honeybun 28 Sep 2026 Why do someone join swinging heaven that is not into the lifestyle? Swingers or pre-tenders? People may pretend to be swingers or join a swinger’s site while misrepresenting their intentions for several reasons. The motivation depends on the person, but common possibilities include: Curiosity or fantasy: They may be interested in the idea but not genuinely willing to participate. Seeking attention or validation: Some people enjoy receiving messages, compliments, or feeling desirable. Trying to meet people for con...