How did it start

I'm keen on exploring the swinging lifestyle but I'm not sure how to start the conversation with my wife. For those of you who have been in the swinging community, how did you first bring up the idea with your partner? What helped make the conversation feel safe, open, and non-judgmental? How did you communicate your desires and boundaries without pressure? Any tips on timing, wording, or how to research together would be greatly appreciated. Also, how did you handle any initial discomfort or doubts that came up during those first talks?

Very, very slowly for the same reason you don't squeeze the soap too hard. I was lucky in that my wife, who came from an extremely conservative background and was very interested in exploring life and different experiences. The conversation was fairly easy and we ended up at the old Marquee within a few months of having that conversation. You might already have some clues as to her acceptance of the conversation. If she is a firm believer in monogamy..... The answer to your question might exist in the strength and openness of your discussions in other areas of life. That is a reality. If it isn't strong and open, then swinging will cause you more pain than pleasure because you will have conflicting opinions about people and what is acceptable in your swinging experience. Choose a very soft intro to the conversation if you have that openness and trust. Timing? She must be very relaxed. Content? Ask her if she has ever fantasized about including other people in her sexual experiences. That sounds harsh, but a no is a no. Discomfort and doubts? Back to the relationship thing. Talk. Talk. Talk. This is certainly not the Holy Grail of Swinging, just my opinion. You know your lady better than anyone else, and that is key. I have given my opinion, hopely others will join the conversation.

Thx Ryan, I appreciate your feedback

I went down on my knees and slowly pulled her pants and underwear off at the same time then stuck my whole tongue into her and tasted her. Then I made her cum a few

Times that day..

How you approach the topic depends largely on your intended outcome. If youre pursuing MFM fun - your initial approach would be difficult from if you wanting MFF or MFFM fun. But the conversation ALWAYS needs to be about Mrs. Her feelings. Her emotions. Her insecurities.

One way would be to watch some porn together. Best if its the genre that you want to explore. While watching - be vocal about your arousal. Afterward ask her if you can ask her an awkward question - but that she needs to have an open mind. If she agrees... present a scenario to her. Eg "if we were at a club and a single guy was eyeing you out... how would you feel inviting him back to our place for fun". Gauge her response and either continue the discussion or back off (depending on how she replies).

But what's critical is that you absolutely explain that this is about "fantasy" and not boredom or lack of love.

If you respond here with what your desired outcome is (playing with couples or single) we can give you some more sage advise thats helped us.

Great response, thanks 2some4fun, thanks