pussingboots1   "I also like tatoo`s.. In fact, I LOVE tattoo`s"

We actually have a "Tit for Tat" special on at the moment. Let me know where I must send the pictures of our Tattoos...

We prefer private parties

While we are making things clear ... I just noticed our title under our username changed. How does that work? And how do I get close to pussingboots1 title or just close in General...

I haven't worn undies since Grade 2 Second Break. It has caused some interesting and awkward moments over the years.

I don't think photos are a reflection of you being a genuine swinger or not. I know a few couples that play often but they don't take ANY photos. (It's just not their thing)

I suppose it might cause a problem especially if you are posting pictures of other people without their consent. Not everybody wants to show their naked pictures. (FEEL FREE TO POST MY PICTURES ANYWHERE)

We have had so many pictures of play sessions removed due to the other persons being visible (Even though we have their consent) . I've tried blurring out the faces but it loses the whole point of the picture ( It's hard to block out a face if the picture is of me getting a blowjob). I understand why SH has to do it, and I'm cool with it.

What we do is, post Our play sessions on Twitter or Xhamster/Pornhub.

Having No picture is the worst thing for you profile. You are immediately skipped by so many people. Just take a picture of your Leg or Arm whatever. 

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Im 8 years on this site but cant get laid!
Am I cursed?

 

You do live in a small town in Limpopo... just saying

Lol, Well Spotted! hotdave You are not cursed you have just minimised any possibility of meeting people by your location.

It's hard enough finding the right people to "Play" with in Johannesburg..

Damn You 2! I so badly want to go check but due to the fact that pussingboots1 has warned not to go look I'm going to take your word

pussingboots1  Do you know what a made up story that would of sounded like if you had to tell someone that you were going to cancel a play date because you were giving a tortoise mouth to mouth... 

They will probably say "Why didn't she just use the flat tyre story"? Lol

You do know that i know have to make it my mission to go past World of Birds to see Tommy....

Thanks for that

10k Bill! Those woman would have to shoot fire works and rainbows out of there..... and urinate Vodka & Red Bull  before I will lay out that money. Even then I don't think I will

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A very comprehensive digest of what makes or breaks a couples experiences. Thank you for the input.

 Sorry it was a bit long. Got carried away a bit.

 A bit long? Thats what he said  :')

 He will always say that. The ONLY time a man will tell you that his PENIS is SMALL is if he is trying to convince you to do ANAL!

Just realised (found out) that my wife has never been to a strip club. 

 I can't stand places like Teazers with there pretentious vibe and overpriced drinks. So I was thinking of taking my wife to CHIVALRY on Friday night.

Has anybody been there before. I do realise that it is not a swingers club but who knows maybe we can meet some people there and go somewhere and have fun...

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A very comprehensive digest of what makes or breaks a couples experiences. Thank you for the input.

 Sorry it was a bit long. Got carried away a bit.

This is a very sad part of the lifestyle. We have never met a swinger couple or single who hasn't been stood up at one time or another. 

I recently read an online survey of swingers around the world and the results were 35% of All arranged play dates don’t happen because of the other party not pitching.

We have been fortunate not to have this happen that many times but even once is already too many times to be stood up.

The bullshit excuses are one thing but what’s even worse is NO EXCUSE! If you are going to cancel last minute at least Text and make up some bizarre excuse. It's etiquette as a swinger to accept whatever that reason is and move on. Text and say your pet turtle needs emergency surgery. ANYTHING.

 Of course, we know rule #1 of swinging is that people are flaky. The backing out thing makes us nuts for sure- but like I said above. I have a much easier time when they at least don't further waste a couple's time. 

The lifestyle motto should honestly be "always have a plan b" because this is so common 

Here are a few ways to avoid “Time Wasters”:
●Try to contact Paying members here on SH (If someone Is willing to pay to be a part of this lifestyle , they usually are serious)
● Avoid new swingers or do extra screening for them. Curious 1st timers often flake at the last second.
● Look for certifications/verified profiles.
● Avoid people aggressively asking for pictures. These tend to be fake profiles trying to collect sexy pictures for their lonely masturbation.

When making plans it is best to pick a meeting place where you can still have a good time regardless if the other couple shows up. They are just an added bonus to your good time. We personally prefer to meet fresh faces at swinger events. If they no show, it doesn't stop us from having a fun time

But after being in it a while, you can start to see the red flags of a "no show" potential profile. Only the M chatting, wanting to get more and more pics, F never on line, and endless chats requesting more pics/info. . If there are expenses or travel involved (a higher commitment of time and $) then we ask for a call where everyone is online. If no F can talk, all things stop until she can. That pretty much nips the fakes.

