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Straight White/Caucasian Male, 55
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Moderators are doing this in an effort to help make the site more useful for themselves and for us. Maybe people should cut them a little slack. Maybe your comments seem fine to you (and they probably do, otherwise you probably would nit have said them) but what if they were offensive to other members who then complained? Doesn't help all you do is blame the Moderator. Like Adonis said, it's in our nature in this country to run down authority . . . . this is a free service to us all, the least we can do is abide by the sites rules, whether we agree with them or not.
Quote by Adonis
You only 4 min out of the pool and you can read ' a page back if you get back in the pool. Not so difficult

Ok, but then it would seem as bumping someone out the room is pretty powerless. If someone has done something worthy of being bumped, they should at least have a penalty period.
Quote by Pussinboots1
Sooooooo guys *beware* you are being *rated* and talked about LMAO

PIB1 . . . most men KNOW this, that is why we all have complexes about penis size. What makes it worse is when women say "size doesn't matter" . . . because we know almost all of them are lying . . . wink
[quote="spanky"]There are good mods on the site. I've seen them in the chat room during the weekdays, and I want to give them a shout out for being fair and above all - POLITE. Interesting you bring up two things that are worthy of thought: authority and friends. The dude who decided to make a derogatory remark couldn't answer me when I asked him what he meant. Instead of owning his words, he kicked me from the room. His mates were patting him on the back and loving the fact that this mod had just puffed out his cyber chest to prove he's the alpha. Mod, please. "With great power comes great responsibility." ~ Spiderman Spanky, You say the Mod's mates were patting him on the back and loving the fact he just puffed his chest . . . . . . now if you were just kicked from the room, I have to wonder how you are aware of this? Do you have another member telling you this info?
Well now, I guess it's again just one of those depends on the various people situations . . . I mean I know this guy who is close to 40, but has a 21 year Girlfriend rotflmaorotflmao
Now while I know this topic has been "forum'd" to death, I am bored and needed something to do, so I thought I would cut & paste the below info for people to read and maybe agree or disagree with, and maybe even add some to . . . . . Some findings ********** - If it's too thick, good head is rare - A very thick penis is eventually accommodateable, but not for head. - If it's too thin, she will not enjoy it - If it's too long you'll have to be careful not to slam into her cervix. - A longer penis is better for doggy style positions - A longer penis will stimulate those first three inches more on one stroke than a shorter penis - A longer penis is more difficult to ride for a long time (she can't come all the way down and this can tire her out) - A shorter penis tends to slip out more often - A shorter penis isn't ideal for doggy style positions - A longer penis can more easily hit the G-spot, Deep spot, etc. A shorter penis may be able to do it by adjusting the position for deep entry - Generally speaking, a bigger penis is softer than a smaller one
Quote by LeeEC
Um most vibrators are not "large".... Not surprising you don't know this, really since it's not really your wheel house. ...

My wheel house is turning just fine thank you very much, this hamster is on top of things . . . . blink
(yes, I know what you were actually referring to to)
Quote by Jamknop69
I'm new here. Hoop om baie female friends te maak

Welcome,
Maar heirde is nie die Site om dit reg te kry.
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
What is swinging? Or more importantly, what is not swinging?
There is no clear answer to that.
On this site, there are even single straight guys that are just looking for single straight girls and vice versa.
We are all here to express our naughty side in one way or another .
In the early days we found more excitement in exchanging naughty messages and pics with "Fakers" than many old hands get from doing unspeakable things.
Above all, we still enjoy the freshness of people having new experiences, so we like engaging with new and undecided couples. ( And some well spoken singles)
For us there is more fun to be had with nice Fakers, that have some imagination, than with experienced people that are pushy.
If however you are in the mood for something more physical, Cyber Sex won't do.
We therefore have to find ways to distinguish between people that are in this to get it on and those that just have big ideas.
As I mentioned in another thread, I believe the answer is not in being Verified once but indeed to be verified by several other profiles. Again, that does not mean that you have played with them but that your profile represents you in a reasonable manner.

