They better have a pen and paper ready...

Well Damn, Now I'm going to have to go and read all the stories under factual

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Yes here she goes again.... 
Reading some of the stories laid down as fact I have come to the conclusion that some men really have questionable fantasies. Now half of you are going like "NO , how dare you" but go read some. It's like the script of a B-rate slasher film. 
Leaving your wife alone in a park to essentially get " ". Or getting left completely out waiting somewhere while you're wife has sex with a complete stranger ( with no regard for her safety) or allowing a stranger to "shoot his warm load deep inside her"  to name but a few . 
Guys , WTF ? Please never put these fantasies into play. It's dangerous to say the least. 
If you do think some of these things sound like fun, I would suggest that you evaluate how you actually feel about your wife. 
In today's world there really is danger involved , swinging is supposed to be fun. But seems some would love to turn it into an extreme sport

 That's what fantasies are there for. You dont have to do everything that you fantasies about.

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Okay so this is the umteenth post on this subject.... But if this reached 1 guy and helps him, then it won't be in vain. 

 Exactly! I would be happy if only one guy got laid thanks to the tips I gave. This post doesn't only apply to single men, couples that aren't finding a lot of success on here should read it as well.

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Pity the guys who SHOULD read this most likely won't. 

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The idiots who need this advice won't read it. Good read nonetheless. 

No matter what you write, you will still get replies from the desperate element of single males who do not bother to read what is written. These are the the same Arrogant Wankers that think Every Woman on here wants them. (Also usually the ones that only wear "Wife-Beater" Vests and have a Odor problem). I'm glad that they can't read!

There are a few reasons why we enjoy seeing our wives with other guys...

Men are visual creatures. For some men, there is no better way to be turned on than watching another man having sex your wife. I feel extremely turned on knowing that another man thinks my wife is as hot as i do and i loves watching another man be pleased by my wife, especially when she gives them head, cause I know how good she is .

The thrill of the . There are few things in our society as stigmatized as a husband whose wife is unfaithful.

The is the thrill for a lot of guys, from the excitement of the forbidden and the naughty.

Hotwife' fetishists (Like Myself) are into the idea that offering your wife up for sexual encounters is a matter of pride. Many guys get a thrill, a sense of being "king" that they have a wife who is so Sexy / Hot that other men want to be with her, but who ultimately comes home with him, the husband. It gives guys the feeling that they are powerful and successful that they have such a sexy wife.

Some of the benefits as well Are:

Enhancers your relationship through openness .

Boost for the woman’s confidence.

The man feels good about his wife

Feelings of jealousy are eliminated

Enhances care and affection for the other partner

Physical satisfaction is attained

Swinging, also known as partner sharing, partner or wife swapping, or sometimes simply as "The Lifestyle" is consenting adults enjoying the experience of having sexual relationships with (multiple) partners other than their spouse.

The site is what it is, a platform for the more liberated out there to indulge themselves with others of a similar nature and ok for some it doesn’t work but that’s life in general. The thing is, this is not a "Sex dating site". It's a swinging site. If you are a single guy and can’t already find success at the vanilla single clubs, bars & online tools like Tinder than you probably shouldn’t try the lifestyle.

A common misconception is that swingers have sex with anyone. Swinging is not the solution for single horny guys seeking easy sex.

Remember that as a single man, you're one among many thousands wanting to get involved in the swinging scene. You have to shine/stand out in some way and put in a bit of work to succeed. I have put together an unofficial Guide / Rule book for those single guys that really want to join the lifestyle

As a single male you are more likely to get action with a couple, than you are with a single girl. Keep in mind that couples within the lifestyle are there because of their own enjoyment, not yours. Become familiar with the lifestyle, the expectations and also the facts.

We have met allot of Awesome single guys on Swingingheaven that are in a class of their own. These are guys that put a bit of effort in and are enjoying the Success (Action) that they are getting.

Quite a lot of guys seem to think all they need do is send a wink, one liner and cock shot and they'll get laid. These are the same guys who have no social graces and those who see themselves as god’s gift to women, and as a result no woman wants to know them. The ones that need to realize that just because they are on a swinger site does not guarantee them sex

Tips for Single Men that will help you.