COUPLES
I Think nerves have a lot to do, especially with inexperienced people.  As for Couples Not turning up Those folks don't really wanna meet people. They also don't REALLY wanna swing...... They like the idea of swinging, and they get a thrill out of knowing you WOULD meet them, but beyond that they're dead ends. Faux swingers. Swinger wanna-be's.. 

You must also sometimes give people the benefit of the doubt and maybe they are telling the truth. We know all about nerves or changing one's mind, or having a spousal argument at a really bad time . Many swingers are also parents so there might be a last minute family issue or mother nature can pop-up and cause some lady issues.

SINGLE GUYS
I think it's a wonderful fantasy for them but when the wall of reality hits them in the face they get scared. I honestly believe it shows more about their shortcomings, not yours (pun kind of intended). ;) Single guys all try and act like they are these sex studs but I think they realise that they are about to be caught out that’s why they get cold feet.

SO many of these fakes are actually married dudes getting their rocks off by tricking couples into swapping pics. Their wife has no idea what they’re up to. They never have In some of our experiences (although not all, by any means), the guys who get flaky tend to be cheating... I've heard "we have a flat, or "something came up and we had an argument", the pieces start pointing to "he's cheating and can't sneak away". Most times I can spot it straight away and I ask the guys “Does your wife know that you guys are on this site"

What we do as well with Single guys that want to meet is we get them to book the Room/Venue and send us the confirmation booking. Trust me if a guy has paid money for something, I guarantee he will pitch.

SIMPLE MANNERS
If you're dabbling in the lifestyle and thing you're going to get cold feet at the last moment then Don't make plans with people. If just a fantasy.

It takes effort to go out, whether it be arranging a sitter or a work schedule. You can drag your feet forever on meeting for all I care. We all understand how nerve wracking that first meet and greet can be. But if you set a time, only cancel if you absolutely must. Or at least make an excuse and apologize

 So, I'd say don't take it personally. We've found that few sporadic head aches, is really worth all the fun we get to have, and great friendships we get to make! 

As for PoocH`s fantasy...... Now why have you never enjoyed that fantasy as yet?? It is really easy to make a reality!!!

pussinboots1 this is something I've already done. It's just something I enjoy doing more than other things at the moment. It just gets better everytime we do it...

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A few times yes. There's a few people you may even recognize from your TV screens on here 😁

 You might recognise me from my Porno Movies....

I'm the bad camera man that can't keep still and takes allot of blurry out of focus shots! Lol

 Followed many of your Twitter links to your site vids. Very Sexy.

 Thank you! Glad you enjoy watching our vids because we enjoy making them. 

I'm not sure if you noticed in the Videos that i do all My Own Money Shots! Lol 

Almost every day that we are on this site and almost every time we hook up with others we are turning our fantasy into reality.

I wouldn't say that we have fulfilled our ultimate fantasy yet due to the fact that i have a Overactive Wicked Imagination (The shit i think about would make porn stars blush).

So we sort of have a "FUCK-IT" List of things we want to Try (It's like the Never-ending Story, Because we keep adding to it). 

Things that we really enjoy on the list, we do more often. 

My "Thing" at the moment is meeting up with Single guys and driving around in Their car while my wife and him play in the back. 

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A few times yes. There's a few people you may even recognize from your TV screens on here 😁

 You might recognise me from my Porno Movies....

I'm the bad camera man that can't keep still and takes allot of blurry out of focus shots! Lol

I can't really comment on this post because I was already swinging in High School and i have been part of the lifestyle ever since.

We are also members of SH (UK) and I'm amazed how different South Africa is to the UK.

In the UK the average age for couples starts at about 50-55years (70%members on there). So It definitely is more of an older crowd  there.

I think that the younger generation doesn't really need to belong to swingers websites thanks to the internet and tinder.

Done both many times, it's awesome! I think just the thought of the lady receiving so much pleasure is the turn on for me.

The hardest part about Double Penetration is not finding a woman that is "Willing" to do it but rather trying to find a guy that "Can" do it!

Most guys are keen until they accidentally touch the other guy "Anywhere", and then it's like they rubbed Stay Soft on their balls.

I'm a straight guy but I realised this long time ago that if I want to enjoy this lifestyle and all it has to offer then I must understand there are going to be occasions that i might cross swords with  other guys, Deal With It!

Don't see anything wrong with it. Pregnant woman are SEXY and a Big Turn On. They are also at their most horny they will ever be.

