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Quote by Irish
I hear what mike and lee are saying....that would be best.
Cara....your idea if an "open/social meeting" might just be the thing needed.
Considering mike and lee's concerns. what about a "testimonial" function on the site....for instance where the profile could get this quick messages on the bottol right hand side of their profile page....a link to a forum. Where people could give testimonials of an individual.
Of course the profile in question and perhaps a mod should approve them first. to avoid mudslinging.
Does something like this make sense?
I'd love to understand what "bottol" has to do with gangbang
As for Mod's approving stuff - I think they've enough on their plates doing back office stuff
it would have to be limited to verified profiles.
Re: A thought
16th Feb 2015 - 9:36am
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[quote="playcouple" the number of single women on cam showing off is much higher in relation to the number of single women on the site,
@playcouple, Please help me understand the above?
Nice exmple, right now there are four women on cam of the 11 cams open (the other 7 are single guys) so we have a rounded off 35 % of cams open now being women and 65 % single guys. This in relation to over 70% being single guys.
personally i'd say the basic rules of swinging is as follows
1 enjoy yourself
2 only do what you are comfortable with and who you are comfortable with
3 respect other people and their tastes and kinks
4 have sex with as many people as you want to
5 where you do who you do with what (or is that what you do with who where) is only between the participants (can tell what you have done but not who you have done it with)
6 when all else fails make like a cat and wash
7 for all other circumstances see above
Quote by MIKE_
*There is a place for all on the site, Couples, singles and even the cheater, what most are asking for is honesty and respect. Don't claim to be a couple if you playing alone, tell people you are married if that's the case and allow then to decide if they want to play with you or not. If you have no intention of meeting someone, say so, don't leave them hanging. If all you want is to watch cam's and engage in dirty chat, fine be honest. Be clear about who you are and what you looking to get out the site, respect others rights to decide what they want.*
Seems like some only read half of what you say. How this gets interpreted as singles should leave the site and couples looking for singles should join a singles site is beyond me. At no time did I said or imply swingers should only look for or play with other swingers and not with singles.
oh well I suppose if some can't add value they will add conflict.
I fully agree with Pussinboots1, some singles are of a swinging mindset, they understand what swinging is about and how they fit into it as a single. Those with this mindset would even look for or encourage a partner to become swingers or swinger friendly should they enter into a serious relationship.
There has and will always be a place for the single in the lifestyle.
Pussinboots1, please correct me if I'm wrong. You have a life partner who knows about and supports your choice of lifestyle, you have an open, honest and respectful relationship. Irrespective of whether you take active part as a single or a couple, I see you as swingers, you have by definition the same relationship as any other swinging couple. I personally feel it is a misnomer to presume both partners need to be equally active for them to be swingers.
(I'm sure that will open a whole new can of worms.)
well said mike, there is place for single men and women of all orientations, shapes size etc, jsut as there is a spot for couples
Quote by Pussinboots1
*Singles simply do what singles do, look for and engage in nsa sex where the opportunity presents itself. This doesn't make them swingers it makes them single.*
Here I just want to add, although we single people can not claim to be Swingers per se,(as we are not part of a couple) we, how ever can claim to have a Swingers mindset.
Smiling this side of the pc and saying the following with my tongue in my cheek....
Thus in my minds eye, We then do fall in the category *swinger* with a difference ;)
na just fell off the fence
Quote by MIKE_
So what makes it swinging for a single female and not a single male To be on a site like this then?
mynic, I think you may be missing the point yin_yang is making. By definition singles whether male or female cannot be swingers. Swinging is done by a couple who agree to live their lives respecting the individuality and needs of their partner, knowing that as much as they may love each other, no one can fulfil all the needs of someone else. They agree to be open, honest and allow each other a level of freedom not accepted in general society.
Singles simply do what singles do, look for and engage in nsa sex where the opportunity presents itself. This doesn't make them swingers it makes them single.
As far as the married person playing behind their partners back is concerned, this is still cheating, you can't disguise it as swinging. In fact most swingers have an issue with it because it goes against the essence of what swinging is all about, the respect and honesty towards ones partner.
There is a place for all on the site, Couples, singles and even the cheater, what most are asking for is honesty and respect. Don't claim to be a couple if you playing alone, tell people you are married if that's the case and allow then to decide if they want to play with you or not. If you have no intention of meeting someone, say so, don't leave them hanging. If all you want is to watch cam's and engage in dirty chat, fine be honest. Be clear about who you are and what you looking to get out the site, respect others rights to decide what they want.
Its unfortunately it must be said, no one here is a whore, or here to provide others with entertainment. No one has the right to expect or demand anything from another.
Treat one another with respect, enjoy the site for what it should be, a place where people can be open, honest, have fun, get to know one another and decide how far they wish to take things.
hmmm so what you are saying is that couples that have a preference for singles (either by way of a threesum or a group of singles) should by your definition not be on a swinging site as they are not looking for swingers?
I must add that I don't think anyone could have said what you did better
It was very eloquent which means you are good linguist, maybe even a cunning linguist Quote by Stamina
2000 years? That is one old book!
Stamina , from your posts you are someone that takes pride in improving your knowledge and skills, its a very thin little book and a hell of a lot of what you have been taught (self or otherwise) is derived from the same principles, ones that were laid down in that very same book........
Quote by Ian_McHerbe
Do you feel taken advantage of by life?
Do you feel - a lesser amount of confidence?
Do things scare you that has previously excited you?
Do you feel that enough is enough.....but the solution to your predicament is just out of reach?
- Im in no way saying/'The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.'
