Hi all..seeing that I am single male
What do females/couples want to see in a profile
Lets start with profile pic..?
Pic's in open file...do you want to see nude pics and if so what...remeber this is a swinging site , or do you want to see face pic
on reply's ...do you want respons to be to the point or must reply first chit chat
then wat is your idea of sibgle guy
Single male (guy's poin of view) = a male that is not married...? , can he be involved...?
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THE PERFECT PROFILE
Ok - the profile:
For goodness sake - could you PLEASE write something intelligent in it... it's how we tell if you're a doos or a nice guy.
Speak like you talk in your profile, it goes a long way to letting people get to know what kind of person you are; and for the couples/singles who like to "make friends to keep" - this is quite important.
Also a Good write up often eliminates the need for all that chitty-chatty small talk - or at least keeps it to a minimum.
Pictures:
Well now...
Bits (your tool) is good - but really no more than 3 pictures from DIFFERENT angles is MORE THAN ENOUGH!
Do NOT shoot yourself shooting (no wanking cum shots)! Please!!
Do not take toolpictures while sitting on the toilet!! PLEASE!!
Remember you might be only looking at the bit in the middle of the picture... but other people note what's in the background.. Claiming you're a single guy with roommates and taking pictures of your bits with kids toys strewn around the room in the background.... SPECIAL!
Comparing your tool with your TV remote is also doff - I don't know what YOUR TV remote looks like!
Chest, body, buns (these all essential!)
Outside pics, nude pics on the beach, at the pool (EXCELLENT idea!)...
Artistic, shadowy and silhouette stuff... these will get you some upper class attention
It is absolutely NOT required to put your face on your public album - in fact I do not recommend this as the "public" pictures are REALLY PUBLIC to even non-members! Rather put your face in a private album and share only with potential meets.
Messages:
When a person says they want to "chat and get to know you" prepare to have a chatty conversation by mail that goes similar to the "meeting you for the first time in a bar" conversation, before moving on to the "would you like to meet up stage" -0 about 5 messages with actual information and content should get you to this point with most genuine swinging people who really WANT to meet up - distance may affect this either way too though.
If the person is into physical only then you can be more matter-of-fact and get straight down tot he dirty.
On the other hand there are some people (like me) that LOVE THE FLIRT - and you should feel free to flirt like mad...
If you get very negative responses to this then -a) you've picked a chatty "friend-me" type person and you've shifted to "flirt" gear too soon. b) you've assumed incorrectly which partner is talking to you! c) Your flirting skills leave a lot to be desired **
d) You're wasting your time they just want to get straight to the main event :P
NOTE - Do not contact anyone who explicitly "pre-excludes" you as a potential option in their requirements or in their WRITE UP!! Doing this is simply like picking a fight with someone over their personal preferences.
Do not assume "straight male" is the same thing as "single male" - this is a really stupid but VERY EASY TO MAKE mistake.
Do not message ANY member after JUST viewing their pictures - READ THE WHOLE PROFILE!!!!!!
Do not take personal offence to any person saying no thanks! You don't want to shag every appropriately gendered human being on the planet - why do you get to take offence if you're not on someone else's "shaggable" list?
Just say "cool" and move on.
On Single/Married/With someone Men:
Well - most couples prefer men who are ACTUALLY REALLY single IRL and not just pretending to be single or married and playing alone.. Me I am in this group. Some people don't really mind about your actual marital status, and rate discretion as a higher requirement. Mostly this is because getting between a married-swinging-single and his real married partner is a very very messy business and secondly because swingers by definition do not condone cheating (this is my stance) and will not engage in any behaviour with any other person who is cheating because that is like saying you're ok with it.
So - is that helpful? I hope so :)
For goodness sake - could you PLEASE write something intelligent in it... it's how we tell if you're a doos or a nice guy.
Speak like you talk in your profile, it goes a long way to letting people get to know what kind of person you are; and for the couples/singles who like to "make friends to keep" - this is quite important.
Also a Good write up often eliminates the need for all that chitty-chatty small talk - or at least keeps it to a minimum.
Pictures:
Well now...
Bits (your tool) is good - but really no more than 3 pictures from DIFFERENT angles is MORE THAN ENOUGH!
Do NOT shoot yourself shooting (no wanking cum shots)! Please!!
Do not take toolpictures while sitting on the toilet!! PLEASE!!
Remember you might be only looking at the bit in the middle of the picture... but other people note what's in the background.. Claiming you're a single guy with roommates and taking pictures of your bits with kids toys strewn around the room in the background.... SPECIAL!
Comparing your tool with your TV remote is also doff - I don't know what YOUR TV remote looks like!
Chest, body, buns (these all essential!)
Outside pics, nude pics on the beach, at the pool (EXCELLENT idea!)...
Artistic, shadowy and silhouette stuff... these will get you some upper class attention
It is absolutely NOT required to put your face on your public album - in fact I do not recommend this as the "public" pictures are REALLY PUBLIC to even non-members! Rather put your face in a private album and share only with potential meets.
Messages:
When a person says they want to "chat and get to know you" prepare to have a chatty conversation by mail that goes similar to the "meeting you for the first time in a bar" conversation, before moving on to the "would you like to meet up stage" -0 about 5 messages with actual information and content should get you to this point with most genuine swinging people who really WANT to meet up - distance may affect this either way too though.
If the person is into physical only then you can be more matter-of-fact and get straight down tot he dirty.
On the other hand there are some people (like me) that LOVE THE FLIRT - and you should feel free to flirt like mad...
If you get very negative responses to this then -a) you've picked a chatty "friend-me" type person and you've shifted to "flirt" gear too soon. b) you've assumed incorrectly which partner is talking to you! c) Your flirting skills leave a lot to be desired **
d) You're wasting your time they just want to get straight to the main event :P
NOTE - Do not contact anyone who explicitly "pre-excludes" you as a potential option in their requirements or in their WRITE UP!! Doing this is simply like picking a fight with someone over their personal preferences.
Do not assume "straight male" is the same thing as "single male" - this is a really stupid but VERY EASY TO MAKE mistake.
Do not message ANY member after JUST viewing their pictures - READ THE WHOLE PROFILE!!!!!!
Do not take personal offence to any person saying no thanks! You don't want to shag every appropriately gendered human being on the planet - why do you get to take offence if you're not on someone else's "shaggable" list?
Just say "cool" and move on.
On Single/Married/With someone Men:
Well - most couples prefer men who are ACTUALLY REALLY single IRL and not just pretending to be single or married and playing alone.. Me I am in this group. Some people don't really mind about your actual marital status, and rate discretion as a higher requirement. Mostly this is because getting between a married-swinging-single and his real married partner is a very very messy business and secondly because swingers by definition do not condone cheating (this is my stance) and will not engage in any behaviour with any other person who is cheating because that is like saying you're ok with it.
So - is that helpful? I hope so :)
Orgasminator
Thanks, like the advice, now to find me a camera-man
@ Mike_Pta.....why ever not a camera-lady?? Just think of all the fun you guys will have.
Had to laugh at this part from Lee`s advice....*Comparing your tool with your TV remote is also doff*I have seen the gents also holding deodorant tins and such to indicate girth and length,still think it is funny though.
I think a gent showing himself in his clothes(no face needed) is far more appealing than a genital photo. a loosened pants/jeans button and open shirt is VERY sexy!!!!
I always say keep faces and genitals in closed albums and only open on request before a meeting.
I myself have no problem speaking(ping-pong mail exchange) to married or attached or single people.
I can fully understand people not wanting to do the ping-pong mail exchanges, the objective here is after all, meeting new people, that is where a written profile indicates what it is you can expect when you make contact with someone.
A lot of people jump in to mail or wink on a photo alone, and that is when the problems start.
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I can fully understand people not wanting to do the ping-pong mail exchanges, the objective here is after all, meeting new people, that is where a written profile indicates what it is you can expect when you make contact with someone.
A lot of people jump in to mail or wink on a photo alone, and that is when the problems start.
Yes PIB, I agree.
I prefer to 'ping pong' even if I know the 'About' section of a profile off by heart!
My motto whenever I'm in a conversation is to acutely follow 'what / how / when' (stringing sentences together :sad: ) a person say things. Once you open your mouth (to talk) you open yourself to people!
After the first PM (that is when a person eventually ANSWER my mail!!!) I can already determine where this is going!!
Sexlightened
We agree with LeeEC! We prefer not to see dick pics only, in fact if there are no pics of your penis, this will not be a bad thing (leave something to wonder about/look forward to).....
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Pictures:
Well now...
Bits (your tool) is good - but really no more than 3 pictures from DIFFERENT angles is MORE THAN ENOUGH!
Do NOT shoot yourself shooting (no wanking cum shots)! Please!!
I so wish I could just send the link to this topic to some guys...... Just got an invite to an album with to many pics of one part...... :shock:
Ha ha, I've loved all the picture comments
The deos can makes sense if its obvious what it is and you can look at one in a shop somewhere... But the tv remote?
We do not al have the same tv... But here's the thing guys, if its so important for people to know exactly your size then get out the ruler! It has measurement markings and everything.. You'd be tempted to think it was for exactly that!
Or put your length and girth in your profile write up (remember both measurements are equally important to women, if they are important at all).
And on the note of pictures... A bit of creativity goes real far.. A woman looking at creative pictures thinks..he made an effort, he will probably make an effort in bed, he is creative... imagine how creative he will be with his tongue :)
If you know how a woman thinks, you will get much further in this lifestyle... Actually girls, if you know how a man thinks you will also be able to sift through the kak to find the good ones too... Orgasminator
Looks like when I get some freetime after these exams I have some work to do
Sex God
Quote by LeeEC
Ha ha, I've loved all the picture comments
The deos can makes sense if its obvious what it is and you can look at one in a shop somewhere... But the tv remote?
