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are there decend dominatrixes or couples willing to show the rope to a naïve girl (1 vote) Infinity%

is people to shy to admit their kinks (1 vote) Infinity%

0 likes 14 Jun 2014

Where's the people ladies and couples in jhb into kinky bdsm always supposedly looking for people to introduce and teach here I am teach me about being a sub

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0 likes 14 Jun 2014

I did sent you a private mail. and your voting pole is NOT very clear...it is actually 2 separate things I can vote on BOTH.

Unknown User

0 likes 13 Oct 2014

Hi I'm looking for a teacher for my wife? thanks Steven

katniss

Warming the Bed

0 likes 11 Feb 2015

I wasnt aware that being a sub could be taught dunno

If you have a submissive heart and find a good and experienced Dom then it's going to be a fabulous journey for you - sincerely hope you find what you are looking for xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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0 likes 11 Feb 2015

@ katniss BDSM is either in your blood or not, but YOU do need a mentor if you are a newbie, Being a sub/slave/top/Dommme. Everyone needs to learn how to play safe. and be safe from predators. Little BACKFEED LDforreal is having a blast of a time...... As for Steven_S well all he needs to do is make contact and after answering a few questions. He will be directions in the right happens then is up to him and his lovey.

Juliette_Lost

Forum Virgin

0 likes 22 Feb 2015

Quote by Pussinboots1
@ katniss
BDSM is either in your blood or not, but YOU do need a mentor if you are a newbie, Being a sub/slave/top/Dommme. Everyone needs to learn how to play safe. and be safe from predators.
Little BACKFEED LDforreal is having a blast of a time......
As for Steven_S well all he needs to do is make contact and after answering a few questions. He will be directions in the right happens then is up to him and his lovey.

Disagree,
One does not need a mentor.
An inexperienced but interested BDSM enthusiast shall we say should find a local club/much/gathering and go talk to experienced subs and doms, these clubs often hold things like suspension bondage classes amongst many others.
Get more than one opinion, learn from more than one person, have fun with it.
As a sub I will always talk to other subs and try to answer any questions they may have. But I would never try and mentor anyone as this journey is unique and different for us all.

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0 likes 23 Feb 2015

@ Juliete_Lost I agree & disagree with you Even if you do not have one Mentor you may have many many mentors, looking out for you and from whom you can learn and ask questions from.(apart from what the newbie is reading and investigating) By going to Clubs or Moots/Munches or Socials where play happens,the fact remains that YOU are learning from people and yes you might not call them a mentor there, but they are teaching and *mentoring* you while you are there. That goes for subs and Doms. I a still learning everyday even if I am 30 odd years into kink. Anyone into BDSM knows that anyone start of with one SAFE person who will direct and help and answer questions, then that *newbie* Moves on to the next one who can help and direct them, It is the way one learns and develop.I have never said anyone should just have one mentor but it is good to have a person who looks out for you and help you along your journey. I would always send someone to people I know and Trust too NOT abuse a are the people I would call a mentor. What happens after the *newbie* and the persons I referred them too,whether they just chat/play/or the newbie just gets introduced to other kinksters it totally up to them. I will just keep tabs on any newbie on this site(up to a point) to ensure they are safe. I am however NOT their Mentor, I just direct them in the right this site is NOT BDSM orientated..