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joyrider
Over 90 days ago
Straight White/Caucasian Male, 53
Bi-curious White/Caucasian Female, 53
0 km · KwaZulu Natal
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What makes a man a man? Is it the size of his penis or the way it is curved. Or is it the way his build and his looks? No. That just sets him apart from the others.
I think a real man is the following and again maybe I am wrong again?
A real man never swears in front of ladies during a conversation. He always knows his place and never goes out of his way to hurt a lady. In other words he must conduct him self as a gentleman. Please do not confuse a gentleman with as a softy. A real man will never lift his hands to a lady and he will go with his lady to do the shopping with out being nasty or have a shouting match inside the shop because he don't want to be there, as his rugby and other sports are more important than going with his wife shopping. He will help with the house chorse and even wash the dishes and of course do the washing for the love in his life. He will do anything for her, even if he does not like it and will not say a thing about it. A real man will know how to comfort a lady when she needs it and cry with her when it is needed. A real man must know when to take the lead and when not to. A real man will be able to control him self after he has had a few drinks and not look for shit with anyone and everyone, and leave the bigger men alone.
A real man is the one who other people feels comfortable enough with, to came to talk about their problems and keeps it to himself.
Maybe I'm right or maybe I'm wrong?
Joyrider
Oops must not say too much 
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:wink: :wink:Like I said it would not work for me to give you that answer, Because if I say I am 22cm then you would say one of two things. Which is : that is not big or it is just too big and if I say I am 16cm you will say that is not big but a normal size or you might just insult me as you always do :twisted: :lol:
Joyrider
A man should never brag :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Joyrider
A man should never brag :lol: :lol: :lol: Now Lee my love what changed your mind? You see even if I do tell you the real size you would not believe me. Or would you?
I don't know if this is the right to measure but I use a ruler. I do not push the ruler in the my public bone I just push it against my pubic skin and then me measure in cm. and then I get...... Wait if I tell you then I could be bragging right or wrong? By the way Lee what kind of Car do you drive?
Joyrider
Like you said lee and the other ladies that support your theory ''A man must know how to use ALL his tools '' :lol: :lol: :lol:
:lol: :lol: :lol: Well you have now touched on a point that sends me into a mad rage. As a father of a 16 year old daughter.
My wife and I have been together from early high school days and yes we even had sex then, but my wife could go on her own to the clinic for the birth control pills. And we only had our first kid years after we got married and yes we both had finished high school.
Now in those days (man now it sounds as if I am old :sad: ) In any case in those days we never had "LewensOrientering''. I think the english word is SEX EDUCATION.
These days they have SEX education which I think is wrong. It makes the kids want to test out what ever the teacher is saying. That is why we have so many SCHOOL KIDS pregnant. Think about what I have just said!
I say stop the f...king sex education at school and make it easier for young girls to get the pill. And my motivation is you must see what hell I go throw every 5 month just to go to the fucking doctor, just to make out a fucking prescription And to round it all off it costs me just over every fucking 5 month:mad: which is wrong.
Then we as parents want to shit in our pans because of abortions be it legal or not:mad:
Joyrider
Sorry for using that kid of language ''Ladies''
@ Smalltoy you said something about the size of the wallet. Mmmmmm
In my line of work I see a lot of people that have finance problems and believe me the cpl's do not last long when they have money problems.
So I guess you are right in that aspect if you have a small weaner then you must have a nice size wallet to make sure the lady don't leave you. As Women like money and lots of it :twisted:
So the next Question is how many of the women that say size don't matter are driving Big Expensive Cars? :lol: :lol:
Joyrider
Got the tools needs the wallet :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Joyrider
Got the tools needs the wallet :lol: :lol: :lol: O ladies don't be so small minded. :twisted:
You all agree a man does not have to have a big dick as long as he knows how to use it with the rest of his tools he has in his arsenal. Am I right Lee? But if he has a big golden snake and knows how to use All his tools don't you think it is a plus point? O and Lee my dear love you stay tooo far from us. Otherwise I would make you eat your words by showing you :twisted: :twisted: :lol: :lol:
All you ladies hammer on the following:
The man must be well groomed
He must know his place
Be clean on himself
And must be able to read what you want next
And must respect you for who you are
Must be able to hold out for sometime (not meaning 10min or less) and not just think of his own pleasure
And he must be able to take you to 7th heaven and further
Now not to blow my own trumpet but I am all of the above and big so what do you say now Camfun?
Joyrider
Don't use the name JOYRIDER for nothing :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
You all agree a man does not have to have a big dick as long as he knows how to use it with the rest of his tools he has in his arsenal. Am I right Lee? But if he has a big golden snake and knows how to use All his tools don't you think it is a plus point? O and Lee my dear love you stay tooo far from us. Otherwise I would make you eat your words by showing you :twisted: :twisted: :lol: :lol:
All you ladies hammer on the following:
The man must be well groomed
He must know his place
Be clean on himself
And must be able to read what you want next
And must respect you for who you are
Must be able to hold out for sometime (not meaning 10min or less) and not just think of his own pleasure
And he must be able to take you to 7th heaven and further
Now not to blow my own trumpet but I am all of the above and big so what do you say now Camfun?
