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SDM

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14 Jan 2014

Quote by LeeEC
If you have the time, a decent amount of reading in our own "Anything Goes" forum should answer most of your questions. Plus just posting your question as a new topic will be very profitable. People are friendly and willing to help, mostly, we try to slap the idiots periodically to keep them in line.

And what lovely slaps they are . . .. wink

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One thing South Africans (or at least people in SA) should always try to keep in mind, is that most of the information available on-line these days, has been compiled with American and/or European research. Now whether we like it or not, people who live in Africa have a different view on life in general. (simply take interracial encounters as an example)
Even the information you find here on SH forums should be processed as suggestions only, and not necessarily the simple straight forward answer to any question you may have. (yes, I know most people will be saying "ummm Duh, SDMR") . . . . (but, take a moment to think about it))))))

14 Jan 2014

Quote by Blondieandhim
We have been married for more than 10 years, and one of us were always pushing, very gently, towards the lifestyle. But with no luck.
Now, eventually, interest came from the other, not so open-minded one.
We have had six MMF threesomes since 18th November 2013. (Thanks SwingingHeaven)
Both of us thought we had an amazing sex life.
But now..... nothing is the same and we're both hooked.
:lol: :lol:

Sounds like an opportunity to write a story for the "stories" section :small-print:

13 Jan 2014

Ok Stamina, so now what? lol

lol

0 Exclusively heterosexual.
1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual.
2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual.
3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual.
4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual.
5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual.
6 Exclusively homosexual.
X Non-sexual.
F The test failed to match you to a Kinsey Type profile. Either you answered some questions wrong, or you are a very unusual person.

13 Jan 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta

Perhaps, but any couple / single on this site is now going to be thinking more than once before contacting your ass. They going to be worried about being called in the Boardroom to explain a rumour doing the rounds in the office, started by some bloke called Mike . . . . .
So long as I leave with all my organs intact then they shouldn't be worried. I was just saying there are some guys who come here to cheat on the partner and they might think twice before risking killing their marriage. If you are here for legit reason and are not planning to screw someone (outside a swing context) then nothing will ever happen surely.
Ok, this is where I have to explain to you that my slightly twisted sense of humour is all that was at play here. :wink:

13 Jan 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta

Perhaps, but any couple / single on this site is now going to be thinking more than once before contacting your ass. They going to be worried about being called in the Boardroom to explain a rumour doing the rounds in the office, started by some bloke called Mike . . . . .

13 Jan 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta
i am keen , im qualified NAUI and PADI

Wow, why both? 2nd question, which tables do you use?
Ladies and Gentlemen,
It would appear as if you have been a little distracted, the kind of diving we do in this community is not Scuba rotflmao

rotflmao

13 Jan 2014

Quote by Boet_Dolla
Yip. Lived in that area and relocated to Durban. Lots of action in that area but Durban and surrounds seems to be a dead end. Everyone seems to be interested in talking only and not so much in doing anything. Oh well. I suppose life's a bitch sometimes!

Maybe you should consider starting your own group . . . . . . . that way it would function exactly the way you would want it to . . .

13 Jan 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta
Just to point out that verification has very little value. I'm a mod and I'm not verified!
Plus you ALWAYShave random people who verify anyone
Maybe the verification process should be different? More valuable? More detailed or more specific (what does it actually mean? )

Send the mod your business card. Then you can call the office and verify that come to the front desk to answer it.
If anybody ever gets caught as a lair you know where the work and who to phone to start a bad rumour silly

silly

IE place you balls on the chopping block so to say.
oh dear, it would appear as if Mike_Pta has managed to shoot himself in the foot . . . . . . .

10 Jan 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta
But it sounds like length is the issue. If he's like me then rolling it on and having it tight isn't the issue but rather that when you pull it on it looks off that it only goes 2/3s of the way. Pulling it doesn't really help since it only slides up again.

