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At a previous stage i asked the question. Whom do you think, is the best porn actor/s? Very little reply. Alot of snarly remarks. I guess everyone else might have missed that. Today, after having a chat with a couple a think I might have actually stumbled upon something quite smart....(you of course be the judge, jury and executioner) Couple mentions to me, the frequency of how men apporach them, single men on a online platform. -Vag pics? -Done ma anal (does mom do anal?) -A "sincere" greeting....to get your attention....and a left hook "dick pick" to knock your wind out. I have an opinion, (surprise there right?). It is....that I blame Pornography....or more specific Obsession/addiction to porno. objectifying of women? - and the amount of input afforded to contact someone- Misconception of their expected and general manners I think If i think really hard.....I could think of more "symptoms"? Id love to hear from members
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At a previous stage i asked the question. Whom do you think, is the best porn actor/s?
Very little reply. Alot of snarly remarks. I guess everyone else might have missed that.
Today, after having a chat with a couple a think I might have actually stumbled upon something quite smart....(you of course be the judge, jury and executioner)
Couple mentions to me, the frequency of how men apporach them, single men on a online platform.
-Vag pics?
-Done ma anal (does mom do anal?)
-A "sincere" greeting....to get your attention....and a left hook "dick pick" to knock your wind out.
I have an opinion, (surprise there right?).
It is....that I blame Pornography....or more specific Obsession/addiction to porno.
objectifying of women? -
and the amount of input afforded to contact someone-
Misconception of their expected and general manners
I think If i think really hard.....I could think of more "symptoms"?
Id love to hear from members


You really qauck me up and make me laugh with your Forum posts.
Fair play, keep them coming Ian
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Ian, it's all down to manners or the particular lack thereof, something that is prevalent throughout this entire country in all spheres. (This is now my opinion) you know, as asked for))
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Aahh... A topic that I can really sink my teeth into! Here is how I see the world and people in it: Men are pigs! They will do just about anything to get a leg over. Lie, cheat, pretend, etc. Here is an interesting fact: Men want sex, they want it all the time. Most will just come out straight forward and ask for it. Some will lie and make the prospecting partner believe that they do not want sex and that "noble intention" is attractive to females so they end up giving it up. I personally do not believe there is such a thing as a "decent" man. There are only men who pretend to be decent. I do however believe that there are men with self control. By this I mean men that want and need sex as much as the next horn-dog but have sufficient control to not resort to deviant means to get it. Females in general are still pretty decent (there are exceptions and nymphos do exist) and men have learned that a forward approach does not work, so they make the "prey" believe that they are not after sex, this gets them one step closer to the forbidden fruit. One guy will try his best to bed the girl at the club that just spent 3 hours buying drinks for that very night - another may ask for a phone number and maybe see her there again the following week. A slower process but it will lead to the same result eventually. Porn does have a hand in the "male perception" of things. The female strips down, performs a mouthwatering bj, offers up her vjj in a variety of positions and finally let's the male star shove the man meat into her tiny little bum... All the while moaning in ecstasy and allowing him to cum in her eyes and hair... Men associate this with reality and believe that there are many more females like those porn stars dwelling the planet. The pics people put on their profiles fuels this. A normal thinking guy will expectedly assume that the female in the pic is open to sex at the drop of a hat... The reality is there are woman that want to be gang banged six ways from Sunday and there are women that just want NSA casual sex. Problem is, too many men think there is a little slut in every female waiting to break out, so they try their luck with anything that has boobs... Yip, we are a messed up species indeed... I think God sent the flood at the wrong time.
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Aahh... A topic that I can really sink my teeth into!
Here is how I see the world and people in it:
Men are pigs! They will do just about anything to get a leg over. Lie, cheat, pretend, etc. Here is an interesting fact: Men want sex, they want it all the time. Most will just come out straight forward and ask for it. Some will lie and make the prospecting partner believe that they do not want sex and that "noble intention" is attractive to females so they end up giving it up.
I personally do not believe there is such a thing as a "decent" man. There are only men who pretend to be decent. I do however believe that there are men with self control. By this I mean men that want and need sex as much as the next horn-dog but have sufficient control to not resort to deviant means to get it.
Females in general are still pretty decent (there are exceptions and nymphos do exist) and men have learned that a forward approach does not work, so they make the "prey" believe that they are not after sex, this gets them one step closer to the forbidden fruit. One guy will try his best to bed the girl at the club that just spent 3 hours buying drinks for that very night - another may ask for a phone number and maybe see her there again the following week. A slower process but it will lead to the same result eventually.
Porn does have a hand in the "male perception" of things. The female strips down, performs a mouthwatering bj, offers up her vjj in a variety of positions and finally let's the male star shove the man meat into her tiny little bum... All the while moaning in ecstasy and allowing him to cum in her eyes and hair... Men associate this with reality and believe that there are many more females like those porn stars dwelling the planet. The pics people put on their profiles fuels this. A normal thinking guy will expectedly assume that the female in the pic is open to sex at the drop of a hat...
The reality is there are woman that want to be gang banged six ways from Sunday and there are women that just want NSA casual sex. Problem is, too many men think there is a little slut in every female waiting to break out, so they try their luck with anything that has boobs...
Yip, we are a messed up species indeed... I think God sent the flood at the wrong time.

