Single male profiles on swingers platforms often come across as highly opportunistic and self-serving. A significant number of these men are not genuinely single at all; they are in relationships themselves, yet have no intention of extending the same openness or reciprocity they seek from others.
Almost without exception, they claim to approach couples with respect. In practice, however, this “respect” frequently serves their own interests. By engaging with a couple, they gain personal information—sometimes even a home address—and, knowing that the female partner is open to consensual non-monogamy, some attempt to pursue her privately and without her partner’s knowledge. In extreme cases, this behaviour escalates into harassment, resulting in blocked numbers, legal intervention, or even the need for relocation.
There is also a noticeable pattern of convenience. Rather than investing time and effort into meeting someone independently on mainstream dating platforms, these men target couples instead, relying on the assumption that a woman in a swinging relationship is already mentally or emotionally available to other men.
In short, they contribute nothing to the dynamic, yet arrive with expectations—wanting a full experience without offering anything of equal value in return.