Bunch of bloody showoffs . . . . . :fuckinghell:

10 Jan 2014

Quote by stoutgatte2013
where can we purchase condoms bit bigger than normal. we did find the Durex 56mm width but they still only 185mm long.
me and the missis has been to the normal places dicem, clicks and so forth but no luck

Maybe you and the misses should use another form of contraception.
If you play with someone else you will only have the chocking feeling occasionally then

9 Jan 2014

Quote by Stamina
This site has made me bisexual... Cos I have to "buy" sex! Bwa ha haaa has ha!

Yes, but isn't that the meaning of Bi-Sexual? if you can't get it you bi it? lol

lol

9 Jan 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta
This week we have had plenty of flares about sexuality, Gay vs Bi, straight or curious etc. So I would like to show you guys something that I posted earlier

So homework time, try figure out some of these flags that some people identify with. Also think about how hard it is to use a label to define ones sexuality since we are all people and as such we are all different.
I will start with 3
Multi colour: homosexual
Pink, purple, blue: bisexual
Pink, yellow, blue: pansexual (PiB uses this one)

I am finding myself wondering why it seems to be the "straight people" that are mostly driving this topic . . . .

9 Jan 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta
Well Bi-curious is easy, straight and wishing to dip ones toe in.

Well Bi-curious is easy, straight and wishing to dip ones toe in.
As a curiosity I post below the Bisexual pride flag

Another curiosity

A freaking BiSexual Pride Flag ? :bs::bs::bs::bs::bs:
I guess I have just had my last 3some experience. Ladies only from now on . . . .

8 Jan 2014

Quote by Stamina
It sheds a bit more light but I still don't see how someone who is bisexual can be offended for being "labelled". I don't think a bisexual person can be called "semi-gay". I guess there just isn't a summarised description (3 words or less) to describe a bisexual person. Maybe I should admit defeat here and next time just use a long explanatory sentence? It really sounded like the correct choice of words without saying a bisexual person IS gay. But is not safe to say that people engaging in sexual "fun" with people of the same gender are infact committing "gay acts"? Or would that be offensive? After all, a man giving another man a blow job is performing a homosexual act. "Gay" is the slang word for "homosexual", not so?

People are offended for the dumbest of reasons these days, and anyone who is / was offended by the above was probably offended for a different reason / reasons than the next person.
Another man giving giving another man a blowjob may be looked at as being a homosexual act, but a woman licking another woman is seen as sexy . . . . . . . So is the problem the labeling or the people doing the labeling . . . . . .

8 Jan 2014

Quote by Stamina

I beg to differ.. "Gay tendencies" as apposed to "gay" is the most "politically correct" way to describe someone who is bi. Emphasis on the word "tendencies"...
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political correctness in the bedroom?????? Just now you are going to tell me that there will be a quota system put in place:small-print::small-print:
And it is not necessarily gay tendencies, but rather "sexual tendencies" . . . . wink

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8 Jan 2014

Can I suggest that the powers that be attend to this child again please

7 Jan 2014

Quote by playcouple
All valid, but this is for pleasure and recreation, the rest are jobs, people get paid to trawl through all that information, no one pays the people here to sit and trawl through all of it every day................

BUT wouldn't it be a great job . . .

7 Jan 2014

@ STAMINA . . . . If anything, I think your blatant honesty about being not so single and looking for action deserves some or other kind of pat on the back. ie: you are not lying to potential "hook up's" . . . . . and they know up front what the situation as far as you are concerned is (a number of people do actually prefer this kind of meet) HOWEVER, and yes, there is always a however . . . . . some of those very same people may be reading all your postings about the poor single (as in here alone) guy, and well . . . . . . Ok, enough MooPoo from me . . . tell us more about this incredible knowledge of the English language you have these days, were you away at varsity studying the Language during your absence?

rotflmao

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7 Jan 2014

Quote by playcouple
LOLOLOL @ Andre, if that was a joke as to the list of questions, then i catch it. If there was nothing to catch then, as per Confucius, danger....................
Just out of interest, some of your comments alone would put us off meeting you at all, without looking at your profile.......

Oh, but I would REALLY like to meet with Andre . . . . . . . . . :small-print::small-print:

7 Jan 2014

He who learns but does not think, is lost! He who thinks but does not learn is in great danger. Confucius

5 Jan 2014

Quote by Pussinboots1
I am now to *OLD* to shag.......