Remember the supply/demand ratio is not in the single man’s favour so the single man needs to work harder to stand out from the very crowded field of other single men.

Don't contact a woman and try arrange a meeting when her husband isn't present. It is a rookie mistake for a single guy to forget that swinging couples are a team. Most swingers aren't out there cheating on their spouse. To achieve success ultimately, you'll need to be the favourable guy with the husband as well.

Your Profile – One of the most important things to understand is that this is not a traditional dating profile. A well written profile show's members that you are very serious about meeting others. Be clear about your requirements, likes, and dislikes. Be yourself, be positive. Sell yourself.

Don’t imitate or try to be something you are not. People can spot fake swingers profiles in an instant.

Don’t just write a one sentence or leave your profile blank.

A Blank profile that you are not really interested in taking the time to fill it out, so you will probably not be willing to invest in chatting or meeting or actually following through with anything. Blank profile = TIME WASTER

Be not only honest, but current. Update your profile constantly. Tastes change, and yours will too!

Give enough information for people to make a decision about you. There are thousands of personal pages. Yours is one. Get to the point. Provide a brief overview of what you would like to do, who would you like to do it with, and list any sex acts that you have particular interest in. Don’t count on the profile types or the checkboxes to let people know what you are interested in—tell your story.

Keep it short. Under 500 words. You're just trying to get people interested enough to respond to the first email. Make sure you present yourself in the best light

Don't exaggerate your looks, ability, wealth etc. If you are 30 say 30, if 50 say 50. Ladies are more interested in the real you than an age, but if they catch you lying about one thing, they will not trust you on anything else!

You're asking to be brought into someone's sexual relationship. Be mindful and respectful of that. If you say you're looking to "bang bored housewives," or "give them what they really want," you're disrespecting half of the people you're looking to hook up with. This isn't like trying to pick up a 20-year-old Bimbo!

Be a gentleman in addition to a classy guy. Just because a woman likes sex does not imply she likes vulgar language or innuendos. Politeness and social skills tend to be more essential in this lifestyle than simply about any place else.

Don’t insult a member’s intelligence by pretending that you are a couple on your profile, “My wife wanted me to come here first on my own to test it out, What about you and I play now?” Every swinger has heard that line repeatedly. You might as well say hey my wife’s at church and you are cheating on her. Does your wife even know that you are "both" on here?

Pictures - If you are sending a picture, or putting a picture on your profile follow a few simple rules. Unless requested, always send a face & body shot, don't use cock shots, girls look at eyes, hands, bums, legs and hair before they look at cocks. It may be your pride and joy, but it is more likely to lose you responses than gain them for you. If they do want to see your 8"monster they will ask.

Don't post an old photo of yourself because you think you look good, post something that actually looks like you.

If you can provide a face shot without worry, you should do so. Anyone who posts a real photo that clearly shows what they look like in real life gets a LOT more attention The basic rule of thumb is simple, The better the pictures, the better your responses. Make yourself look like the kind of person (or couple) you’d want to hang out with.

Responding to an Advert - Always be polite. Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad. Make sure that you fit the description of the person the advertiser is looking for, and reiterate the points where you fit the description. If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a shot of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (Some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their ad). Keep the language clean, match your response to the ad.

Don't send them a 2000 word essay outlining your every fantasy and experience to date; you can go into these details later. Remember first impressions count, be polite, open, and to the point without being blunt.

Don’t respond to an ad asking for a 27 something blue eyed, blonde male if you are 45, grey hair and brown eyes - you will just frustrate the advertiser by clogging up their mail box.

Contacting a Member – Make sure you have your profile set up before you send your first swinger message. Always fully read the profile to check you are what they are looking for or in fact, if they are looking at all.. Never do a copy and paste messages, the type you may send to everyone, as this could show you have not read a profile, because something in your copy and paste message does not match them or what they are looking for.

Don’t SEND A WINK OR A GENERIC MESSAGE!

Be patient, people don't always check their emails or maybe travelling. Most swingers also have family responsibilities that come first, Just keep trying, after all sending an email doesn't require a lot of effort.

Don't be Pushy!

Don’t waste your time or make enemies by spamming uninterested swingers. Focus only on couples that have explicitly stated they are open to single guys.