I see where you getting at. Maybe Darwin's theory of evolution might not be so true as for our primal reproductive urge. You know....not being so evolved after all. Ive once used the term, caveman "must spread seed" m(a)ntality .
back then we'd use top clobber them...back when things were simple.
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Porn does have a hand in the "male perception" of things. The female strips down, performs a mouthwatering bj, offers up her vjj in a variety of positions and finally let's the male star shove the man meat into her tiny little bum... .

just a thought young man . . . .
You use terms like mouthwatering BJ & VJJ and still wonder why your "success rate" is poor? lol
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Porn does have a hand in the "male perception" of things. The female strips down, performs a mouthwatering bj, offers up her vjj in a variety of positions and finally let's the male star shove the man meat into her tiny little bum... .

just a thought young man . . . .
You use terms like mouthwatering BJ & VJJ and still wonder why your "success rate" is poor? lol
That is because I am yet to experience the "mouthwatering bj" and a "vjj" through this site! My words seep through due to severe frustration! :lol: :lol:
No, actually just trying to use "nice" words. Could have said "cock sucking" and "pussy"... that would ruin diminish my already dismal success rate even more, not?
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Porn does have a hand in the "male perception" of things. The female strips down, performs a mouthwatering bj, offers up her vjj in a variety of positions and finally let's the male star shove the man meat into her tiny little bum... .

just a thought young man . . . .
You use terms like mouthwatering BJ & VJJ and still wonder why your "success rate" is poor? lol
That is because I am yet to experience the "mouthwatering bj" and a "vjj" through this site! My words seep through due to severe frustration! :lol: :lol:
No, actually just trying to use "nice" words. Could have said "cock sucking" and "pussy"... that would diminish my already dismal success rate even more, not?
Sorry for saying cock sucking and pussy. Ooops, sorry for saying it again... Waiting for the PM, Lee...
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Porn does have a hand in the "male perception" of things. The female strips down, performs a mouthwatering bj, offers up her vjj in a variety of positions and finally let's the male star shove the man meat into her tiny little bum... .

just a thought young man . . . .
You use terms like mouthwatering BJ & VJJ and still wonder why your "success rate" is poor? lol
That is because I am yet to experience the "mouthwatering bj" and a "vjj" through this site! My words seep through due to severe frustration! :lol: :lol:
No, actually just trying to use "nice" words. Could have said "cock sucking" and "pussy"... that would diminish my already dismal success rate even more, not?
Sorry for saying cock sucking and pussy. Ooops, sorry for saying it again... Waiting for the PM, Lee...
Makes no sense to me that with all the "positive reinforcement" the ladies give you on the forum that you still have a zero "success rate" . . . . oh wait, now I get it.
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Why is my success rate (or lack thereof) always a topic? Rubbing salt in the wounds man! lol
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Why is my success rate (or lack thereof) always a topic? Rubbing salt in the wounds man! lol

Allow me to Copy and Paste from an earlier entry you made . ..
""No, actually just trying to use "nice" words. Could have said "cock sucking" and "pussy"... that would diminish my already dismal success rate even more, not?""
Dumbass, you brought it up . . . (and always do)
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Why is my success rate (or lack thereof) always a topic? Rubbing salt in the wounds man! lol

Allow me to Copy and Paste from an earlier entry you made . ..
""No, actually just trying to use "nice" words. Could have said "cock sucking" and "pussy"... that would diminish my already dismal success rate even more, not?""
Dumbass, you brought it up . . . (and always do)
That's different. I am allowed to complain, but it sounds worse when others say it... Because then it sounds true.. :lol:
Judge Lee, help me? Shaun is badgering the witness!!
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No wait... You brought it up this time.. "Just a thought young man......."
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No wait... You brought it up this time.. "Just a thought young man......."

