Hi guys and ladies, I've recently become a member of this club and browsing through a lot of profiles of singles and couples, it would seem as if there are lots of people who do not cross the colour line. Everyone has their own preference and so on, but I was wondering if there are particular reasons for refusal to do this.
I don't know if this has been posted yet. I don't know if this a taboo topic. I also don't mean to judge or open a can of worms.
I'm a coloured guy. I'm not black even if your government says so. I'm 41 years old and permanently employed and have been for the last 25 or so years. I defy the stereotype in terms of still having my front teeth, not talking like a skollie, not having a car on blocks in the yard and not having a collection of Namaqua boxed wine and Rothman's mild ciggies. Also, when I mess around with my grinder and I slip up, I bleed just like a white man. When the kiddies need help with homework, I help them just like a white man. I swear at Julius just like a white man. I've had a geyser burst at 02:30 in the morning already, just like a lot of white men. Is my life any different to that of a white man ? No, it's not. I bleed like you, I eat like you, I shower like you, I mow the lawn like you, I get the flu like you. I react to pussy just like you do.
If any white ladies are blindfolded and someone gives you a muff dive, you won't know if it is a white or coloured tongue in and on you. A white johnson is the same shape as my johnson and maybe bigger or smaller. The point is that you wouldn't know if you're blindfolded. For you ladies who are into watersports, if you're lying there blindfolded, you wouldn't know if it's a coloured or white dick pissing on you. Because just a like a white man, my pee colour is determined by how much water I've had to drink. There isn't some magical hormone in a white man's pee that isn't in mine.
Can someone give me any specific reason why colour lines are not crossed ? And don't hide behind "it's my preference". Give me specific reasons. And also don't tell me you saw that shit in the bible. If you did, you saw it in the old testament and those books only apply to Jews, not modern day christians. Besides, I somehow doubt that swingers abide by what the bible says (although David had a harem and fucked anything that moved).
If some coloured car salesman fucked you over, that's got nothing to do with me. Don't judge me because of that. If some coloured builder fucked up your lounge or garage, again, it's got nothing to do with me. Don't judge me because of that.
I'm not ranting. I'm just genuinely curios. And yes I know. People prefer what they prefer. I was just wondering why. I also hope you realise that you're also restricting yourself to a small percentage of the population. Trust me, you haven't seen a coloured on viagra. That's why our front teeth fall out. Our dicks are so big it smacks us in the face and knocks our teeth out.
Quote by jmatthews1972 Can someone give me any specific reason why colour lines are not crossed ? .
I enjoyed reading your little write up . . well put. As far as why lines are not crossed . . . they are, (even by some of those who are so adamant to put in their profiles they don't) they are just seldom spoken about. Bottom line, people are just people don't let this bother you too much (especially when the ones who say they don't keep checking out your profile )
The reasons are as many as the people who hold them....
I am extremely picky about who I shag... but I couldn't put my preferences in a box and simply label them "only white" coz that would be too restrictive in one way and not restrictive enough in others... I mean have you SEEN some of the white okes here??
Mainly I think it's got to do with all stereotypes, learned habits, past experiences, bad character judgment ability, weird preconceived ideas... oh and so many other factors..
But in a nutshell, seriously? Do you really care? If they have that attitude, do you really even consider them meetable, let alone shaggable?
Don't bother, move on, let people limit their own selves if they want to.
...Firstly, well made points! My belief is that many people fear what they dont understand... try being bi...same result. For many people steriotyping is a way to filter out the mass. If you are not steriotypical, some will sidestep their own rules. Respect others choices, have manners, be honest, and things may happen. Simply hang in there...
@Adonis, niemand nie. Ek het maar net gewonder want daar's baie wat van 'n "colour line" praat, en ek weet dat ek in geen manier vir hulle beinvloed het nie. Ek het niks vir hulle gedoen nie maar ek word oor die kole getrek oor iemand wat 'n Khoisan vrou 300 jaar gelede gesteek het. What the hell does that have to do with me ? Ek kan mos nie vir dit help nie. And like I said, I'm not upset; only curios. Also Adonis, if you are blindfolded, could you really tell the difference between coloured and white pussy ? If you lick it while blindfolded, would you really be able to tell the difference ? No coloured woman has anything in her pussy that a white woman does not have. If they don't pee after sex, they get an infection, same like white women. I've fucked many white women already and they are just as sexy, hot and horny as coloured women. Waar die tire die pad slaan Adonis, is pussy = pussy, maak nie saak watter kleur nie. Sien ? Daar's niks in een vrou se doos wat anders as 'n ander vrou s'n is nie. I'm not angry or upset because this is the way the world works.
