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Quote by LeeEC
I prefer shaven and neatly trimmed. I myself prefer to be shaven.

Ok, bring the razor, I'll shave you top to toe . . rotflmao I'm sure Lee & PIB would be happy to help
What a kind offer to make, you didn't even check to see how hairy he was before you offered! Brave. .. what will we do? Hold the shaving cream?
Team Work Lee . . . we will take turns with the razor . . . wink
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Quote by georgeous
I prefer shaven and neatly trimmed. I myself prefer to be shaven.

Ok, bring the razor, I'll shave you top to toe . . rotflmao I'm sure Lee & PIB would be happy to help
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Quote by Deviants
an interesting idea . . . . . but I have to wonder about the colour choice (seems a little "young") I guess I always just kinda associated the colour RED more with sex than black

I doubt too many guys could pull off wearing a red ring without getting flak from our vanilla workmates and peers. Black seems the logical choice really lol
We are all different and we all perceive things differently, that being said, I don't think guy's could pull of a black ring without the Vanilla flak. Males wear Gold and / or Silver (colours) well that is my own point of view anyway. A lot of younger kids wear black everything, can you imagine how many new swingers would make mistakes . . .
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You look wantonly at an attractive person in public and your spouse does not smack you upside the head
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Quote by LeeEC
I Just discovered the most awesome thing: reddit!
It's like the grand Central station of forums!
And it's full of sick cool threads and groups!
And There are four apps to choose from and it's so global!
Any other redditors about?

Sounds a bit like mutiny to me . . . . . rotflmao
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an interesting idea . . . . . but I have to wonder about the colour choice (seems a little "young") I guess I always just kinda associated the colour RED more with sex than black
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Quote by LeeEC
So, what's your preference?
Landing strip
All gone
Nicely trimmed
Neatly shaped
Mildly fluffy
Wild jungle?
Let us in on the down low boys!

YES lol
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Quote by LeeEC
OFFICIAL DECLARATION
I do not mind if my threads are hijacked.
As long as someone mentions the original topic every 5 or so posts... so "Shaved Bits"
smile

Delicate and soft skin . .
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Quote by Mike_Pta
I'm happy to stay clean shaven, I like being clean and I think it looks great.

Mike, you concern me dude. banghead
LeeEC asked the ladies for their viewpoint, I even tried to assist my fellow man and jumped in to say PAY ATTENTION BOYS (to what the ladies have to say about the topic) but you, a MALE of the species had to go and prove the point that men just don't bloody listen.
It was more of a message saying I'm glad my preference matches what most of the ladies prefer. I read the OP and then read through the previous posts before saying my 2c.
Maybe I could have been more specific but I also didn't think my post would derail the thread either since it looked like it was winding down.
hence the reason it has now been hi-jacked . . lol
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Quote by LeeEC
What are the ladies' rules?
Mine: ages preferably 30 - 45, hygiene, and they HAVE to be attractive TO ME. And that's not the same thing as "good looking".
ALWAYS play safe. Always meet socially before making any commitments

Oh boy, seems like I only have a year left to get my spade work done before I become a non contender (for another reason) :sad:
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Quote by Mike_Pta
I'm happy to stay clean shaven, I like being clean and I think it looks great.

Mike, you concern me dude. banghead
LeeEC asked the ladies for their viewpoint, I even tried to assist my fellow man and jumped in to say PAY ATTENTION BOYS (to what the ladies have to say about the topic) but you, a MALE of the species had to go and prove the point that men just don't bloody listen.
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The only time that age is a factor for me is when the people / person is (are) under 25. When the first line contains the words "please send pics" when the profile is clearly an incomplete mess. (straight person looking for a straight person of the same sex, but same sex action will not be tolerated) like Deviants said, mistakes are easy to forgive, but clear preferences HAVE TO BE RIGHT from the word go. And then of course there are those profiles where I just get the so called "gut feeling" that they are screwy ... . . .oh, and of course the single person who say's you must provide venue. (yes, people do have situations where they share a house, but say that first, otherwise one tends to get the impression that you are not so single)
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What that was supposed to mean was that I personally (Me, Myself & I) find photo's in the bedroom boring. Thought I would clarify my twelve cents worth before I was put "up against the wall" . . ..
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Quote by LeeEC
Personally I'm not super into shaved bare guys... I like mine hairy. But if you wanna shave, be my guest
(I feel sorry for you, all that hard work!)
BUT a lady that DOESN'T shave the NORMAL bits - legs, underarms etc. (not neccessarily her pubic area - just a bit of a trim is fine) that is just icky to me... I hate a hairy leg on a hot chick!
BUT THE ABSOLUTE worst thing in the world is the 2 day prickle! ARGHHH!!
A young man I know, a religiously leg-shaving cyclist, thinks it's hilarious to come sit next to me and press his shin against mine, after the 2 day prickle has set well in!
I usually react similarly to the average woman finding a tarantula in her underwear drawer!
It gives me the absolute creeps. How much worse is a prickly thigh or chest during playtime - you can NOT imagine!
I can not even BEGIN to guess at what a prickly ball-bag would do to my frayed nerves!