One is never too old my dear . . . . . wink

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4 Jan 2014

Quote by LeeEC
Well i see just about everyone agrees on the age gap thing then what is the excuse for some cpl that have such a age gap between one another. How do they find something to talk about?
Joyrider
just as long as the sex is great ne

Well the answer is obvious, they have found some other common ground which outweighs the age gap.
Ok, let me make a (simple) example. Your wife might not be Charlise Theron (or any other woman for that matter), but you have other things (that you see as far more valuable and precious) in your connection with Joy, that out weigh money, youth, fame or any other thing Charlise could offer you right? So hands down, no contest you choose Joy!
So in a swinging context, there may be things that don't attract you or "put you off" like they aren't physically your type (blonde, short, tattoos) or they are from another culture or they are too young or too immature, but then someone who may very well fit one of those "turn off" categories, comes along, but to your surprise, the SHARE your weird and rare fetish OR they are much more mature than other 25 yr olds, OR they have a personality that 'clicks!' with yours OR they share your passion for cycling/badminton/bee keeping/motorcross/embroidery/biking/camping/baseline/13th century art, or whatever.
That's so cool, you overlook the other "put offs" to reap the benefit of the aspect you find more valuable and precious.
This dynamic is true in ALL human connections, swinging is no different.
THIRTEENTH CENTURY ART ? ? Allrighty then . . . wink

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4 Jan 2014

Quote by joyrider
Well i see just about everyone agrees on the age gap thing then what is the excuse for some cpl that have such a age gap between one another. How do they find something to talk about?
Joyrider
just as long as the sex is great ne

Probably the difference is that when you are a couple you have time to discover each other.

3 Jan 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta
Well I don't mind a black ring, but I already have a silver school ring I wear so if you see 2 on the same finger you might have found me.

A school ring ?
Seriously, did you just admit to that on the internet? to people you are hoping to share a bed with ? :sad:

3 Jan 2014

Quote by Mike_Pta
I've also noticed plenty of couples not keen on young guys. I understand your point though Lee, generation gap can get weird.

The moment someone starts approaching others too far away from their own (more than 20 years either way) it starts getting a bit "grey" smile

smile

fifteen is my limit I think.
Well 20 years places people either double my age or below the age when kids start walking so 20 years works for me. But I don't mind going older, I find it fun.
Still it's your loss silly

silly

Mike, most people 20+ have been there, done that and some of us are the reason for the t-shirt wink

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3 Jan 2014

Quote by LeeEC
I guess we all have our preference, but in reality as long as they are of legal age and sound of mind . . . . :swingingchair:

You are such a BOY!
Oh come on, at least I insist that they MUST be sound of mind as well . . . rotflmao

rotflmao

Ok, but seriously, I like all of you have a preference. BUT, I will not say NO purely on age. Same as I would not say no purely on photo's.

3 Jan 2014

Why dont we all just have t shirts made ? lol

lol

3 Jan 2014

Quote by LeeEC
Well I don't mind a black ring, but I already have a silver school ring I wear so if you see 2 on the same finger you might have found me.

HUH?.
Thinking about one forum post while in another

3 Jan 2014

I guess we all have our preference, but in reality as long as they are of legal age and sound of mind . . . . :swingingchair:

3 Jan 2014

Quote by KC_
an interesting idea . . . . . but I have to wonder about the colour choice (seems a little "young") I guess I always just kinda associated the colour RED more with sex than black

I doubt too many guys could pull off wearing a red ring without getting flak from our vanilla workmates and peers. Black seems the logical choice really lol

lol

We are all different and we all perceive things differently, that being said, I don't think guy's could pull of a black ring without the Vanilla flak. Males wear Gold and / or Silver (colours) well that is my own point of view anyway. A lot of younger kids wear black everything, can you imagine how many new swingers would make mistakes . . .
Well, some silver rings oxidise to black depending on how your body reacts to it... So, if anyone looks at you strangely, you can say it IS a silver ring... but has oxidised... :lol:
;)
C

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