Some of those comments are so stupid & ignorant but my 3 favourite are

1. "She is hurting her baby and her marriage"
2. "Children don't deserve to be brought into the middle of such a dysfunctional situation"
3. "That's sick to think about women having sex (even if it's not intercourse) with other men during their pregnancy"

1. How is she hurting her marriage or her child by swinging?

2. They do understand that the pregnant woman is not going to give birth while playing and they are just going to carry on playing

3. Why would it be sick to think woman having sex with other men? Simple Solution Dont Think About It Then!

I love how people get worked up and have such strong opinions about something that doesn't affect them at all. 

Nobody is saying that you must try swinging when you are pregnant, but if you want to Go Ahead! If a pregnant woman doesn't turn you on then don't play with her. 

It doesn't matter how much you try to do things the "right" way in society's eyes someone is always going say something negative so i say F#ck-Em it's your life, as long as you having fun and you are happy DO IT!

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My wife and I have never taken a “selfie” before and probably never will. We don’t even understand the whole idea or craze. 
But I have used a selfie stick to film once or twice to get a few good positions. 

 We saw...  😉👌😈

 Glad you guys enjoyed it... 

NOW we are going to have to go and find you guys on twitter

What's wrong with a few strings attached... 

My wife and I have never taken a “selfie” before and probably never will. We don’t even understand the whole idea or craze. 

But I have used a selfie stick to film once or twice to get a few good positions. 

 (We also had to Google it) 

We were approached a couple of months ago by a single lady that was wanting to try Feltching. (We never did meet up but it did cause a lot of debates/discussions between my wife and i)

Most guys think it's hot to watch a woman eat a creampie out of another woman But the problem "Cums In" when they would be the person eating the pie.

I think a lot of guys are not into it because once a guy has cum he pretty much loses all interest in sex or anything sexual so the last thing he would want to Try/Watch is that.

We honestly don't care if we get blocked and we also don't care what the reason is. Its their loss not ours, and they probably did us a favour. 

The way we see it is, we didn't get into the Lifestyle So that people would like us (We already like "Us") and we are not doing this to make somebody else happy or for their pleasure only (This is all to make "Us" Happy)

People shouldn't care why people don't like you or what the problem is, remember it's their problem. Rather just carry on looking for the people that will like you.

I have taken the same response with Time Wasters. If somebody doesn't pitch for a playdate, i don't let it anger me. If you carry on about it and let it consume you then that person has wasted your time Twice. I just make a note so that I don't give them another opportunity to do it again.

pussinboots1 I would love to get inside your mind and know some of the things you know about and have done.... We should write a book....

Quote by amethyst  It's so hard to decipher because other people's view is that you shouldn't pester. Take no reply as not interested. I was once told to change my relationship status to having a girlfriend because woman preferred guys who weren't going to get attached, yet most people don't want to play with married men.  ?

You are correct, Allot of couples do  think that Playing with married men is less of risk with attachment. So it might seem like a good idea to pretend you are a couple besides one problem.

Not every guy on this site is keen on the idea of his wife/girlfriend having fun with a guy while he doesn't get to play with someone. For me and few others on this site it turns us on, for other guys it would piss them off.

The first person you should make friends with and avoid pissing off is the Husband. If he likes you the Wife will Automatically. This doesn't always work the other way around.

Another #1 thing about this lifestyle is TRUST! That can be between partners or friends or anyone you play with. If you get caught out on Any lie your chances of playing with anyone is Zero! It's not worth it...

NEVER PESTER! But also dont give up so easy.... No reply does not necessarily mean NO. We sometimes get overwhelmed with the amount of messages we receive. We try to make a note of the ones that caught our attention so we can go back and message but allot get lost in between all the messages.

If you didn't get a response straight away, make a note of the couple so that you can still follow up on them. Comment when they upload a picture or video. Send a message from time to time. Things change in people's lives, they might not be into the idea of a single guy but 2 months down the line things can change. At least by then your name has come up a few times and is still fresh in there minds. 

As I said before, Unfortunately some Wankers have stuffed it up for the Genuine Awesome Single Guys on here, so you are going to have to put in a bit more effort then was needed before. Having said that, if you are one of the Awesome Guys... it wont be effort at all!

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 Our House, Lol!

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I agree with most of the points and it's common sense. However despite doing all of the above, very few people actually reply. Let alone those who want to see albums, then never get a response. 

 Unfortunately thanks to a few "Assholes" , a single guy is going to have to work a bit harder to impress and to stand out. 

If it was so easy to join this lifestyle, everyone would be doing it and it wouldn't be so awesome. NO PAIN - NO GAIN! 

Allot of couples also want to see how much effort you are willing to put in and if you give up after the first email, trust me they are not going to want to contact you.