Joyrider
Don't use the name JOYRIDER for nothing :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: Well thank you for the hot reply, but here is something you think about. Ladies that is defending the small tools. On a cold day do you wear a pair of gloves that is too big for your hands or a gloves that is too small. On. :twisted: You wear a pair of gloves that you hand fits into nicely. Right or wrong. Now the older the gloves gets the bigger they feel is that not so? Now the same with a ladies p.....y. It gets use to of the same size the whole time and every now and then it is nice to to feel a nice tight fit. Just so you can appreciate your old gloves! :twisted: :twisted:
Now I feel sorry for the ladies that say they had a big tool and the guy was useless. You ladies have then just gone threw what I go threw every now and then. All my experience's I have had with other women and I mean all. the women just want to lay on their backs and want me to do all the work. Now I mean from using my mouth hand right up to my d....k All they want is for me to do the pleasing. So to say a man with a big tool is not a good lay is the same as what I say. Nothing fits as my old glove :twisted: In other word a person gets use to wearing the same old gloves and no matter what anyone say no one can change your mind set!! :twisted: :twisted:
O, I got into this life style to see if the other ladies are as good as they say they are in bed. Sad to say they are NOT and it is always the ladies that think they are just the one and they know how to do it right.
And guys you who agree with the ladies let me think of the saying. KLEIN MAN SiNDROOM. You are the men that, when you have a few drinks you look for the biggest guy in the room to take on. And the reason for this is YOU know your piepie is smaller than his? You never see a big guy looking for shit at a party or bar. So yes you guys are the one's that always tries and kruip gat by the women.
O and regarding my profile why must I advertise, I am BIG. There is so many men out there that lies about it, just now the people think I am also a liar. And another reason why I don't advertise it, is because the men with small piepies feel threatened by it. Especially if you use ALL your TOOLS. O, I just realized something that is why there is always eruption after an encounter with another cpl. Aaaaaa :twisted:
Joyrider
:lol: :lol: THE MAN
:lol: :lol: THE MAN Well this one is not for me. Because when I was much younger my oupa told me if I play too much with my tool, hair would start to grow in my palms. And the other reason is been married and having sex 5 to 6 times a week. It dont give me much time to play with my wire:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Joyrider
Married life is great :twisted: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
And the other reason is been married and having sex 5 to 6 times a week. It dont give me much time to play with my wire:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Joyrider
Married life is great :twisted: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Ladies I know you are only trying to let the little guys feel better of them self's. Because the majority of the men out there are small. :lol: :lol: and I know you don't want to hurt their feelings :twisted: :twisted:
But like it was said if the guys know how to use a big tool and knows it takes more than just the tool to please. then it is difficult to go same again :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Joyrider
It is all in knowing how to use a BIG tool :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
:lol: :lol: and I know you don't want to hurt their feelings :twisted: :twisted:
But like it was said if the guys know how to use a big tool and knows it takes more than just the tool to please. then it is difficult to go same again :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Joyrider
It is all in knowing how to use a BIG tool :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: Okay who has the guts to prove me wrong?
This is a subject close to my heart. The size of a mans penis does count and here is the reason why.
Have a look at how many men like to enlarge their pic of their penis when it is in the meantime not even 3,5 inches long. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
You must see what expression is on the guys face when I am WAY BIGGER than him and that his name has just been made gat in front of his girl or wife. And when you are not just longer but thinker too. And when the guy see's his wife's expression on her face, it is just something to crack yourself about.
And it does not stop there. When she makes those lovely noises of getting out of breath and unbelievable whaling noises of extreme pleasure. And to put the cherry on top, you hold out longer than him. Man then you must hear the excuses that come out to make up for his short comings :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
And then ladies say, it is not the size but how you use it. Ladies wake up and smell the roses. Have a look how many of you WOMEN like the position where the man can go nice and deep. So yes size does matter no matter what. I am sure when you ladies are looking for another man or cpl to join you or you and your hubby. You do look at dick size!!!!!!!
So which man has the Balls to say I am talking the truth. And ladies who of you have the Guts to admit what I said here :twisted: :twisted:
Joyrider
Big and Proud of it and Know how to use it :twisted: :twisted: :lol: :lol:
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You must see what expression is on the guys face when I am WAY BIGGER than him and that his name has just been made gat in front of his girl or wife. And when you are not just longer but thinker too. And when the guy see's his wife's expression on her face, it is just something to crack yourself about.
And it does not stop there. When she makes those lovely noises of getting out of breath and unbelievable whaling noises of extreme pleasure. And to put the cherry on top, you hold out longer than him. Man then you must hear the excuses that come out to make up for his short comings :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
And then ladies say, it is not the size but how you use it. Ladies wake up and smell the roses. Have a look how many of you WOMEN like the position where the man can go nice and deep. So yes size does matter no matter what. I am sure when you ladies are looking for another man or cpl to join you or you and your hubby. You do look at dick size!!!!!!!