Lee, I matriculated in 1990 and I suspect most of us here did between 1987 and 1994. That means we were in the dying stages of separation and obviously old enough to know what it was about. So yeah, maybe what you say has merit, I'm sure it does.
I was just wondering what the story was. I can find no difference between a white 41 year old guy with 2 kids and me in 2013. But yet, many white women on this site talk about the colour line. And also, how can any (white) person say that they don't want a coloured man or woman without trying the goods first ? How do you know you're not going to like it if you don't try it ?????
* sigh *
Ghandi said "Be the change you want to see in other people. Maybe I must blame myself for yesterday (on braai day) hanging out with about 10 coloured and only 4 white people who I consider friends who don't have any skin colour in my eyes. The one guy's kid jumped into the fucking pool while nobody was watching and I pissed myself. My children on the other hand will never know a world or a country that has black, brown and white people. Kleur is in ons koppe en hulle sal dit nooit ken nie. My oudste het reeds meer wit as ander vriende (dankie Bastion primary) but I'll fucking banish colour out of their lives as much as possible. South Africa's blood is pumping in my veins and in yours.
To everyone reading this, I understand and respect who you want to play with. I'm not upset or angry and believe me, I'll not be upset with any person (white or other) that wants to stick to their own colour. It's okay and I know that we're dealing with years of kak, even more so when we are talking about what we are here for on this site.. I don't know if this is sad or not but in South Africa, in 2013, I'm actually am not upset with a white person saying they want to stick to their own colour. I understand but my hope is that you reconsider even if it is maybe only a once off thing. Ek is ook important, al is ek bruiner as jy.
I hope you have learned something from this evolution. I know I have. Thank you to everyone that has taken the time to read this and respond. Like many white men, I'm currently listening to 'Ons vir jou Suid Afrika"; white people aren't the only ones that are proud of, and will die for, South Africa.
PS, I love the honesty of the people on this site. You guys are the real deal.
Welcome and may you have many juicy adventures.
In some cases it is a preference, like some preferring blondes or brunettes.
PS, I love the honesty of the people on this site. You guys are the real deal. <--- swinging can only work with absolute honesty, makes it easier to see who is compatible and who not and then to focus on those that are.
Someone commented ' have you seen some of the white guys', well yes and they also fall out of the preference . as for Darwin awards, well it is a very slow process :)
Ek dink met die meeste stellings kan ek my vereenselwig, behalwe mense se oneerlike motiewe in baie gevalle. Wil op niemand se tone trap nie, maar so baie kamma swingers sal enige iets uitdink as verskoning selfs die kleurgrens.
Moet jou nie steur aan sulke mense nie hulle gaan nie eers binne die kleurgrens speel nie.
Ek hou van die idee van 'n mens blinddoek,dit is mos kinky amper soos 'n darkroom.
I am a white guy 37 for the sex and relationships I ever had have been with black lady's .
They seem to be more direct and white lady's and seem to be able to the extra distance I am not talking the street girls I mean your avg lady she black yes but is the difference the human body is the same I think who say I don't cross the colour line are stuck so,far back in the past .
If a Rhieana or a byeonce walked in you would say sorry don't cross the colour line maybe blacks and coloured should put on there profile sorry no whites !!
Could not agree more with the original post. I am white and bi. To me opening up sexually to another person has nothing to do with colour. If I feel attracted to the person inside the skin then that is just that. I judge a person by his/her personality. There are a lot of people from all skin colour types that I do not want to be seen dead with left alone have a sexual encounter with. If you can fill me on, keep my interest going, keep my attention and stimulate my groin then perfect. Nothing to do with the skin colour. I don't judge so don't judge me. I am no racist purely on skin colour - I do however discriminate against any skin colour that is not up to my level of expectation ... and believe me I do not put myself on the highest level.
well if we all were bluntly honest some profiles would look like this:
I don't do dirty people, I don't do skin and bones thin, I'm seldom attracted to blonde guys.