My suggestion would be that perhaps the "fakers" should start their own WebSite for this purpose, that way the "Non-Fakers" on say this site, would know not to join their site, because they would know it is offering something different to what they are actually looking for.
Quote by ash
Im a child of the 80's and a teen of the nighties so i share certain interests of people older than me ie music , pop culture etc and with those younger than long term girlfriend was ten years older than me yet we had so much in common since she was a teen of the 80's. I could sing a long to abba songs which she loved and i knew because my sister listened to them .what i am trying to say in a long winded way is i guess you just need some common .....let me get my fat ass to the gym

Ash, all valid comments (well apart from signing along to ABBA) but I think the main question was about age gap in the lifestyle, as in a 40 year old couple not wanting a 21 year old couple.
Oops, My fat ass will not fit through the Gym door
Every one will be quick to say "size does not matter" and I suppose if you yourself have come to terms with whatever size you happen to be, and simply get on with it, then you will probably not encounter too many unhappy women. But the truth of it is that at the end of the day, size does matter. Woman are just way more intelligent and mature when it comes to crux of it and they will be "happy" with whatever is on offer, as long as there is not a dick attached to the dick. Look, if size really did not matter, why are most vibrators "large" ?
Athletic when a man says it = could loose a few pounds Athletic when a woman says it = small breasts
Quote by softbuns
Hi,
just saw yr forum rant and I can sympathise. In four years of swinging as a single guy I NEVER met up with a single lady for NSA sex. I did have a rip roaring time with a circle of married couples where I was welcomed.
I suggest you change your approach if you only want a fuckbuddy or two, and rather try to make friends with married couples.
BUT! Big but!!!
Nobody likes or wants a hit and run artist!! People are looking for real friendship, with perks. :-))
Single ladies in the scene, all want a relationship. Advertising here does not mean they have a typical male shag and leave viewpoint. If you are not offering that, then dont expect to hook up. If you are not at least open to a close friendship, you are wasting your time.
Unfortunately, this and other sites are crawling with arsehole husbands trying to cadge a skelmpie behind their wives back, or are simply scumbags. This makes life extremely difficult for the tiny handfull of gentlemen out there who know how to treat a woman with respect (and her husband too) .
Hope this helps
Cheers

I somehow doubt that there are very many people (if any) on THIS particular site who are looking for a relationship.
Quote by ash
when mommy and uncle ash have to take the kids to swimming lessons while daddy and aunty "nicole" make "lunch"

Now that's the kind of swinging relationship I want . . .
Quote by ykad
I have chatted to so many ladies on this site and have not met one yet.....
Now i came to a few conclusions:
1. Either i am not interesting enough.....which would be rather sad.
2. The ladies are afraid to meet a guy for nsa fun......then why sign up on a site like this.
3. Most of the ladies are fake.....some weird guy posing as a woman.
So all i am asking is these two questions:
1. Has any of you fine gentleman had the pleasure of meeting any of these stunning ladies from this site on a 1 on 1 basis ( not couples) ?
YK

yip, I have. Some succesfully and some not so much, but there are ladies on here who are above board.
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
Most 'Normal' ones can be pulled over your head (The one with the ears and eyes) and inflated via your nose to give you an egg head. They can also be pulled over your hand and past your elbow. Do you really need bigger?
They're supposed to be snug, so as long as you stay hard they'll do their job.
If that feels so bad why is anal so good.

So now I am sitting here wondering just how many people have tried this after reading the forum . . . . wink
Quote by localcouple1234
What is it with the manners thing? We saw it this past week...we put in effort to write decent mails, and then people will not be bothered to even reply. It's understandable that our profile will not fall into everyone's "taste"...but jeez, a simple no thank would be nice.

I had a look at your profile (insert thumbs up emoticon thingy here) and I would say that anyone who never responded to your messages was simply scared, because they could see you are the real thing.
Try not to let it bother you, remember this site is a South African one with South Africans as members, manners are going to be a seldom found here.
Quote by LeeEC
If you have the time, a decent amount of reading in our own "Anything Goes" forum should answer most of your questions. Plus just posting your question as a new topic will be very profitable. People are friendly and willing to help, mostly, we try to slap the idiots periodically to keep them in line.

