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Quote by Pussinboots1
I am going of topic on my own forum hope it is okay with who ever feels topics should remain of the above.....But just for this once!!!!!
Sheesh SDMR I know lady VampEC1 said she likes your new avatar,and obviously You do too!!!!
Please do forgive me for being honest here...it might sound I am shooting you down I am not it is purely to save my own sanity!!!!
But it creeps me out....Sorry to have to say this... but it does
Every time I see that eye and teeth *init.*..I think of surgery and NO eyeballs!!! and eyelids that is turned upwards...it is really creepy!!
Come on HUN change it for me PLEASE!!!!! Pretty Please!!!....
Name your prize if you want to blackmail me.......(within reason that is)

I await my "prize" with the greatest of anticipation . .. . . wink
Quote by Pussinboots1
As for that business part you and SDMR have, remember I want copy right if you want to start a male escort service!!! I will settle for being their *Madame* though.

A three way . . . . . . . . . business partnership . . . . hah, and people want to say the success rate on this site is poor :twisted:
Quote by Pussinboots1
About what SDMR??? the different teasing when active??? or the masturbation part????:jagsatwork:

Yes please . . . but more focus on Masturbation :twisted:
Quote by Pussinboots1
I again find changing your strokes and rhythm prolongs and teases the heck out of someone...
So, I am all for that!!!!!
As for masturbation does OLD ladies like me still masturbate, SURE I do...and I am not ashamed in saying so!!!

Tell us more. .. . .please :twisted:
Quote by Funwithcouples
Have a I paid for sex. Yes I have. Now before anyone jumps to conclusions let me explain. When Meet a girl I find interesting, the is dinners, gifts etc. That all costs. There is one girl I was seeing recently. I spent R65k in 4 months with her before I had enough. Total number of sexual occasions with her, 9. Do the math.
But back to PIB and her original question.
I was approached by a woman that has an escort agency in jhb. She wanted me to to be a companion for the night for women who needed a date. For a function, a work event or what ever the occasion may be. These dates do entail sex.
So to answer PIB. Yes, a woman can find a man for hire, that is not for hire by gay guys. You just need to know who to ask and where.
I did consider doing this, but........ Did not go ahead with it. I could just see the shock on a woman's face who would have booked me, and on my face, if I knew her.

Yip, in some way or other, we the males of the species pay for it . . . . maybe not always with money, but we always pay . . lol
Quote by Stamina
So Stamina, has the penis healed?
And when is this massage going to happen, we'd all love to hear the details....

All healed yes. lol I want to plan it for Thursday as they have specials then. Will tell you all about it - promise...
No self respecting male uses the word Promise unless . . . oh :lol: wait, you are controlled by a female . . :lol: explains it
Quote by Stamina
This old thread was really dug out of the archives... He he he.

Yip, some relatively new guy to the forums brought it back to life and promptly got hammered from all over the EC . . . . . but people still say the biggest reason more people do not contribute is because of you and I . . . . .
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
SDRM you do need to read more carefully.
He was not accused of BS, he was asked if he was.
His reference to the hole site, implies that all serious swingers hang out in Swinging Clubs, which we clearly proved is not possible.
Please feel free to make a further response, but let's not go off the topic too much.
The topic is about swingers being weird, that was the theme I stuck to about PE.
Then again we're all weird. :eeek:

Forget about what you interpret, and take into consideration what the poster actually meant.
Anyway, from the response of the EC people, it would appear there is the option of clubs, You and some others just don't seem to qualify for an invite. . . . . but, ADMIN Pieman and MOD Pieman has spoken, so I will stop talking about things that are not related to swingers being weird.
Quote by VampEC1
The statement was made this whole site is a joke, that includes PE, Gauteng etc.
It was also said if you want to swing seriously you should join a club for that.
So if you suggest that you should have investigated if there are clubs like that accessable to all on this site in all provinces.
Otherwise not be as outspoken to say the site is a joke!
By the way SDMR, luv your new avatar!

