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joyrider
Over 90 days ago
Straight White/Caucasian Male, 53
Bi-curious White/Caucasian Female, 53
0 km · KwaZulu Natal
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Well now I am confused, need advice from people that has been in the game for some time now.
Well here goes. Lets make two kind of people first. Lets call the person that made first contact with another person via the site THE HUNTER. And the person that responds to the HUNTER lets call that person the RESPONDER.
Well the hunter makes contact with you, you respond. Now the two parties get together for the first meet in public which is a neutral venue. Both parties knock it off lets say fairly well. After the meet each party goes there own way. Usually on your way home each cpl talks about the other cpl. You know did you like them ext.
Then there is a message send back and forth after wards usually saying one of two things. Sorry but we don't see it going anywhere between us or it says we do like you guys and we can see it going somewhere. and that is it.
Now things seem to run dead from this point, because the hunter does not want to sound hard up and nor does the responder
and this usually leads to a dead end and nothing comes from it :sad:
You see because if the hunter keeps pushing, the responder thinks, you the hunter are hard up and if they go ahead with meeting again, then you owe them one or visa virsa. Or am I wrong? By saying that.
So the question is how do you get it to the next level, without coming across as hard up?
Joyrider
Came people teach me more with out been ugly, as there are a few people we've met, but what then?
Well in my line of work when i see Athletic people they are usually on deaths door step. So i like some meat then the people look healthy. In any case Athletic people only want to receive and never give. And they always think they are Gods gift to everyone and they can say and do like they want and screw other people.
Joyrider
Good looking does not really mean you are a nice person and more often they are NOT :sad:
Hi there,
First let me tell you there is light at the end of the tunnel. To get to there is a whole different story. Please note not everyone is the same, but here is what i think is going on and what should be done to try and fix the problem.
You said he wanks all day while he is looking at porn, so yes by the time he wants to fuck you his little man does not want to work in the right way. It is like as if it is at half musk. That is not because of you, but because he is maybe over doing it a bit.
Before trying to fix the problem lets try and find the cause of the problem. Like just before he started looking at the porn did he have a lot of stress work or money wise? And just before that how was your sex life great? If the sex life was great then the following could have happened. Because of the stress he went into well lets call it a flat time 
Then no matter what he tried he could not get the man to stand up. Then he started to look at porn and it started to work. The little man started to work again:smitten:.
But then he started to get ideas of wanting to try out what he sees on the porn movies. But because he loves you so much and respects you so much he said nothing and started to live it out in his head while looking at the movies that is why he is now addicted to them.
Now to try and find the right way to get him back.
First look at what kind of porn is he looking at which turns him on. Meaning is he looking more at 2 ladies and one male doing it or two guys doing one lady. I think you get the idea. Then you will know what is turning him on.
Then came's the hard part for you. You must decide are you willing to do that, that is turning him on. If so then make the suggestion you would like to try it out and is he game for it? If he still says no it could be because he loves you way too much and respects you too much and then there is only 1 of 2 things left you can try. Find therapy for him or leave him.
Please note this is my point of view and my ways of trying to fix's it. It does not mean it will work.
But in any case good luck.
Joyrider
PS: let me know what was the out came in the end please.
Then no matter what he tried he could not get the man to stand up. Then he started to look at porn and it started to work. The little man started to work again:smitten:.
But then he started to get ideas of wanting to try out what he sees on the porn movies. But because he loves you so much and respects you so much he said nothing and started to live it out in his head while looking at the movies that is why he is now addicted to them.
Now to try and find the right way to get him back.
First look at what kind of porn is he looking at which turns him on. Meaning is he looking more at 2 ladies and one male doing it or two guys doing one lady. I think you get the idea. Then you will know what is turning him on.
Then came's the hard part for you. You must decide are you willing to do that, that is turning him on. If so then make the suggestion you would like to try it out and is he game for it? If he still says no it could be because he loves you way too much and respects you too much and then there is only 1 of 2 things left you can try. Find therapy for him or leave him.
Please note this is my point of view and my ways of trying to fix's it. It does not mean it will work.
But in any case good luck.
Joyrider
PS: let me know what was the out came in the end please. From small a person is t that the man is the hunter. He is the one that must hunt for a sex partner.I mean think of the story of the cave man knocking the lady over the head and taking her back to go have sex. Now time has changed since then.
I guess what i am asking who is doing most of the time the hunting on this site the lady or the man?
Joyrider
Answer is yes and no. And the reason for this kind of answer is, it does not just go about me (rider) it must also go for Joy. So yes will try something and if we/I dont like it then at least we/ I can say been there did it and now moving on
Joy and Rider
Important thing is both parties must enjoy that what is been tested out!!
Well lets see it is like went you see a new car on the road. Then the following ideas go throw a mans head. Okay my head. It looks nice, wonder is it comfortable, can I fit behind the steering wheel, does it have power when I need it and can it go now and then off road.
Short story you have to find the car you like.
Joyrider
experimenting is part of life 
1. Ball and chain meaning always blocking you in what you really want to do. you cannot do with out it must have the same idea on punishment or the parents will have ago at each other after a while. have to match at least 80% other wise that cpl in doomed to brake up.
5. They are just trouble just stay away.
6. Only 1 chief other wise you confuse the kids these days.
Joyrider
after 24 years it is still working for us
G strings mmmmm
Do ladies really like G strings? And do men really like them too.
Call me old and out of touch, but when i look at some pic where the lady has her back and bum on the photo and a person see's that piece of string cameing out of her but crack. The first thing that goes throw my mind is that poor lady has not got enough money to pay for a descent pair of pants. And shame that piece of sting must be hurting her as it is cutting throw Paragwaai and hollands. I mean I have tried wearing a G string and man that dam string only hurts and only wants to creep up my backside. The other thing is when some ladies wear G strings their butts look so wobbly. Were as a nice silk lace pant makes her bum look so nice and firm. I mean look at some women that wear jeans how nice and firm their bums look. Ooooo some of them can look so hot.
So what is your take on the G string story.
Joyrider
Sting is use to hang something up :twisted: :twisted:
