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Quote by Mike_Pta
This week we have had plenty of flares about sexuality, Gay vs Bi, straight or curious etc. So I would like to show you guys something that I posted earlier

So homework time, try figure out some of these flags that some people identify with. Also think about how hard it is to use a label to define ones sexuality since we are all people and as such we are all different.
I will start with 3
Multi colour: homosexual
Pink, purple, blue: bisexual
Pink, yellow, blue: pansexual (PiB uses this one)

I am finding myself wondering why it seems to be the "straight people" that are mostly driving this topic . . . .
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Quote by Mike_Pta
Well Bi-curious is easy, straight and wishing to dip ones toe in.


Well Bi-curious is easy, straight and wishing to dip ones toe in.
As a curiosity I post below the Bisexual pride flag

Another curiosity

A freaking BiSexual Pride Flag ? :bs::bs::bs::bs::bs:
I guess I have just had my last 3some experience. Ladies only from now on . . . .
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Quote by Stamina
It sheds a bit more light but I still don't see how someone who is bisexual can be offended for being "labelled". I don't think a bisexual person can be called "semi-gay". I guess there just isn't a summarised description (3 words or less) to describe a bisexual person. Maybe I should admit defeat here and next time just use a long explanatory sentence? It really sounded like the correct choice of words without saying a bisexual person IS gay. But is not safe to say that people engaging in sexual "fun" with people of the same gender are infact committing "gay acts"? Or would that be offensive? After all, a man giving another man a blow job is performing a homosexual act. "Gay" is the slang word for "homosexual", not so?

People are offended for the dumbest of reasons these days, and anyone who is / was offended by the above was probably offended for a different reason / reasons than the next person.
Another man giving giving another man a blowjob may be looked at as being a homosexual act, but a woman licking another woman is seen as sexy . . . . . . . So is the problem the labeling or the people doing the labeling . . . . . .
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Quote by Stamina

I beg to differ.. "Gay tendencies" as apposed to "gay" is the most "politically correct" way to describe someone who is bi. Emphasis on the word "tendencies"...
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political correctness in the bedroom?????? Just now you are going to tell me that there will be a quota system put in place:small-print::small-print:
And it is not necessarily gay tendencies, but rather "sexual tendencies" . . . . wink
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Can I suggest that the powers that be attend to this child again please
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Quote by playcouple
All valid, but this is for pleasure and recreation, the rest are jobs, people get paid to trawl through all that information, no one pays the people here to sit and trawl through all of it every day................

BUT wouldn't it be a great job . . .
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@ STAMINA . . . . If anything, I think your blatant honesty about being not so single and looking for action deserves some or other kind of pat on the back. ie: you are not lying to potential "hook up's" . . . . . and they know up front what the situation as far as you are concerned is (a number of people do actually prefer this kind of meet) HOWEVER, and yes, there is always a however . . . . . some of those very same people may be reading all your postings about the poor single (as in here alone) guy, and well . . . . . . Ok, enough MooPoo from me . . . tell us more about this incredible knowledge of the English language you have these days, were you away at varsity studying the Language during your absence? rotflmaorotflmao
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Quote by playcouple
LOLOLOL @ Andre, if that was a joke as to the list of questions, then i catch it. If there was nothing to catch then, as per Confucius, danger....................
Just out of interest, some of your comments alone would put us off meeting you at all, without looking at your profile.......

Oh, but I would REALLY like to meet with Andre . . . . . . . . . :small-print::small-print:
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He who learns but does not think, is lost! He who thinks but does not learn is in great danger. Confucius
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Quote by Pussinboots1
I am now to *OLD* to shag.......

One is never too old my dear . . . . . wink
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Quote by LeeEC
Well i see just about everyone agrees on the age gap thing then what is the excuse for some cpl that have such a age gap between one another. How do they find something to talk about?
Joyrider
just as long as the sex is great ne lol

Well the answer is obvious, they have found some other common ground which outweighs the age gap.
Ok, let me make a (simple) example. Your wife might not be Charlise Theron (or any other woman for that matter), but you have other things (that you see as far more valuable and precious) in your connection with Joy, that out weigh money, youth, fame or any other thing Charlise could offer you right? So hands down, no contest you choose Joy!
So in a swinging context, there may be things that don't attract you or "put you off" like they aren't physically your type (blonde, short, tattoos) or they are from another culture or they are too young or too immature, but then someone who may very well fit one of those "turn off" categories, comes along, but to your surprise, the SHARE your weird and rare fetish OR they are much more mature than other 25 yr olds, OR they have a personality that 'clicks!' with yours OR they share your passion for cycling/badminton/bee keeping/motorcross/embroidery/biking/camping/baseline/13th century art, or whatever.
That's so cool, you overlook the other "put offs" to reap the benefit of the aspect you find more valuable and precious.
This dynamic is true in ALL human connections, swinging is no different.
THIRTEENTH CENTURY ART ? ? Allrighty then . . . wink
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Quote by joyrider
Well i see just about everyone agrees on the age gap thing then what is the excuse for some cpl that have such a age gap between one another. How do they find something to talk about?
Joyrider
just as long as the sex is great ne lol

Probably the difference is that when you are a couple you have time to discover each other.
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Quote by Mike_Pta
Well I don't mind a black ring, but I already have a silver school ring I wear so if you see 2 on the same finger you might have found me.