Now boys, pay attention to what the ladies reply here wink
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oh, I'm sorry, what were we talking about? :sleeping:
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Quote by LeeEC
Have you or your partner ever "taken one for the team"?
Engaged with a couple/one of a couple, because your partner liked the other member of the couple
(IN OTHER WORDS: if your lady liked him/ her/them both and you liked neither or the chick didn't 'do it for you'.. would you still shag the other woman for your lady to have fun? or vice versa)
So far I've been with a guy who I wasn't REALLY into (and still am not), so that my hubby could watch - so mainly for his pleasure - but I still actually got satisfied in the process so it wasn't all bad, but the thing is, I'm never excited or thrilled at the idea of a repeat coz there's no chemsitry and he isn't flirty with me at all... in fact he's more friendly with the hubby smile
I don't think I could ever shag someone who I felt turned off by in some way...

A thought provoker this is indeed . . . . knowing about the "taking one for the team" experience is one thing. But now I am wondering how many times we are not even aware of which ever partner at the time had that frame of mind . . .
I do remember one time where my relevant other at that moment was only kind of into the idea of a third person but went with it anyway . . . . . bitch would not let me get near either one of them the chemistry was so electric between them :grin:
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Quote by LeeEC
I think it's Bid-ness!
Hey boys - let's do some bid-ness...
sorry boys - in a hijackin' kinda mood :twisted:
Actually - good business tactics require a bit of indepth marketing research...
So why, my little marketing expert, aren't you actually taking note of the feedback from your target market?
:twisted: lol

Been a while since a topic got hi-jacked.
Wonder how many complaints we will get this time rotflmao
and anyway, 5 points for pointing out the male of the species' in-ability to follow clues, hints or even instructions :lol:
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Quote by Stamina
You are 100% correct. What you said above is actually exactly what I explained. Target marketing is the better approach, but not the only approach. Broad scale marketing will bring in less business than target marketing, but may still bring some business none the less.

So is that what we re calling it these days? "business" ????? rotflmao
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Quote by Respect
Good luck. Personally I think you're on the completely wrong site to find what you're looking for. And you might have overdosed on porn smile
Hope you find what you're looking for.

LeeEC
We were all hopeing you were going on leave ? And some were there is no Internet connection but thanks anyway all the usefull comments you have made on this forum
Make up your mind dude. Thanking LeeEC for doing something you don't want her to do?
Also, maybe re-think your profile name, as you clearly have none . . . .
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maybe it's time we all either accepted the way things are on sites like these, or maybe we should all just delete our profiles and find other ways to meet with like-minded people altogether.
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Quote by NawtyCat
I agree with everyone's comment above.....
But wanted to know: why you were booking a hotel room in the first place? Your place not good enough??

Remember he said that was her request.
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Quote by LoneRanger
Met a "lady" on here, one half of a supposed couple. met for a drink, then subsequently she contacted me, "I'm so hot for you", wanting to meet for sex. She decided she'd prefer it "in a hotel the first time" so, sucker that I am, I went off, booked a room, paid for it, SMS'd her the room number, got a reply "I'm on my way." I waited. And waited. Tried to call her - call cut off. Sent another SMS, "Where are you?" Nada. Then eventually a reply, "Sorry, I have a meeting at 3pm, I was ready for you at 2, can't make it anymore. I will reimburse you for the hotel." Ja, right! next she will ask for my bank account details...ha ha ha. No, she's not Nigerian either...
What are we supposed to do about these costly fakers? Should I name and shame her profile?