No Couple likes to see a message from someone who doesn't meet their "looking for" criteria, who's obviously did not read their profile text, and has attached 16 cock shot photos

1st Meeting - Turn Up, On time, remember - You only have one chance to make a first impression - screw up the first meeting and you are history. You will be seen as timewaster, and couples talk. If you make a good impression they will probably meet you again, they may share you with their friends, and take you to parties.

Make a bad impression and the word will go around that you are no good; your chances of swinging again will drop to zero.

Almost all couples possess a list of rules when they play with someone, ask about them beforehand. Do not attempt to Break them. You will fail!

If you do the basics above i guarantee you will be successful. 

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Hey You sexy guys,
Well I can confirm, I was there for your Birthday Party, and I enjoyed it, and hope I was able to pleasure the Mrs, but ya even then I felt a lot of the guys there were waiting for us to leave so they could just play with themselves and the other guys.

 I Don't mind guys just watching (i love to watch) and my wife the likes the attention allot. Those guys have more balls than 70% of the guys on this site, just by pitching up. 

Single guys mustn't get the wrong idea about me making this post, I'm not trying to run them down at all. I am the best wingman ever, and I'm just trying to help them get laid. I just need them to meet me half way and put a little effort in. 

SINGLE MALES WTF?

I'm not sure when things Changed but i honestly can't believe how some guys think they are going to get laid.

When i was younger the amount of work & Bullshit we would do to get laid was also not proud of some of the things I may of done & said as well as some of the lies i may of  used in my pursuit of Happiness!

Then there some of the other things I did & said that people still tell around campfires like urban legends that i used get lucky, that I'm most proud of! LOL 

The main point about that story is that we Put Effort In to have sex... Some how today that's not the norm. I'm not sure how guys get laid at all.

After placing a Advert last week we started receiving messages. We wanted to play daytime, we did not have a venue. We were looking for guts to come up with Some suggestions/ideas and if we liked it we would do it.

Some tips and review as to why you did not get laid with the messages You sent.

1. READ THE F#CKING ADVERT.

2. F#CKING READ IT AGAIN

3. SENDING A messaged with only HI! WHAT OUTCOME DID YOU WANT? We receive almost 150 Messages a day. Give us something to at least want to contact u about.

4. Are you guys swingers.... NO SHIT!

5. Count me in / keen / I'm game FOR WHAT? Share what you are keen for, can we at least give us a clue

6. Dig you guys find venue yet. If yes let me know... READ THE F#CKING ADVERT.

7. What ideas do you have?READ THE F#CKING ADVERT. You should be giving us ideas

8. SENDING one word messages actually agrivates most woman and couples. You might think that it's polite but it actually F#CKS me off. We have only so many days left on Earth and we would like to spend them FUCKING OTHER PEOPLE. Not trying to guess what the F#CK your Hint of a Suggestion Means 

9. We cannot host does not mean we are so desperate that we will fuck you for your accommodation. It means our maid is there.

10. I understand guys can get nervous and might not know how to talk to woman (like s stnd 5 dance) but how the HELL are you going to F#CK my wife in person if  you can't even TYPE that you want to from behind a keyboard far away.

11. As much as you think you are THE MAN (You're Not) and woman are not actually their to please you, it doesn't work like that. Nobody likes a selfish lover & to be realistic and honest you are there for our entertainment and her pleasure not the other way around! (So no my wife does not get turned on by the thought of coming to your work to blow you during your 5 minute smoke break and then leaving) FYI- The ONLY woman that Cum from giving Blowjobs are liars & paid actresses!

Do you honestly think that by you just saying HI, not introducing yourself and by not "pitching" your suggestion of what you would want to do and then not making arrangements or anything, the husband is just going to say. THIS is THE GUY! Please, Please come Fuck my wife. Guys that put in NO EFFORT really turns her on. She can't wait to see how little Effort you actually put in then. Her biggest Fantasy is arranging a Gangbang with guys that are not interested and then don't pitch!

REMEMBER

The woman on here are not desperate And they are not prostitutes. There are like 500 guys to 1 lady. TRY put in a Little effort, it's the least You can do(not possible to do less). Who knows you might even get laid.