Read the post again, no suggestions were made at all.
He said that if people wanted to swing they WOULD join a club. NOT that they SHOULD.
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
SDRM he generalised: " This whole site is a joke."

I would say he gave his opinion about people in the lifestyle rather choosing to go to clubs . . . . . . for which he was shot down, and "accused" of being a bullshitter
His opinion about the site being a joke garnered the reaction of "we disagree" . . . . . . .
Funny how there is not a bunch of people complaining about this reaction towards this member . . . . I wonder why that is . . .
Now while I do not agree with Scoprio69 (from Gauteng) about this site being a waste of time, I cannot for the life of me, find anywhere in his post where he said there were clubs in PE or EC, yet he is being questioned if he is BS'ing everyone ?????
Quote by scorpio69
Just for curiosity sake: What do you do to a lady sitting at a robot breast feeding her baby with her 2 kilo boob totally exposed, and your kids seeing it? Do u climb out your car and tell her: " NOW WE CROSSED PATHS"! wink

We seem to have a different interpretation of your initial wording of crossing paths. I understood it to mean, "bumping into each other randomly"
As for a woman breast feeding at a robot, there is nothing I can do or say about it, except explain to my kids (who DO NOT have blackberry's) that it is not actually a good thing to do, because if the vehicle had to brake very suddenly, the baby would in all likely-hood get very seriously injured or killed, that, and why would any self respecting woman want to show of body parts in public that are usually kept covered with clothing.
But needless to say, in the right public environment, I would love to cross paths with you and your wife and watch as you grabbed her pussy, but like I said, in the right environment.
Quote by scorpio69
Well then you must hope you never cross paths with us in a shopping mall !!!!!!!!!! If i decide 2 rub a titt, then a titt i'm going to rub. And if i decide to grab my wifes pussy........then thats exactly what i'm going to do! THAT'S EXHIBITIONISM!!!!! Whoever doesnt like it, must look away. :mrgreen:

All righty then . . . . a slightly different spin on the meaning of exhibitionism, but hey, each to their own.
But if I am out with my kids, I hope, as you say "we never cross paths" . . . . . wink
Quote by LeeEC
Sounds like fun Flagg, but that wouldn't be accurate in terms of what "Watersports" means. .. so if you tick that box people are going to assume you want to be peed on. Or want to pee on others. I wouldn't tick that box smile
The meaning is really specific, it appears:

It's a fascination with urine. It doesn't refer to any other kind of bodily fluid.
Fascination with female ejaculate appears to be considered a perfectly normal sexual behaviour, very 'run-of-the-mill'... but water sports is apparently considered "paraphilia"... association of non-sexual acts or objects with sexual response...
I thought that was interesting. .. May be someone else will too..

I do not (I think) have any issue with the concept of said "watersports" I do however have zero interest in partaking in said event.
Quote by LeeEC
Oh yes. NP - you just touched on something that really made us raise eyebrows. .. Do not ever suggest play with kids asleep in the same room . .. thats just friggin bizarre! Yes that really happened to us!

I have heard my own fair share of "surprising suggestions" but must say, this one is luckily still not on that list. Bizzare indeed, but then again, people all have different views and ideas.
Quote by LeeEC

I've been invited to a cpl before, where the hubby tried to convinced me that his wife prefer being so drunk that she would like me to do her, in front of her husband, while she is passed out dunno

That sounds like one freaky wierd fantasy. ...
She Is turned on by not remembering a Damn thing? Can someone say "coerced "? You dodged a bullet their friend.
Oh, and welcome to the forums!
Really frightening thought indeed . . .
Quote by Ryan71
Hmmmm.... you may have exhibited your debating ability and possibly made your point... but also proved everyone else correct as to why they don't participate in the discussion. wink

Well despite my fellow nappy wearer exhibiting certain traits, I take comfort in the fact that it was neither him nor I who thread-jacked it first.
Now back to original intention,
Thank you VampEC1 for your suggestion, I have created a thread.
Does anyone else have suggestions?
So following VampEC1 suggestion. The Do's and Dont's of Swinging: Usually one of the early posts would say, look back in the forum and read what was said before. Now while that is good advice, I propose we start afresh seeing as we have new / additional contributors and even those that have commented before on the subject may get a new or different idea. 1) make your own rules first
Quote by Stamina
I have very nice nipples for a man I think...