And what lovely slaps they are . . .. wink
One thing South Africans (or at least people in SA) should always try to keep in mind, is that most of the information available on-line these days, has been compiled with American and/or European research. Now whether we like it or not, people who live in Africa have a different view on life in general. (simply take interracial encounters as an example)
Even the information you find here on SH forums should be processed as suggestions only, and not necessarily the simple straight forward answer to any question you may have. (yes, I know most people will be saying "ummm Duh, SDMR") . . . . (but, take a moment to think about it))))))
Quote by Blondieandhim
We have been married for more than 10 years, and one of us were always pushing, very gently, towards the lifestyle. But with no luck.
Now, eventually, interest came from the other, not so open-minded one.
We have had six MMF threesomes since 18th November 2013. (Thanks SwingingHeaven)
Both of us thought we had an amazing sex life.
But now..... nothing is the same and we're both hooked.
lol lol lol

Sounds like an opportunity to write a story for the "stories" section :small-print:
Ok Stamina, so now what? lol
0 Exclusively heterosexual.
1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual.
2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual.
3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual.
4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual.
5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual.
6 Exclusively homosexual.
X Non-sexual.
F The test failed to match you to a Kinsey Type profile. Either you answered some questions wrong, or you are a very unusual person.
Quote by Mike_Pta

Perhaps, but any couple / single on this site is now going to be thinking more than once before contacting your ass. They going to be worried about being called in the Boardroom to explain a rumour doing the rounds in the office, started by some bloke called Mike . . . . . wink
So long as I leave with all my organs intact then they shouldn't be worried. I was just saying there are some guys who come here to cheat on the partner and they might think twice before risking killing their marriage. If you are here for legit reason and are not planning to screw someone (outside a swing context) then nothing will ever happen surely.
Ok, this is where I have to explain to you that my slightly twisted sense of humour is all that was at play here. wink
Quote by Mike_Pta

Perhaps, but any couple / single on this site is now going to be thinking more than once before contacting your ass. They going to be worried about being called in the Boardroom to explain a rumour doing the rounds in the office, started by some bloke called Mike . . . . . wink
Quote by Mike_Pta
i am keen , im qualified NAUI and PADI

Wow, why both? 2nd question, which tables do you use?
Ladies and Gentlemen,
It would appear as if you have been a little distracted, the kind of diving we do in this community is not Scuba rotflmao
Quote by Boet_Dolla
Yip. Lived in that area and relocated to Durban. Lots of action in that area but Durban and surrounds seems to be a dead end. Everyone seems to be interested in talking only and not so much in doing anything. Oh well. I suppose life's a bitch sometimes! smile

Maybe you should consider starting your own group . . . . . . . that way it would function exactly the way you would want it to . . .
Quote by Mike_Pta
Just to point out that verification has very little value. I'm a mod and I'm not verified!
Plus you ALWAYShave random people who verify anyone
Maybe the verification process should be different? More valuable? More detailed or more specific (what does it actually mean? )

Send the mod your business card. Then you can call the office and verify that come to the front desk to answer it.
If anybody ever gets caught as a lair you know where the work and who to phone to start a bad rumour silly IE place you balls on the chopping block so to say.
oh dear, it would appear as if Mike_Pta has managed to shoot himself in the foot . . . . . . .
Quote by Mike_Pta
But it sounds like length is the issue. If he's like me then rolling it on and having it tight isn't the issue but rather that when you pull it on it looks off that it only goes 2/3s of the way. Pulling it doesn't really help since it only slides up again.

Bunch of bloody showoffs . . . . . :fuckinghell:
Quote by stoutgatte2013
where can we purchase condoms bit bigger than normal. we did find the Durex 56mm width but they still only 185mm long.
me and the missis has been to the normal places dicem, clicks and so forth but no luck

Maybe you and the misses should use another form of contraception.
If you play with someone else you will only have the chocking feeling occasionally then
Quote by Stamina
This site has made me bisexual... Cos I have to "buy" sex! Bwa ha haaa has ha!

Yes, but isn't that the meaning of Bi-Sexual? if you can't get it you bi it? lol