BDSM gurus

Quote by Pussinboots1
@ katniss
BDSM is either in your blood or not, but YOU do need a mentor if you are a newbie, Being a sub/slave/top/Dommme. Everyone needs to learn how to play safe. and be safe from predators.
Little BACKFEED LDforreal is having a blast of a time......
As for Steven_S well all he needs to do is make contact and after answering a few questions. He will be directions in the right happens then is up to him and his lovey.

A mentor is not a prerequisite but it certainly helps having someone to help and guide you on your journey. We play in a world where so much could go wrong so quickly and it’s important to know the rules of engagement so having someone or several someone to help you is very important. Also perhaps join a community to inform yourself.

There is no such thing as someone who knows it all in the world of BDSM, we are ever evolving and learning and anyone who says otherwise is bullshitting you.

Play safely and remember information is key. 🔑

I’ve recently upgraded my tinder date options to include a “submissive date” it’s becoming very popular.

both my tinder date and I agree on a time slot and the selection of hotel/guesthouse options for the session and then I take care of the rest . All she needs to bring is heels (unless I’m providing it for her as a gift)

She will get into an uber and arrive at the place. I’m usually there all setup in advance .

On arrival she will enter the room, get on her knees and give me a quick kiss/suck on my cock as a greeting . Not to completion, I will pull her off usually after a few strokes.

Following this she goes to the bathroom and freshens up, has a shower and changes into a lingerie body stocking I provide for her and her heels

Then onto the bed for a massage . I use a combo of a soy massage candle and oil. The candle does give her a slight scare until she realizes I’m putting in on my hands first . I introduce some hand spanking on her ass.

Once she’s relaxed, I proceed to add the wrist and ankle cuffs. Then the blindfold and ball gag.

Fingering leads to clitplay and then a vibrator is introduced to her pussy.

Slow and steady till we get to deep strokes.

Once fully in, I will reposition for a blowjob and reach around to keep the toy in her while resuming the ass spanking .

I will cum in her mouth / on her lips and return the ball gag.

I then go back to resume control of the vibrator as we get to power thrusting ! The paddle / whip is introduced.

After she cums, I keep her tied for a bit and hold her tight, giving her kisses and reassurance.

We then unclip the restraints and she can flip over.

We pop a champagne and talk about the experience.

We snack, vape, smoke and I ask for a blowjob. This is now her time to shine!

After the blow I will reclip the restraints in a new position of her on her back.

Nipple clamps get added and the toy is turned back on.

I pass a shibari rope that’s looped around the foot of the bed through the wrists restraints so I have something to pull on that will keep her hands above her head and away from her pussy.

I’m now hard again so I slip on a cock sleeve and condom.

We fuck.

I do a wrap around hold on her neck to choke her as I am busy with missionary.

After I cum, I quick tap out and bring the toy back into play. We power thrusting again. This is for the squirt !

She cums again, I slow down but don’t stop. Just gently play with her clit for extended time and then quickly go back to the power thrusting!

after she cums I will untie her, unclip and she will take a breather. Snacks are consumed, the balance of the champagne drunk and another smoke break.

Round 3 starts with a 69 blow and the toy as a support role. This is the slow round.

Then we take a shower together and start to pack up. She keeps the vibrator+lingerie+heels

We clean up and either get an uber or I will drop her off. There’s also a cash gift included for her.

Now ? What kinda bdsm would you classify this as ?

I would class that as a dangerous ridiculous BDSM attempt with a fake Dom and fucking stupid woman who put herself in a perilous situation hoping for a “50 Shades” moment. Not sure what kind of woman you’re finding but they are fucking idiots. No talk about rules, limits, safety and then restraints and choking. I can’t decided who’s the bigger idiot. You or her. It’s a tough choice. Hmmm 🤔

While as a fantasy story this sounds delicious in reality this is so dangerous for her and stupid of you to attempt it. I have heard to many horror stories about things that have gone wrong for both men and women that have done this sort of thing. From assault to to forced drug use to one unfortunate young woman having her nipple bitten right off.

So I’d call this stupid. Not BDSM, in the kink world, real Doms and Subs have rules and we follow and respect the rules and roles of the other. This is bloody madness. 🙄

Quote by BrattyKitty

I would class that as a dangerous ridiculous BDSM attempt with a fake Dom and fucking stupid woman who put herself in a perilous situation hoping for a “50 Shades” moment. Not sure what kind of woman you’re finding but they are fucking idiots. No talk about rules, limits, safety and then restraints and choking. I can’t decided who’s the bigger idiot. You or her. It’s a tough choice. Hmmm 🤔

While as a fantasy story this sounds delicious in reality this is so dangerous for her and stupid of you to attempt it. I have heard to many horror stories about things that have gone wrong for both men and women that have done this sort of thing. From assault to to forced drug use to one unfortunate young woman having her nipple bitten right off.

So I’d call this stupid. Not BDSM, in the kink world, real Doms and Subs have rules and we follow and respect the rules and roles of the other. This is bloody madness. 🙄

I fully understand and appreciate your response. Reading your comment now in hindsight I do see that there are many areas of concern.

I will be taking this date off the menu and will rectify .

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I fully understand and appreciate your response. Reading your comment now in hindsight I do see that there are many areas of concern.

I will be taking this date off the menu and will rectify .

Send me your number and I’ll share the details of a Domme that is offering workshops that delve into all aspects of BDSM relationships. She is brilliant and you will learn how to play in the BDSM world safely for both your sake and your subs. It’s so much more fun when you find a tribe to learn from when you start educating yourself. Especially when you’re starting out.

Thank you for acknowledging your mistakes here and wanting to rectify them. Let me hook you up with the people that will teach you the correct way to play safely. 😽