oh fuck it stamina, I just said you could not be blamed
So since posting this thread, there has been 92 views and 10 replies: Just to bring to your attention: Of the 10 replies, not a single one was responding to the original thread ie: what would you like to see discussed in the forums. Instead the thread was thread-jacked and the only responses, were about what people do not want, and what their feelings were about certain contributors. And seeing as I posted the thread, and Stamina refrained from posting, we cannot be blamed for the thread-jack.
Quote by MIKE_
You asked the question so here's the answer, time for a bit of honesty.
I check the forums every time I log on to the site, irrespective of how many times I've logged on that day. so why don't i comment.
Well, quite simply i don't feel like getting involved in a forum where the so called regulars, are aggressive towards those who don't agree with them, hijack posts that they feel don't belong on the site and feel the need to not only comment on every single thread but on every single comment made, where debate is replaced by instruction.
If a thread is of no interest to you, why not leave it to those who may be interested or let it die its natural death.
There is no debating, there is only the opinion of the regulars and the attempted humiliation and/or personal attacks on the rest.
The problem is not topic related, I believe more people could be encouraged to start and comment on threads, if only the environment was a little less hostile.
Why would people want to get involved in this?
Well there it is, I'm fully aware that I'm going to get lambasted, but I don't really care. After months of hearing people complain about the same thing, someone has to call it as it is.

Right,
So I think somewhere along the line, I have been referred to as a so called "regular".
While I do not completely agree with the way you see things Mike (obviously I would not, as I am on the receiving and dishing out ends) I would like to propose the following to the other so called "regulars"
This is not the first time it has been suggested that this forum 'belongs' to a select few (one of my motivators for this thread)
It has even been suggested before (in round about ways) that we should give others a chance.
So let's do just that, how about we cut back on the amount of "contribution" we make to the threads and "let others" make all the contributions for a while.
Stamina, what say you and I only "speak kak" in a specific thread, say the old BS Forum, and completely refrain from any humorous, or off topic comments in other threads? ie: no thread-jacking
I am as involved in these threads on this site because I thoroughly enjoy it, and actually learn things from time to time, even if it is just about peoples inner workings.
Quote by Mike_Pta
I think we need a more work friendly forum, like a separate site minus the swinging title etc so we can encourage more discussions during the day

Mike, I think they call that FACEBOOK . . . . rotflmao:rotflmao:
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
As Adonis says, let's play the ball and not the man.
I think I've pretty much worked the chip off my shoulder too, so let's see if we can get something constructive going.
SDRM,
The "saving" statement was yours but I did not single you out because Stamina was normally your partner in crime when taking threads off on a tangent. But guys let's try and get some balance here.
Please don't spoil a thread just because you don't like it.
As for your hypothetical scenario, that kind of thing scares the crap out of me.
If you are linked in any way to any crime or scandal your activities here would raise big questions.
That is why I'm not too keen on being an open swinger. But yes, they will scratch it out anyway.
If you wish to know about my bad experiences with guns you are welcome to PM me.

