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I am wanting to change the tube on my bicycle tyre, it is the front wheel and it has quick release callipers.
Can someone (or in the case of this site, everyone) please give me advice . . . .

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I am wanting to change the tube on my bicycle tyre, it is the front wheel and it has quick release callipers.
Can someone (or in the case of this site, everyone) please give me advice . . . .

Quote by VampEC1
Hello everyone. ....
This looks like the place to be :-D
Why am I here? Well....My partner wants to swing and is trying to convince me.
To be quite honest I'm struggling to wrap my head around this.
Is swinging not like cheating? Maybe you can enlighten me?
VampEC1

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SDMR you asked for it. now you can get busy

Quote by roving_scot

I often wonder if "potential meets" never happened because of things I have said here. People can be very judgemental and even ignorant, taking things the wrong way. I believe I am right in always saying what is on my mind but maybe sometimes its a bad idea? You have a point there my friend...

Quote by roving_scot
I don't think it's necessarily wrong to bring up other topics here that are not sex related. Sure, this is a sex and swinging site, but it seems like there are many people here who are not just here for the sex, but also for the friendship and even camaraderie you get with like-minded people, and I think that an important part of friendship is the ability to honestly exchange views and opinions on any sort of topic.
Due to the nature of the site, most forum topics will probably be sex related, and that is probably as it should be, but if someone wants to start a conversation on something serious like the elections or something random like their pet cats, I would say go right ahead. It doesn't mean that everyone else needs to join in, but if someone else also loves talking about their pet cats or the merits of Zille vs Zuma, then that's great, they've got something in common to connect over. If not, then the thread will be ignored and forgotten, no harm no foul.
Earlier in this thread Nimfie and Stamina were exchanging notes on guns. I don't own a gun and don't know much about them so I'm probably not going to contribute, but if some people have got a common interest and like to talk about it, go right ahead. Maybe it'll attract some new voices into the forums if people see that they can talk about other topics and that it doesn't have to all be about sex all the time.
That being said, I agree with keeping to the subject of the thread. If you want to talk about something else, start a new thread for it. That's how forums are supposed to work. If you want a single thread for all sorts of random topics, then I think you're looking for the chat room.

Quote by Stamina
I often wonder if "potential meets" never happened because of things I have said here. People can be very judgemental and even ignorant, taking things the wrong way. I believe I am right in always saying what is on my mind but maybe sometimes its a bad idea? You have a point there my friend...

Quote by Magix
I'm not race conscious. However, there's a lot of groupies on here. I would like to organise a get together for mix race people. A braai or sumting. Noting major. Just a regular meet of people with the same mind set. Makin friends etc.

Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
Anything goes...
That is the name of the folder that bears these threads.
When in doubt I tend go to find the dictionary meaning of the word, as Swingers tend to be colourful with their interpretation thereof.
So yes, banter full threadjacking goes and I often enjoy that too.
Serious topics have a place too however.
At present it seems like you guys feel that all threads needs saving from death, racism, politics, strife or something.
But maybe those things have a place here too? Many of them have bearing on this lifestyle anyway.
When day to day topics are discussed in my vanilla environment, I always have to be careful not to spill the beans on my horny outlook on life. Here I hope I can discuss those same topics and bear my soul and hopefully stand less judged. If not, at least my alias provides me some protection.
The thing is that too much repartee in each thread clouds the value thereof and often PIB's pearls of wisdom for instance can go lost between all the chatter.
So, some topics are suppose to die, others need to move slow to give people the chance to think before the comment. It makes things easier for people that are new to this.
As for the origin of this thread, I do believe it has relevance to this site:
Not that I know too much about the trail but did the argument between Oscar and her not supposedly start about porn?
Would you describe their relationship as one built on love or lust and other more basic emotions or instinct?
What do you do if you end up in a room with the wrong person, that looked so good moments before?
As for hand guns, I have rarely seen them provide a positive outcome.
As with well crafted knives, cars or whatever mankind can create in moments of genius I admire guns for the way they are created.
I do not wish to own one but yet I feel that people that can prove that they are responsible should be allowed to.
As for Oscar, I believe he would have finished the job with the bat, had he not had access to a gun.
The bullets he used sickens me though and I believe they should be banned.