I don't do people without a personality, a brain or an excellent grasp of grammar.
I don't do anyone I'm not actively physically attracted to. I don't do bitches or poppies.
I don't do arrogant arseholes. I don't do gym bunnies or iron-pumpers.
I don't do guys who think a big dick is the minimum requirement for attractiveness
Don't try your watersports, bondage, BDSM, pain, discomfort or degradation on me.
I don't like boyish figures, I don't do shaved men. I like muscle and heft and strength and ruggedness (so... 35yrs plus usually)
I like hairy stubbly men & smooth and petite women...
I enjoy class, intelligence, taste, but I'm not interested in people who go for pretentiousness, arrogance or flashy wealth.
I will do the naughty boy, joker of the class. I will do outdoors locations.
I will do food play, I will do leather and lace
I will do sex, several times, in a group. I will do oils and massage, I will do toys..
and if you ask nicely I'll spank you... But try spank me and you'll get tied up.
Hi Respect, I don't know if I'll agree to that. The thing is, sex is a very personal thing for some people and with most things in life (and here in SA) we don't really have a choice. Who we hookup with however, is a choice because we can say no without any repercussions.
That 41 year old white guy I was talking about ? He's been hearing his parents and grandparents talk about race since he was little. And children are sponges in that they suck everything including their parents' prejudices, up. You can't really blame him though. And when he started discovering girls ? Well, his mind was made before he even knew it.
What I'm saying is that we here cannot blame people for adding that line in their profile. That's almost like you telling me that you are obligated to play with a same sex partner because a gay man or woman can give you exactly the same arguments I did. Maybe gay is the new coloured, I don't know. I have no problem with telling a gay man I am not interested. Or more accurately, I don't cross the gender line and I'd expect him to understand.
Can we be upset with someone wanting to stay on their side of the colour line ? Of course not. Can we be upset with someone stating it in a public forum such as this ? Of course not. I'd much rather prefer that a person lay their cards out and not waste my time and theirs. I can look however and I can say hello.
Can we be upset with someone because they want steak instead of pasta ? Of course not. People can play and state who they want to play. If we cannot be honest when talking about the most personal (I'm talking about fucking), then I don't know.
Quote by jmatthews1972 Hi Respect, I don't know if I'll agree to that. The thing is, sex is a very personal thing for some people and with most things in life (and here in SA) we don't really have a choice. Who we hookup with however, is a choice because we can say no without any repercussions. That 41 year old white guy I was talking about ? He's been hearing his parents and grandparents talk about race since he was little. And children are sponges in that they suck everything including their parents' prejudices, up. You can't really blame him though. And when he started discovering girls ? Well, his mind was made before he even knew it. What I'm saying is that we here cannot blame people for adding that line in their profile. That's almost like you telling me that you are obligated to play with a same sex partner because a gay man or woman can give you exactly the same arguments I did. Maybe gay is the new coloured, I don't know. I have no problem with telling a gay man I am not interested. Or more accurately, I don't cross the gender line and I'd expect him to understand. Can we be upset with someone wanting to stay on their side of the colour line ? Of course not. Can we be upset with someone stating it in a public forum such as this ? Of course not. I'd much rather prefer that a person lay their cards out and not waste my time and theirs. I can look however and I can say hello. Can we be upset with someone because they want steak instead of pasta ? Of course not. People can play and state who they want to play. If we cannot be honest when talking about the most personal (I'm talking about fucking), then I don't know.
cant agree more with you Respect, you have your reasons to prefer black women, no issues at all with that, as for beyonce and rihana, no interest, and i have no issue with anyone (including, coloured, black, indian, chinese, polynesian, arab, americanindian and all others) saying they dont cross over. Just a ps, I am 42 and had an indian and chinese (also my matric farewell date) girlfriend in girlfriend in high school, this is late 80's and there was no secret about it.......