'Thus we may know that there are five essentials for victory:
1 He will win who knows when to fight and when not to fight.
2 He will win who knows how to handle both superior and inferior forces.
3 He will win whose army is animated by the same spirit throughout all its ranks.
4 He will win who, prepared himself, waits to take the enemy unprepared.
5 He will win who has military capacity and is not interfered with by the sovereign.'
'In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity'
Now.....before im burnt at the stake for being a radical thinker.....this book has been exalted for two thousand years . If something is able to withstand the test of time like that.....something about it must be working right....
Download the pirated copy if you have to....what have you got to lose?
Have you read s'crew it just do it' by richard branson?
Art of war was written earlier than 2000 years ago if memory serves.
Quote by SDMR
While everything that was said in the above post has merit, and especially the part about sending pics before being asked, one thing that immediately jumped out at me was the fact that on a site such as this one ie: swinging / sex related site, if the woman on the receiving end was not so interested in dick and more concerned with the list as presented, then that particular lady is probably looking for a dating site and not a swinging / sex related site.
But yes guy's, remember, everyone knows that TV remotes come in condensed versions these days
One or two dickpics are fine, we have come across a few (ok i lie many) that have 10 dick pics, someone had something like 30..................
There are more than quite a few couple profiles where it is specified that they are only looking for guys that are well endowed, so dickpics are by inference a requirement, even if only to prove the size of the package.
Keep in mind that there is also a level of exhibitionism involved so some guys and women get a kick out of total strangers viewing them. This is borne out by the number of guys on cam having a wank, the number of single women on cam showing off is much higher in relation to the number of single women on the site, and the (real) couples showing off is a bit lower. This observation is not relevant 24 hours per day, but taken on average over the period of a week.
Quote by 2ForFun
We are in the LS for many years as well.... and its true finding single guys is a problem.... but we have a few good ones that we have met over the years.
May be we should exchange names and number of the good ones that know the LS and how to treat a lady with respect?
reverse black listing..............................................
Quote by Sofistikitty
So I've been thinking, I have to change my mindset about the lifestyle. Spoke to a sexual life coach about being a swinger and I think I might not be doing it right.
I've met guys that have told me I'm too "good" to be a swinger. I prefer chatting to guy or couple then sort of see if there's connection. Next step would be a meet and greet and maybe a make out session depending on chemistry-then at a later date a play date. All the while chatting on instant chat (bbm, what's app).
Am I doing it wrong? I mean twice I've ended up dating the guy for longer than 6 months and we don't really swing we become exclusive. I also feel like bad if I sleep with someone on a first meeting. What's wrong with me lol.
What do you guys do? What's the correct etiquette. Is it okay to be fussy? I usually only meet like one dude out of 20-30 guys that message me. I would like to change my mentality but I can't have sex with just anyone.
erm, you should be doing what feels right and good to you, not what a coach tells you.
We swop a few pm's chat a bit on the site, check each other out on cam, meet for coffee (no play meet n greet, sometimes turns into greet n play) set up play date.
As for becoming exclusive, nothing wrong with that if that's what you are looking for, but by the same token if you feel like playing dont tell the poor guy no just because you saw him last night as well......................
Nothing wrong with being fussy, but don't confuse fussy with full of sh!t. Fussy concedes a bit. Meeting one in 20/30 is not bad, we sometimes that bad, but we do end up playing with most that we meet..... It just means that you not wasting your or their time.
On thg emake out session, why bother with that, why not just a play session?
Nothing wrong with fofd either, as long as you find the mutual click on the level; that is required to be satisfied.
People telling you that you are to good to swing............................ hmmm less said the better, but there is no such thing as to good. You have your public persona (the one that your kids know) and then you have your sex life, whips and all and they should never meet as your sex life ONLY concerns you and your partners, no one else.
Quote by Cara
We have been hosting (private) parties for many years now with close at time a couple would ask us to arrange a gangbang thinking that we know a few single guys.
But as we know placing an add just does not work, Most guys are insecure and get cock scared.
So here is an idea, we where thinking of meeting single guys at a public place and chatting after we have meet a few we would arrange a boys night out so the boys can get to know each other and compare we have a few confident single guys that feel comfortable with each other in order to arrange a gangbang for that lady.
Any comment Idea`s would be welcome.
You never know maybe it does work
Quote by lekkerspyker
Never thought of measuring my cock untill you mentioned it on this site. My cock is 120mm long and 55mm thick when limp. 280mm long and 80mm thick when erect.
So, before anybody gets the chance to say below the belt things about your post (did you see what I done there?) I thought I would bring the following to your attention:
280mm is the best part of 11+ inches and
80mm thick could be interpreted in two ways: 1) 80mm thick across (which would make your member too big for any kind of penetrative intercourse) or 2) 80mm circumference (giving you a girth of a little over 3 inches) world average on the "low" side is something like 4.7 inches I think))
I assume it is a simple typo when posting this thread. BUT . . . .
If that is in fact your measurements, then I have to be honest and say that I would like to see pictures of that, because it is not likely that there is ever going to be another opportunity to see such a dick.
Just want to set the record strait. Wife thought she was funny by typing this treat when i stepped out for a moment.
My measurements are: 190mm long when erect and 55mm thick across when erect. And don't worry she was punished for her disrespect.
Now the rest of us guys can feel better and not look very confusedly at the rulers nor go out and buyt new measuring devices
Quote by SDMR
What to do?
That's easy, take a breath and remember . . . . . you will feel better in a short while. At this stage, you run the risk of a fantasy, becoming an obsession!!!!!
count to ten, but make sure you not counting sheep as you may well fall asleep instead of just calming down
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