Appologies if i offended anyone with some of my replies. I did not mean sound as sarcastic as i did but after reading all of these types of messages while trying to be polite , got a bit much. On that subject if you were offended by my reply, then you Don't have the Balls or Package to play with my wife Anyway!

If you cannot do the things I mentioned please don't contact us. Also leave the site because you Fucking it up for all single Guys!

pussinboots1 I consider myself an open minded kinky guy. I'm always up to try new things, as long as it's fun.  I don't judge anyone on their "Turnons".

I have also had a sort of "Interest" (obsession) from primary school days with womans shoes. This is one of my biggest "Turnons" (obsessions) that gets me harder than arithmetic. 

It has become a Big problem in my life especially when I was younger and used to go shopping with my mom and sister when I was younger. We would walk past window displays or shoe departments and I was hard.  

I Don't want to wear the Shoes (They don't make size 13 in stripper heels) I Don't want to sniff, jerk off or shag them. I just love seeing a woman wearing a sexy pair of heels.

Having said all of that... I am so not into feet. It has to be the biggest turn off for my wife and I. So when guys contact us and ask if they can play with my wifes feet it ruins any chance they might of had. We were once having my preffered playdate mmmmmf. It was dark and My wife was on the table with all these  hands and more were exploring her and one of the guys sucked her TOES! Still dont know who but all my wife did was sit up and say Thats Me Done. When she told me i was like " Yip' that's us done. We are going home, whoever did that, Nice job fuck face! Lol

Again no judgement, I'm just not into it

HELP NEEDED / to explain a few things as NOT sure WTF happend!

Im sort of new on this forum thing and have never really been into chatrooms etc  

I've been in the lifestyle since 16 and been horny sice birth and from there Its what I did. What I realised these past few days and 375 emails "that has left me with the most confused look" is that I have not been in the dating scene or apparently earth things. I don't want to name and shame anyone. I don't want to complain. What. I want to do is HELP show people why they are not getting sex. And give a few tips. 

Where would I post that Information. (Please note this info will contain a bit of sarcasm and a few cuss words but It will help you have sex on this site)

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Imagine having 100% Success Rate!That would be terrible,  Yesterday alone  we got 140+/- emails 100% would put us Off sex for life. 

Out of those 140 if we Only get 1 that we play with, we would be happy! (Thats because that person would be exactly what we wanted, we are on the same page into the same kinky shit getting together for exactly the same thing) 

What allot of people don't understand about lifestyle couples and especially about female swingers is that, they DO NOT want to F#ck Every Guy they see. They are NOT DESPERATE! so if you are thinking that you are going to find a bunch of Bored Horny Slutty Nympho Housewives in your Area that want to fuck you with absolutely NO EFFORT from your side...

 Then You need to Take a break from jerking off to Porn on the internet, Wash Your Hands!  Oh Yes, and You are a F#cking Idiot! 

It's got nothing to do with this Site, we belong to a Shit load of sites and we post ads all over speak to hundreds of people and This site is Hands Down is the Best!

The way we look at it is, if we get 1 out of 100 It's Awesome! And not every playdate works out perfectly, some of them have been terrible and we are also ok with that, because if all of them were awesome all the time nothing would stand out and be memorable. 

The bad ones make the Good Ones even better...

Our name is pretty obvious due to our love of POOH-C but it was also a way to have adult conversations without our kids knowing what we were talking about... 

At the moment we are trying to make this one of the world's famous brands like coca cola etc . Lol

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do you also wear a funny hat

 Only if you ask nicely!

As a Freemason we have secret handshakes and they have worked for hundreds of years so if there was one used by the swinging community I think it would be a good idea.

pussinboots1 It wouldn't be the first time I've had my Dirty Mouth Washed out with soap!

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Looked at above we had to change our out look  from cuckold to Hotwife' Fetishist 

 Don't worry it took me along time to find that term. Allot of websites don't have any category for hotwife only cuckold.

BethandWill Where the Hell have you guys been? Haven't seen you guys in a while. 

I'm more of a 'Hotwife' Fetishist than a cuckold.