We do not al have the same tv... But here's the thing guys, if its so important for people to know exactly your size then get out the ruler! It has measurement markings and everything.. You'd be tempted to think it was for exactly that!
Or put your length and girth in your profile write up (remember both measurements are equally important to women, if they are important at all).
And on the note of pictures... A bit of creativity goes real far.. A woman looking at creative pictures thinks..he made an effort, he will probably make an effort in bed, he is creative... imagine how creative he will be with his tongue :)
If you know how a woman thinks, you will get much further in this lifestyle... Actually girls, if you know hire a man thinks you will also be able to sift through the kak to find the good ones too...
I agree with @mike_pta . . . back to school for me . . . .
Quote by LeeEC
Ok - the profile:
For goodness sake - could you PLEASE write something intelligent in it... it's how we tell if you're a doos or a nice guy.
Speak like you talk in your profile, it goes a long way to letting people get to know what kind of person you are; and for the couples/singles who like to "make friends to keep" - this is quite important.
Also a Good write up often eliminates the need for all that chitty-chatty small talk - or at least keeps it to a minimum.
Pictures:
Well now...
Bits (your tool) is good - but really no more than 3 pictures from DIFFERENT angles is MORE THAN ENOUGH!
Do NOT shoot yourself shooting (no wanking cum shots)! Please!!
Do not take tool pictures while sitting on the toilet!! PLEASE!!
Remember you might be only looking at the bit in the middle of the picture... but other people note what's in the background.. Claiming you're a single guy with roommates and taking pictures of your bits with kids toys strewn around the room in the background.... SPECIAL!
Comparing your tool with your TV remote is also doff - I don't know what YOUR TV remote looks like!
Chest, body, buns (these all essential!)
Outside pics, nude pics on the beach, at the pool (EXCELLENT idea!)...
Artistic, shadowy and silhouette stuff... these will get you some upper class attention
It is absolutely NOT required to put your face on your public album - in fact I do not recommend this as the "public" pictures are REALLY PUBLIC to even non-members! Rather put your face in a private album and share only with potential meets.
Messages:
When a person says they want to "chat and get to know you" prepare to have a chatty conversation by mail that goes similar to the "meeting you for the first time in a bar" conversation, before moving on to the "would you like to meet up stage" -0 about 5 messages with actual information and content should get you to this point with most genuine swinging people who really WANT to meet up - distance may affect this either way too though.
If the person is into physical only then you can be more matter-of-fact and get straight down tot he dirty.
On the other hand there are some people (like me) that LOVE THE FLIRT - and you should feel free to flirt like mad...
If you get very negative responses to this then -a) you've picked a chatty "friend-me" type person and you've shifted to "flirt" gear too soon. b) you've assumed incorrectly which partner is talking to you! c) Your flirting skills leave a lot to be desired **
d) You're wasting your time they just want to get straight to the main event :P
NOTE - Do not contact anyone who explicitly "pre-excludes" you as a potential option in their requirements or in their WRITE UP!! Doing this is simply like picking a fight with someone over their personal preferences.
Do not assume "straight male" is the same thing as "single male" - this is a really stupid but VERY EASY TO MAKE mistake.
Do not message ANY member after JUST viewing their pictures - READ THE WHOLE PROFILE!!!!!!
Do not take personal offence to any person saying no thanks! You don't want to shag every appropriately gendered human being on the planet - why do you get to take offence if you're not on someone else's "shaggable" list?
Just say "cool" and move on.
On Single/Married/With someone Men:
Well - most couples prefer men who are ACTUALLY REALLY single IRL and not just pretending to be single or married and playing alone.. Me I am in this group. Some people don't really mind about your actual marital status, and rate discretion as a higher requirement. Mostly this is because getting between a married-swinging-single and his real married partner is a very very messy business and secondly because swingers by definition do not condone cheating (this is my stance) and will not engage in any behaviour with any other person who is cheating because that is like saying you're ok with it.
So - is that helpful? I hope so :)
well said
Orgasminator
Thanks, I'll keep that in mind for summer. Plus I'm not here to be dick looking for one night bang and play my own game. Thus why I like all the comments here
Quote by LeeEC
well said
Thanks
anything to add?Not offhand, but totally agree with the cheating bit. we quite happy to play with a married guy or woman if we have met their spouse and the spouse is fine with it. We have however never actually met a spouse of a married person........ cant understand why seeing as some are very willing for that to happen.....
The best is the ones that are playing on the side, when you ask them what they would do if their other half was playing on the side, most of them would be pissed off about it, to the point of separation???
We naughty people with a *spouse or life mate* do not always cheat, There is some of us who do have permission to play and YES my life mate (a Lady) does know when where and whom I do play with.
That is to say when I still do or did, (I do however still play kinky games)
She does sometimes meets *friends*or takes me to certain venues,even wait for me outside.
She how ever is very vanilla and never joined in any naughty games.
