Why so many judge a book by its cover

Why do sonmany judge a book by its cover without taking the chance to get to see for yourself

People are shallow. Our best playmates have been with larger folks.

But let the skinny People be. They will learn

I think initially attraction is the first appearance that pulls you in and that draws the attention to get to know someone better. However, size does not determine skill or experience. You can be bigger and still have quite a few tricks.

In many cases the camera also does not do justice to the person. Cameras make people look big or other things. But when you see in reality they not really

"Sexy" is a mindset - I have been with people with virtually perfect bodies and looks, and I might as well have been banging a mattress, and I've been with "not at all a model" people and had the most energetic, kinky, physical-and-cerebral sexual experiences ever.

I have also had hot, steamy sex with the "pretty" folk and shockingly bad sex with the "ordinary" folk.

People that only go by appearance are probably too shallow to have a good debauch with anyway - and they're probably going to be surprised that Ken and Barbie have the sense sexual adventure of a plastic doll

I have made some great friends on here that others will classify as "large", I have also met very small people and you are afraid that you might break them. I say it depends on the person, If they know what they are doing then any size person can be just as pleasing.

Well people will always have their preferences, and one has to respect that. I always chuckle at posts like this, now imagine being a single male of color and tell me about books and covers being judged. Its part and parcel of the lifestyle, and the best remedy is for one to build the proverbial bridge and get over it. I personally don't see age shape size or color, but a vast majority on SH do. Just try find the people who don't judge, there are many

The term "Fun Sized" was coined for a reason

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In many cases the camera also does not do justice to the person. Cameras make people look big or other things. But when you see in reality they not really

This is why we prefer to meet in person... then you can decide.

Take a look at the member pictures on this site. Tell me how many people you see clearly pulling in that tummy, even the skinny ones. 🙂 Then you see those on their backs on a bed which pose is a good way to flatten the tummy.

The other day I read an article titled "A camera never lied, untill AI told it to". Also, recently a photographer won the prestigious Sony Photography Award but did not accept the prize because he admitted the winning photo was generated by AI.

An in-person meeting is always the best. You not only see the real person but also experience the chemistry.

This what you say is true. I have met a couple or two who are much more attractive in person when meeting them. The wife for example on two occasions was much, much more attractive and sexy in person!

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In many cases the camera also does not do justice to the person. Cameras make people look big or other things. But when you see in reality they not really

I have found personally that I am attracted to (some, not all) women with curvy figures! I have a weakness for wide hips😘 and lovely hands. I have noticed that if she has lovely hands then she will likely have a pretty face as well. Ultimately I have found that when being attracted to a woman, if I find her eyes and smile are attractive, then I will be attracted to all of her. Firstly a beautiful face is where first impression - attraction begins for me, rather than firstly only a beautiful body. Another subject would be of course one's ability to connect as people which I find increases chemistry tremendously.

And too meet someone for a drink just too meet and greet would be better just to meet even if nothing comes out of it. Know people are scared of it but sometimes can only know people when one meet

Never judge a book by its cover

That's why we always like to get to know the people we play with becoz chemistry comes in many different forms not only how you look

Sexy is a mindset and in this lifestyle you need to allow yourself to explore all shapes and sizes

me i just like all women..doesnt matter how you look if we vibe we vibe

The most important aspect is the connection you make and have with playmates. If you energy levels are not matched or interests are different then you will not be fulfilled. Visual aspects do not provide this.

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That's interesting. I have never ventured down the cam path before. I have heard from a single girl that is is very exciting.

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People are shallow. Our best playmates have been with larger folks.

But let the skinny People be. They will learn.

Yeah, people are very shallow in the lifestyle ☺. I have been incredibly attracted to some curvy women and some slim ladies not at all. So I think we all have our ideas but when there is chemistry, there's no denying it! ☺

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Here for fun! Not squash or hide n seek!

Wow, that's pretty harsh!

I think preference on size, is a personal matter, and no-one should be made to feel guilty over what they prefer.
As a born & bred Freestate girl, I tend to like bigger guys because I grew up with the farm boys being the alphas in the area we lived.

That being said, when we talk about bigger guys, there is still a difference between a "solid" big guy and a "cuddly" big guy. I personally prefer the former for sexual fun and the latter for conversation.

I also like shorter guys as well, as I have learned they tend to have the bigger fighting spirit and better sense of humor.

I will admit, a guy with a six-pack is always good on the eye, but it is definitely not a deciding factor over whether or not I'm getting wet for him.

As for the question over whether body size will change how the fun turns out...the answer would have to be a definite Yes.
Bigger guys who are not too fit, tend to slump when they get tired, so unless I know what their stamina is like, they ain't getting on top of me during Missionary, Sideways or Dragon...ever. It is also physically impossible to do the Dancer position with them.
Furthermore, bigger guys also tend to sweat faster and more in volume, sealing the no-missionary deal for me personally.

Also, I love it when one guy is busy doing me missionary or doggy, while the other is standing overhead for me to suck him off. Unfortunately, this is very unpleasant if the belly is too big. (I'm not asking for a 6-pack, just to not be smothered or drowned by sweat.)
Fitness and endurance levels also greatly impact how long a guy can go. If a guy has a higher fitness level and greater endurance, I like to start with positions that are pleasurable to me, but does not make me cum fast.
I absolutely love doggy style, but do love it more with taller guys...if their stomachs allow them to go deep.

So:
1. Tall bigger guys with manageable bellies and good stamina:
a. Missionary
b. Sideways
c. Dragon (on my stomach)
d. Stand and Carry
e. Linguini (On my side with one leg under him and the other over)
f. Cowgirl
g. Reverse Cowgirl
h. Doggy Style.
i. Dancer (Standing with leg lifted)
j. Mastery/Lotus (Me sitting on top of him while he is sitting)
k. Corkscrew

2. Tall bigger guys with big bellies and/or low stamina:
a. Cowgirl
b. Reverse Cowgirl

3. Shorter guys with manageable bellies and good stamina (Jay's category):
a. Missionary
b. Sideways
c. Dragon
d. Linguini
e. Cowgirl
f. Reverse Cowgirl
g. Mastery/Lotus
h. Corkscrew
i. Spooning

4. Shorter guys with big bellies and/or low stamina:
a. Cowgirl
b. Reverse Cowgirl

So in essence, body-type -purely for practical reasons -will indeed determine the kind of fun we will have.

love what you wrote, unfortunately most ladies want the great looking six pack plus guys, forgetting big guys like us have heart, have humor, and know how to make a person smile, not just from sexual pleasure but from a great friendship

Honestly there is no way of knowing weather you will find someone attractive unless you meet them. If you have done this long enough you find that the personality and general vibe becomes more attractive than the body . You can meet Ken and Barby and have no attraction or meet Shrek and Fiona and have the best sex ever. It all comes down to what happens on tge day and in the moment.