@Naughtythoughts2  Interesting comment. I would think the more hardcore pics was always available. I do not really perv on the pics, but I know (according to me) MOST profiles here on SH is here for the pics. Most profiles never even read the written part some do not even complete it! I find it new that the more risky pics is shown here in the Forum though, It never used to be that I could remember. So yes, I would think most people are here for the *thrills* although with porn so easily available with out any moneys/fee needing paid, I might even have to rethink this observation of mine. 

As for the the fora dying off...I really hope not, BUT......It seems it just might become a tool for MOANS and Groans if someone is disappointed in something. The story section is in a better shape than it was before, so at least that is okay.

@PoohC   LMAO..... you might need a LOT of mouthwash!!!!!!  

@ SDM  I know, but hopefully everyone knows it is *NORMAL* to disagree with everyone else, and hopefully feels comfortable to contribute anyway.

BUT HOPE seems to shame me......NO NEW post for a while now!!!

@mydream    (Page 7 in the story section, if someone wants to go read)  I am sure the lady also had a good/awesome time  and also fulfilled some of her own fantasies!!!

@Flamebouy  I had to smile when I read your input!!!  And of course my mind went haywire once again!!!!  I would not be sure I would have been able to carry on after that scary interruption.    

High five, to both the sexy ladies!!!! And of course, to their sexy hubbies.

Just so you guys know, I am starting to read up on old Fora`s and forwarding/reviving them to the front, as I warned you guys in another/previous Fora. You guys seemed keen on that. So far I am only using my own written stuff, but I will revive others of interest from other profiles. The stuff I do revive is going under UNKNOWN  as I did delete my previous profile for 2 years. And as you guys know, I am only back now for a few months.

ANYONE  NEW or old profiles..please do post some NEW Fora`s //thoughts so we can discuss/argue/get cross/get excited/ debate about whatever is posted. 

@PoohC   I do not mind if you go off topic...as long as the Fora gets some active ideas and comments flowing. Thanks for always participating. 

@Seeman  Thanks for your input it is always a pleasure to read.

General...When I wrote this 8 years ago...I was actually looking for a FWB.(someone to call for a booty call, so to speak) I however made so many friends and some playmates that I never connected to only the one person I was looking for.

I always however tried to meet up first, I, like Seemans lovey, have to had a *connection* before committing to play. And I know being me that not everyone likes me on sight!!!  I am/was however an acquired taste...

@redbruce,  I am not sure if you were here on SH at the time I wrote this 8 years ago, But I do believe the gent responsible was spoken to and he seemed to have disappeared, he/they might have come back under another pseudonym but if they have, they are abiding by the rules and no other posts for payment was ever made here on the Fora.  Privately... I would not know.

@PoohC  When I wrote this Fora 8 years ago, I cannot remember if the issue was brought to my attention via a Fora or a private mail.., Someone was saying they were charged by the person(lady) meeting him, saying he had to pay for the pleasure of a sexual interlude with her, and it was her hubby charging him!!!!! And somewhere in my mind I also have a bell ringing a gangbang that the hubby was trying to arrange for money.

I remain with my original observation of going dutch or paying for all first meetings from my side. It is just who I am.

I have to add,  I did receive some gifts from gents, over time, and it was always something he would enjoy with me..like a toy, some was BDSM toys...or in one case, a sexy pair of boots,  OH, and the one time I received a really sexy set of lingerie!!!! BUT ONLY after we were FWB`s, Never on first meetings. And only after he/they asked me if it was okay. Mostly it was to satisfy one of their fantasies.

As for cash..NEVER if it is offered for free, although Thinking about it...who will refuse cash HUH ?  I ask you guys... HUH????Damn, I was stupid.....

Oh my Goodness   This is old.....   Can not even remember the gent himself!!!!! Makes me wonder if he ever got to playing in real life??

Hmmm, I wonder if this still happens .....

OMW    I do remember writing this!!!!!!  Poor old Socks is no more, but a fond memory, the bloody tease!!!!