I hope I never spoiled a thread because I didn't like it, if I ever did, it was not my intention. I would like to think I was more trying to get it back to original topic or liven it up somehow or . . . . well, now you have me thinking as to what was actually behind it sometimes.
BUT, just for clarity, while it may be Stamina and myself who take the topics off on a tangent most of the time lately, it is not only the two of us who do this.
For my part, like I said above, I do it for my own specific reasons, which equates to me not getting involved with a certain line of posts that I clearly see no current, topic related value in. So, my thoughts would be, if other members had the same / similar thoughts to what I was posting, they could maybe just do the same and pretty much overlook what I have added, and carry on with what they do agree with. But, just like if I "attack" what they say, I will react when I am "attacked" for what I say.
I have my views on subject matters that should not be combined. Sex, politics, religion, racism.
Politics because I am part of the statistics of this country that are not allowed to be reported,
Religion because I disagree with the tolerance certain beliefs are given over others (this is a personal thing)
Racism because I have worked in large corporate companies and have watched established people being "destroyed" for the benefit of others.
I cannot understand why the world wants these topics intertwined with everything in life (as in associating them with sex, and making sure the rest of the world knows about it)
These are my views, they are based on things that have happened to me directly, and not on what history says. I do not expect everyone to accept how I see things, but in fairness, people should stop expecting me to see things the way they do.
To all of you who read the forums, but never or almost never, comment in the threads: What would you like to see discussed in the forums? Maybe this way, the more regular contributors could come up with ideas for threads.
Quote by VampEC1
No need for that Mr SDMR, you had your say, I had mine.
Is that not what the forum is for?
Stamina, please remind me not to get on your wrong side !!!

I suppose in some ways yes, although I found it strange that you felt the need to "stand up" for Pieman . . . . . . . something that he would typically do.
Anyway, I think I shall report your concerns on your behalf. You cannot feel offended and nothing gets done about it (even if no-one had said anything at all, to you or even about you)
Quote by VampEC1
Well, I'm new here, have read a lot of the forum posts, so I feel I kinda know the regulars.
I'm actually offended by the insinuating tone of Mr SDMR here.
You say the "essay" Pieman wrote. From what I have read, you also write essays.
You say you not sure if it's based on experience or research, I do hope that you and Pieman know
each other, for you to make such accusations? I don't have a problem with "banter" but this has another "feel" to it.
"Self proclaimed firearm wielding hollywood movie type mentality swinger" as you put it, a bit harsh aren't you?
So you are saying if anyone has a strong opinion, all that posted on this topic, including you, can forget about possible meets?
Mmmmmm seems like sour grapes to me, because the others agreed with Pieman on the "Anything goes" part of this discussion.

The best thing for you to do at this point, is to report me to the Mods. (don't forget to copy the part of my post that offended you)
So despite telling myself that I would not get involved with non site related topic discussions, the last essay by Pieman (which I am not sure if it was based on research or experience) he claims both)) simply "made me" have to say this. Some of you are referring to the murder case of Oscar, saying this and that, but it seems you missed the vital part were the lawyers are trying to use things like text messages and internet surfing as evidence. So, let's paint a hypothetical picture for you: You (insert relevant forum contributor name here) arrange to meet up with a single / couple. The meet happens, play ensues, you go home. One or even both of the other party is shot dead (in a totally unrelated event) Police investigations lead to evidence / witnesses that you had been seen with the person / couple a few hours / days before. Upon investigation it is established that you were mostly strangers to each other. Evidence gets to the point of checking the victims personal communication devices, you get linked to them via SH (or other forum type site) and when the Popo looks at the history on said site, you are found to have explained in detail what firearms do to people, you even spent time and energy explaining what specific ammunition would do if used. Now, rememberer, you had nothing at all whatsoever to do with the shooting . . . . but like that is going to make any fucking difference to your immediate life and foreseeable future. Your need to talk about such things as this on a site where people meet up with strangers, has you stuck between a rock and a hard place. Yes, you will be cleared (well, if the cops do their job) but the damage to you, your loved ones, your career etc etc etc Of course, this is only hypothetical, because no doubt any possible meet's you may have had from this site are gone. Nobody would be willing to meet with a self proclaimed firearm wielding, Hollywood movie type mentality swinger anyway. Well, not unless they thought their gun was bigger than yours . . . . .
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
in the long run, consider going tubeless. Intial layout might be a bit more expensive, but no more tubes or punctures to worry about.

Really good advice MpPaartjie.
SDMR, while you're tinkering, why not consider a fun mod:
Replace the seat with a dildo. lol
Let me guess, you would want to borrow it all the time then?
Quote by LeeEC
SDMR - time to resurect the bullshit thread smile

The site should add a link to FACEBOOK.
Quote by playcouple
is that your tongue that was poking out my neighbor's ear?

I don't think that was their ear . . . :twisted: