Pim
We like you just a pity you are in the the cape. We would really like to meet you one day as every time you say something you tend to hit the nail on the head. You seem to say just what and how we feel. You also give a person new hope to keep on trying to find the right cpl or lady.
One day when we are old enough then we will came to the cape and then we would like to meet you. Meet you as a person and not for sex.
JOY & Rider
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joyrider
Over 90 days ago
Straight White/Caucasian Male, 54
Bi-curious White/Caucasian Female, 54
0 km · KwaZulu Natal
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This one is for the Ladies.
When i was growing up i was the only boy in that generation the rest was girls. And as it was the girls would talk. they would sit and judge a man.
The one day they would do that is by looking at the mans foot size. The next day it is looking at his hand size. The next day they would look when a man closes his hand in a half a fist who far i his index finger would cross the palm of the hand mark that point then ask him to open i. then measure for the mark to the tip of the index is the different ways them would judge a mans manhood.
Now my question is do women still do this, judge men in this way? Or is there other ways in judging a man. And how accurate is this form of measurement.
Or is it a myth.
Joyrider
Enjoying the ride
One of the young single members got hold of me this weekend and usually a person exchanges stories, and experiences of what a person has found and came across in this lifestyle.
And 1 major concern that came up is this young person follows the Swingers Heaven suggested rules, which one of them are to meet the people in a public place first and then take things from there
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Now the problem is the following, this person has meet 2 different cpl's and on both occasions there has been things gone missing after the fun, like underarm spray, toothpaste and some other things. Or the people pitch up and the guy who is with the female, whether it be the husband, boyfriend or just fuck buddy. While the young person is giving the lady a seeing to, the guy uses drugs (which was not mentioned in the cpl's profile or at the first meet) or the guy wonders round in the house seeing what he can take as souvenirs.
Now look at it this way the young person cannot go and open a S.A.P case for the small things that was taking without permission, because then the thing it is like washing your laundry in public. Which no one wants!!
Now what are we as descent members of Swingers Heaven going to do about this?
Suggestion that come up is the NAME AND SHAME THING that has come up so many times, it would work in this case. I know some people will maybe not use it the right way, but as we have a TAB on our profiles for our favourite people and friends why can't we not have another TAB where a person can confirm and make remarks like once a person has meet people you can confirm they are for real and those that are not as well as those that are bad people. And let it be like the private pic's, you as a member can pick who you want to show this info to.
Joyrider
Enjoying the ride
What that couple is essentially saying is - we actually want ,to not just have sex, but we are willing to make the effort to get to know you and make this the best experience it can be for all concerned.
Lee it sounds like you have spend time with us as you have said just what we tell the cpl's when we meet them. Have we meet and you dont know it?
Joyrider
Enjoying the rider 
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:lol: well dp and dpp? i always seen the porn where 1 guy in the back door and 1 in front door. well never tried that. but have tried 2 in 1 hole that is great, but not all women can handle it.
o and word of advice for those who want to try it take it slow with the lady please!!!!!
joyrider
enjoying the ride :lol:
:lol: Quote by RockstarLemming
@PIB
Oxytocin is not just released from hetero sex. It is produced from any form of intimacy.
One of the first times it was discovered was in breastfeeding mothers bonding with their kids!
now i know why men like sucking tit and why women like their tits to be sucked.
Why morning sex is good for you...
- People who begin their day with sex are healthier and happier than those who simply opt for a cup of tea and breakfast before heading out of the door. No points for guessing the reason!
- Having sex in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel bonded all day long.
- Apart from the fact that regular morning sex makes you feel upbeat for the rest of the day, it also helps in building a stronger immune system.
- People who begin their day with sex are healthier and happier than those who simply opt for a cup of tea and breakfast before heading out of the door. No points for guessing the reason!
- Having sex in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel bonded all day long.
- Apart from the fact that regular morning sex makes you feel upbeat for the rest of the day, it also helps in building a stronger immune system.
Quote by frontosa415
why do people do this,spend days talking then get around to setting up dates to meet ,then the excuses start,this came up,that happened ,people if you dont want to meet PLEASE do not waste other peoples time,this is how sites like this get bad names
Hi everyone
well i understand what everyone is talking about. but from that we have been on this site we have meet 5 cpls. out of the 5 cpls we landed up having fun with only 2 cpls. and out of those 2 cpls we and goods friends with the 1 cpl.
yes a person does lose faith in meetting up with people and they dont pitch up. but when you do meet the diamond in the rough it makes it all worth it.
Joyrider
Enjoy the ride and keep the faith
1. Vocalize your enjoyment! Listening to a woman bellow in ecstasy 'I'm … COOOOOOOMING!' is as good, if not better, than the sex itself.
2. ... but don't forget that other people in house/apartment nearby will hear you, especially if he is awkward about that sort of thing.
3. NO. TEETH. (What are you, eighteen? You should know that by now, really.)
4. Offering to let him come on your face will make his friggin' day. If that's too porn-y for you, let him come on your chest instead.
5. That slow, gentle, tender sex you're having? It's probably for your benefit, not his. 'Guys love the express train 90 percent of the time, so get off the local!' Maybe just be clear that there should be a fast sex/slow sex balance in the relationship, lest he think you like the jackhammering as much as he does.
6. Men don't only love penis massages—they love back and shoulder massages, too. Making him come then rolling him over and mounting his butt to administer a back massage is a lovely way to bring on A Post-Coital Man Nap.
7. Wait to hop in the shower and wash all that dirty, dirty sex off. 'Come back to bed after you're done warding off a UTI in the loo when we're finished—there's nothing like savoring the moment.' Aww, they get lonely when we leave them in bed by themselves!
8. Boys have nipples, too, and sometimes, they can be very sensitive. His junk isn't the only place he wants you to kiss!
9. Assume your guy's anus is feeling neglected, too. 'Don't forget that some guys like a pinkie in the ass.' He just might be too embarrassed to ask for it, so let your fingers wander and see what happens.
10. Get out of the bedroom. 'Women forget to have sex anywhere other than in bed without guidance.' I think this means he likes to do it in the shower?
Joyrider
Enjoying the RIDE
Quote by KC_
Voyer, we also use sms's to get things going sometimes...
When I know K_ is having a long day at work, and may not have the energy to do much more than eat, shower and sleep when he gets home. I like to provide a little incentive throughout the day for what will happen if he happens to find some energy....
most of the sms's are about how thinking about him is making me wet
or just a little message about what I would like to do to him *right now* if I could...
And with the aid of technology... I often send him pics of my breasts or something... ;) Just have to call first and subtly find out if he is in a room full of people then, or able to look at his phone and pitch a tent *safely*
Cruel I know... but he *magically* has energy for me when he gets home....
and he doesn't complain about my methods....
;)
C
c when my wife sends sms's like that then i just want to stop working and go home!!!
:lol: :lol: A women is like an airplane a man is like the pilot.
How a women flies depends on how a man uses her controls. She can fly like a Cesna or she can fly like a fighter jet even with after burners. The difference is the pilot performance.
A women has many controls, the most important is her central control, normally called her brain which only reacts to sight and sound. Then there are the physical controls like her engine, mouth, and etc. She also has a bunch of sub controls along her neck and ears
However, a women's controls are individual. The same stimulation applied to one women's controls will not result in an equal stimulation to another women. In other words, pilots can't assume anything and must stimulate (provide attention) through trial and error.
It is always a learning thing for the pilot but what else does he have to do but learn? Really, the pilot only has to understand one thing; his airplane needs attention. The higher she sores, the happier she will be with the pilot.
What powers a women is hormones which she gets from all kinds of attention. A women can't produce hormones without recieving harmones from the pilots stimulation. .
A women is the only thing that exist on this earth that creates fusion. All of her controls can both create hormones while using hormones to power her flight. When a women flies like a jet fighter, she needs to both produce a massive amount of hormones because she consumes a massive amount of hormones to fly. This is why she needs a man.
joyrider
'Enjoying the ride'
Hi everyone it is time for me to set the cat lost between the pigeons.
I would like to know what is the difference between a persons Point of view, a persons Opinion and a persons statement if they make one.
First is it a good thing to make a statement about someone on this site and if so how should one take it as constructive criticism or should a person feel offended or just leave it at that.
Second a persons point of view. Should a person answer someone when they ask a question on the forum from your own point of view or make a statement about what was asked or said.
Thirdly a persons opinion. When answering someone on the forum should you give your opinion on what you think on what has been asked or said. If a person gives your opinion should the other person or people get offended because of your opinion? and then answer you nasty back because they don't agree with you.
And lastly should a person the only nice word I can think of is be Nasty, when given your opinion, point of view or when you make a statement? And pls keep your reply as short as possible as I have a very short concentration span. :lol: :lol:
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