Oh my Goodness!,  Busy reading some of my older posts......8 years ago!!!!  

Yep, NO boob/or anything else cosmetic job was done, and NOW Not even thinking of/about it.... The Knee replacement was done and I still enjoy the benefits of That!!! 

@pertrio69   To each their own enjoyment...Anyway thank you for giving your opinion and input, you are always welcome to partake,even if it is not always in agreement with anyone else, it does happen , so do not shy away from joining us....

For me to use any chemical to enhance a sexual interlude is just a No-No... as for using poppers (as a chem) well I did smell a popper and to me it smells like horse pee.... not sure what poppers really do for someone...but like I said to each their own.

As for bareback these days...also  far too big a risk in my eyes, except if it is  with your own life partner. NOT that I can go bareback...as it is M on M situation....but still going with out a condom is/was just to risky for me.

@Seeman  I played alone, it is out of respect for my lovey that I did not like to come home smelling of anything naughty! Everyone or I must say MOST of the couples and people in the Swinging and BDSM community I know, met my lovey and My lovey knows what I did and whom with. She is just not into the things as I am. Or I have to say Things I was into...as nowadays I am , just talk and nothing more. Just as my Profile says. She used to go to all the meets and greets with me and sometimes would wait for my *playdate* to end to take me home. She is one Phenomenal lady!!! Not everyone is lucky as I am!! For the last 35 years and counting....

@Seeman  As a married couple I would not think anyone is dirty for not showering directly after sex or even before sex....BUT for a single person that is just (for me anycase) a normal procedure to ensure that I am clean and nice smelling for anyone I play with! And coming home...well I like to know I am not smelling of anyone else to make my lady love unhappy with. I would think it normal to shower before leaving to do whatever the next thing is a person are going to do for anyone who played with me!!! I also would not just jump up to go shower directly after a sexual interlude, I do like to cuddle and chat.....anyone who jumps up and scatter is like an insult to me... 

I however KNOW there is a lot of men and ladies who FEEL dirty after sex...but in the lifestyle this is not really a problem (or should not be), it is mostly a person in a very vanilla marriage with a lot of personal issues towards sex.

I get what you mean, but I do sometimes KNOW that a guy can play with one lady and directly go to another play date! Hench my comment to making them shower even if they are as clean as a freshly fallen snow flake.

Punani and cum smells is a known kink. the men usually rubs the excretion of orgasms into their skin... There are men who loves to smell  any worn and dirty/used panties, I myself had a few males who asked to BUY some of my worn panties!!! there is even a method of sending smelly panties over the post to keep it nicely *fresh*...just saying....

Men mostly will tell you they feel possessive of the lady whom they smell off. It makes them feel *kinda* manly thinking on how they made their lady happy for her to excrete  a nice smelling discharge... I am sure there are people here who might even know more than me or had more experiences with the above!!

@ localcouple1234   Okay tats is addictive, as we all know...... keep the skin art going!!!!! I am Envious!!!!

As for Mrs localcouple`s  vch piercing...BIG old ouchie!!!!! That is a BIG hurt...I would have thought a hch piercing more comfortable!!! But hey from one that is envious...what do I know??  I hope Mr localcouple bought her a nice *Real Pearl* to wear!!!! 

@Mr localcouple   Man you have, what I I do NOT understand, ears stretched ...I do understand that the stretching is not really painful...by just using bigger plugs over time...... what I do not understand is the WHY....but hey, if it rocks your boat go for it....Thinking about it..... if I ever do get to play some KINKY games with stretched earlobes...... I could use those stretched earlobes to anchor  a head with chains and clamps to nipples or genitals......just saying......

Thanks for sharing....and know, I am envious!!! I just love body ink, (and certain piercings)

@sofistikitty   All I  HOPE is, YOU make them shower before playing with you!!!!!!

As for smells....LMAO   In a scene (BDSM style) many a man/woman had to go home with a punani or cum smell......then It is not really an issue.....BUT for a normal vanilla person NOT showering BEFORE play or going home is a BIG NO-NO for me....I would NEVER play with that person !!! CLEANLINESS  is one of my hard limits!!!

@swingfantasy & haveusbc   Nice one`s guys!  I agree, even if I have my own list, sometimes someone just *bowls* you right on over....and then it has nothing to do with your list....

@ Sofistikitty     Drooling with you!!!   

@ Freshman   The symbol  I saw on the swingers jewelry indicates a *naughty* image if you look at it closely and with a naughty mindset, maybe the black jewelry you choose whether it is a ring, armband, pendant,earrings or brooch or tie pin...the symbol showing on the piece will work!!  My only worry will be someone doing something despicable, if just seeing your jewelry, you do not want, like think, you are there for the *taking* just cause you wear the item. Except if you only wear it to parties and meet and greets and clubs.

I googled Swingers Jewelry and there is REALLY nice items, and the symbol they chose is really *cool* if I may say so!  

@fadnad    I know the *secret ring* kind of thing was tried here in Cpt, but it did not really spanned out to become a reality! Although it was not a ring......I myself believe that many and a LOT of false situations might present itself with something like this, many people might unsuspecting wear the same thing.  The same thing was tried in dogging...with a feather on dashboards and shells and such like.... only worked with people who read this advertising thing here on SH, knew what it meant. BUT then once again it could happen to innocent unsuspecting people to be subjected to lewd suggestions and offerings.

It is great if it works/ed for others though.

I enjoyed reading this Fora and comments it is by way not the first time this gets discussed either, the subject comes up frequently. I Know when someone DID not READ my profile and JUST responds to my pics...as ALL my pics are some is from my very sexy lovey.......also oldies.

Back in the 70`s no secret handshakes or knocks on doors, and as far as I know, NOT even today!!!!  NOPE...nothing like that...Back in the 70`s it was ONLY knowing someone who introduced you to the swinging/sex/BDSM scene after which you were invited to get-togethers or was allowed to invite your own  partners. Even with *free love* and hippy culture of the 60`s Swinging, BDSM was not really an *open* thing for anyone to participating in. Well, Not in my circle of friends way back then!! No clubs as far as I know, all play happened in private homes.

Anyone else have more info? Or different experiences than my own?

@lookinglovers   My very first time was in the 70`s  and it was a total ORGY situation!! Of course those years swinging happened behind CLOSED and SECRET doors. If I think back, THAT was a HUGE turning point in my life!!!  If It did not happen...well, I might have turned out being married with a LOT of kids.... I am however a very happy and LUCKY person to who I did become and what and who I have in my life.

@ redbruce  Well is not really a topic to discuss or debate here, as mentioned a fora or two back....so I was just trying to prevent further discussions on fantasies, before you had to close this Fora aswell.

@ PoohC I admit to being weird and strange to eccentric too MOST people anyway, Lucky for me I have found my stability and safe haven with my partner of many many moons who grounds me, who is totally vanilla by the way!! LUCKY for me she allows/ed me a LOT of freedom to explore and let me be who I am.

@Sofistikitty   Only you know when you are weird really...no one else can really tell you, you are.... cause what is weird to me is not really weird to someone else...so each to his/her own.

Not everyone has a fetish or kink....but then again.....there is everyday small things that is not sex related which can be viewed as a fetish only you would know if you have a little something - something... but I would not stress about it.

As for the Fucktart/s who says you should do something cause you are on SH...once again  just ignore them, and NOPE that does NOT make you Boring!!!

I do believe that any person becomes addicted to something (even chocolates)...one does not go out with the idea to BECOME addicted, it just happens...BUT once it becomes a problem to/for you and your daily living and for your family..then it is true addiction....and you would need help to over come it.

What I read in the comments, the people commenting is not really addicted, they just enjoy what they do....it has NOT become a problem for them or their family or their enjoyment is NOT influencing their jobs and lives. So ENJOY.......