Quote by Pussinboots1
Eish SDMR , spoiling my FUN......
I SOOOOOOooooooo :small-print:wanted to Welcome roving _scot to a taking things personal *meeting*...
NOW I can not do so.....not with you warning him NOT to take things personal. sooooo no personal skin on skin action for the poor man...Maybe a good thing Hmmm??:banghead::giveup:
BELATED welcome to roving _scot *come and join the DARK side of Swing Heaven.:rose:

Quote by Pussinboots1
Why I joined?? To be the pervert that I am.
Why am I STILL here...Now that is a good question....
To remain being a pervert....:happy::evil2:

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I'm fairly new to this site, and I'm not usually very chatty, but I'm trying to step out of my comfort zone and contribute to the forums and this seems a decent place to start.
I would say I'm pretty private about my sexual life. I don't flaunt or advertise, but neither am I ashamed to be "found out" and I'm comfortable if the conversation drifts that way. I've got nothing to hide and I don't believe there's anything wrong with what I'm doing or exploring. I'm just feeding a God-given healthy natural appetite and helping someone else to do the same.
I'm a Brit so my family's on the other side of the world, and most of them probably wouldn't give a shit anyway. Some might roll their eyes and question my life choices, but they'll respect them as mine . And as for church, I know it seems contradictory on this site to say I'm an absolute Christian (100% believer), but I've studied the subject carefully and the Bible's actually a lot more sexually liberating than most people give it credit for. (That's made for some interesting conversations in a church setting :lol
I guess I'm an average guy on the outside, pretty likeable in general or so I'm told, not exactly normal (who is? ), but not really "out there" either. I'm generally a sort of quiet, steady, easy-going personality, some might say reserved, but always honest and genuine and keen to step out of my comfort zone when I can and try something new, sexually or otherwise (like skydiving ). I don't try to put on a mask or a show, I just try to be myself, no matter where I am or what I'm doing.

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Well, I don't think I'll be able to keep up with SDMR, Stamina, PiB, and LeeEC , but I'll try to contribute more often when I have an opinion on something.
I've been kind of quiet since joining the site because as luck would have it, I started going out with someone right after I signed up and I didn't think she would be into it (not right away at least ). As usual though, things didn't work out in the end so I'm completely single again and will try to contribute more.

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I'm here to step out of my comfort zone, test my boundaries, maybe learn a few new tricks , and hopefully meet some interesting people along the way. You seem like a great bunch of people, and I hope I can make some friends. :cheers:

Quote by Sofistikitty
I have no idea how I give head....
I LOVE eating cock, but since I had an STI scare last year, I now only suck K without a dome on, which is my favourite!
I nibble, suck, lick and pull on everything from the head to his balls....
With out other playmates, I am getting better at sucking with a dome on, now I just need to learn how to put a dome on with my mouth!
The guys we have played with have complimented me on my head skills, even with a dome on... so either
1. My enthusiasm makes up for the dome, or
2. They give unsolicited compliments to boost my ego
I always ask the guys for direction, like, tell me if you want it harder, faster, less teeth, more teeth....
I sadly have not eaten enough pussy to comment on my skillset there... just enthusiastic and always willing to be directed.
If any ladies are willing to help me to improve my skills.... PM me ;) :twisted:
;)
C

Quote by LeeEC
That's quite bizarre... I just think I'll say this
Sex, shagging, bonking, missionary, cowgirl
Oral, anal, vaginal, straight, gay, bi

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I am not actually used to making comments on the Forum, but seeing your post reminded a lot about what we prefer, or prefered. My humble opinion is this: We have had quite a few years experience and the experiences my missus enjoyed most was the spur of the moment "seducing a vanilla" experience. I know it is not quite the same as it mostly involved guys and not girls, but at the end of the day 1) we are all human 2) one will be surprised how conservative guys can be. Anyway, I am not going to say what I think you must do, but let me say it like this: What worked for us is going out for the evening and just have a good evening out. After one or two drinks the missus get a bit more adventurous and flirty and then I leave it to her to hook up with someone she feels comfortable or attracted to. Eventually after chatting and dancing away we would explain the situation to him and most of the time it ends up that we have great fun together.
What I am trying to say is reading your comment about what happens on your night out I personally think you are more than halfway there. Perhaps just leave it in her hands to make the move on the ladies that you mention, especially considering she is prepared to approach a lady herself. I am not saying one should not arrange a lady from the lifestyle, but I tried that before and it is just not the same as the expectation still is there (My Opinion!). Besides, not only me, but my lady herself find seducing a vanilla is so much more fun and much more erotic!
Now I'll go skulk away again

