Very, very slowly for the same reason you don't squeeze the soap too hard. I was lucky in that my wife, who came from an extremely conservative background and was very interested in exploring life and different experiences. The conversation was fairly easy and we ended up at the old Marquee within a few months of having that conversation. You might already have some clues as to her acceptance of the conversation. If she is a firm believer in monogamy..... The answer to your question might exist in the strength and openness of your discussions in other areas of life. That is a reality. If it isn't strong and open, then swinging will cause you more pain than pleasure because you will have conflicting opinions about people and what is acceptable in your swinging experience. Choose a very soft intro to the conversation if you have that openness and trust. Timing? She must be very relaxed. Content? Ask her if she has ever fantasized about including other people in her sexual experiences. That sounds harsh, but a no is a no. Discomfort and doubts? Back to the relationship thing. Talk. Talk. Talk. This is certainly not the Holy Grail of Swinging, just my opinion. You know your lady better than anyone else, and that is key. I have given my opinion, hopely others will join the conversation.

The short answer is yes. Nothing overtly obvious, but stylishly done.

No. But I have worked for a w@nker before. Does that count?

The "empty profiles" are also most likely to message you with that panty-dropping introduction... "Hi". Some are well-educated and will add "Nice profile". How many of those do they send out each night?

Male, part of a couple. Three ladies in one night.

Everyone has their own expectations of a club. If you don't try yourself, you will never know. We have been there twice and didn't enjoy it because of the large number of "observers" present when we were there. Another night might be different.

We have been in this lifestyle longer than some of our new members have been alive. We have been very active and had a lot of fun, most of it originating here. The pool was a great place to get to know people, as were wall posts. What happened? Where are the real swingers we knew? If they have moved on... can we get a hands up from the new real swingers?

I don't need to watch if Zel is being pleasured as long as I know she is being pleasured.

I manage our couple's profile as my wife has no interest in social media. Similar issues. A dick in my eye when open a mail or message in the pool. Only share pics with those who have spent getting time to know you. The guys in a hurry can download pics without the hassle.

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If you know you’re going down on someone or someone’s going down on you, eat pineapple. 🍍 lots of it. Makes everything taste and smell better. Avoid onions, curry and asparagus 😬

Does the pineapple have to be on pizza? That is a bridge too far for me... Just teasing!

It seems to be a part of playing that is not done much or is not spoken about much. Ladies are often surprised when they experience it for the first time. 😉

Is that caring too much or controlling too much? The only time I would ask my wife to check in is if I know she is traveling far or has to go to a dangerous area. Too much care might be a lack of trust. If anyone is at that point, the problem is already there. No attack, just an opinion.

Wow! There are guys who don't like going down south? I wouldn't push it in until I have done my best in other areas. Foreplay is the main course. The finish is dessert.

The WOTs are plentiful and walk among us. It is like the dog that eventually catches the car. You talk and talk and talk and when it comes to an actual meetup you get the silences, slow responses and then the excuses. Oh well.

I don't deny anyone the right to have their boundaries. The "no kissing" rule is one that I would struggle with. Kissing is one of the first acts of foreplay for me. Can't have a great meal without a good starter...

We haven't been for a long time, but for those considering going... just do it. If you think you are "too big", don't. There are all sizes and shapes there. If you fear the perves, they are the ones not welcome. Not you. It is a place where nudity is key. Not that I have any experience but after dark fun does happen, just discreetly as children are around.

Hi.... I'm new here. Not really.... Been around this site and the lifestyle for ages. Just never used the forum before.

A qualified yes. Not about to proposition our close friends but if the conversation with a friend goes in that direction and it becomes a mutual agreement as per the arrangement with my lady, then yes. Many lifestylers would probably agree with my next point. We are already playing with close friends, even if we first met them in the lifestyle and they then became close friends. Some really beaut souls in the lifestyle that I keep close to me even if we no longer play.