Hey, I'll show you badgering if you call me Shaun again . . . it's Shawn, ok Seeeeen?
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No wait... You brought it up this time.. "Just a thought young man......."

Hey, I'll show you badgering if you call me Shaun again . . . it's Shawn, ok Seeeeen?
Bwaaaa haaaaaa haa... Makes no difference! Shawn, Shaun, Shorn, Shon... It is spelled "SEAN", all other spelling is incorrect. lol :lol: :lol: :lol:
Besides, I did spell it Shawn. You just can't read my handwriting, that's all..
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No wait... You brought it up this time.. "Just a thought young man......."

Hey, I'll show you badgering if you call me Shaun again . . . it's Shawn, ok Seeeeen?
Bwaaaa haaaaaa haa... Makes no difference! Shawn, Shaun, Shorn, Shon... It is spelled "SEAN", all other spelling is incorrect. lol :lol: :lol: :lol:
Besides, I did spell it Shawn. You just can't read my handwriting, that's all..
Hey play nice now you Shawn and you Shaun. If there is a Sean out there you too just for good measure. You forgot that Judge Lee likes to take out whips and use it on guilty parties......whip
just to be included I plead guilty your honor. lol
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Quote by georgeous
No wait... You brought it up this time.. "Just a thought young man......."

Hey, I'll show you badgering if you call me Shaun again . . . it's Shawn, ok Seeeeen?
Bwaaaa haaaaaa haa... Makes no difference! Shawn, Shaun, Shorn, Shon... It is spelled "SEAN", all other spelling is incorrect. lol :lol: :lol: :lol:
Besides, I did spell it Shawn. You just can't read my handwriting, that's all..
Hey play nice now you Shawn and you Shaun. If there is a Sean out there you too just for good measure. You forgot that Judge Lee likes to take out whips and use it on guilty parties......whip
just to be included I plead guilty your honor. lol
I always play nice . . . . . .
Hey, did you sea what happens when you add an M to Stamina's way of spelling his name . . . .
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Quote by SDMR
No wait... You brought it up this time.. "Just a thought young man......."

Hey, I'll show you badgering if you call me Shaun again . . . it's Shawn, ok Seeeeen?
Bwaaaa haaaaaa haa... Makes no difference! Shawn, Shaun, Shorn, Shon... It is spelled "SEAN", all other spelling is incorrect. lol :lol: :lol: :lol:
Besides, I did spell it Shawn. You just can't read my handwriting, that's all..
Hey play nice now you Shawn and you Shaun. If there is a Sean out there you too just for good measure. You forgot that Judge Lee likes to take out whips and use it on guilty parties......whip
just to be included I plead guilty your honor. lol
I always play nice . . . . . .
Hey, did you sea what happens when you add an M to Stamina's way of spelling his name . . . .
wink :lol:
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It's not "Stamina's" way of spelling my name... it's the correct way of spelling my name. lol Where would the "m" go?
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It's not "Stamina's" way of spelling my name... it's the correct way of spelling my name. lol
Where would the "m" go?

think about it and then say it quickly (you know like you . . . .) :wanker:
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OMG you okes crack me up!!!
I've just spent the last 20 minutes canning myself at you lot.
So BACK TO THE TOPIC. Yes, porn is a HUGE problem... so much so someone did this:

and then this:
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Oh ok... Se - m - an... I am named after jizz!!
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Aahh... A topic that I can really sink my teeth into!
Here is how I see the world and people in it:
Men are pigs! They will do just about anything to get a leg over. Lie, cheat, pretend, etc. Here is an interesting fact: Men want sex, they want it all the time. Most will just come out straight forward and ask for it. Some will lie and make the prospecting partner believe that they do not want sex and that "noble intention" is attractive to females so they end up giving it up.
I personally do not believe there is such a thing as a "decent" man. There are only men who pretend to be decent. I do however believe that there are men with self control. By this I mean men that want and need sex as much as the next horn-dog but have sufficient control to not resort to deviant means to get it.
Females in general are still pretty decent (there are exceptions and nymphos do exist) and men have learned that a forward approach does not work, so they make the "prey" believe that they are not after sex, this gets them one step closer to the forbidden fruit. One guy will try his best to bed the girl at the club that just spent 3 hours buying drinks for that very night - another may ask for a phone number and maybe see her there again the following week. A slower process but it will lead to the same result eventually.
Porn does have a hand in the "male perception" of things. The female strips down, performs a mouthwatering bj, offers up her vjj in a variety of positions and finally let's the male star shove the man meat into her tiny little bum... All the while moaning in ecstasy and allowing him to cum in her eyes and hair... Men associate this with reality and believe that there are many more females like those porn stars dwelling the planet. The pics people put on their profiles fuels this. A normal thinking guy will expectedly assume that the female in the pic is open to sex at the drop of a hat...
The reality is there are woman that want to be gang banged six ways from Sunday and there are women that just want NSA casual sex. Problem is, too many men think there is a little slut in every female waiting to break out, so they try their luck with anything that has boobs...
Yip, we are a messed up species indeed... I think God sent the flood at the wrong time.

For once I agree to ever word you say ,,, Mr C
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yay....the cool crowd is taking part in my topic!
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No wait... You brought it up this time.. "Just a thought young man......."

Hey, I'll show you badgering if you call me Shaun again . . . it's Shawn, ok Seeeeen?
Bwaaaa haaaaaa haa... Makes no difference! Shawn, Shaun, Shorn, Shon... It is spelled "SEAN", all other spelling is incorrect. lol :lol: :lol: :lol:
Besides, I did spell it Shawn. You just can't read my handwriting, that's all..
Hey play nice now you Shawn and you Shaun. If there is a Sean out there you too just for good measure. You forgot that Judge Lee likes to take out whips and use it on guilty parties......whip
just to be included I plead guilty your honor. lolleft out sion
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yay....the cool crowd is taking part in my topic!

Where do I find the nerds?
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yay....the cool crowd is taking part in my topic!

Where do I find the nerds?

lol
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okay the s's not even going to go down the spelling route I do believe there is a place for porn but would actually really be interested to see something a woman has made/directed etc, as a sure that first more woman would watch it and secondly then it would show men that yeah some of us do like all sort of things but that there are normal ways to get them and enjoy them not the bog standard version as described previously. And no I am not talkng about the 50 shades stuff, which i believe is porn in fairytale, so will carry on waiting until i get the courage to do it myself
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okay the s's not even going to go down the spelling route
I do believe there is a place for porn but would actually really be interested to see something a woman has made/directed etc, as a sure that first more woman would watch it and secondly then it would show men that yeah some of us do like all sort of things but that there are normal ways to get them and enjoy them not the bog standard version as described previously. And no I am not talkng about the 50 shades stuff, which i believe is porn in fairytale, so will carry on waiting until i get the courage to do it myself

50 shades of grey (which I have not read or seen) goes against all this new age "woman power" focus.
It (from what I understand) is about a woman being "dominated" . . . . . and was written by a woman, not a piggish male. The whole world thinks this is the greatest thing since the release of Grease (the movie) but I wonder if it (the worlds view) would still be like that if this story was written by a male . . . . .
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The whole world thinks this is the greatest thing since the release of Grease (the movie) but I wonder if it (the worlds view) would still be like that if this story was written by a male . . . . .

Oh no, actually the whole world doesn't think this is the greatest thing at all, there's a HUGE outcry against the thing - sure they're making a CRAP LOAD of money - but there's a massive big deal being made even by the actors in the movie, about how absolutely utterly shit the whole thing really is. It's a complete failure by any other standard except how much money it's made...
You're quite right though, it's an awful story actually - about an abusive and manipulative man and a sad and impressionable virgin who is manipulated and trapped into an abusive and awful relationship with him. And it's "kinky" apparently - as far as I can tell - only coz the dude is rich - if he was poor and lived in a trailer in the woods... the story would probably have been a Criminal Minds episode!
I have read it and I didn't think much of it, wouldn't call it kinky, porn or romance... and I won't be watching the movie - I think it was a terrible idea to make it into one ('coz now clueless kids & the stupid people - the ones who don't read books, but do watch movies - think that, that's what - variously - "a relationship" looks like, "BDSM" looks like, "Normal" looks like).
BUT what REALLY distresses me is Stamina's assertion:
Females in general are still pretty decent (there are exceptions and nymphos do exist)

that nymphos are NOT decent!
What the hell dude?! That's offsides!! :twisted: I am too a DECENT person!