Quote by Jamknop69
I'm new here. Hoop om baie female friends te maak

Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
What is swinging? Or more importantly, what is not swinging?
There is no clear answer to that.
On this site, there are even single straight guys that are just looking for single straight girls and vice versa.
We are all here to express our naughty side in one way or another .
In the early days we found more excitement in exchanging naughty messages and pics with "Fakers" than many old hands get from doing unspeakable things.
Above all, we still enjoy the freshness of people having new experiences, so we like engaging with new and undecided couples. ( And some well spoken singles)
For us there is more fun to be had with nice Fakers, that have some imagination, than with experienced people that are pushy.
If however you are in the mood for something more physical, Cyber Sex won't do.
We therefore have to find ways to distinguish between people that are in this to get it on and those that just have big ideas.
As I mentioned in another thread, I believe the answer is not in being Verified once but indeed to be verified by several other profiles. Again, that does not mean that you have played with them but that your profile represents you in a reasonable manner.

Quote by ash
Im a child of the 80's and a teen of the nighties so i share certain interests of people older than me ie music , pop culture etc and with those younger than long term girlfriend was ten years older than me yet we had so much in common since she was a teen of the 80's. I could sing a long to abba songs which she loved and i knew because my sister listened to them .what i am trying to say in a long winded way is i guess you just need some common .....let me get my fat ass to the gym

Quote by softbuns
Hi,
just saw yr forum rant and I can sympathise. In four years of swinging as a single guy I NEVER met up with a single lady for NSA sex. I did have a rip roaring time with a circle of married couples where I was welcomed.
I suggest you change your approach if you only want a fuckbuddy or two, and rather try to make friends with married couples.
BUT! Big but!!!
Nobody likes or wants a hit and run artist!! People are looking for real friendship, with perks. :-))
Single ladies in the scene, all want a relationship. Advertising here does not mean they have a typical male shag and leave viewpoint. If you are not offering that, then dont expect to hook up. If you are not at least open to a close friendship, you are wasting your time.
Unfortunately, this and other sites are crawling with arsehole husbands trying to cadge a skelmpie behind their wives back, or are simply scumbags. This makes life extremely difficult for the tiny handfull of gentlemen out there who know how to treat a woman with respect (and her husband too) .
Hope this helps
Cheers

Quote by ash
when mommy and uncle ash have to take the kids to swimming lessons while daddy and aunty "nicole" make "lunch"

Quote by ykad
I have chatted to so many ladies on this site and have not met one yet.....
Now i came to a few conclusions:
1. Either i am not interesting enough.....which would be rather sad.
2. The ladies are afraid to meet a guy for nsa fun......then why sign up on a site like this.
3. Most of the ladies are fake.....some weird guy posing as a woman.
So all i am asking is these two questions:
1. Has any of you fine gentleman had the pleasure of meeting any of these stunning ladies from this site on a 1 on 1 basis ( not couples) ?
YK

Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
Most 'Normal' ones can be pulled over your head (The one with the ears and eyes) and inflated via your nose to give you an egg head. They can also be pulled over your hand and past your elbow. Do you really need bigger?
They're supposed to be snug, so as long as you stay hard they'll do their job.
If that feels so bad why is anal so good.

Quote by localcouple1234
What is it with the manners thing? We saw it this past week...we put in effort to write decent mails, and then people will not be bothered to even reply. It's understandable that our profile will not fall into everyone's "taste"...but jeez, a simple no thank would be nice.

Quote by LeeEC
If you have the time, a decent amount of reading in our own "Anything Goes" forum should answer most of your questions. Plus just posting your question as a new topic will be very profitable. People are friendly and willing to help, mostly, we try to slap the idiots periodically to keep them in line.

Quote by Blondieandhim
We have been married for more than 10 years, and one of us were always pushing, very gently, towards the lifestyle. But with no luck.
Now, eventually, interest came from the other, not so open-minded one.
We have had six MMF threesomes since 18th November 2013. (Thanks SwingingHeaven)
Both of us thought we had an amazing sex life.
But now..... nothing is the same and we're both hooked.
:lol: :lol:

Quote by Mike_Pta

Perhaps, but any couple / single on this site is now going to be thinking more than once before contacting your ass. They going to be worried about being called in the Boardroom to explain a rumour doing the rounds in the office, started by some bloke called Mike . . . . .
So long as I leave with all my organs intact then they shouldn't be worried. I was just saying there are some guys who come here to cheat on the partner and they might think twice before risking killing their marriage. If you are here for legit reason and are not planning to screw someone (outside a swing context) then nothing will ever happen surely.
Ok, this is where I have to explain to you that my slightly twisted sense of humour is all that was at play here. :wink:

Quote by Mike_Pta

Perhaps, but any couple / single on this site is now going to be thinking more than once before contacting your ass. They going to be worried about being called in the Boardroom to explain a rumour doing the rounds in the office, started by some bloke called Mike . . . . .

Quote by Mike_Pta
i am keen , im qualified NAUI and PADI

Quote by Boet_Dolla
Yip. Lived in that area and relocated to Durban. Lots of action in that area but Durban and surrounds seems to be a dead end. Everyone seems to be interested in talking only and not so much in doing anything. Oh well. I suppose life's a bitch sometimes!

Quote by Mike_Pta
Just to point out that verification has very little value. I'm a mod and I'm not verified!
Plus you ALWAYShave random people who verify anyone
Maybe the verification process should be different? More valuable? More detailed or more specific (what does it actually mean? )

Quote by Mike_Pta
But it sounds like length is the issue. If he's like me then rolling it on and having it tight isn't the issue but rather that when you pull it on it looks off that it only goes 2/3s of the way. Pulling it doesn't really help since it only slides up again.

Quote by stoutgatte2013
where can we purchase condoms bit bigger than normal. we did find the Durex 56mm width but they still only 185mm long.
me and the missis has been to the normal places dicem, clicks and so forth but no luck

Quote by Stamina
This site has made me bisexual... Cos I have to "buy" sex! Bwa ha haaa has ha!

Quote by Mike_Pta
This week we have had plenty of flares about sexuality, Gay vs Bi, straight or curious etc. So I would like to show you guys something that I posted earlier

So homework time, try figure out some of these flags that some people identify with. Also think about how hard it is to use a label to define ones sexuality since we are all people and as such we are all different.
I will start with 3
Multi colour: homosexual
Pink, purple, blue: bisexual
Pink, yellow, blue: pansexual (PiB uses this one)

Quote by Mike_Pta
Well Bi-curious is easy, straight and wishing to dip ones toe in.


Well Bi-curious is easy, straight and wishing to dip ones toe in.
As a curiosity I post below the Bisexual pride flag

Another curiosity

Quote by Stamina
It sheds a bit more light but I still don't see how someone who is bisexual can be offended for being "labelled". I don't think a bisexual person can be called "semi-gay". I guess there just isn't a summarised description (3 words or less) to describe a bisexual person. Maybe I should admit defeat here and next time just use a long explanatory sentence? It really sounded like the correct choice of words without saying a bisexual person IS gay. But is not safe to say that people engaging in sexual "fun" with people of the same gender are infact committing "gay acts"? Or would that be offensive? After all, a man giving another man a blow job is performing a homosexual act. "Gay" is the slang word for "homosexual", not so?

Quote by Stamina

I beg to differ.. "Gay tendencies" as apposed to "gay" is the most "politically correct" way to describe someone who is bi. Emphasis on the word "tendencies"...
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Quote by playcouple
All valid, but this is for pleasure and recreation, the rest are jobs, people get paid to trawl through all that information, no one pays the people here to sit and trawl through all of it every day................