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14 Jun 2014

Where's the people ladies and couples in jhb into kinky bdsm always supposedly looking for people to introduce and teach here I am teach me about being a sub

14 Jun 2014

I did sent you a private mail. and your voting pole is NOT very clear...it is actually 2 separate things I can vote on BOTH.

13 Oct 2014

Hi I'm looking for a teacher for my wife? thanks Steven

11 Feb 2015

I wasnt aware that being a sub could be taught dunno

If you have a submissive heart and find a good and experienced Dom then it's going to be a fabulous journey for you - sincerely hope you find what you are looking for xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

11 Feb 2015

@ katniss BDSM is either in your blood or not, but YOU do need a mentor if you are a newbie, Being a sub/slave/top/Dommme. Everyone needs to learn how to play safe. and be safe from predators. Little BACKFEED LDforreal is having a blast of a time...... As for Steven_S well all he needs to do is make contact and after answering a few questions. He will be directions in the right happens then is up to him and his lovey.

22 Feb 2015

Quote by Pussinboots1
@ katniss
BDSM is either in your blood or not, but YOU do need a mentor if you are a newbie, Being a sub/slave/top/Dommme. Everyone needs to learn how to play safe. and be safe from predators.
Little BACKFEED LDforreal is having a blast of a time......
As for Steven_S well all he needs to do is make contact and after answering a few questions. He will be directions in the right happens then is up to him and his lovey.

Disagree,
One does not need a mentor.
An inexperienced but interested BDSM enthusiast shall we say should find a local club/much/gathering and go talk to experienced subs and doms, these clubs often hold things like suspension bondage classes amongst many others.
Get more than one opinion, learn from more than one person, have fun with it.
As a sub I will always talk to other subs and try to answer any questions they may have. But I would never try and mentor anyone as this journey is unique and different for us all.

23 Feb 2015

@ Juliete_Lost I agree & disagree with you Even if you do not have one Mentor you may have many many mentors, looking out for you and from whom you can learn and ask questions from.(apart from what the newbie is reading and investigating) By going to Clubs or Moots/Munches or Socials where play happens,the fact remains that YOU are learning from people and yes you might not call them a mentor there, but they are teaching and *mentoring* you while you are there. That goes for subs and Doms. I a still learning everyday even if I am 30 odd years into kink. Anyone into BDSM knows that anyone start of with one SAFE person who will direct and help and answer questions, then that *newbie* Moves on to the next one who can help and direct them, It is the way one learns and develop.I have never said anyone should just have one mentor but it is good to have a person who looks out for you and help you along your journey. I would always send someone to people I know and Trust too NOT abuse a are the people I would call a mentor. What happens after the *newbie* and the persons I referred them too,whether they just chat/play/or the newbie just gets introduced to other kinksters it totally up to them. I will just keep tabs on any newbie on this site(up to a point) to ensure they are safe. I am however NOT their Mentor, I just direct them in the right this site is NOT BDSM orientated..

21 Sep 2025

A mentor is not a prerequisite but it certainly helps having someone to help and guide you on your journey. We play in a world where so much could go wrong so quickly and it’s important to know the rules of engagement so having someone or several someone to help you is very important. Also perhaps join a community to inform yourself.

There is no such thing as someone who knows it all in the world of BDSM, we are ever evolving and learning and anyone who says otherwise is bullshitting you.

Play safely and remember information is key. 🔑

26 Sep 2025

I would class that as a dangerous ridiculous BDSM attempt with a fake Dom and fucking stupid woman who put herself in a perilous situation hoping for a “50 Shades” moment. Not sure what kind of woman you’re finding but they are fucking idiots. No talk about rules, limits, safety and then restraints and choking. I can’t decided who’s the bigger idiot. You or her. It’s a tough choice. Hmmm 🤔

While as a fantasy story this sounds delicious in reality this is so dangerous for her and stupid of you to attempt it. I have heard to many horror stories about things that have gone wrong for both men and women that have done this sort of thing. From assault to to forced drug use to one unfortunate young woman having her nipple bitten right off.

So I’d call this stupid. Not BDSM, in the kink world, real Doms and Subs have rules and we follow and respect the rules and roles of the other. This is bloody madness. 🙄

26 Sep 2025

Quote by BrattyKitty
I would class that as a dangerous ridiculous BDSM attempt with a fake Dom and fucking stupid woman who put herself in a perilous situation hoping for a “50 Shades” moment. Not sure what kind of woman you’re finding but they are fucking idiots. No talk about rules, limits, safety and then restraints and choking. I can’t decided who’s the bigger idiot. You or her. It’s a tough choice. Hmmm 🤔
While as a fantasy story this sounds delicious in reality this is so dangerous for her and stupid of you to attempt it. I have heard to many horror stories about things that have gone wrong for both men and women that have done this sort of thing. From assault to to forced drug use to one unfortunate young woman having her nipple bitten right off.
So I’d call this stupid. Not BDSM, in the kink world, real Doms and Subs have rules and we follow and respect the rules and roles of the other. This is bloody madness. 🙄

I fully understand and appreciate your response. Reading your comment now in hindsight I do see that there are many areas of concern.

I will be taking this date off the menu and will rectify .

26 Sep 2025

Quote by mrSean
I fully understand and appreciate your response. Reading your comment now in hindsight I do see that there are many areas of concern.
I will be taking this date off the menu and will rectify .

Send me your number and I’ll share the details of a Domme that is offering workshops that delve into all aspects of BDSM relationships. She is brilliant and you will learn how to play in the BDSM world safely for both your sake and your subs. It’s so much more fun when you find a tribe to learn from when you start educating yourself. Especially when you’re starting out.

Thank you for acknowledging your mistakes here and wanting to rectify them. Let me hook you up with the people that will teach you the correct way to play safely. 😽