If one looks through lets say the, Gallery on this Site, there seems to be minimal Black / Coloured / Indian pictures as opposed to White pictures, if one browses profiles, one also seems to find a rather minimal amount of the said Black / Coloured / Indian profiles as opposed to those profiles of White people . . . . . . . SO, where am I going with this you ask ????? Well now, if we call it say a 80 / 20 ratio, then it would seem as if very few of the White profiles would actually ever be approached by the (for the purpose of this sentence) Non-White profiles, so this is actually a (edited by clever people) race issue and not a sexual preference issue . .. four five six people, stop making everything in this country about race, if someone contacts you and they don't fulfill all the requirements you have, then simply say "thank you but no thank you" . . or, just keep making a big song and dance about it, and anyone who might have met all your criteria will just continue to see that you are actually an A-Hole and they will just go past your profile . . . .
1. We don't want to be blind folded when shagging our friends with benefits as we are very visual lovers.
2. Therefore for us, there needs to be a physical attraction and we simply do not find overly tanned people sexually attractive (we also don't find overly obese or hunch-backs attractive etc...). We would also like to add that we do have friends of colour and we do socialize with them - vanilla only (we also have obese friends whom we socialize with )
Hope this helps.
Quote by NawtyCat 1. We don't want to be blind folded when shagging our friends with benefits as we are very visual lovers. 2. Therefore for us, there needs to be a physical attraction and we simply do not find overly tanned people sexually attractive (we also don't find overly obese or hunch-backs attractive etc...). We would also like to add that we do have friends of colour and we do socialize with them - vanilla only (we also have obese friends whom we socialize with ) Hope this helps.
I have to admit I wasn't quite following SDMR's point there but you guys made me laugh. I will say that the stats of membership can't have ANY correlation to who gets approached by whom. That makes no sense at all, unless members have finite ability to send X number of msgs.
I think there are a few factors, it goes a lot with how people grew up also (no this is not a shrink moment lol) The people of colour they met growing up, how they saw those people, and the thing is, not being attracted to someone of a different race is not necessarily malicious, not liking them at all because of it is. it can simply just be about attraction and their preference. I dated a girl who when I first met her adamantly said she'd never date a guy of colour ... no offense (she'd say no offense to not offend me) but after a short while that changed and we were together. So I do think with some people it's also about who or what attracts you. They find that they've been attracted to one thing for so long they don't expect to find it in someone else 'different'. Then again (as I said - many factors) some people just don't want to at all that's it, finished just not attracted, and it can work with all races vice versa ... yes I said all.
So best thing? Its better that it's written there for you to see so you don't have to waste your time on that, i mean it's pretty simple in the end you want to make a connection/ shag or whatever you want to call it with someone that'll Want to make one with you, that's what matters
Ha ha - that just happened to one of my clients - a white women who always said she would NEVER be with a white guy.
She suddenly realised that actually there are white guys that she is attracted to.
Hahah Lee, these are real life examples of the saying " never say never ". Okay which isn't really a true saying cause there are certain things that you will say never to and mean it forever,and just to be even more off topic real quick, there are people who say they'll never get married and end up the first to get married! Okay back to the topic, it's clear that not only do certain people Prefer their own race but also there are those who only prefer different races...only.
So I've previously read this forum and agreed on everything that was said, I still do. I've realised that those who "dnt cross the colour line" is usually those browsing through our profile and looking through our pics and commenting lol. And its mostly compliments from the men lol. When you tell them not to peek they tell you they have to see if you are really coloured lol. This persuaded us to put all our pics in the private album and so we got banned for telling these pic poachers not to peek. Well it stirred up some racist comments from them towards us which was cleared up by the hubby saying it was the wife lol.
Ok so now this is the last straw- I'm tired of us getting messages and winks from people that "don't cross race barrier line" so I changed our profile so now they can't say they missed it. Also the "no fat or overweight people" line I clearly mention large in profile wtf??? Then don't muthaf***ing message us!
Quote by kawaicouple Ok so now this is the last straw- I'm tired of us getting messages and winks from people that "don't cross race barrier line" so I changed our profile so now they can't say they missed it. Also the "no fat or overweight people" line I clearly mention large in profile wtf??? Then don't muthaf***ing message us!
I hope it works out for you guy's . .. but I am not too hopeful that stupid people will even pick up on it . .
Quote by SDMR Ok so now this is the last straw- I'm tired of us getting messages and winks from people that "don't cross race barrier line" so I changed our profile so now they can't say they missed it. Also the "no fat or overweight people" line I clearly mention large in profile wtf??? Then don't muthaf***ing message us!