So which man has the Balls to say I am talking the truth. And ladies who of you have the Guts to admit what I said here :twisted: :twisted:
Joyrider
Big and Proud of it and Know how to use it :twisted: :twisted: :lol: :lol:
:lol: :lol: :lol: Okay let me see if I can try can do some mouth to mouth here. Breath some life here.
This is going to be a question which I need some answers to. Please
Right here we go. I would say my wife and I have a really active sex life. Meaning we have sex at least 5 to 6 times a week. And it is great, but every year and this is like clock work there cames a time where there is just about no sex. It is like maybe once in two weeks. It is not that we are board with one another. Or that we are having sex with other people. We dont even want to have sex with other people. :sad: :sad: The only way I can describe it is like you have just had a big plat of food and now you are just not hungry.
Now the questions come. Please note I say Questions with a S.
Is it that we over do it when we are on the ball again?
Is it old age?
Is it stress?
Or is it that we do not use something to make us horny?
Or is it me when she wants it the man does not want to stand up and when I want it then she is too tired. In other words the timing sucks.
So who can give me some answers. Or does this also happen to other people. As I did read the one of the other cpls are also not meeting people now. Are they also going throw something like this?
Joyrider
I want it but nothing happens. :sad: :sad:
Well I go with my wife every month to do the monthly groceries and I love it. It is the part of the month I enjoy the most. Because while we are doing shopping, I look at the people. And this is what I have noticed.
There are 5 kinds of ladies in the shops at any given time.
You get the UPSTAIRS lady which is the following lady. The cloths she has on really compliments her. From her shoes right up to her hair everything is just right. In other words she is hot, But if you really look at her she thinks she is Gods gift to men and the look she gives you could kill you hundreds of times over. So is this lady hot in the end. I think not, as 9 time out of 10 she is the lady that is thinks the road she drives on belongs to her and she can say and do as she likes. This is where I would say beauty is only skin deep!
Then you get goods looking ladies. They are the ones that just look good in their cloths and their hair style really compliments them to. They are THE ladies that when you look at them and they look back at you and your eyes happen to lock on each other at the same time, they give you a nice smile at the same time forcing you to give them just as nice smile back. There's ladies are really beautiful. Their beauty is really more than skin deep. They are the ones that make me want to go with my wife to do the monthly groceries.
Now there is the shy lady. She is the one that dresses nice, looks good in all aspect, But this ladies don't look anyone in the face, she always looks down at the floor or only at the goods she has packed in to her basket. Why they are like this one can only speculate.
Then you get the avarage joe lady. She is the one that really don't give a shit how she looks. She is the one that when you cross eyes with her, she gives you the look of EK GAAN JOU MOER look.
Then you get the last group of ladies. They are the one I feel sorry for. They are the ones that make me feel so bad to call myself a man. I am now refering to the lady that walks with her husband and does the monthly groceries. It is that poor lady that gets shouted at in front of everyone. The ones that get humiliated in front of everyone because the husband does not want to really do the groceries shopping.
So now which one are you?
Joyrider
Glad to say I enjoy the month end shopping :twisted:
Okay ladies as I am not allouwd to tell you ladies that are hot, good, looking or nice. then here is a different compliment which you ladies can not say is a creepy comment.
Ladies you all look so ugly today and your cloths you have on don't suit you or your body. Then I am not going to even going to talk about your hair style, because you must have put your finger in a plug to get it to stand that way.
Now what do I bet you guys the ladies are now going to say I am rude extra.
Joyrider
Trying to make all ladies feel good about them self's
[quote="Gerrie2012"] Especially in a country where the female does not have the same standing as their male counterparts.
Gerrie will you see it as a sexual harassment if a lady cames up to you and gives you a compliment.
I just think too many people is crying wolf over nothing. I am sure if a person gives another person a compliment with out trying to undressing them it will be taken in the right light.
Or do the liberated ladies want a person to give them just a smile and the tilt of the head with a look in the your eyes that you are undressing them right there and then.
Joyrider
Enjoying real beauty
Don't you think it is a nice confident booster for your self if a complete stranger walks up to you and says you look nice today? Sometime it is just what a person need at that moment in time.
I mean these day we would get in a lift in a building and not one person will even look in another persons direction let alone say good day to anyone.
That is why we have road rag. Just by smiling at someone or saying you look nice makes a big difference to some people.
Or am I wrong again?
Joyrider
Trying to make it work
Here is one for you to think about.
We that call our self's swingers have rules while I think at least some of us. Now been in the life style does not mean one has the right to sleep around behind your partners back or does it? The reason I ask myself this question there seems to be so many married men that do it or want to do it. Do the ladies it the life style also do it?
If so WHY.
Joyrider
Just trying to learn more about people.
