Same to you Zaenia
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Vee1
Over 90 days ago
Straight Other Male, 50
South Africa
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Sexlightened
Quote by Zaenia
I'm amused at the need that those who are sexually progressive feel to label their progressiveness......
I re-iterate.....no one is forcing you to engage with anyone.....single....married.....or in a polyamourous relationship. If someone does not meet the exact standard of your purist understanding of swinging or whatever you wish to call it....then you have the joy of using the blocking function.
There should have been a "like " button here.
Sexlightened
Quote by KC_TrueThere are many different ways to engage with swinging. Often single people are easier to meet and click with than couples are.
Depends on the kinds of sex you are looking for.
Since we are a couple who has mainly had threesomes, are we not swingers because of the lack of another couple present?
Sexlightened
Quote by Zaenia
Do you really want to involve yourself with people who would judge you and for whom you have to perform a song and dance and provide a cv as to your moral character?
Live and let live......if you don't want to play with a married person then move along.....no one is forcing you to engage.
Agree with you. 100%
Sexlightened
It would be interesting to know. These days swinging occurs frequently as I am sure it did in the past.
Nowadays mobile devices computers and websites such as this site make it very accessible for swingers to chat and meet.
It would be very interesting to know how it used to happen before we had access to such technology.
Vee1 Let's have fun.
Sexlightened
I do agree it is cheating. However there may be many reasons why this happens. Maybe the man in the marriage is interested in swinging whereas the woman is not. Maybe they do not have sex as often as they want. Each partners sex drive may be different. For me. I have always had fantasies of my own which my partner will not engage in. I do love my partner and will never change my relationship. But all that said: do I give up on my fantasies? Is there an alternative? Does this make me a bad person?
Sexlightened
having a woman in sexy lingerie working as an auditor would be nice. we can get up to all sorts of fun.
Also, imagine working in IT, completely naked. Just looking at a lady behind the computer would bring about a really good hard on. and then we work the PC together. It can be lots of fun.
Sexlightened
Swinging is meant to be a mutual thing where both partners have an equal say. Sounds like your friends partner has a serious obsession. Your friend needs to put his/her foot down and say no. It would probably cause more fights but your friend needs to do it. Your friend needs to understand that as a person they have a right to say no. Your friends partner needs to know that he has an obsession and has to deal with it. Counselling will help. Your friend and partner needs to go. So they need to find money somewhere for this. Fact is the relationshio/marriage is looking one sided and this should not be happening.
Vee1
Let's have fun.
Sexlightened
A mate of mine told me that his wife is obsessed with wanting to see him have sex with another woman. It is a turn on for her. Keeping in mind that they are not into swinging and would not consider it. Is it something natural or is there something underlying to be careful of?