Cuckolding relies on the idea that men 'own' women and are therefore humiliated if their wife sleeps with someone else, 'hotwife' fetishists are more into the idea that offering your wife up for sexual encounters is a matter of pride.

I love seeing my wife with other partners, and for the next couple of weeks I literally cannot take my hands off her.

pussinboots1 where can we acquire a taste... 

pussinboots1 A bit off topic but With regards to the *Coffee Date*

This is from our profile intro...

"We DO NOT want to meet first & go on "The Worlds Most Awkward 1st Date!" To see if we click .... We are all Adults & are on this website for the same reason. (This is not Christain Love match Connection) The reason why we also don't like to meet first is in case we might like you... We would also prefer if you didn't like us at all when we get together & swop orgasms.

After that we can become pen pals or whatever."

We try our hardest Not to meet people before we play. I'm not sure what is the expected out come supposed to be from that "Date". It has to be the most Awkward thing about swinging.

We have met up with couples and singles that have spoken their way out of a deal and any chance of us playing together just from us meeting them before we played.

The reason why we are meeting people to play is for our Physical enjoyment, the Emotional side is between my wife and myself. So we don't have to see if we CLICK first. We don't have to click at all as long as the physical side is good.

pussinboots1  Funny you should ask that.... We have never asked anyone for any payment to meet and play But we have been offered money buy a few individuals. 

We personally don't have an issue with being Offered / Given money due to a few reasons

1. It's a huge fantasy of ours to be financially compensated for our sexual "Skills"

2. The guys are very respectful and ask me upfront if I would mind them spoiling my wife a bit. (I don't Mind)

3. All the money we have received we have used to buy Outfits, Shoes, Toys, condoms etc all to be used for our future play dates (All that stuff costs money)

We have had a few guys ask can they get us a gift and what we wanted and we always go for a gift/toy from an adult shop. 

Having said all of that I would personally have an issue with a couple or an individual if they requested payment to play with them. This is a swinging site Not an escort service site. 

We have turned down a people's offers of gratuity because there is No connection. The people that have Spoilt us we were happy to meet up with already without anything on offer. We just see it as a bonus on the fun we are already having.

Seeman "Greeted and hugged my wife, both fully clothed . Kissed her,sort of rubbed against her and came in  his pants and made a quick exit."

That's a huge compliment to your wife! There are not that many woman that can claim that they made a guy cum just from hugging them. 

pussinboots1 i  also love role playing...dressing up for a *part*  all the more!!!  I also think most people/couples do have sex with imaginary people EVEN if they do NOT tell their spouse.... To/for me it is kinda normal!

I like your kinda normal...

You must have some awesome stories 

I honestly didn't know guys faked their Face pics I thought it was only Dick pics! Never to old to learn.

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I was a bit hesitant to say that the most porn I watch, is the videos i make while the mrs is giving oral to the guy. It makes me soooo horny. No other porn does it for me realy. And yes, when we do actually look at porn, i always always always imagine that she is the girl in the movie. Als9 very selective of the girls in the movie, as i like them to look like her, so the imagination can be manipulated easier. 

 I see we have allot in common. After my Hard drive was damaged i lost about 4TB of Porn. I have started to collect again and probably have almost 1TB. All that porn combined plus all the porn i have ever seen still does not even come close to how much seeing my wife's pictures and videos turns me on. 

It is a bit of a problem because I can't keep my hands off her and I want to F#$k her every second minute 24/7.

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I have gone 7 days without porn / pics now . . . . I am starting to loose vision in my left nostril

 How did you not see any naked pics getting to this forum?

When most guys watch Porn they imagine that they are the guy F#%king the female in the movie, I don't! Instead I imagine that my wife is the female. Makes it allot more fun.

I download Porn (short clips) almost daily. My favourite Porn that does it for me honestly is the movies that We make and the ones with my wife in. It sounds biased but it's true.

Am I addicted to it....

Definitely!

Am I going to try get help to stop...

Nope!

Quote by sexysam69
Have come across family. Can you say " awkward" 

 You should never cum across

Please share the story

pussinboots1 Thank God for that friend. Can you imagine your life if you weren't in the Lifestyle. We are glad you are...

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Thought this would be a good place to ask..

 Curious as to why you asked the question....