from your profile which goes as follows
THIS IS FOR SINGLE GUYS!!!!
We don't play with single guys as a cpl.
So, the same not so bright single guy, may interpret that as you do in fact play alone.
Just a thought, use it, don't use it

26 Nov 2013

Quote by Mike_Pta
Road trip to Sydney, who's keen?

The only problem with Australia is Australians
GP number plate, we can do what we want.
NO, you cannot, you just THINK you can . . . lol

lol

26 Nov 2013

An idea from little old me. I do however "warn" everyone that this idea would put an almost end to any of us being able to rant and rave about people and their profiles . . . . wink

wink

In general we all have the experience of reading through a profile and finding at the end that their choices of playmates contradicts what the rest of the profile says ie: looking for Straight Male and or Bi-Male only to have in the wright up NO SINGLE MALES. These profiles should be saying Couple with X or Y if they are not looking for a SINGLE MALE . . . . but they rather do it the other way round and then bitch and moan and complain about the people who contact them saying they don't read the profile correctly, well maybe it's more of a "don't compile the profile correctly". So my suggestion is : let's all report the contradicting profiles (as above) to admin and then admin simply cleans them up . . . . can you hear the chirps of disgust and annoyance flying out of the admin room at this point . . hahahaha Ok, so I am just being humorous in my own (window licking) special way. However, let's rather just send the people a message asking what they actually want (who knows, you may actually be doing them a favour) instead of jumping on the forum and behaving like someone who has been done an injustice.

26 Nov 2013

Quote by Mike_Pta
Road trip to Sydney, who's keen?

The only problem with Australia is Australians

26 Nov 2013

Quote by MIKE_
Distances are calculated on postal codes (and while these distances are far from accurate).
Should someone in Australia happen to live in a place where their postal code matches a local code, the distance calculator would then presume that code to be a local code and make the calculation accordingly.

It's a good thing, because if Australia was between 85 and 425 km from here, I would have to move rotflmao

rotflmao

26 Nov 2013

Quote by longjohn89
I think this time I have a valid reason to rant and rave!!
Y is it so difficult to reply to a msg? Yes I kno ppl have jobs and what not, but honestly!!
It takes 5 min to reply to a msg. Granted u are not obligated to reply but it would be slightly decent to reply don't u think?
I'm not asking for a lot here, just some common decency. Every msg sent to me has been replied to not so? So y can't others do the same? Y is it so tough to be decent and have some manners?

This is the internet, or as I like to call it "A public website" . . .
I liken peoples behavior on any kind of site to the way people behave in real life. Take a trip to the mall as an example, you are almost guaranteed that someone will walk in front of you, someone will bump into you, someone will interrupt you while you are speaking to a store assistant, a store assistant will ignore you when you ask for information . . . people in general think they are more important and significant than the next guy.
So what on earth am I on about here you ask?
Simply that people are rude (in our own different unique ways) we all have differnt ideas about what is acceptable and what is not, and that is just the way our society has molded us. The best thing we can do is learn to not let it upset us because there is almost nothing you can do about it . ..