I hope it works out for you guy's . .. but I am not too hopeful that stupid people will even pick up on it . . half the people don't bother reading the profiles before contacting people, unfortunately, so good luck
A person should ask is the color line ?...Is it a line like the Equator or the Greenwich meridian timeline or a social programed issue.
It is a social programmed imaginary line which only channel black and that to me is mathematically absolutely wrong.
The moment you leave our countries borders,everything the color line will become a cultural line.I went Cuba(had a joll) the people around me was strangely coloreds of looks but not in culture I fitted in over to the Dominican republic(same story)..then I ended up in Shelby Tennessee there I was classified as a Latino and drank lots of Jack Daniels whiskey(their classification same as SA) fair enough I only boned white girls no Latino pussy for me.I think it was because of the group I moved I also come to the conclusion that this black and white sex is a internet propaganda stunt that is pulled....I then went to Libia(extremely religious people) then to Ethiopia(Addis Abiba) there I dehydrated of all the sex I had..(the most beautiful woman in the world).I think they French mixed Italian...then Botswana(tribal)..Namibia(as in SA) then home.
Now I am back I have realized is that we tend to speak wrong.I also did not get it when I was in my youth.I was raised by a single parent my mother.I am still looking for my last words I could think he mention was "Sayonara"...then he was during the 1976 riots and my uncle Bernard stood in for me as a father figure,my mothers brother.
Oneday I took my girlfriend home to intro to my mother..my mothers words to me was "dont come and show me your whore"I could not understand why she could be so sensitive.I hear amongst the guys how they have been told by their fathers and grandfathers great words that they will always uncle Bernard told me "Andre never to marry a Poes".That I even understood less.
Now you jmatthews1972 sitting there in Bellville blogging about the color line and your tools and white who tries to compensate for his ordinary shoes throws in that line.."I have black and colored friends"...which is so dear to has become a dont hear people bragging often about their Jewish,Chinese of Zimbabwean always predominantly black ..... predominantly white...where the fuck does it leave you jmatthews1972 ?...smack bang in between the two of you wonder.
By now you should realize the the color line does not exist and is other variables will be discrimination and separation of the is out because you can only be discriminated in writing or if someone tells ticks you find in the boxes is optional and people just tick to get their registration done and leave it like that.
So the last man standing is separation of the I come to realize what my elders were on I also think it might be applicable here.A couple might look at your where you live...Google earth it and see that you actually live in the Cape Town ghetto' you think is going to going to brush you of and look for a better couple in their class category. Bellvile is a good place to come to go I have also observed is that the more you go on about the color inturn gives me a indication to what side of the railway lines you from.
I think this would form a good foundation when not to turn your nickers in a knot when you see people tick and specify things....jmatthews1972 you should ask yourself..."Will I get a prize if I fuck a white woman"
Quote by Miucha_Prada So I've previously read this forum and agreed on everything that was said, I still do. I've realised that those who "dnt cross the colour line" is usually those browsing through our profile and looking through our pics and commenting lol. And its mostly compliments from the men lol. When you tell them not to peek they tell you they have to see if you are really coloured lol. This persuaded us to put all our pics in the private album and so we got banned for telling these pic poachers not to peek. Well it stirred up some racist comments from them towards us which was cleared up by the hubby saying it was the wife lol.
What about those that look through ur profile and then tell u they interested then chat for a while and when I send full pics or face pics say "sorry we don't cross race line, we thought u were white" can't they see my caramel skin in the teater pics on our profile or do I just look tanned?? I dunnoi am not attracted to fair or light of complexion guys but daaaaaamn there are some handsome sexy white/light skinned men that have grabbed my attention. But if people wanna e closed minded or well want to stay in their box i say to each his own. But you shouldn't be rude about it get what I mean
To be honest and this is not defending the ones that clearly cannot read but in some cases I have eeen myself where I look at the adverts where a couple is looking for a single male to play with his wife. Then when you look at their profile it clearly states no single males! So what do you do now?
I understand and do read every profile when I want to respond to an advert but shouldn't they either change their advert or update their profile?
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. as for Darwin awards, well it is a very slow process :)