A school ring ?
Seriously, did you just admit to that on the internet? to people you are hoping to share a bed with ? :sad:
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Quote by Mike_Pta
I've also noticed plenty of couples not keen on young guys. I understand your point though Lee, generation gap can get weird.

The moment someone starts approaching others too far away from their own (more than 20 years either way) it starts getting a bit "grey" smile fifteen is my limit I think.
Well 20 years places people either double my age or below the age when kids start walking so 20 years works for me. But I don't mind going older, I find it fun.
Still it's your loss silly
Mike, most people 20+ have been there, done that and some of us are the reason for the t-shirt wink
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Quote by LeeEC
I guess we all have our preference, but in reality as long as they are of legal age and sound of mind . . . . :swingingchair:

You are such a BOY!
Oh come on, at least I insist that they MUST be sound of mind as well . . . rotflmao
Ok, but seriously, I like all of you have a preference. BUT, I will not say NO purely on age. Same as I would not say no purely on photo's.
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Quote by LeeEC
Well I don't mind a black ring, but I already have a silver school ring I wear so if you see 2 on the same finger you might have found me.

HUH?.
Thinking about one forum post while in another
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I guess we all have our preference, but in reality as long as they are of legal age and sound of mind . . . . :swingingchair:
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Quote by KC_
an interesting idea . . . . . but I have to wonder about the colour choice (seems a little "young") I guess I always just kinda associated the colour RED more with sex than black

I doubt too many guys could pull off wearing a red ring without getting flak from our vanilla workmates and peers. Black seems the logical choice really lol
We are all different and we all perceive things differently, that being said, I don't think guy's could pull of a black ring without the Vanilla flak. Males wear Gold and / or Silver (colours) well that is my own point of view anyway. A lot of younger kids wear black everything, can you imagine how many new swingers would make mistakes . . .
Well, some silver rings oxidise to black depending on how your body reacts to it... So, if anyone looks at you strangely, you can say it IS a silver ring... but has oxidised... lol
;)
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rotflmaorotflmao
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Quote by LeeEC
I prefer shaven and neatly trimmed. I myself prefer to be shaven.

Ok, bring the razor, I'll shave you top to toe . . rotflmao I'm sure Lee & PIB would be happy to help
What a kind offer to make, you didn't even check to see how hairy he was before you offered! Brave. .. what will we do? Hold the shaving cream?
Team Work Lee . . . we will take turns with the razor . . . wink
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Quote by georgeous
I prefer shaven and neatly trimmed. I myself prefer to be shaven.

Ok, bring the razor, I'll shave you top to toe . . rotflmao I'm sure Lee & PIB would be happy to help
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Quote by Deviants
an interesting idea . . . . . but I have to wonder about the colour choice (seems a little "young") I guess I always just kinda associated the colour RED more with sex than black

I doubt too many guys could pull off wearing a red ring without getting flak from our vanilla workmates and peers. Black seems the logical choice really lol
We are all different and we all perceive things differently, that being said, I don't think guy's could pull of a black ring without the Vanilla flak. Males wear Gold and / or Silver (colours) well that is my own point of view anyway. A lot of younger kids wear black everything, can you imagine how many new swingers would make mistakes . . .
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You look wantonly at an attractive person in public and your spouse does not smack you upside the head
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Quote by LeeEC
I Just discovered the most awesome thing: reddit!
It's like the grand Central station of forums!
And it's full of sick cool threads and groups!
And There are four apps to choose from and it's so global!
Any other redditors about?

Sounds a bit like mutiny to me . . . . . rotflmao
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an interesting idea . . . . . but I have to wonder about the colour choice (seems a little "young") I guess I always just kinda associated the colour RED more with sex than black
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Quote by LeeEC
So, what's your preference?
Landing strip
All gone
Nicely trimmed
Neatly shaped
Mildly fluffy
Wild jungle?
Let us in on the down low boys!

YES lol
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Quote by LeeEC
OFFICIAL DECLARATION
I do not mind if my threads are hijacked.
As long as someone mentions the original topic every 5 or so posts... so "Shaved Bits"
smile

Delicate and soft skin . .
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Quote by Mike_Pta
I'm happy to stay clean shaven, I like being clean and I think it looks great.

Mike, you concern me dude. banghead
LeeEC asked the ladies for their viewpoint, I even tried to assist my fellow man and jumped in to say PAY ATTENTION BOYS (to what the ladies have to say about the topic) but you, a MALE of the species had to go and prove the point that men just don't bloody listen.
It was more of a message saying I'm glad my preference matches what most of the ladies prefer. I read the OP and then read through the previous posts before saying my 2c.
Maybe I could have been more specific but I also didn't think my post would derail the thread either since it looked like it was winding down.
hence the reason it has now been hi-jacked . . lol
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Quote by LeeEC
What are the ladies' rules?
Mine: ages preferably 30 - 45, hygiene, and they HAVE to be attractive TO ME. And that's not the same thing as "good looking".
ALWAYS play safe. Always meet socially before making any commitments

Oh boy, seems like I only have a year left to get my spade work done before I become a non contender (for another reason) :sad:
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Quote by Mike_Pta
I'm happy to stay clean shaven, I like being clean and I think it looks great.

Mike, you concern me dude. banghead
LeeEC asked the ladies for their viewpoint, I even tried to assist my fellow man and jumped in to say PAY ATTENTION BOYS (to what the ladies have to say about the topic) but you, a MALE of the species had to go and prove the point that men just don't bloody listen.
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