Everything that the others have said is good advice and / or a valid point. I would just add the fact that you did meet, have a drink swop contact details etc would indicate she might not have actually been a fake.
Sometimes things do really go beyond our control. If you handle it correctly you will get another chance with the person, if you react badly and negatively they are gone . . . . .
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Quote by kawaicouple
Think its time to say thank you to Madiba and all the other men and women who fought for our freedom.
Thanks to him we can vote, work, get educated and be free from discriminatio. Even date , marry and sleep with whom ever we want to!
Forever in our hearts... RIP Tata

As with Swinging, every one has had their own experience on this topic.
Sometimes we were proud, sometimes relieved, sometimes grateful, sometimes angry, sometimes embarrassed, sometimes confused, sometimes suppressed, sometimes overlooked, sometimes discriminated against, sometimes falsely accused, mostly generalized about because of what others had done previously.
There are those of us who were caught in the middle of the Riots, but were silenced.
There were those of us who had very promising careers in large companies, but that was changed to make way for others.
There are those of us who have been refused contracts because we were too male or too pale.
There are those of us who have children in school who bring home rather incomplete History books about the way things were prior to '94.
There are those of us who have family in Europe who had a different story about life in SA on their TV News and documentaries in the 80's and 90's.
If doing a little bit right was actually the way to right wrongs, then a certain former PM would have put an end to the past with his actions in '94.
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Quote by Stamina
The biggest problem here is that most men are infact "horn-dogs" driven by their desire (or need) to have as much sex as possible in their lifetime with as many partners as possible. ...

I would say it's more because of their own insecurities than them being "horn-dogs" . . .
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Quote by Erotic_Nauty
I am literally unable to read this Mxit spelling bullshit.
L8r pplz

Oh, is that what this gobbledygook stuff is? wink I thought it was a military secret code... lol
My Aunt uses this short hand stuff in her sms and messages, I usually just answer yes and hope it was the right answer cause I don't always get it as well!! :lol:
My mother is in her 70's, and she also understands these modern day ab :lol: breviations better than I ever will . ..
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Quote by Stamina
Let me elaborate on the above...
The trick to being dishonest is getting away with the lie. A man who has no more intimate feelings for his wife will most likely not be jealous of her. He will then not mind if another man pounds away at her, so long as he is also doing that mans wife... His wife believes he loves her dearly and they are just swinging... But he actually does not have the deep feelings required in a marriage, he just enjoys boning other men's wives... Easy to pull off the wife will be none the wiser. Most liars are good liars..

You have a valid point, but in my opinion, if that was the case with the husband (male) it would not last for too long as if he was switched off as such, he would eventually no longer be able to "perform" with his own misses, and then the moo poo will strike the windmill . . . . ..
So yes, it is a reality (in my opinion) but won't last too long . . . . . .
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So the rule is "I" before "E" except after "C" . . . . . then you get words like their, weir . . . . . . I could go on, but rules are rules man wink
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Quote by Stamina
Maybe his wife moers him so he must keep it a secret or he will wake up one morning with his balls in a glass next to him? lol

laughing out loud . . . . . and the rest of the office wants to share my joke . . . rotflmao
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Quote by Stamina
Ever sat a robot crowded with street vendors? Notice how they stand there not bugging you? But the second you look at one, he comes running to your window... The trick is to not make eye contact and they just may pass you by...
Something similar happens here. There are a few (or many) profiles with two bi males and the profile is that of a couple. When these are under your "suggested profiles" list, it does not say what gender the parties of that couple are. The name or distance grabs your interest, so you click it and the profile opens to reveal that the couple is actually two men, so you do not contact if you not into "guy only fun"... But when they log on, it shows who has viewed their profile, and you pop up on that list cos you opened the profile... Now the messaging starts because they believe you are interested... Why else would you view their profile? Er, maybe because you did not know that the couple is actually two men??

My best is that I myself am usually number 2 or 3 on the suggested list of good contacts . . . for myself :grin: Maybe there is a future section called "auto erotica" on this site
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A lot usage of the word love in your write up Stamina. For a couple top be able to "Swing" successfully, the "love" has to be in the right place, at the right level etc. I just seem to get a feeling from your post of the two being confused. If as couple is not 100% sure, then the best thing would be to wait a little longer. But then again, Swinging in a relationship may also curb the desire to cheat, but again, the relationship would have to be right. Ok, so as I'm writing I'm finding pro's & con's with my own thinking . . . . . . So, bottom line my 12 cents worth is "don't confuse love with sex" (in the swinging context)
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