Quote by LeeEC
Ok so apparently our whisper halted EVERY form of discussion
Where are the other contributions to the encyclopedia of cunninglinguism :twisted:

Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
One would expect the North Cape to top the list in that regard but no self respecting Wanker is likely to find himself there.

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A little confused as to how Kardashian can be in the list as it could only be "look alikes" with any porn surely?
I wonder if the rest of the article has any information as to how much money South Africans spend online on porn?

Quote by redbruce
To the wonderful couple who invited me to their dogging evening at the dam last night, Wow! - you guys are something special!! And then asking me to invite some of my dogging friends to join us too! Magic!!!... It was great to get together like that, and also to have the opportunity to chat and interact!
Thanks particularly to the couple that initiated the evening, but thanks also to the other couple who were there just as "watchers", and ended up joining in the fun and giving us a show of their own! You're a bunch of special people!
To the friends who were able to make it, hope you enjoyed it as much as I did. To those who couldn't make it, or didn't crack an "invite" this time (due to limitations on numbers, sorry...), we're all hoping there'll be a next time soon.
Just posting to let y'all know that "arranged" dogging is still alive, it's safest, and it works out well....

Quote by Stamina
First thought, . .. nah, you asked for serious
If I recall correctly, this will be a first for your lady. So, your ideal situation, night club, dancing, seduction etc is not an ideal situation, it is Stamina's fantasy! ! ! !
Your lady is flying her maiden voyage, she might need a little help. Also, for the first experience, I would strongly suggest you consider keeping it very very sober (ie: only one or two drinks)

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Wait, hold on... I agree to an extent that discuss certain things in places with certain people, likeminded etc... But (yes, there is always a but)... I don't want to sound all mushy and that but I have found friends in you guys. I would love to spend hours socializing with all of you, discussing a vast array of topics and making general conversation. I am a very social person and I never shut up. I love convo and visit and chat for hours. Unfortunately, we all live worlds apart and meeting is a long shot. That means that I will have be a friend online only. The point I am getting at is that I discuss anything that I have on my mind at that moment or have been thinking about. Not always for the purpose of hearing other opinions but sometimes just to "chat" about it. Bottom line, whether you all like it or not, you are my buddies and I am here to stay. Friends converse. Besides, the fact of the matter is that we are not really getting meets out of this site and those that do, it happens few and far between. I have come to enjoy the site and talking to the members and worry less about what it does not deliver.

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I think I should take out life insurance and then we must definitely meet for a beer one day...

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I am worried about something. While in my search for a lady to join us for a night of passion, I think about how it may end up being an anticlimax. I am worried it all feels "planned". We all know that sex is best served spontaneously. What if ends up happening simply because it was the plan, not because sparks flew. My ideal scenario: Meet a girl on here and arrange to meet asap at a nice club or vibey pub. She and my girl chat, drink, dance, party the night away. If they feel that they have sufficiently "seduced" each other, then we take things back home. I would for obvious reasons love to be part of the fun but not essential, the ladies pleasure is key here. I do not want to mail someone on here and that very night she is knocking at the door ready to get it on - that would feel planned and I don't think would live up to expectations.
Any thoughts?

Quote by Stamina
You guys are just so full of shit, can' you ever take anything seriously?
But I guess that's what keeps me coming back to read your crap, my warped sense of humor!
Naughty by nature, kinky by choice!

Quote by Stamina
You guys are just so full of shit, can' you ever take anything seriously?
But I guess that's what keeps me coming back to read your crap, my warped sense of humor!
Naughty by nature, kinky by choice!